I think (well i am 99% sure) that i have found a work collegue on an adult site. She has an amazing figure, better in my view now i have seen it naked, which is leading me to be believe it is her. Also in the profile she says her first name which matches and location.
Now as much as I flirt with her I am stumbling over a simple rule...... is it good to mix pleasure with work? In crude terms 'do you piss on your own door step?' Sometimes it is good to be complete strangers when you first meet but can you meet in a NSA way with people you work with who could make working life hard?
Do you I email her and ask if i am right? On the plus side i could get some great dirty sex (you just know she will be dirty) but risk your work collegues finding out or do you just appreciate the fact you have seen them naked and move on?
Clarky
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Is it ever good to mix pleasure with work?
Orgasminator
Quote by clarky
Now as much as I flirt with her I am stumbling over a simple rule...... is it good to mix pleasure with work?
Clarky
You say you flirt with her
but you dont say if the lady in question likes you flirting!!!.I'd be very :wary: of bonking someone from work
. With all your flirting at work & not getting this lady into bed what makes you think just because you let her know you know she swings that she'll feel different about you
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Sex God
Quote by Miss_McGill
I'd never get into anything sexual with anyone I work with, no matter how much I fancy them.
I agree with you Miss McGill, it's fraught with all sorts of dangers.
Sex God
On the whole, I think NOT. Even when I was single I avoided dating people from work. As Mike N says (Hi Mike, by the way 
) it's fraught with all kinds of dangers.
I did once have a very brief fling with a work colleague - but we were both very clear that it was a no strings arrangement and, even though we have both since divorced and moved on to new full time relationships (nothing to do with 'us' in either case!) we are still very good friends - but I think that is very rare.
Will
) it's fraught with all kinds of dangers.I did once have a very brief fling with a work colleague - but we were both very clear that it was a no strings arrangement and, even though we have both since divorced and moved on to new full time relationships (nothing to do with 'us' in either case!) we are still very good friends - but I think that is very rare.
Will
Sex God
I work from home with my husband....so YES!!!!! 
but if he doesn't stop snoring I'm going to divorce him
on a Saturday morning ffs!!!!!
but if he doesn't stop snoring I'm going to divorce him
on a Saturday morning ffs!!!!! usually a bad idea .. but if you both know the score, i.e. it's not going to turn into an emotional involvement, noone else is going to know in the office, and most importantly it is not going to impact your work, then by go for it! oh, if she reports to you at work, don't even think about it!
as for approaching her with "are you on that adult meet website?", that would most likely kill things instantly as she may not want to admit in fear that the whole office will find out - she won't trust you initially either so no this approach will bear no fruit at all. if you want to approach her, do it without a reference to the website and by developing an understanding first. facilitate her to open up to you and develop trust, and then pounce
as for approaching her with "are you on that adult meet website?", that would most likely kill things instantly as she may not want to admit in fear that the whole office will find out - she won't trust you initially either so no this approach will bear no fruit at all. if you want to approach her, do it without a reference to the website and by developing an understanding first. facilitate her to open up to you and develop trust, and then pounce
Sex God
don`t even go there...
if she not who u think she is then u ruin the trust.
n if she is n things go wrong then it makes it hard to work in same place....
n jobs can be hard to find the ones u like.
flirt n leave it at that.
if she not who u think she is then u ruin the trust.
n if she is n things go wrong then it makes it hard to work in same place....
n jobs can be hard to find the ones u like.
flirt n leave it at that.
Sex God
Each to their own. Personally, I wouldnt mix business with pleasure,ever!
Master of Sex
Yes, been there and done it......several times.
It really depends on the circumstances and who is involved in the 'involvement'
Would say on the whole that it would be best not to, but its been done in the past and life goes on, just up to the individuals to make it OK.
It really depends on the circumstances and who is involved in the 'involvement'
Would say on the whole that it would be best not to, but its been done in the past and life goes on, just up to the individuals to make it OK.
Sex God
Quote by 3verve
one has GOT to try it once at the very least ... first time for me was as scary as it was thrilling!
Sorry, disagree. Age and experience stand me in good stead
I did list the variables, without those it would be a recipe for disaster, and agreed with Kittysin. talking from experiences here as well ... i move jobs every 6-12 months, so it doesn't bother me at all even if one goes sour, and some have (due to the other party bringing emotions into play) but "life goes on".
Quote by clarky
Sometimes it is good to be complete strangers when you first meet but can you meet in a NSA way with people you work with who could make working life hard?
Clarky
Kinda tricky having a no-strings relationship with a work collegue, when your lives are entwined so much, (just my opinion of course)
....I used to have a crush on a work collegue a while back, and 'boy am i glad i kept my thoughts to myself'.
Was only a fleeting moment, but i'm so glad to have her as a friend still... :roll:
if youve been flirting with her and it has not lead to anything then maybe she isnt intrested, just because she is on a "adult" site now will not change a thing.
if you aproached her with the , "is that you on *** site then she may feel very intimidated and fearfull. i know some will say shes on there so must expect ppl to see it. but we dont all think things through when places profiles on adult sites.
if it isnt her and youve been flirting( flirting is a two way maybe she sees it one sided) for a while she could take it the wrong way and you could find your self up for a sexual harrassment incident?
adult site forgotten about... i would say never mix work with sex. its bad enough when things go tits up without having to work with that person.
x fem x
if you aproached her with the , "is that you on *** site then she may feel very intimidated and fearfull. i know some will say shes on there so must expect ppl to see it. but we dont all think things through when places profiles on adult sites.
if it isnt her and youve been flirting( flirting is a two way maybe she sees it one sided) for a while she could take it the wrong way and you could find your self up for a sexual harrassment incident?
adult site forgotten about... i would say never mix work with sex. its bad enough when things go tits up without having to work with that person.
x fem x
Sexlightened
I'd leave well alone, but thats just me.
Quote by superman72
i move jobs every 6-12 months, so it doesn't bother me at all even if one goes sour, and some have
Sorry i missed your post earlier, did you mean jobs? or women you've met? Just curious...
:giggle:
the going sour bit refers to some of the women I've been with at the various jobs/work/contracts ... but there were very few which went sour. most understand where to draw the line (i.e. emotions) and we still keep in touch.
