If the sex is great does attraction matter?
I couldn't have sex, let alone have great sex with somebody I wasn't attracted to!
We didn't quite have sex.
I think, and this sounds awful and shallow, but I know people who know him, and I know if they knew they'd wonder what the hell it is I'm doing with him. Which is what might be putting me off.
But he's incredible in every other way, and we both want the same arrangement which is great. But I don't wanto to mess him around.
I've just realised how stupid this whole thread is because it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks at all.
I wouldn't have sex with someone if I knew it required getting pissed to consider it an option.
I think you are more worried about what other people will think of you seeing someone that obviously isn't up to your 'standard' in looks.
As it doesn't sound like you want to actually go out on dates, what difference does it make if the sex is great and you both understand the score?
Petal - been there, done that, had GREAT time. I was attracted to his sense of humour, the way I felt so safe with him, the way he made me feel good about myself, his accent... loads of stuff that's not imediately obvious. If it feels right on all the other levels, I'd say go for it! :twisted:
the thing is what is attraction? does it just have to be about looks? personally i think not if he makes you feel this good is that not a attraction in itself?
As has been said before, I cannot sleep with someone I don't find attractive.
But attraction is not, and should not be about looks. Sence of humour, feeling safe, same interests, interesting personality should come first, not how picture perfect they look.
I admit to having low self esteem, and always dread meeting people because they may find me unattractive, but if I've spoken to them by msn or whatever, for a long enough period of time, which I usually do. I find I usually win them over in personality and general attitude to life and sex, to the point where looks tend not to really matter. This goes both ways.
Its a shallow person that decides after sharing a couple of weeks of intimate chat by whichever form, that oh sorry, your too fat/ugly/spotty for me to shag!!!!!
Just my 10pence worth. Might not even be worth that much!!!!