Is anyone else getting sick of the kids in here ??

8 Apr 2004

Sorry if this seems like I am moaning all the time but surely I'm not the only one who see's this Day after day and more at weekends and when the kids are on holiday do we see the little feckers come into the chat room and either throw abuse or by their own little comments give theirselfs away ? I do appreciate that the ops hands are tied in many ways and untill proof is gained cannot just boot because they think they might be under age . However I do feel sometime it is just so obvious :x I myself had an E-Mail from a person from this site who openly admitted they were only 16 ffs
Am I realy the only person in the room who see's this ?

8 Apr 2004

You're not the only one sick of this, BiFem rolleyes

(Welcome to the forum, btw! lol

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I don't go in the chat room much so can't really comment, but we're certainly getting sick of people who obviously aren't more than kids logging on to the forum and posting silly things in meet up and dogging. The trouble is, some people think that we should ignore their posts (unless of course they are abusive!). There is a debate at the mo about people who make sarcastic comments towards these posters.... a tricky situation, I don't think any of us has an answer confused

8 Apr 2004

I totally agree with you BiFem,but we have to be able to prove that they are actually under age before we can take any action against a very awkward situation because the burden of proof is on us.I know you can usually get a rough idea of age by the way they conduct themselves and the way they express can we do? we tried to tighten the access to the chatroom but have been flooded with complaints from people who cant get say they are registered and they arent or they are unable to do it themselves.

8 Apr 2004

Hi tongue babes thanks for your input :P I appologise if it seemed I was getting at the ops I was,nt really hun I did say I appreciate that you all can not do much about this Its a real shame as this is a great site spoiled by the very few. All the ops on here are fantastic and do what ever they can to ensure the chat users enjoy the chat room for what it is

8 Apr 2004

Hiya Bifem,
Can you forward the e-mail to the moderators please, if they are a member then they will be banned.
lhk
Kat

8 Apr 2004

Quote by BiFemHants
Day after day and more at weekends and when the kids are on holiday do we see the little feckers come into the chat room and either throw abuse or by their own little comments give theirselfs away ? I myself had an E-Mail from a person from this site who openly admitted they were only 16 ffs
Am I realy the only person in the room who see's this ?

Sadly it's not only on the chatroom. We posted last weeknd in the 'Lets Meet' section, asking for couples or guys to get in touch with a view to some fun.
I've lost count of the amount of emails we've had from kids from 15 - 19 years old, asking for a meet up. Of these I would say judging by their composition, these emails are probably written by the under 15 age group, certainly in their mentality rolleyes

I'll soon blow over just as soon as the schools go back lol

In the meantime I think it is best ignored. The mods would have no way of keeping tabs on every user of this site, but they do a grand job when they are aware of such matters. So everyone - take a deep breath and wait for them to get bored and leave us in peace again smile

Jess & Dan

8 Apr 2004

Thanks for your support on this is much appreciated.I think i speak for all the Mods here,chatroom and forum,in expressing that sentiment.

8 Apr 2004

I agree with everything that's already been said.
I personally would be more than happy if this sight became a members only pay to join site (as long as the annual fee was nominal). That would at least stop the kids !!
as well as some of the idiots.
regards
<ark

8 Apr 2004

Not sure about paying lonelysausage but there is one way you can at least verify the fems a cpls by a simple phone call that would stop the males pretending to be fems and verify they are genuine unfortunatly this wont work for the single guys although registration will certainly go a long way in helping the situation

8 Apr 2004

I recommend planting a sign reading "Please do not feed the trolls." clearly for all to see.
Then, when they realise they are not getting what they think they're going to find (whatever that is) they will become bored and drift away... (But being the cynic that I am, I know they'll new trolls will spawn to replace them...)
A

8 Apr 2004

Quote by lonelysausage
I personally would be more than happy if this sight became a members only pay to join site (as long as the annual fee was nominal). That would at least stop the kids !!
as well as some of the idiots.
regards
<ark

We would prefer it to stay as a non payment membership site and think that this is probably the view of the vast majority of members here. Certainly that is the very reason we were attracted to it in the first place, because it's free (cheapskates!!) lol

After all, how many people visit and post on this forum regularly, but without the knowledge of their spouse? How on earth could they explain the situation when the credit card bill drops through the letter box and is seen by the wife/husband?!
You get idiots in all walks of life and this lifestyle is no exception. We just need to take a view of the wider picture and it will become apparent that the idiots are actually a minority on here compared to the rest of us sane, normal people wink

Jon & Tracy-Jayne

8 Apr 2004

Here here red, I think a lot of people love the site and give so much to it as it is a labor of love by our beloved benefactor Mark. There are no fees and that appears to be a founding principle of the site so credit checks wont work...
As for weeding out males pretending to be females its not like they are going to get anywhere in a meet smile

Going back to original point made, kids abusing the site. I know this site is covered by every anti kid device, i.e. net nanny. Unfortunately these little darlings parents are not using it, so we either hunt down parents or just ignore them, they will soon get bored...
As for 19 year olds I think kids is a bit strong, they over 18 and while a lot of us (I expect most of us) prefer someone with a bit more life under the belt they got the right to come in. If they act like ten year olds they wont get anywhere.

8 Apr 2004

from kids from 15 - 19 years old

Erm................ as a "kid" in this age bracket (i'm 18, my birthday is May 7th 1985) this bothers me. i would like to think that i know how to use the site responsibly, and i would also hope i havent given the impression of an annoying kid. okay, so i appear on the forum a lot.............. but i thought we were encouraged to express ourselves!!!

8 Apr 2004

Lou... you've just made me feel like an old, old granny. sad

My eldest is only four days older than you! lol

Try not to take the 'kids' statement personally... It's not intended as a slant on your character, it's a generalisation that a lot of 'old farts' use to distinguish themselves from the younger generations.
And it's important that we can and do see a difference between age groups. If we didn't, we would find it hard to consolidate our feelings about alot of things.
Hxx a.k.a. The Mad Crusty One (to my kids wink

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8 Apr 2004

never mind heather....... you still look better in a basque than i do, lol!!!
boink

8 Apr 2004

Quote by dazandlou
from kids from 15 - 19 years old

Erm................ as a "kid" in this age bracket (i'm 18, my birthday is May 7th 1985) this bothers me. i would like to think that i know how to use the site responsibly
I have used the term 'kids' in this context to denote younger people than ourselves. I'm sure you have often heard older people refer to young people this way. It is not intended as a slant on the character of youth, merely to show how older people often see youngsters.
As for some of those who have contacted us, they have shown no adult features at all in their emails and indeed the one who claimed to be 19 appeared to be have the silliest attitude I have come across rolleyes

I have not said all young people are irresponsible uses of this site, only those who have contacted us asking for a 'quick shag with an older woman to see what it's like' or the 15 year old who asked to be shown what to do so he could go and shag his girlfriend without her knowing him to be a virgin :!: :!: :!:
Don't take offence where none is intended, just pride yourself that you in your youth, know how to behave and act properly and in an adult fashion. I wish there were more like you. smile

Jessica

8 Apr 2004

Quote by Cutechick
or the 15 year old who asked to be shown what to do so he could go and shag his girlfriend without her knowing him to be a virgin

I sure hope somebody pointed him in this direction:

8 Apr 2004

Quote by roger743
or the 15 year old who asked to be shown what to do so he could go and shag his girlfriend without her knowing him to be a virgin

I sure hope somebody pointed him in this direction:

Thanks for the link Roger! Sadly I have already deleted his email or I would have sent the link on to him for future reference lol

Jessica

8 Apr 2004

Don't take offence where none is intended, just pride yourself that you in your youth, know how to behave and act properly and in an adult fashion. I wish there were more like you

I promise i wasnt taking offence, little idiots like that DO ruin it for others, i just wanted to assure you all that some younger people CAN behave in a responsible way, and id like to think i'm one of those!!

8 Apr 2004

Lou... there are many stages and many ages of a woman's sexuality. biggrin

As Cutechick points out, when we older peeps think of younger peeps, we think back about what we were like at your age and draw a line between the two. Doesn't matter what lable you call it, the result is that your experience of bonking is different to ours. It's the difference, say, between a Ferrari and a Bentley. Both beautiful cars, but suited to different purposes.
When you reach the Bentley stage, you'll know what I mean. wink

I should imagine that, given the chance of BOTH of us in a basque at once, the lads would even foresake the footy! :twisted:

8 Apr 2004

Quote by dazandlou
i just wanted to assure you all that some younger people CAN behave in a responsible way, and id like to think i'm one of those!!

Besides, older people can be just as idiotic as youngsters (and I hope I still fit into the extreme end of that label). It seems to me that for every monosyllabic 15-year-old wanting to be taught about sex, there's a monosyllabic 49-year-old wanting to play away. Stupidity is an equal opportunities vice - it doesn't discriminate on grounds of race, sexuality or age.

8 Apr 2004

Lou... you've just made me feel like an old, old granny. My eldest is only four days older than you!

You can shut up H ! My eldest is 2 years older than Lou! Mind you, I look pretty good in a Basque too! redface

I think generally we use the term 'Kids' to describe an attitude and behaviour, not age. There are some young and very mature people on here, and very old and very immature people.
lhk
Kat

12 Apr 2004

Heather??? Kat????
To be fair, i'd be more worried if it was your YOUNGEST who was older than me, lol!!! but Heather, you now have NO excuse to forget my birthday!!!!!! i like jewelery, chocolate, underwear, and music, lol!!!!!! Oh, and cheques made payable to me are most welcome as well!!!! And your purple basque, WHERE did it come from???? I want one!!!
:confused2:

12 Apr 2004

I couldnt agree more - me being at the bentley stage myself LOL. I wonder how many of the youngsters get replies - very few i should think- and how many mature women would really want the company of an 18 year old immature virgin??? Im not being cynical just curious lol. Best to ignore them until school starts again then they forget their boredom and do whatever teenagers do.

12 Apr 2004

Quote by Heather
Lou... there are many stages and many ages of a woman's sexuality.
As Cutechick points out, when we older peeps think of younger peeps, we think back about what we were like at your age and draw a line between the two. Doesn't matter what lable you call it, the result is that your experience of bonking is different to ours. It's the difference, say, between a Ferrari and a Bentley. Both beautiful cars, but suited to different purposes.
When you reach the Bentley stage, you'll know what I mean.
I should imagine that, given the chance of BOTH of us in a basque at once, the lads would even foresake the footy! :twisted:

LOL oh dear i forgot to turn the page when i answered---- well i am getting old LOL!

12 Apr 2004

Can i just say.......... Daz and i have mailed (and received replies from) several couples on this site, mostly in their 30's and older, and not one couple has responded with a negative view to MY age, although there is a big age gap between Daz and myself. I think this is due to people on this site realising that, although there ARE little kids trying to act like adults, the majority of people on this site are prepared to give the benifit of the doubt until the little s***s give themselves away!! So as you can see by earlier posts, i'm not offended by what cutechick said, i'm pleased that people on here seem to think that i'm mature enough to be trusted!! it's flattering!! So thanks, guys!!!

12 Apr 2004

Quote by dazandlou
.......people on this site realising that, although there ARE little kids trying to act like adults, the majority of people on this site are prepared to give the benifit of the doubt until the little s***s give themselves away!! ...........

Hmmmm very true Lou. I gave someone who was "30" the benefit of the doubt and then he gave himself away. Kept asking if it was ok that he "looked young for his age"
Obviously I got pretty suspicious, and it turned out he was 17 (!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!) and not only that, but a virgin as well! rolleyes

:roll: Seems he thought answering my ad was the easiest way to get a lay. Don't think he banked on me having enough brains to work out for myself that there was no way he was 30 :doh: :doh: :doh: :doh:
He'll have to look elsewhere now. Nice to see you're so mature though Lou - and more importantly, honest!

12 Apr 2004

Quote by Angel Chat
Don't think he banked on me having enough brains to work out for myself that there was no way he was 30 :doh: :doh: :doh: :doh: !

What on Earth are they teaching them in school these days? mad

I would have difficulty passing for 30 and I'm only three years off it; how the hell does a teenager think he has a chance? :confused:

12 Apr 2004

im in my early 20's and find that older people are more doubtful of males in particular and its probably because of 'kids' runnings around on this site winding people up and collecting pics.
but like you said lou most people reply if they think your genuine
perhaps there's some sought of id system that this site could get??

12 Apr 2004

perhaps there's some sought of id system that this site could get??

True, but then, wouldnt the only way forward be to turn it into a pay site?? That goes against everything Helen and Mark have worked for. i think we just need to put up with it, at the end of the day, as we've all (rightly) said, once the kids go back to school or find something else to do, it'll all die down again. As you've all noticed, it doesnt take long to notice who the fakes are, if people arent genuine they soon give themselves away!!