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Sex God
Quote by Marya_Northeast
Never ever settle for second best. Not ever!
Learnt/learned (??? help, FB) that a long time ago.
Both correct - one English, one American English
Agree with the sentiment :thumbup:
Sex God
Best thing is not to rank things...1st, 2nd, 3rd.
What is the best anyway? Even the winner of the Formula One Championship isn't necessarily the best!
Judge things on the basis of what gives you pleasure/satisfaction and then the whole world opens up to your values not the artificial 'best'.
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What is the best anyway? Even the winner of the Formula One Championship isn't necessarily the best!
Judge things on the basis of what gives you pleasure/satisfaction and then the whole world opens up to your values not the artificial 'best'.
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Sex God
What's number 1 or 1st or the best for anyone is what makes them happy...
Sex God
Quote by LondonPlaything
I know my place... never good enough
lp
Bollox!!!!
Sexpert
agree totally westerross, nicely worded x
Warming the Bed
I never claim to be more than third best, as this allows at least two other w*nkers to argue the toss, whilst I get on with the matter in hand.
That person who is better than you..... there are a lot more people better than them too.
Fortunately, there are usually only a rare few who are capable of appreciating your subtle but almost overwhelming wonderfullness that verges upon the godly... otherwise you be in grave danger of being trampled in the rush !!
That person who is better than you..... there are a lot more people better than them too.
Fortunately, there are usually only a rare few who are capable of appreciating your subtle but almost overwhelming wonderfullness that verges upon the godly... otherwise you be in grave danger of being trampled in the rush !!
Sex God
The early bird may get the worm.
But it's the SECOND mouse that gets the cheese.
:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D
But it's the SECOND mouse that gets the cheese.
:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D I came 
ops: second in the egg and spoon race and scarred me as I still remember giving up just before the end - and no that wasnt last year
Furby its our own perceptions that make us rank ourselves against others and to be honest it really only messes ourselves up. What will be will be - somethings you win and somethings were just were not meant to be.
Now I did not give up trying just because I was a 'loser' in the egg and spoon race. My nan used to say to me that when I was little I would stand on the caravan step while on holiday and see if I could jump off it. I was heard saying "Try girl, try" and I did it.
Maybe this is the year you look to yourself to be your own winner - small steps can make long term changes in your life.
Corrie xxxxxxxxxxx
ops: second in the egg and spoon race and scarred me as I still remember giving up just before the end - and no that wasnt last year Furby its our own perceptions that make us rank ourselves against others and to be honest it really only messes ourselves up. What will be will be - somethings you win and somethings were just were not meant to be.
Now I did not give up trying just because I was a 'loser' in the egg and spoon race. My nan used to say to me that when I was little I would stand on the caravan step while on holiday and see if I could jump off it. I was heard saying "Try girl, try" and I did it.
Maybe this is the year you look to yourself to be your own winner - small steps can make long term changes in your life.
Corrie xxxxxxxxxxx
hi Furby
Life doesnt always work out the way we may want it to and sometimes you may feel that you are getting the thin end of the wedge.
You are special. You are No.1 in your life and if anyone you have met so far hasnt treated you as such, then they are not the person for you.
May the year of 2008 bring you some fun, happiness and peace.
Best Wishes xxx
Life doesnt always work out the way we may want it to and sometimes you may feel that you are getting the thin end of the wedge.
You are special. You are No.1 in your life and if anyone you have met so far hasnt treated you as such, then they are not the person for you.
May the year of 2008 bring you some fun, happiness and peace.
Best Wishes xxx
thankyou..
Your all right i know.. its me that is my worst enemy.. i am the one that feels im 2nd best, i see others, and i look at me .. and feel that there is no way i can compete so i dont.. i step back quietly and never say what i want.. for fear of rejection.... silly isnt it.... how do you get past that?? does there become a time when you do feel that you are good enough to stand up and say hey... look at me!...? cos in every other aspect of my life im a succsess, except that one bit.. i dont know how to change it.. so any advice would be great!!!
hugs an kisses ...xxxxxx
furby x
Your all right i know.. its me that is my worst enemy.. i am the one that feels im 2nd best, i see others, and i look at me .. and feel that there is no way i can compete so i dont.. i step back quietly and never say what i want.. for fear of rejection.... silly isnt it.... how do you get past that?? does there become a time when you do feel that you are good enough to stand up and say hey... look at me!...? cos in every other aspect of my life im a succsess, except that one bit.. i dont know how to change it.. so any advice would be great!!!
hugs an kisses ...xxxxxx
furby x
Sex God
Quote by FurbyHug
thankyou..
Your all right i know.. its me that is my worst enemy.. i am the one that feels im 2nd best, i see others, and i look at me .. and feel that there is no way i can compete so i dont.. i step back quietly and never say what i want.. for fear of rejection.... silly isnt it.... how do you get past that?? does there become a time when you do feel that you are good enough to stand up and say hey... look at me!...? cos in every other aspect of my life im a succsess, except that one bit.. i dont know how to change it.. so any advice would be great!!!
hugs an kisses ...xxxxxx
furby x
Furby!!!!!!!
I'm probably the last person to give you advice, cos I have absolutely no self confidence at all. I fake it most of the time and it seems to get me throught the day, but really you're anything but 2nd best.
You have such a lot going for you and you're such an attractive person, just believe in who you are, and believe it when someone tells you you're beautiful.
ops::oops: 
Warming the Bed
Quote by FurbyHug
Does 2nd best every get good enough? or third or fourth... just wondering.. cos it happens alot to me...
Furbs, you have mail, but as well as that, just bear in mind that second best in something fantastic may be a lot better than first in something less substantial.
And relative positions aren't necessarily representative if you think you are a still a winner.
Quote by FurbyHug
thankyou..
Your all right i know.. its me that is my worst enemy.. i am the one that feels im 2nd best, i see others, and i look at me .. and feel that there is no way i can compete so i dont.. i step back quietly and never say what i want.. for fear of rejection.... silly isnt it.... how do you get past that?? does there become a time when you do feel that you are good enough to stand up and say hey... look at me!...? cos in every other aspect of my life im a succsess, except that one bit.. i dont know how to change it.. so any advice would be great!!!
hugs an kisses ...xxxxxx
furby x
I know exactly how you feel, that feeling of being second best comes from inside, not how others perceive you and it doesn't matter how many people say, 'don't be daft' it doesn't change how you feel. If I find the secret of how to change it I'll let you know.
H.x
Hi Furby,
I can so identify with what you wrote, however i've done a lot of work on what thoughts i have about myself. One question that helps is; how can i be 2nd best when i am as unique as i am? There are no others like me, i am a one off!!
The person who sees and loves my perfection with all it's imperfections is the right person to have in my life. The person who doesn't think you are 100% perfect, is not the one for you! Easy, simple, yet sometimes rather painful! Let them go, so that the space beside you is ready for the one who deserves to have you in their life!
When ever i have a thought that's less than complimentary, i have to stop it, and work on it, i wont allow it to take up residence within me, because it's just my incorrect view of myself.
It's not easy to think in those terms, and i hope my written words dont make me look like i am arogant, because nothing is further from the truth. But, it's sooo important to hold positive thoughts about yourself, because how can anyone else value you if you dont value yourself first?
You are never 2nd best.. how can you be, when you are as unique as you are?
with peace
Sx
I can so identify with what you wrote, however i've done a lot of work on what thoughts i have about myself. One question that helps is; how can i be 2nd best when i am as unique as i am? There are no others like me, i am a one off!!
The person who sees and loves my perfection with all it's imperfections is the right person to have in my life. The person who doesn't think you are 100% perfect, is not the one for you! Easy, simple, yet sometimes rather painful! Let them go, so that the space beside you is ready for the one who deserves to have you in their life!
When ever i have a thought that's less than complimentary, i have to stop it, and work on it, i wont allow it to take up residence within me, because it's just my incorrect view of myself.
It's not easy to think in those terms, and i hope my written words dont make me look like i am arogant, because nothing is further from the truth. But, it's sooo important to hold positive thoughts about yourself, because how can anyone else value you if you dont value yourself first?
You are never 2nd best.. how can you be, when you are as unique as you are?
with peace
Sx
Quote by Sxlondonfem
Hi Furby,
I can so identify with what you wrote, however i've done a lot of work on what thoughts i have about myself. One question that helps is; how can i be 2nd best when i am as unique as i am? There are no others like me, i am a one off!!
The person who sees and loves my perfection with all it's imperfections is the right person to have in my life. The person who doesn't think you are 100% perfect, is not the one for you! Easy, simple, yet sometimes rather painful! Let them go, so that the space beside you is ready for the one who deserves to have you in their life!
When ever i have a thought that's less than complimentary, i have to stop it, and work on it, i wont allow it to take up residence within me, because it's just my incorrect view of myself.
It's not easy to think in those terms, and i hope my written words dont make me look like i am arogant, because nothing is further from the truth. But, it's sooo important to hold positive thoughts about yourself, because how can anyone else value you if you dont value yourself first?
You are never 2nd best.. how can you be, when you are as unique as you are?
with peace
Sx
Thats what this post is helping me understand....... i want to be someones WOW.. i want someone to stop a breath when they meet me ... i want someone to never need another person, (unless im with them of course!!) i want to be wanted.... but no one, no one single person will be able to make me feel that until i feel it myself.. thats what you mean isnt it.. that no one can fullfill another person, they have to already be whole in the first place.. i want someone to compliment me.....NOT COMPLETE ME......
who'd of thunk'd that so many wise people are swingers.. lol... love to all xxxxxx
furby xxx
Furby, you got it girl !
Until you feel within yourself that you are an amazing person, a woman in full bloom, with warts and dimples and just perfect as you are.. and so very loveable.. until you love yourself, love that little cheeky, gentle, naughty, sweet girl within, it is going to be challenging.
The trick really is to begin to look at yourself, love the various aspects of you. Even if it's just the shape of your little toe, or your ear..or your eyes.. what ever it is! Love you, appreciate you, be thankful for all that you are.. even the mixed up bits (we all have a little dose of that to some degree or other).
But, love you ! Cos what's not to love? Be kind to yourself, dont go beating up on an aspect of you, because that 'thing' you may dislike, may well be what someone else will love! So what rights do you have to dislike it?
How cool would it be to feel love and appreciation and acceptance of yourself? To have that confindent strut in your walk, the smile on your face that tells the world you are fine as you are, your body language shouting to the world that here's a woman who'd be lovely to be with.
Don't let anything stop you in your quest for self love and acceptance, because you are perfect as you are.. and in time, that special someone, is going to find you (or you them) and what you dream of will happen. So get loving of yourself in the mean time! (it takes practice.. a lot of practice..lol.)
Hugs
Sx
Until you feel within yourself that you are an amazing person, a woman in full bloom, with warts and dimples and just perfect as you are.. and so very loveable.. until you love yourself, love that little cheeky, gentle, naughty, sweet girl within, it is going to be challenging.
The trick really is to begin to look at yourself, love the various aspects of you. Even if it's just the shape of your little toe, or your ear..or your eyes.. what ever it is! Love you, appreciate you, be thankful for all that you are.. even the mixed up bits (we all have a little dose of that to some degree or other).
But, love you ! Cos what's not to love? Be kind to yourself, dont go beating up on an aspect of you, because that 'thing' you may dislike, may well be what someone else will love! So what rights do you have to dislike it?
How cool would it be to feel love and appreciation and acceptance of yourself? To have that confindent strut in your walk, the smile on your face that tells the world you are fine as you are, your body language shouting to the world that here's a woman who'd be lovely to be with.
Don't let anything stop you in your quest for self love and acceptance, because you are perfect as you are.. and in time, that special someone, is going to find you (or you them) and what you dream of will happen. So get loving of yourself in the mean time! (it takes practice.. a lot of practice..lol.)
Hugs
Sx
hwoar: 
Orgasminator
I think that we all need a lack of confidence in one area of our life to remind us to be humble.
Warming the Bed
Quote by FurbyHug
who'd of thunk'd that so many wise people are swingers. furby xxx
Furby, my dear, it's BECAUSE we are wise that we ARE swingers.
Sexlightened
I like seconds, especially jam roly poly :-)
But seriously........i have a really annoying habit in measuring myself against my peers, and i always come in second or worst, its anooying self habit i wish i could break..lol Or maybe im just destined to be a minger for life....lmao
But seriously........i have a really annoying habit in measuring myself against my peers, and i always come in second or worst, its anooying self habit i wish i could break..lol Or maybe im just destined to be a minger for life....lmao
