If your partner was cheating...

13 Oct 2006

Would you prefer their lover to be more or less attractive than you?
I was having this conversation at work and we couldn't decide.
On the one hand, if they're more attractive you'd get it. If they were less oyu'd be a bit insulted.

13 Oct 2006

Have you been drinking?

13 Oct 2006

No. Why?

13 Oct 2006

Hmmm - what would I prefer a cheating partner's lover to look like - let me think confused

13 Oct 2006

I didn't really think about it like that! It was just a question a girl at work asked today. Dunno if there was anything behind it...

13 Oct 2006

too deep for a friday night, sorry, will come back to this thread, does pose an interesting question .................. i fink confused

13 Oct 2006

If your partner is cheating,
1) hold your cards lower down
2) make sure your not playing on a glass table.
3) make sure you don't have a mirror behind you.
4) maybe wearing sunglasses wasn't a good idea (they act like mirrors to).
that help at all? dunno

Ian

13 Oct 2006

Quote by petal24
Would you prefer their lover to be more or less attractive than you?
I was having this conversation at work and we couldn't decide.
On the one hand, if they're more attractive you'd get it. If they were less oyu'd be a bit insulted.

Would prefer them to be (At least to my perception) less attractive/desirable than me.
Reason being that after you have split you can console yourself in the knowledge that your now ex partner lost out on the deal. biggrin

13 Oct 2006

Attractive, no.... less of a lover, Yes.

13 Oct 2006

I'd prefer their lover to be non-existent. Cheating just ain't part of this game.
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13 Oct 2006

Quote by westerross
I'd prefer their lover to be non-existent. Cheating just ain't part of this game.
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Very true....
but I think it was hypothetical, I assume.

13 Oct 2006

Quote by Phoenix
I'd prefer their lover to be non-existent. Cheating just ain't part of this game.
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Very true....
but I think it was hypothetical, I assume.
So was my comment! wink

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13 Oct 2006

I wouldn't give a monkey's - I wouldn't have to look at either of them again. confused

13 Oct 2006

Quote by Freckledbird
I wouldn't give a monkey's - I wouldn't have to look at either of them again.

:thumbup:
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13 Oct 2006

I'd prefer them to be hung like a horse, but with a hair trigger.... oh the irony... stuffed full and all done and duusted in less than 15 seconds. lol

:lol: :lol: :lol:
Ultimatly when I do get a FTR I'd prefer it if they didnt have to cheat as they would be confidant enough with me to not go behind my back but reality is rarely the same as the ideal.
If they did... then I'd like them to be the most handsome man on the earth with millions in the bank, at least then I'd not feel they had left me for a no-hoper (although thats subjective as is looks)
We're still not that far removed from animals and ultimatly provision and protection still reigns high in the sub-concious of both male and female "humans."

14 Oct 2006

I can certainly see why someone who'd been affected by cheating would feel upset with this conversation, but I'm sure no offence or hurt was intended.
Petal has raised many interesting threads and maybe this one just should have been worded differently, maybe about how you would feel about an ex-partner's new partner rather than a cheating partner.
I would definately prefer my ex to be seeing someone who I felt was LESS attractive than me, Id still have some pride.
On the other hand, when my mum saw my dads new partner, she was gutted that the new lady WASNT more attractive than her, she felt that the only way she could cope with dad having a new lady would be if the lady was really attractive. If she wasnt, mum reasoned, there'd be no reason for dad NOT to come back to HER.

14 Oct 2006

If my wife was cheating......i'd just hope it was a bloke!

14 Oct 2006

Quote by petal24
Would you prefer their lover to be more or less attractive than you?
I was having this conversation at work and we couldn't decide.
On the one hand, if they're more attractive you'd get it. If they were less oyu'd be a bit insulted.

Personally, i dont think id prefer them to be anything. I even hate to think about it. If she was very good looking id hate it and if she wasnt too good looking id hate it aswell. Both ways can make you feel like shit, so better not to think about it too much.
Louise xx

14 Oct 2006

it would make absolutely no difference to me.... (and I have been there)
my partner cheating isn't about my attractiveness or intelligence it is about us having a problem with communicating. and I would be looking at what I would do differently next time.

14 Oct 2006

If mine ( hyperthetically that is ) was cheating I'd prefer her to be out of the country evil

It did happen to me last year and the reason for my marriage breakdown .I found out she was older and a lot shorter than me. As for more or less attractive, I wouldn't like to comment.

14 Oct 2006

if my partner was cheating i would hope it was with a girl, and she would come round to my way of thinking that she could only benefit from letting me join in every other thursday,
staggy
im kidding ok

14 Oct 2006

if my partner was cheating i would hope it was with a girl, and she would come round to my way of thinking that she could only benefit from letting me join in every other thursday,
staggy
I was gunna post something like that lol

14 Oct 2006

Hmmm if he was cheating what would I like them to look like?
Greeny grey corpse colour dunno

Jas
XXX

14 Oct 2006

I too am of the mind that if your partner is cheating, it's not because of looks/attractiveness, but it's because something is missing or lost.
(someone is going to post something silly now aren't they, but i'm serious).
Had an interesting conversation recently, talking about being unfaithful and how just having sex with someone may not count, but having lots of meetings, spending time together 9without sex) can be being unfaithful....i'm not sure i'm explaining this very well!
i guess what i mean (or part of it) is that 'cheating' takes many forms....

15 Oct 2006

My lover can not cheat.
Atleast not where sex is concerned. She has the freedom to go with whom she chooses.

15 Oct 2006

Quote by Jas-Tim
Hmmm if he was cheating what would I like them to look like?
Greeny grey corpse colour
Jas
XXX

and preferably with the lorry still on top of them lol

15 Oct 2006

Quote by chashoniton
we were talking about being unfaithful and how just having sex with someone may not count, but having lots of meetings, spending time together 9without sex) can be being unfaithful....i'm not sure i'm explaining this very well!

Explained perfectly well - to me at least.
It's not just the sex. In fact I'd say that the sex part of cheating is actually the "smallest" part of infidelity.
To me, the thing that hurts most on an emotional level, is the "giving of oneself"

15 Oct 2006

Quote by petal24
Would you prefer their lover to be more or less attractive than you?
I was having this conversation at work and we couldn't decide.
On the one hand, if they're more attractive you'd get it. If they were less oyu'd be a bit insulted.

we just had a long discussion on this and we dont believe the atractiveness or otherwise of any 3rd person is the issue
instead, its the deceit - cheating means deceiving yr partner - no deception no foul
- so looks dont mean bugga all in the end

15 Oct 2006

Quote by PoloLady
Hmmm if he was cheating what would I like them to look like?
Greeny grey corpse colour
Jas
XXX

and preferably with the lorry still on top of them lol

Yep that's the look :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:
Jas
XXX

15 Oct 2006

My husband wouldn't cheat.
My lover (but which one?) couldn't cheat, because they have no comittment to me.
But oddly enough, I've always said that if Mr W did ever leave me, it would hurt less if it was for a guy, at least that way I would know it wasn't because of something I was doing- it would be because of something out of my control.
Ignore me, im tipsy. redface