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Pheline_Kevin
Warming the Bed
Hi biggrin
I wondered if any of you had ever experienced this following situation and could give us an idea how we could handle it differently next time we go.
We went to Chams on saturday, we had been about three times before, so are fairly new to swinging. Kevin and I spotted this attractive couple and they took an interest in us too, so for awhile we kept exchanging looks but we were either too shy or did not know how to break the ice and we wasted the chance of sexy fun, cause neither appoached the other. Since then i have been phantasising about the things that could have happened between us four, making me feel horny and frustrated at the same time mad lol.
Hope this makes sense and grateful for any advice
Love
Pheline
Unknown User
First visits can often end this way. We were lucky on our very first visit to a Club, we went to one where there were huge settee/beds so everyone intermingled and got to know each other that way.
The good thing is you've experienced your first few visits to the club, the "first date" scenario is well and truly out of the way so by the next time you'll have some brill fun.
I think you have to just bite the bullet so to speak the next time and go and chat to a couple, the thing is you could well get knocked back but that's life in the swinging world I'm afraid, you just pick yourself up and move on.
In the meantime enjoy the horny aftermath between the two of you wink
Pheline_Kevin
Warming the Bed
Hi Mar,
Thank you for your kind advice and yes it is true, we started on and off dipping our feet into the swingingworld last year. The last time we went to the club we had some physical contact with a nice couple but now we had kind of a long break and both hubby and I were a bit nervous this time. The evening was still exciting and we plan to go again in a few weeks, till then we will use this experience to fuel our sex life.
Our relationship and sex life has greatly benefited from the exposure to the swining scene as we are a lot more open and experimental with eachother.
Love
Pheline X
anais
Sex God
No advice from me Im afraid... I would be a right scary cat lol
Welcome to the forums though, dont think Ive said hello before.....:smile: :smile:
Unknown User
Quote by Pheline_Kevin
Hi Mar,
Thank you for your kind advice and yes it is true, we started on and off dipping our feet into the swingingworld last year. The last time we went to the club we had some physical contact with a nice couple but now we had kind of a long break and both hubby and I were a bit nervous this time. The evening was still exciting and we plan to go again in a few weeks, till then we will use this experience to fuel our sex life.
Our relationship and sex life has greatly benefited from the exposure to the swining scene as we are a lot more open and experimental with eachother.
Love
Pheline X

You are more than welcome petal, enjoy! x
Unknown User
Quote by anais
No advice from me Im afraid... I would be a right scary cat lol
Welcome to the forums though, dont think Ive said hello before.....:smile: :smile:

We'll take you.... :rascal:
anais
Sex God
Quote by jaymar
No advice from me Im afraid... I would be a right scary cat lol
Welcome to the forums though, dont think Ive said hello before.....:smile: :smile:

We'll take you.... :rascal:
Now ya getting scary :scared:
bolt
Ps only if I can wear me duffle coat?? :lol2: :lol2:
Redbird
Orgasminator
Sometimes it is a good way to break the ice if one lady pays the other a compliment on something i.e. on her hair, dress, shoes etc.
Pheline_Kevin
Warming the Bed
Hello to you all and thanks a lot for the advice already received biggrin have written in here once before and am ashamed to admit that we have been reading daily in here for over a year now and enjoy it greatly. But usually are too afraid to contribute, but this may change hopefully from now. You seem like a friendly bunch apart from some scraps that we've witnessed :D
Take Care and we'll keep you posted on our swinging adventures :!:
Pheline and Kevin
Unknown User
:shock: :shock: scraps??? lol surely you jest!!
nah.....I hide when the scraps break out too! :lol:
Unknown User
Quote by anais
No advice from me Im afraid... I would be a right scary cat lol
Welcome to the forums though, dont think Ive said hello before.....:smile: :smile:

We'll take you.... :rascal:
Now ya getting scary :scared:
bolt
Ps only if I can wear me duffle coat?? :lol2: :lol2:
ok and a muffler?? :grin:
Unknown User
Im sat here with pencil at the ready, to take notes from all the experts (or should that be 'sexperts' so that at my next house party, I wont be glued to the wall like a shy and retiring......erm...shy thing lol
bbw_loverNkitty
Sex God
Quote by Bonedigger
Im sat here with pencil at the ready, to take notes from all the experts (or should that be 'sexperts' so that at my next house party, I wont be glued to the wall like a shy and retiring......erm...shy thing lol

That's me!
:cry: :cry: :cry:
Unknown User
bless ya BBW....we are VERY alike you and I.......
bet we will get on like a house on fire lol
mazandden
Sex God
just go up to them and say " Hi, we have a really fat penguin."
Theres nothing like a fat penguin for breaking the ice.
Den
Unknown User
rotflmao :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
:laughabove: :laughabove:
anais
Sex God
Quote by jaymar
No advice from me Im afraid... I would be a right scary cat lol
Welcome to the forums though, dont think Ive said hello before.....:smile: :smile:

We'll take you.... :rascal:
Now ya getting scary :scared:
bolt
Ps only if I can wear me duffle coat?? :lol2: :lol2:
ok and a muffler?? :grin:
rotflmao your naughty :rotflmao:
lilnfil
Orgasminator
how about asking if they came together?
then asking if you could watch next time :twisted:
fil bolt
bbw_loverNkitty
Sex God
Quote by Bonedigger
bless ya BBW....we are VERY alike you and I.......
bet we will get on like a house on fire lol

wink
fandm
Forum Virgin
We are glad u asked this question- we only meet sing guys- when we went to club (chams) F saw a guy she liked but he was with wife- how should we ask if he would be allowed to play? or isnt that the done thing?
Unknown User
Quote by anais
only if I can wear me duffle coat??

Wow! I thought I was the only one who still had one of those ... if you're wearing that, you won't need anything else! smile
Unknown User
Quote by Pheline_Kevin
Hi biggrin
I wondered if any of you had ever experienced this following situation and could give us an idea how we could handle it differently next time we go.
We went to Chams on saturday, we had been about three times before, so are fairly new to swinging. Kevin and I spotted this attractive couple and they took an interest in us too, so for awhile we kept exchanging looks but we were either too shy or did not know how to break the ice and we wasted the chance of sexy fun, cause neither appoached the other. Since then i have been phantasising about the things that could have happened between us four, making me feel horny and frustrated at the same time mad lol.
Hope this makes sense and grateful for any advice
Love
Pheline

Just charge in with some silly sentence like, what's your favourite pizza topping? Or, are you wetting yourself over that tall guy over there? Or, do you think I should have dressed commando? Or, anything?
Are you a feline Pheline? Lol! :D
Pheline_Kevin
Warming the Bed
Thanks to everyone for the advice given so far, will see how we get on next time and keep you posted.
Not a feline but very wild in every other sense !!!
Love and hugs
Pheline X