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No, really:gagged:
on many levels. Frustrating though, as this has the makings of one of the most interesting threads in ages.
Nice one, petal, I'll be reading it with interest.
Stil :gagged: though!
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I`m in love with you
this happened to me and TBH i crapped myself and stopped talking to the member.....didnt know what else to do, but stop all contact :shock:
It all happened a while a go now....we are back talking now but as friends, still have a soft spot for each other, but know that its gonna go no further than being friends.
It all happened a while a go now....we are back talking now but as friends, still have a soft spot for each other, but know that its gonna go no further than being friends.
Casanova
Friend of mine left her hubby to be with a guy they used to play with.
Lasted a couple of months and then she went back to hubby.
{grass looked greener on the other side, when really its just a different shade}
I dont think i could handle situation if someone told Rich they loved him.
We swing for fun and seldom meet couples looking for long term fun.
dee
Lasted a couple of months and then she went back to hubby.
{grass looked greener on the other side, when really its just a different shade}
I dont think i could handle situation if someone told Rich they loved him.
We swing for fun and seldom meet couples looking for long term fun.
dee
I totally agree Flower - he should have done the honourable thing and walked away. If a swinging buddy of ours declared love, they would be out the door so quick, they're feet wouldn't touch the floor. And there would be no further contact in any shape or form.
At the end of the day, I already have the love of my life and the swinging is for extra gratuitous sex and fun - nothing more!
Mrs 777 xxxxxxxxxxx
(Dammit Flower, that's two serious posts I've done in two days!!!!)
At the end of the day, I already have the love of my life and the swinging is for extra gratuitous sex and fun - nothing more!
Mrs 777 xxxxxxxxxxx
(Dammit Flower, that's two serious posts I've done in two days!!!!)
Sex God
I had a very close encounter with a fwb, He did tell me he loved me and me being the dosy bint that i was then (and probably still am) carried on with the fling. :doh:
Anyway things reared an very ugly head when everything went very very wrong a few months later :cry: I had to put aside my morals and deal with what had to be done, not quite sure if i can totally forgive myself for that one.
Now id run a flipping mile as quickly as my ickle legs could carry me :scared: Once bitten twice shy.
Anyway things reared an very ugly head when everything went very very wrong a few months later :cry: I had to put aside my morals and deal with what had to be done, not quite sure if i can totally forgive myself for that one.
Now id run a flipping mile as quickly as my ickle legs could carry me :scared: Once bitten twice shy.
Quote by Bonedigger
this happened to me and TBH i crapped myself and stopped talking to the member.....didnt know what else to do, but stop all contact :shock:
It all happened a while a go now....we are back talking now but as friends, still have a sift spot for each other, but know that its gonna go no further than being friends.
Erm, you're playing a blinder with the typo's today boney, but :therethere: You responded in the only way you knew how, confronting these things is faaaaar from easy
And Tan, given the gravity of your situation :therethere: :therethere: :cry:
Sex God
Quote by winchwench
this happened to me and TBH i crapped myself and stopped talking to the member.....didnt know what else to do, but stop all contact :shock:
It all happened a while a go now....we are back talking now but as friends, still have a sift spot for each other, but know that its gonna go no further than being friends.
Erm, you're playing a blinder with the typo's today boney, but :therethere: You responded in the only way you knew how, confronting these things is faaaaar from easy
And Tan, given the gravity of your situation :therethere: :therethere: :cry:
Thats all anyone can do i recon you deal with it as best you can at the time
Sex God
Quote by kentswingers777
I totally agree Flower - he should have done the honourable thing and walked away. If a swinging buddy of ours declared love, they would be out the door so quick, they're feet wouldn't touch the floor. And there would be no further contact in any shape or form.
At the end of the day, I already have the love of my life and the swinging is for extra gratuitous sex and fun - nothing more!
Mrs 777 xxxxxxxxxxx
(Dammit Flower, that's two serious posts I've done in two days!!!!)
I think you say it all for Lost when you say this kent - especially this bit put that you put in a very subtle caring way too!
If both parties were single how would it be viewed then?
Most couples on here.... did they first meet in the vanilla world THEN venture into swinging together?
Would be interesting to know how you approached the subject.. who suggested it... did you both agree right away... did it cause any friction?
x
Most couples on here.... did they first meet in the vanilla world THEN venture into swinging together?
Would be interesting to know how you approached the subject.. who suggested it... did you both agree right away... did it cause any friction?
x
Casanova
This is one of the reasons I very very very rarely play with males in relationships. I am single and have been for a long time. I am not stupid enough to believe that I don't have needs and knowing my luck I would fall for the one I can't have.
I don't want to get hurt and have no wish to hurt anyone else, so instead of trying to not fall for someone that I can't have, I prefer to keep these people as friends only.
Having said that stuff like blind fold fun in chams and gbs, it doesn't really matter as you don't get the opportunity to create a bond.
I think this is one of the reasons why a lot of couples are not keen to meet couples who are not in real relationships, as this means that there is possibly little bond between the buddy partnership and less to lose for them.
I don't want to get hurt and have no wish to hurt anyone else, so instead of trying to not fall for someone that I can't have, I prefer to keep these people as friends only.
Having said that stuff like blind fold fun in chams and gbs, it doesn't really matter as you don't get the opportunity to create a bond.
I think this is one of the reasons why a lot of couples are not keen to meet couples who are not in real relationships, as this means that there is possibly little bond between the buddy partnership and less to lose for them.
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What would you do if a swinging partner suddenly told you they loved you ??
I can see that the answers will be very different depending on your current status, but I`m thinking of a situation where a couple are meeting singles.
As far as I`m concerned the single who has declared love is out of line and should have done the honourable thing and just walked away.
However if the couple are solid and not in any way threatened by the single, should they make the situation clear and carry on if the single wants to and just make it clear that, no matter how much in love they are it`s just a sex thing ???
Would you feel threatened if a swinging friend declared love for your partner ???
Flower it has just happened to me, I am still a little gob smacked still, so it is hard to say to much right now.
But hubby doesnt feel threatened in anyway as we have 150% trust in each other, we are soul mates and been together for 28 years. So there was never any question it would go anywhere. The guy said he knew this and said it was hes doing and nothing that I done ever suggested I felt the same way.
I might come back here and add more at a later stage.
Thanks flower for raising this thread it needs to be dicussed I couldnt bring myself to start such a thread.x
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I'm not a couple, but I'd have to ask the faller;
"Why on earth did you do something as stupid as that?
Go and find yourself a propper person...one worthwhile, who can treat you well and love you right back"
lp
:laughabove: :laughabove: :laughabove:
what?
that was one god damned serious post, if ever I did one.
oh yes!
lp
Sex God
Quote by flower411
I'm not a couple, but I'd have to ask the faller;
"Why on earth did you do something as stupid as that?
Go and find yourself a propper person...one worthwhile, who can treat you well and love you right back"
lp
:laughabove: :laughabove: :laughabove:
Lp aint wrong though thats what i'd shout out as soon as the other guy had landed. There would be a few f*cks thrown in for good measure though
Sex God
Quote by __random_orbit__
Lp aint wrong though thats what i'd shout out as soon as the other guy had landed. There would be a few f*cks thrown in for good measure though
what?
you'd beat a guy senceless and then fuck him... just because loved you?
you're a mean one Lost!
lp
But but i well what i mean is that sort of you know if that was too ever happen i'd be a bit ........ oh i'm
you got me all confused now with your complicated scientific stuff 
Quote by Lost
Lp aint wrong though thats what i'd shout out as soon as the other guy had landed. There would be a few f*cks thrown in for good measure though
what?
you'd beat a guy senceless and then fuck him... just because loved you?
you're a mean one Lost!
lp
But but i well what i mean is that sort of you know if that was too ever happen i'd be a bit ........ oh i'm
you got me all confused now with your complicated scientific stuff nah, the complicated scientific stuff is in the Hadron Collider thread... don't forget to line your pants with foil before roughly buggering the love you beat and refuse to love ... for the velocities will be high... and the space will be inverted.
a bumpy ride indeed
lp
I have no issue with anyone telling me that they love me, I have had plenty of practice 
I believe that Polyamory works and am open-minded that it could happen for me and wor lass that either/both of us falls in love with someone else.
I would be concerned that someone told me they were in love with me and I was shocked about it. I am fairly perceptive and would be disappointed for them that their feelings weren't reciprocated as surely if they were then we would have been communicating about it ?
I have to say that I do feel intense feelings when having orgasms and if someone asked me at that second/moment/hour if I loved the person who was aiding my orgasm/s then I probably would say I did. (it is similar to the 'I have never been to bed with an ugly woman' joke) But, at that moment, I love everyone and everything.
in edit: I would be a little concerned that they did love me from a swinging encounter it is swinging after all. Again, that said I did develop 'feelings' for someone off this site. It could have been a number of reasons that led to those 'feelings' but I didn't actually voice them and when I did talk around the theoretical idea that one of us might have feelings it was clear that it would be pointless. So I wrapped mine up and put them in a box along with the happy memories. Having feelings or being in love is a wonderful thing. Being respectful when those wonderful things aren't returned is also wonderful.
I believe that Polyamory works and am open-minded that it could happen for me and wor lass that either/both of us falls in love with someone else.
I would be concerned that someone told me they were in love with me and I was shocked about it. I am fairly perceptive and would be disappointed for them that their feelings weren't reciprocated as surely if they were then we would have been communicating about it ?
I have to say that I do feel intense feelings when having orgasms and if someone asked me at that second/moment/hour if I loved the person who was aiding my orgasm/s then I probably would say I did. (it is similar to the 'I have never been to bed with an ugly woman' joke) But, at that moment, I love everyone and everything.
in edit: I would be a little concerned that they did love me from a swinging encounter it is swinging after all. Again, that said I did develop 'feelings' for someone off this site. It could have been a number of reasons that led to those 'feelings' but I didn't actually voice them and when I did talk around the theoretical idea that one of us might have feelings it was clear that it would be pointless. So I wrapped mine up and put them in a box along with the happy memories. Having feelings or being in love is a wonderful thing. Being respectful when those wonderful things aren't returned is also wonderful.
Quote by __random_orbit__
I'm not a couple, but I'd have to ask the faller;
"Why on earth did you do something as stupid as that?
Go and find yourself a propper person...one worthwhile, who can treat you well and love you right back"
lp
lp this is exactly what I said and really hope he finds true hapiness.
You speak some wise words!
Just sometimes you posts :crazy: ones that :confused: me
Sex God
Quote by Laurenxxx_1
You can't help who you fall in love with though.
How true.
I think what could possibly happen that causes the problems of falling in love with people when we maybe shouldn't is not being able to to distinguish between the love and just sex senario and this is more likely to happen to people on this site whether they fall for someone or someone has feelings for them just because of the lifestyles we choose to lead.
Mr S
Mr S
Well I am in love with a person I met recently and I've told him and know he doesn't feel totally the same as that kind of thing does his head in, but I don't care - if you love someone you love them - it doesn't have conditions.
Life is finite; you might as well try and pass time with people you feel something for.
If you meet a person who makes you feel more alive you enjoy it while it lasts, while hoping it lasts as long as possible of course! Lol
Life is finite; you might as well try and pass time with people you feel something for.
If you meet a person who makes you feel more alive you enjoy it while it lasts, while hoping it lasts as long as possible of course! Lol
Sex God
Quote by Laurenxxx_1
You can't help who you fall in love with though.
Absolutely right. It's just a question of how you deal with it.
Well some people might be able to control their emotions better than me but I can't just dismiss a thing like that. I either need to express it or get away from the person.
What's the worst is when you really like someone but they don't reciprocate - that's the worst.
Especially if it's someone you have to see regularly like at work.
Personally, having never swung in a couple I fail to see how, if you have really good sex with another person and really get on, feelings aren't going to automatically grow, to the extent that you'd end up having to disguise just how much you were enjoying it! Lol
What's the worst is when you really like someone but they don't reciprocate - that's the worst.
Especially if it's someone you have to see regularly like at work.
Personally, having never swung in a couple I fail to see how, if you have really good sex with another person and really get on, feelings aren't going to automatically grow, to the extent that you'd end up having to disguise just how much you were enjoying it! Lol
Quote by Laurenxxx_1
Well some people might be able to control their emotions better than me but I can't just dismiss a thing like that. I either need to express it or get away from the person.
What's the worst is when you really like someone but they don't reciprocate - that's the worst.
Especially if it's someone you have to see regularly like at work.
Personally, having never swung in a couple I fail to see how, if you have really good sex with another person and really get on, feelings aren't going to automatically grow, to the extent that you'd end up having to disguise just how much you were enjoying it! Lol
You can have sex with someone without loving them, you can enjoy them as a person like them lust for them. But love is a very deep feeling. Some I feel get love mixed up with infatuation.
