hiya all firstly the site is brill fun stories great addys ggreat cant knock it but here comes the biggy?? we move south to warks five yrs ago we where a swinging cple then and are still now but the sucess rate for us here is about zero in the north east i met other cples with my partners full approval she even answered my calls but since we have moved here one mention that im indian people dont want to know , i personally do belive that some indians carry attiude so does my wife who is english but do u guys cples belive we are all the same i used to meet 3 diferent cples as a single it worked but here nothing so pls some help here is it my typing?? lol lots luck great site keep up the good work cheers
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This is going to sound very contentious but i believe that there are racial barriers in some peoples minds. Some cultures sometimes get unfair stereotypes and every1 under the "racial banner" are stigmatised by it.
I know people who won't go out with asian people full stop because, in their words, "they're all arrogant and have secret wives in India".
It's a silly attitude, but i don't think one that will have much bearing on a liberal site such as this. Everyday British culture and attitude is different though.
P.S. Also, maybe geography plays a part in it - it seems to me that the swinging scene is slightly more active in the North. Don't know if thats true; just an observation.
I know people who won't go out with asian people full stop because, in their words, "they're all arrogant and have secret wives in India".
It's a silly attitude, but i don't think one that will have much bearing on a liberal site such as this. Everyday British culture and attitude is different though.
P.S. Also, maybe geography plays a part in it - it seems to me that the swinging scene is slightly more active in the North. Don't know if thats true; just an observation.
There are a lot of people out there who do have racial hangups but unless they state no asian, noo blacks... in their adverts then I assume that they wouldn't have a problem with your race. There are some ppl out there who specify white european only and there are ppl who specifically ask for asians so i guess you just have to be selective about which adverts you reply too.
Maybe it's just the area you moved to. "Up north" they may have had less exposure to other races, I dunno. I was in Cornwall for three years and the population demographic was probably 99.9% white so there are eares like that.
Good luck mate and keep trying innit!
Maybe it's just the area you moved to. "Up north" they may have had less exposure to other races, I dunno. I was in Cornwall for three years and the population demographic was probably 99.9% white so there are eares like that.
Good luck mate and keep trying innit!
Yeah good point.
Preston has an extremely high percentage of minorities (now there is a contradiction!), especially in the city centre, whilst areas of Yorkshire and Wales i have been have absolutely no minorities unless you literally search the area with a toothcomb!
Its the same in areas down South as well of course, not just the North. But if you keep trying then i'm sure you'll find what you are looking for
Preston has an extremely high percentage of minorities (now there is a contradiction!), especially in the city centre, whilst areas of Yorkshire and Wales i have been have absolutely no minorities unless you literally search the area with a toothcomb!
Its the same in areas down South as well of course, not just the North. But if you keep trying then i'm sure you'll find what you are looking for
Sex God
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Preston has an extremely high percentage of minorities (now there is a contradiction!), especially in the city centre, whilst areas of Yorkshire and Wales i have been have absolutely no minorities unless you literally search the area with a toothcomb!
Yep. I work in Preston and the Asian population is huge.... however, 13 or so miles south where I live there are only a handful and the vast majority of people are white.
I think it is down to the area you live in... if you live in an area with a larger ethnic population you are going to be more succesful with your meets.
Shame, but that's just life.
Orgasminator
madindian - I'm quite surprised you're not getting any luck, where abouts are you looking for people? You can't be that far from Brum/the black country and there should be plenty of couples around there who've got experience with asian men (I've seen some of them advertising specifically for them).
Personally, I like to view people as individuals and don't have preconceived ideas about any group of people, though considering the number of adverts on here requesting vvvwh black men I don't have a problem with my ad expressing a distinct liking for asian ladies..
Personally, I like to view people as individuals and don't have preconceived ideas about any group of people, though considering the number of adverts on here requesting vvvwh black men I don't have a problem with my ad expressing a distinct liking for asian ladies..
City centres and student populations will be extremely ethnic - and then there are different suburbian areas, where you can get an amazingly high proportion of caucasian people - where i come from, a suburb of Liverpool, there was approximately 97% white, 2% black - and i never saw a resident Asian at all.
As bluexxx says, its life!
As bluexxx says, its life!
Master of Sex
Hi there...
I would sincerely hope that it had nothing to do with your race and more to do with the area you lived in... i really cant add all that much more to whats already been said...
One suggestion is get to some of the munches and get known about the forum, that will give you a better standing in meeting folk, and also going to clubs near you will give you a head start..
Nic
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I would sincerely hope that it had nothing to do with your race and more to do with the area you lived in... i really cant add all that much more to whats already been said...
One suggestion is get to some of the munches and get known about the forum, that will give you a better standing in meeting folk, and also going to clubs near you will give you a head start..
Nic
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Sex God
well i know it's not answering your question exactly as you're the wrong way round so to speak, but i love asian women and don't live a huge distance from you so by the law of averages you should have some interest. id suggest even using being asian as your USP if you like, have a look through your ads and think about how it's worded as there is a huge amount of ads on this site so you need to make yours stand out from the rest a little. i have seen several ads on here from asian couples so your not the only asian advertising, so think about what you're looking for and what you're telling others & best of luck
Right i am going to be honest here
I am not racest but i will not meet asian men
simple because i met a indian guy once (see not racest or wouldn't have met him lol) and he was so horrable, the way he spoke to me etc its just really put me off ever meeting another, simple as that.
He sat in MY house and told me how he wouldn't meet a asian women cause they was above all that and indian women should save themselves for their hubbies and get married and raise a family but it was ok to meet me cause i was while and our standards was not as good as 'their' womens!! he was really pushy spoke to me like i had no say in the matter cause he was the guy and to be totally honest i did have sex with him simple cause i was afraid to say no, as we was alone in my house, but even during sex he did nothing just layed there and made me do all the work!!
so sorry to say even tho i have nothing against asian men as friends, where i live it has a high asian community so i know many asian people but sexually i do stay away from them
I am not racest but i will not meet asian men
simple because i met a indian guy once (see not racest or wouldn't have met him lol) and he was so horrable, the way he spoke to me etc its just really put me off ever meeting another, simple as that.
He sat in MY house and told me how he wouldn't meet a asian women cause they was above all that and indian women should save themselves for their hubbies and get married and raise a family but it was ok to meet me cause i was while and our standards was not as good as 'their' womens!! he was really pushy spoke to me like i had no say in the matter cause he was the guy and to be totally honest i did have sex with him simple cause i was afraid to say no, as we was alone in my house, but even during sex he did nothing just layed there and made me do all the work!!
so sorry to say even tho i have nothing against asian men as friends, where i live it has a high asian community so i know many asian people but sexually i do stay away from them
so you had one bad experience with one asian man and you write off a whole race!! 
I'm struggling to get my head round this! lol. I suppose there are some asians who act like the person you desribed due to culture and traditions. A lot of Asians I know are very Westernised though - You could be missing out!! :P
I'm struggling to get my head round this! lol. I suppose there are some asians who act like the person you desribed due to culture and traditions. A lot of Asians I know are very Westernised though - You could be missing out!! :P yes i agree i could be missing out but thats my choice, having sex with someone cause u was to scared to say no is more than a bad experience in my books and its not a possition i am willing to put myself in again, ok some some asian guys my be westernised but how 2 u know till u have met them? u don't so not meeting is a easier option isn't it? and b4 anyone asks if i had the same experience with a man of another culture yes i would have done the same
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Right i am going to be honest here
I am not racest but i will not meet asian men
simple because i met a indian guy once (see not racest or wouldn't have met him lol) and he was so horrable, the way he spoke to me etc its just really put me off ever meeting another, simple as that.
He sat in MY house and told me how he wouldn't meet a asian women cause they was above all that and indian women should save themselves for their hubbies and get married and raise a family but it was ok to meet me cause i was while and our standards was not as good as 'their' womens!! he was really pushy spoke to me like i had no say in the matter cause he was the guy and to be totally honest i did have sex with him simple cause i was afraid to say no, as we was alone in my house, but even during sex he did nothing just layed there and made me do all the work!!
so sorry to say even tho i have nothing against asian men as friends, where i live it has a high asian community so i know many asian people but sexually i do stay away from them
You do make a good point there.....about how some asian guys look at white women in this manner.I've seen it happen!
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yes i agree i could be missing out but thats my choice, having sex with someone cause u was to scared to say no is more than a bad experience in my books and its not a possition i am willing to put myself in again, ok some some asian guys my be westernised but how 2 u know till u have met them? u don't so not meeting is a easier option isn't it? and b4 anyone asks if i had the same experience with a man of another culture yes i would have done the same
Yeah, I can understand why you feel so strongly about it and IMO you are entitled to feel that way. However there are men like that in all cultures and to say that you would have acted the same if the man were from another culture is fair enough. But if you did act the same towards all men of all cultures then you'd probably end up not going with men of any race at all!!
Do you get what I mean or does it sound stoopid? Quote by FNG_London
yes i agree i could be missing out but thats my choice, having sex with someone cause u was to scared to say no is more than a bad experience in my books and its not a possition i am willing to put myself in again, ok some some asian guys my be westernised but how 2 u know till u have met them? u don't so not meeting is a easier option isn't it? and b4 anyone asks if i had the same experience with a man of another culture yes i would have done the same
Yeah, I can understand why you feel so strongly about it and IMO you are entitled to feel that way. However there are men like that in all cultures and to say that you would have acted the same if the man were from another culture is fair enough. But if you did act the same towards all men of all cultures then you'd probably end up not going with men of any race at all!!
Do you get what I mean or does it sound stoopid? no i fully understand what u are saying and if i did meet enough guys like that then i would stop swinging, swinging is supposed 2 be fun, ur not supposed 2 feel scared when u meet people, but he is the only guy i have ever felt that way about and the way i swing now works for me so i'm happy to stick with it lol
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yes i agree i could be missing out but thats my choice, having sex with someone cause u was to scared to say no is more than a bad experience in my books and its not a possition i am willing to put myself in again, ok some some asian guys my be westernised but how 2 u know till u have met them? u don't so not meeting is a easier option isn't it? and b4 anyone asks if i had the same experience with a man of another culture yes i would have done the same
Yeah, I can understand why you feel so strongly about it and IMO you are entitled to feel that way. However there are men like that in all cultures and to say that you would have acted the same if the man were from another culture is fair enough. But if you did act the same towards all men of all cultures then you'd probably end up not going with men of any race at all!!
Do you get what I mean or does it sound stoopid? no i fully understand what u are saying and if i did meet enough guys like that then i would stop swinging, swinging is supposed 2 be fun, ur not supposed 2 feel scared when u meet people, but he is the only guy i have ever felt that way about and the way i swing now works for me so i'm happy to stick with it lol
and if that fails just meet girls
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yes i agree i could be missing out but thats my choice, having sex with someone cause u was to scared to say no is more than a bad experience in my books and its not a possition i am willing to put myself in again, ok some some asian guys my be westernised but how 2 u know till u have met them? u don't so not meeting is a easier option isn't it? and b4 anyone asks if i had the same experience with a man of another culture yes i would have done the same
Yeah, I can understand why you feel so strongly about it and IMO you are entitled to feel that way. However there are men like that in all cultures and to say that you would have acted the same if the man were from another culture is fair enough. But if you did act the same towards all men of all cultures then you'd probably end up not going with men of any race at all!!
Do you get what I mean or does it sound stoopid? no i fully understand what u are saying and if i did meet enough guys like that then i would stop swinging, swinging is supposed 2 be fun, ur not supposed 2 feel scared when u meet people, but he is the only guy i have ever felt that way about and the way i swing now works for me so i'm happy to stick with it lol
and if that fails just meet girls
that an offer? :wink:
have 2 say the thread starters gone very quiet he asks a Q then bogs off lol
Quote by naughtynymphos1
yes i agree i could be missing out but thats my choice, having sex with someone cause u was to scared to say no is more than a bad experience in my books and its not a possition i am willing to put myself in again, ok some some asian guys my be westernised but how 2 u know till u have met them? u don't so not meeting is a easier option isn't it? and b4 anyone asks if i had the same experience with a man of another culture yes i would have done the same
Yeah, I can understand why you feel so strongly about it and IMO you are entitled to feel that way. However there are men like that in all cultures and to say that you would have acted the same if the man were from another culture is fair enough. But if you did act the same towards all men of all cultures then you'd probably end up not going with men of any race at all!!
Do you get what I mean or does it sound stoopid? no i fully understand what u are saying and if i did meet enough guys like that then i would stop swinging, swinging is supposed 2 be fun, ur not supposed 2 feel scared when u meet people, but he is the only guy i have ever felt that way about and the way i swing now works for me so i'm happy to stick with it lol
and if that fails just meet girls
that an offer? :wink:
have 2 say the thread starters gone very quiet he asks a Q then bogs off lol
when you get time away from work then just give the wink im on my way :twisted:
best not make this in to a conversation or we will get flogged for it
Orgasminator
Quote by naughtynymphos1
Right i am going to be honest here
I am not racest but i will not meet asian men
simple because i met a indian guy once (see not racest or wouldn't have met him lol) and he was so horrable, the way he spoke to me etc its just really put me off ever meeting another, simple as that.
He sat in MY house and told me how he wouldn't meet a asian women cause they was above all that and indian women should save themselves for their hubbies and get married and raise a family but it was ok to meet me cause i was while and our standards was not as good as 'their' womens!! he was really pushy spoke to me like i had no say in the matter cause he was the guy and to be totally honest i did have sex with him simple cause i was afraid to say no, as we was alone in my house, but even during sex he did nothing just layed there and made me do all the work!!
so sorry to say even tho i have nothing against asian men as friends, where i live it has a high asian community so i know many asian people but sexually i do stay away from them
I find that shocking and hard to believe. Are you seriously telling me any man (asian or not) would refuse any woman (asian or not) offering herself to him? I think he was bullsh1tting, probably got rejected by an Asian woman sometime.
But its your right to choose who you have sex with, if Asian guys aren't your thing then thats totally upto you. However if you didn't want to have sex with him, you shouldn't have. If he forced you, it would have been and you could have reported him.
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However if you didn't want to have sex with him, you shouldn't have. If he forced you, it would have been and you could have reported him.
thats very easy to say from ur point of view but firstly if someone rapes u reporting him don't make it go away does it? and secondly what court in this country is going 2 take a woman serious saying she was by a guy she met in a swingers room? as i said in my first post me was very pushy and made me uneasy and i was afraid to say no so just going along with it to get him out the house seemed the safest option, being a man u wont really understand how that feel as the chances are no women u meet on here will ever put u in that possition.
I believe and am bringing my daughter up to believe that there is good and bad in all races. I know a lot of very nice indian, black and white people. I also have come across not so nice indian, black and white people.
As someone said before, "stereotyped" comes to the forefront of this topic.
Happy swinging - hope you have some luck soon - shame you are not nearer to Preston!!!!!
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As someone said before, "stereotyped" comes to the forefront of this topic.
Happy swinging - hope you have some luck soon - shame you are not nearer to Preston!!!!!
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Naughtynymphos1, just saw you post and I must say "ouch". It makes a good cautionary tale for why a first meeting in a public place is better (regardless of the race/nationality/creed/gender of the person you are meeting) in case you don't like the person you meet (I suppose you know it now but it's a good example for those that might be wondering why meet in public first).
