My wife and i went to the "Night of the Senses".....we were in one of the play areas and we were next to another couple who were playing,the man kindly asked my wife if he could fondle her..."of course" she said,as we have been in many sitiuations like wife is straight but has had several women fondle and preform oral sex on her which she is cool with.......but that night something happened that had never happened before...while the guy was fondling my wife he took his other hand and started to wank me.....i didn't even get asked!...lol.......i was very polite to him and said i was not into that....but was i being selfish as my wife has obviously been in that sitiuation and just let it happen and got on with it....is this just a man thing?
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Da69ve - I don't think it's a man thing - it's a you thing. And it should be! Your wife may feel more comfortable with another female touching her than you do about a guy touching you.
I don't think anyone, male or female should ever feel pressured into doing something they are not 100% comfortable with.
... although I would have liked to have watched if I'm honest...
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I don't think anyone, male or female should ever feel pressured into doing something they are not 100% comfortable with.
... although I would have liked to have watched if I'm honest...
:grin:
If it was a woman doing it would you have agreed? Of course you would ! Because you're not into men doing this to you, you had every right to tell him. You were polite but firm ( NPI 
) He should have asked you the same as he asked your wife. Your wife was ok with her being fondled and that's her choice, you weren't being selfish at all.
Funny how he was polite enough to ask your wife first but then assumed it would be ok for you too
) He should have asked you the same as he asked your wife. Your wife was ok with her being fondled and that's her choice, you weren't being selfish at all. Funny how he was polite enough to ask your wife first but then assumed it would be ok for you too
Sex God
We all have our own set of boundaries / values an no one should be expected to compromise them for the sake of keeping the status quo.
you did exactly the right thing, respect :thumbup:
you did exactly the right thing, respect :thumbup:
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If it was a woman doing it would you have agreed? Of course you would ! Because you're not into men doing this to you, you had every right to tell him. You were polite but firm ( NPI
Funny how he was polite enough to ask your wife first but then assumed it would be ok for you too
thats what i thought.......i knew i shouldn't have had my hand on my hip!
.....to be honest i was more worried about my wifes reaction to him doing it. Quote by da69ve
If it was a woman doing it would you have agreed? Of course you would ! Because you're not into men doing this to you, you had every right to tell him. You were polite but firm ( NPI
Funny how he was polite enough to ask your wife first but then assumed it would be ok for you too
thats what i thought.......i knew i shouldn't have had my hand on my hip!
.....to be honest i was more worried about my wifes reaction to him doing it.N.B....take of the leather cap next time! :lol:
But if it was your wifes reaction you were worried about, I'm curious as to what she's had to say?
i only think its selfish if the you expected your wife to let women do things to her but if she let the women carry on cause she was happy with it and you asked the guy to stop cause you wasn't then no thats not selfish, personally i would have asked how comes he asked your wife and not you :shock:
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If it was a woman doing it would you have agreed? Of course you would ! Because you're not into men doing this to you, you had every right to tell him. You were polite but firm ( NPI
Funny how he was polite enough to ask your wife first but then assumed it would be ok for you too
thats what i thought.......i knew i shouldn't have had my hand on my hip!
.....to be honest i was more worried about my wifes reaction to him doing it.N.B....take of the leather cap next time! :lol:
But if it was your wifes reaction you were worried about, I'm curious as to what she's had to say?
she didn't know he was doing it.....she had her eyes shut believe it or not!.....she only got the geist of it as i was telling him thanks but no thanks!.....my wife has said it would do absolutely nothing for her seeing me with another guy!
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That's quite surprising Dave. Although I don't know you, I had imagined you'd probably encountered such like long before now. Is there a sense of 'bi curious' going on here, a wistful lingering of a missed opportunity, hmmmmmmmmm.
When it happened to me, I got a nice blow job.
nope this is the first time it has ever happened to me......i'm just proud of myself that i handled the sitiuation very well......
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nope this is the first time it has ever happened to me......i'm just proud of myself that i handled the sitiuation very well......
Would you have given a different reply if he'd asked? Which he should have done.
Maybe you misheard him! and he asked you both.
The asking bit is always awkward isn't it? Polite declines are still declines lol
he still would have got a big no from me.......he was actually looking at my wife when he asked her.....i wouldn't have assumed that meant me as well
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...i'm just proud of myself that i handled the sitiuation very well......
As long as he handled 'it' well too!
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its quite funny really.....he was still holding it several seconds after i said no....."i then asked if i could have it back"....we were all cool about it afterwards!
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That's quite surprising Dave. Although I don't know you, I had imagined you'd probably encountered such like long before now. Is there a sense of 'bi curious' going on here, a wistful lingering of a missed opportunity, hmmmmmmmmm.
When it happened to me, I got a nice blow job.
Crikey, has Bloke bought a bike? :giggle:
sorry Bloke, you know I luvs ya
Sex God
I'd be most concerned if someone grabbed my cock :shock:
Seriously, if you don't like it doing, you have every right to say politely 'No'. You;d think nothing of a woman saying to you 'No' if she didn't like anal and you strayed too close to her chocolate starfish. Not a lot of difference in my opinion.
Gem. x
Seriously, if you don't like it doing, you have every right to say politely 'No'. You;d think nothing of a woman saying to you 'No' if she didn't like anal and you strayed too close to her chocolate starfish. Not a lot of difference in my opinion.
Gem. x
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I'd be most concerned if someone grabbed my cock :shock:
Seriously, if you don't like it doing, you have every right to say politely 'No'. You;d think nothing of a woman saying to you 'No' if she didn't like anal and you strayed too close to her chocolate starfish. Not a lot of difference in my opinion.
Gem. x
i'd be even more concerned if you had one! :lol:
Sex God
We all have our own set of boundaries / values an no one should be expected to compromise them for the sake of keeping the status quo.
Totally agree with Pete on this one, it's your choice who handles your todger. The thought of him lingering a minute or so just gave me a creepy feeling... :shock:
pink x
Sex God
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I'd be most concerned if someone grabbed my cock :shock:
i'd be even more concerned if you had one! :lol:
Do strap ons count though??? :rascal: ;)
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When we were younger i use to say to my wife ..."i would love to see her with another woman"....she use to fine....."but only if i can see you with another guy"....well that soon shut me up......
makes note on how to shut up mr powers......
what this....you dragging up old threads aswell?
Oooh didn't realise you told sexy stories Mr P... mmmm seeing you in a different light! 
On the note of another man handling your tadger, you were quite right to politely say you weren't into that, Jay would've done the same. There's no harm in being honest and if it's not right you do follow it through.
On the note of another man handling your tadger, you were quite right to politely say you weren't into that, Jay would've done the same. There's no harm in being honest and if it's not right you do follow it through.
Sexpert
You handled it an awful lot better than i would've it has to be said!
I would've probably nutted the guy into the middle of 2009 and then stamped on him just for good measures.
I'm not homophobic by any stretch of the imagination, i have some good friends who are gay/bi but they're good as long as they dont try to touch me up or anything.
Fair play MrP, i wouldve blown my stack big time
I would've probably nutted the guy into the middle of 2009 and then stamped on him just for good measures.
I'm not homophobic by any stretch of the imagination, i have some good friends who are gay/bi but they're good as long as they dont try to touch me up or anything.
Fair play MrP, i wouldve blown my stack big time
