I am very happily married but unfortunately my wife has no desire for sex anymore. I have tried talking to her about my feelings but with little understanding from her.
I have seen an add for a naturist gay massage and am seriously thinking of giving it a try. I just need some sexual release. I'm not gay but feel this would be better than looking for a lady.
Has anyone been in my situation. Any advice would be gladly received.
It's a tough situation and I sympathise greatly but why do you think having gay sex when you're straight would be better than finding a lady? I'm assuming you wouldn't want/expect her to find out either way but, if your wife did, which do you think would shock or hurt her the most? 
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I am very happily married but unfortunately my wife has no desire for sex anymore. I have tried talking to her about my feelings but with little understanding from her.
I have seen an add for a naturist gay massage and am seriously thinking of giving it a try. I just need some sexual release. I'm not gay but feel this would be better than looking for a lady.
Has anyone been in my situation. Any advice would be gladly received.
In exactly the same position, so know how you feel.
To be honest, I can understand his thoughts about male/male fun. Being a single male trying to meet a female or a couple? You're one of many thousands. From my experience, it seems easier to try and hook up with a guy. A lot of males now are more accepting of casual gay/ bi sex. Easier to find someone with similar genitalia than try and be the 'one in a million' and try and find someone of the opposite sex for fun. Spend a little time in the bi rooms on the chat site and you'll see plenty of guys looking for NSA, same day meets. Trying to meet couples or the elusive single fem is a lot of hard work and takes a lot of planning. If that's what you want, OP, go for it.
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To be honest, I can understand his thoughts about male/male fun. Being a single male trying to meet a female or a couple? You're one of many thousands. From my experience, it seems easier to try and hook up with a guy. A lot of males now are more accepting of casual gay/ bi sex. Easier to find someone with similar genitalia than try and be the 'one in a million' and try and find someone of the opposite sex for fun. Spend a little time in the bi rooms on the chat site and you'll see plenty of guys looking for NSA, same day meets. Trying to meet couples or the elusive single fem is a lot of hard work and takes a lot of planning. If that's what you want, OP, go for it.
Yes of course it's the OP's choice but whilst it's hard for single guys here, it's really not that hard for men to find sexual relief at the hands of a female if that's what the OP would prefer. Female 'massage services' are really very common and accessible. Of course if he's tempted by a gay/bi sex that's fine but it's not the impression he gave. Whatever he decides I'm sure we all understand and hope he finds what he seeks.
Thankyou for all your comments. I'm still very much in love with my wife but I do still have the occasional sexual needs. I feel having relief from another male is better than going with a lady. There does seem to be a lot of men out there who are happy to oblige me with nothing expected in return.
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Thankyou for all your comments. I'm still very much in love with my wife but I do still have the occasional sexual needs. I feel having relief from another male is better than going with a lady. There does seem to be a lot of men out there who are happy to oblige me with nothing expected in return.
I think maybe you've hit the nail on the head when you say 'nothing in return' because yes, you'd very likely have to pay for a 'massage' with a woman. Anyway, I am sure there's a good number of males who'll be happy to oblige and hope you obtain the release you require whilst caring deeply about your wife.
Yes,certainly a situation that many are in,including women,and myself.....not had sex with my partner for 7 years now,wow I hear you was that I had a life threatening situation,so after I survived I think it was the excuse for her to stop sex.
My ex wife and I used to have a casual approach to sharing her good self with another guy a few times,and one particular time there was a brief oral encounter which I had performed on myself whilst we were all having a good time....but,and it is a big but,I don't think I could do it with a 1 on 1 with a guy....but,with a woman present and joining in,that's a different S,you see,you are not on your own,far from thing is,when I send a message to single women and couples,it would be polite if they just replied with a polite ,no,if that's what they think...not just,no reply,but,I suppose expecting a little respect is a step too far....ah well....back to pornhub etc
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....Another thing is,when I send a message to single women and couples,it would be polite if they just replied with a polite ,no,if that's what they think...not just,no reply,but,I suppose expecting a little respect is a step too far....ah well....back to pornhub etc
I understand how you feel in this situation but maybe if you knew just how many messages/winks/friends requests females and couples get every day/week you'd appreciate why they don't often reply. The truth is that over time it just becomes increasingly tiresome. We've clearly explained what we're about/what we're looking for and try to reply to everyone who at least makes the effort to read our profile and construct a half decent, relevant, message in response. The truth is, though, that 90% of the unsolicited messages we get come from guys who clearly heaven't read our profile first and don't match what we're looking for. Quite a few even argue when we do reply with a polite 'no thanks'. I think you'd be surprised if you could see a typical couple/female mailbox and maybe not take the lack of a reply as a personal insult. The same is true in chat. When we go on cam, we're immediately deluged with private messages we just can't keep up with, even if we wanted to. It's not rudeness, it's just impossible. It certainly would be a lot better for everyone here if more guys bothered to digest profiles before sending messages but without knowing how much effort you put into yours my only advice would be to go for quality over quantity and make sure the people you're contacting are looking for someone like you, as opposed to just being attractive to you.
Good luck! :thumbup:
Thank you for your replies. I have recently visited and had a massage by a local gay man. There was no pressure from him and was very polite. He asked if I would be happy naked which I did not mind, also if I objected if he was also. I had no problem with this.
Every step of the way he asked if I was happy as to what he was doing to me.
He asked if I was happy to have my rear massaged and when I turned over he gently massaged my penis. I have to say it was a most enjoyable experience .
It did end in a lovely warm climax. I feel I would like to return.
I would rather enjoy this form of relief than cheating on my wife with another lady.
As I have said, I do love my wife but I still have sexual feelings.
It seems a near perfect solution for you Steve, as your wife has lost ner sexual desire, possibly through hormones or menopause reasons but you still need sexual stimulation and climax.
There is a limit to how much pleasure you can gain from personal masturbation and the fact that you have found a naturist masseuse is perfect, who will explore your body intimately and take you through excitement to a point of ejaculation on a proffesional basis, I think should give you pleasure, relaxation and a clear conscience. I wonder if it will progress to you returning the compliment to your masseuse, .............hmm possible problems.
Good luck to you and I hope this gives you relief you have been looking for, staying in love with your lady .
