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Hi All,
After a break of three years I've found myself magnetically drawn back to SH - funny how that happens ;)
Anyway, just to bring this thread back to the original subject (ahem, sorry, not meaning to be rude to anyone
), I see girls I fancy regularly, but then, as has been mentioned by a few people things change after talking to them or getting to know them a bit - the required 'connection' really does involve a whole lot more than the physical.
Having said that, I'm totally rubbish at being able to tell if anyone is interested in me!!!
I mean, how can you tell?
SA
After a break of three years I've found myself magnetically drawn back to SH - funny how that happens ;)
Anyway, just to bring this thread back to the original subject (ahem, sorry, not meaning to be rude to anyone
), I see girls I fancy regularly, but then, as has been mentioned by a few people things change after talking to them or getting to know them a bit - the required 'connection' really does involve a whole lot more than the physical.Having said that, I'm totally rubbish at being able to tell if anyone is interested in me!!!
I mean, how can you tell?
SA
Warming the Bed
Quote by H-x
I'm beginning to think I'm odd.
What makes me think I'm odd is that I very rarely fancy anyone.
H.x
I wonder why you say this if we have never spoken, H-x. Surely things would change then!
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I regularly see women who make me go phwor!, shopping, walking down the street on TV, on here, lots of places, but they are all physical reactions, not emotional ones.
In other cases the phwor is an emotional one caused by a personality or an attitude. I know you still have the first, “Hugh Jackman”……..see.
It’s the latter you are lacking,…………… Yes?
I think you have just become a little jaded, the time of year can have an impact on how we feel, giving us a belief that another year is over, and we have still failed to move forward. It’s not uncommon to feel like this, I think you just need to step outside your comfort zone for a while and do something that scares you. We come here for a variety of reasons; mostly I think to experience something new. If we get in a rut here it’s just like anywhere else, we need to shift expectations and relight the little spark of fear that we first felt when we arrived.
Speaking just for me now, when we first joined this site, our membership alone was enough to scare and excite me. Now I need more to make me feel the rush I once did.
Step off the pavement for a bit, and do something scary
For me it's more the other way round. I more often find that the personality works, from chatting, talking but then we meet and nothing. I can't remember the last time I saw a guy who made me think 'phwoar', in real life anyway, I mean outside TV and films.
As for being jaded, you may be right. When I joined the sight it was a revelation to know I could talk about sex openly without being considered a complete trollop, which was the reaction I'd had from many in the past. After a while though, you think 'there's more to me than just sex' but that's all a lot of people here are interested in (what a surprise on a swinging sight, yeah I know).
H.x
Casanova
Hi Hx
Having meet you a few times socially, I don't think you are odd, but then I don't think you are normal either, which is great, you express yourself and say what you think, keep it up.
As for cwor and phwor I don't know, I see loads of women I think phwor about (your self included, but then you knew that) but I am a bloke so no surprise there then. Maybe you are setting your sights to high, or looking in the wrong place on this site, as has been said this site is about sex, which is the first thing on most of the users mind.......... says the man who, since joining this site with his wife is now divorced, she is in a 12 month relationship and living with a man from SH, I am in a 10 month relationship with Donna, who I meet on SH..............
I think expecting or looking for anything is the mistake, go with the flow and see where it takes you........
Not much help am I ....................
Bronty
Having meet you a few times socially, I don't think you are odd, but then I don't think you are normal either, which is great, you express yourself and say what you think, keep it up.
As for cwor and phwor I don't know, I see loads of women I think phwor about (your self included, but then you knew that) but I am a bloke so no surprise there then. Maybe you are setting your sights to high, or looking in the wrong place on this site, as has been said this site is about sex, which is the first thing on most of the users mind.......... says the man who, since joining this site with his wife is now divorced, she is in a 12 month relationship and living with a man from SH, I am in a 10 month relationship with Donna, who I meet on SH..............
I think expecting or looking for anything is the mistake, go with the flow and see where it takes you........
Not much help am I ....................
Bronty
Casanova
Bronty I really dont think you helped much there lol I no where your coming from H the last person I thought phowr was bronty.
I find alot of things turn me off person 'smell' 'teeth' 'hair' 'acsent' 'manner' nothing worse then meeting someone you gel with in the chat room then when you meet u dont find the attrative at all I've always said to bronty that if I dont fancy them I dont want to no.
I find alot of things turn me off person 'smell' 'teeth' 'hair' 'acsent' 'manner' nothing worse then meeting someone you gel with in the chat room then when you meet u dont find the attrative at all I've always said to bronty that if I dont fancy them I dont want to no.
I very rarely fancy anyone but when i do i always seem to find out after i start to like them that there into someone else.. and me being me.. wont then put myself forward.. for fear of hurting the other girl.. had it done to me so wouldnt wish that on anyone.. so i just swallow it,an not in a sperm kinda way ... lol.. and try to forget about him.. swinging site people still have feelings.. but yeah i fancy them and if i do.. i cant talk to them cos i blush like a school girl and giggle.. and verbal shit comes out my mouth.. lol. so any chance i had they fancy me back flys out the window!!!! cos i end up making a twat of myself.. lol..
furby out.. x
furby out.. x
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Quote by H-x
I'm beginning to think I'm odd, yes, yes I know, you'd think I would have come to that conclusion a long tim ago, I mean about something specific - not generally.
I read threads on here about people fancying each other and in chat there's usually a fair amount of flirting going on. What makes me think I'm odd is that I very rarely fancy anyone. This isn't to say I don't like people, or think there's anything wrong with them, it's just such a rarity for me to meet or chat to someone I think 'cwor' about.
It's got to the point where I've just about given up arranging meets because I don't like waisting people's time. Is it me? Am I odd? Is there anything I can do about it? I'm fully prepared for a slating but some useful advice would also be appreciated.
H.x
Hi H.x
To be honest since I have joined the site and had a number of meets I think I have learned that 'fancying' someone comes in all sorts of different guises.
I have had quite a few meets and of all of them, there have been only maybe two or three that have been with people I really fancy - in the true fancying sense i.e. finding them utterly gorgeous and getting butterflies and thinking 'phwooaarh' etc. The majority of people I have met have had something about them, be it physically or personality-wise that I have fancied.... they may make me laugh, or I may like the way their mind works etc. That for me is enough. If I click with someone in someway, then that will be a turn on - and to be honest, is usually personality more than anything. I might be meeting them for sex, but I like conversation too!
Sure, it would be great if everyone I met was physically my idea of the perfect hunk (don't ask me to describe him - not sure I really know!?!) but actually, I think that being turned on and on the same sexual wavelength with a person is far more satisfying than purely physical attraction.
Did any of that make sense?!Noladreams30 x
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I like lots of people .... till they speak.
My first impression meeting you was "ooh, she seems nice"
Then you opened your gob, and miners would have blushed
.... and your heart skipped a beat, your palms went clammy, you felt a twitch in your undercrackers .... come on, suvverner, admit it, you like a bit of Northern Bint
Quote by H-x
I'm beginning to think I'm odd, yes, yes I know, you'd think I would have come to that conclusion a long tim ago, I mean about something specific - not generally.
I read threads on here about people fancying each other and in chat there's usually a fair amount of flirting going on. What makes me think I'm odd is that I very rarely fancy anyone. This isn't to say I don't like people, or think there's anything wrong with them, it's just such a rarity for me to meet or chat to someone I think 'cwor' about.
It's got to the point where I've just about given up arranging meets because I don't like waisting people's time. Is it me? Am I odd? Is there anything I can do about it? I'm fully prepared for a slating but some useful advice would also be appreciated.
H.x
not odd at all..i feel the same but....wales is so far away and rejection is hard to take.......and....i wont ask......so.....over to you ..xxxx
Quote by noladreams30
I'm beginning to think I'm odd, yes, yes I know, you'd think I would have come to that conclusion a long tim ago, I mean about something specific - not generally.
I read threads on here about people fancying each other and in chat there's usually a fair amount of flirting going on. What makes me think I'm odd is that I very rarely fancy anyone. This isn't to say I don't like people, or think there's anything wrong with them, it's just such a rarity for me to meet or chat to someone I think 'cwor' about.
It's got to the point where I've just about given up arranging meets because I don't like waisting people's time. Is it me? Am I odd? Is there anything I can do about it? I'm fully prepared for a slating but some useful advice would also be appreciated.
H.x
Hi H.x
To be honest since I have joined the site and had a number of meets I think I have learned that 'fancying' someone comes in all sorts of different guises.
I have had quite a few meets and of all of them, there have been only maybe two or three that have been with people I really fancy - in the true fancying sense i.e. finding them utterly gorgeous and getting butterflies and thinking 'phwooaarh' etc. The majority of people I have met have had something about them, be it physically or personality-wise that I have fancied.... they may make me laugh, or I may like the way their mind works etc. That for me is enough. If I click with someone in someway, then that will be a turn on - and to be honest, is usually personality more than anything. I might be meeting them for sex, but I like conversation too!
Sure, it would be great if everyone I met was physically my idea of the perfect hunk (don't ask me to describe him - not sure I really know!?!) but actually, I think that being turned on and on the same sexual wavelength with a person is far more satisfying than purely physical attraction.
Did any of that make sense?!Noladreams30 x
NO!!!
hahahhahaha
RWL
xxx
Sex God
Quote by redwine_lover
I'm beginning to think I'm odd, yes, yes I know, you'd think I would have come to that conclusion a long tim ago, I mean about something specific - not generally.
I read threads on here about people fancying each other and in chat there's usually a fair amount of flirting going on. What makes me think I'm odd is that I very rarely fancy anyone. This isn't to say I don't like people, or think there's anything wrong with them, it's just such a rarity for me to meet or chat to someone I think 'cwor' about.
It's got to the point where I've just about given up arranging meets because I don't like waisting people's time. Is it me? Am I odd? Is there anything I can do about it? I'm fully prepared for a slating but some useful advice would also be appreciated.
H.x
Hi H.x
To be honest since I have joined the site and had a number of meets I think I have learned that 'fancying' someone comes in all sorts of different guises.
I have had quite a few meets and of all of them, there have been only maybe two or three that have been with people I really fancy - in the true fancying sense i.e. finding them utterly gorgeous and getting butterflies and thinking 'phwooaarh' etc. The majority of people I have met have had something about them, be it physically or personality-wise that I have fancied.... they may make me laugh, or I may like the way their mind works etc. That for me is enough. If I click with someone in someway, then that will be a turn on - and to be honest, is usually personality more than anything. I might be meeting them for sex, but I like conversation too!
Sure, it would be great if everyone I met was physically my idea of the perfect hunk (don't ask me to describe him - not sure I really know!?!) but actually, I think that being turned on and on the same sexual wavelength with a person is far more satisfying than purely physical attraction.
Did any of that make sense?!Noladreams30 x
NO!!!
hahahhahaha
RWL
xxx
:doh: Fair enough then!!!!
:lol2:
Nola xxx
Orgasminator
I joined this site with the intension of meeting someone but soon realized that was not to be, so now I just accept the social side. The expectation and reality is no different from the non swinging world.
I seldom spot anyone on here that gets my pulse racing. And those that do seldom live anything like within reasonable driving distance.
Having said that, in something like 3 or 4 years of lurking I have spotted maybe a handful of women who definitely arouse my curiosity, so I guess there are some out there. And I'm sure there's many more that would certainly arouse other aspects enough if I stopped being so apathetic about the whole thing and made an effort!
Whilst I have a whole visual "pwooaaarrness" thing when flicking through the pics, I have to say there's one or two current and previous forumers that would definitely get my attention given the chance - As much as I'm a sucker for a pretty smile an interesting mind turns me on a hell of a lot more.
Trouble is I'm crap at flirting, and next to none of the women I might find attractive are even in the same geographical region never mind county!
Having said that, in something like 3 or 4 years of lurking I have spotted maybe a handful of women who definitely arouse my curiosity, so I guess there are some out there. And I'm sure there's many more that would certainly arouse other aspects enough if I stopped being so apathetic about the whole thing and made an effort!
Whilst I have a whole visual "pwooaaarrness" thing when flicking through the pics, I have to say there's one or two current and previous forumers that would definitely get my attention given the chance - As much as I'm a sucker for a pretty smile an interesting mind turns me on a hell of a lot more.
Trouble is I'm crap at flirting, and next to none of the women I might find attractive are even in the same geographical region never mind county!
