I'm sorry but if I don't find someone attractive I'm not going to find out if the sex is great cos it doesn't get that far.
H.x
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If the sex is great does attraction matter?
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Quote by Kiss
I'm sorry but if I don't find someone attractive I'm not going to find out if the sex is great cos it doesn't get that far.
H.x
Damn!
There was me hoping that you would say you'd give it a go, just to test the hypothesis of course.
:giggle:
Bugga ! !
Me too.
In more ways than one :grin:
Sex God
Quote by Fun365
Have to disagree.. Even if there is no major physical attarction ; the sex (in unadulterated terms) can still be great.
I am sure that most , if not all, have been with people that we are not overly attracted to , but have found that in bed we are more than compatible.
Don't judge ... etc ... etc
Paul
But who says the attraction has to be purely physical? A lot of the time (for me anyway) it is the 'package' that is the attraction, a combination of looks, personality, sense of humour etc.
I have to say that if I dont have an attraction to someone (whether physical or as mentioned above) then there is no way I could actually play with someone, and certainly can't imagine ever having great sex.
Quote by H-x
I'm sorry but if I don't find someone attractive I'm not going to find out if the sex is great cos it doesn't get that far.
H.x
H-x;
Understand totally. But have you never met a guy that you have not been atttracted to , and then when you have explored there personality you have found that they have an attraction?
Paul
Quote by angieyorkshire
Reading this again I wonder if it is a lack of attraction, or that he just isn't your 'type'.
I am often pleasantly surprised when i go with a man who isn't my usual type..... there's a moral here somewhere
Personally I don't think it's either. I think it's what my vanilla friends and I call "Trophy Shags/Trophy Boyfriends"
I know a female who does this. She meets a guy she likes (whether in terms of a relationship or a 1 night stand), but she'll ask everyone else what they think of him. If her mates don't find him attractive, she won't go out with him/shag him.
I've always found is a bit superficial.
Orgasminator
I find it hard to believe that there is anyone (out of their teens) that will shag someone they do not find attractive!!!
And by "attractive" I mean an attraction of any sort.
The originator of this thread must find her prospective partner 'attractive' in some way surely?
Even if it is jusy the way he kisses, touches or makes her feel. She might only have got this far 'cos she was drunk and didn't find him pysically attractive but there must be more that attracts us to others than our mere looks.
I certainly hope so otherwise I'm well and truly buggered!!!
How do old, fat, ugly, rich blokes get gorgeous ladies?
How do fat, ugly comedians get gorgeous ladies?
How do thick as a plank of wood male models get gorgeous ladies?
I think it only takes one little thing to attract people and that one thing could be any of a million things. (Does that make sense?!)
And can I just add .................
................I know I've only seen your profile photos redangel but how in the world can you even think this?!!!
:confused: :smitten:
And by "attractive" I mean an attraction of any sort.
The originator of this thread must find her prospective partner 'attractive' in some way surely?
Even if it is jusy the way he kisses, touches or makes her feel. She might only have got this far 'cos she was drunk and didn't find him pysically attractive but there must be more that attracts us to others than our mere looks.
I certainly hope so otherwise I'm well and truly buggered!!!
How do old, fat, ugly, rich blokes get gorgeous ladies?
How do fat, ugly comedians get gorgeous ladies?
How do thick as a plank of wood male models get gorgeous ladies?
I think it only takes one little thing to attract people and that one thing could be any of a million things. (Does that make sense?!)
And can I just add .................
Quote by redangel
I admit to having low self esteem, and always dread meeting people because they may find me unattractive
................I know I've only seen your profile photos redangel but how in the world can you even think this?!!!
:confused: :smitten: Orgasminator
Quote by chashoniton
Hi...
I got to know someone via emails, no photo, no meeting, and then when i saw a photo i decided that there was 'no chemistry there for me'. Fool!
Luckily i had second thoughts (stop laughing Chas!!) and contacted him again.
Even more luckily he is so comfortable with who he is that he forgave me and was lovely about it....it's something we laugh about now (I still keep apologising!)
And he is utterly gorgeous, I adore him and sex with him is wonderful...best sex i've ever had in i love spending 'non-sex' time with him too!!
So, remember that attraction isn't just a looks thing. Sometimes it takes more that one meeting....for me, as soon as I actually met him, rather that just seeing one photo (and having a shallow moment!) I thought he was gorgeous....still do!
x
Plus some people look really bad in photos!!!
Well, that's my excuse anyway.
Unless it's a really well taken, even professionally set up photo, how many people actually look better in a snap shot than they do in real life?
I think it is just he's not what I go for lookswise. He's tall which I like, but skinny which I don't. And he's not good looking but I like his smile. And his personality. And the way he makes me feel. And that he gets that I want a fuck buddy, not a relationship and is ok with that.
So yep, I guess there is an attraction, just not the type I'm used to. And fuck what my friends would think. I don't really want them to find out anyway.
So yep, I guess there is an attraction, just not the type I'm used to. And fuck what my friends would think. I don't really want them to find out anyway.
Sex God
I couldn't have sex with someone I wasn't attracted to. 
Quote by Dawnie
There again, if it was Peter Stringfellow, he could be the best shag in the world but I could never bring myself to find out :scared:
Not even if he was wearing a gold lycra thong
:scared:
:shock:
Thank you. Now I need Valium as well as painkillers :shock:
I may never sleep with the lights out again :shock:
I may never sleep again :shock:
Orgasminator
Quote by redangel
Thank you very much Littlemee:kiss:
My pleasure.
One :kiss: would have been more than enough. You're just spoiling me with two.
(Sorry, thread hijack over.)
