I'm beginning to think I'm odd, yes, yes I know, you'd think I would have come to that conclusion a long tim ago, I mean about something specific - not generally.
I read threads on here about people fancying each other and in chat there's usually a fair amount of flirting going on. What makes me think I'm odd is that I very rarely fancy anyone. This isn't to say I don't like people, or think there's anything wrong with them, it's just such a rarity for me to meet or chat to someone I think 'cwor' about.
It's got to the point where I've just about given up arranging meets because I don't like waisting people's time. Is it me? Am I odd? Is there anything I can do about it? I'm fully prepared for a slating but some useful advice would also be appreciated.
H.x
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Is it me? I very rarely fancy anyone!
Sex God
I don't think there's anything odd about it, or that you can do anything about it. Just one of those things - bit of a waiting game until someone comes along who you do like enough to want to meet, really.
Sex God
I think I know what you mean. I pretty much the same and rarely actually fancy anyone.....I've always just put it down to me being really picky but may be you're right and actually we're just odd 
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Sex God
I don't know you well enough yet to know if we are alike in any way at all, but you may be abit like me in the way that I rarely get turned on by physical appearance only. What I mean is that my brain gets turned on by humour,tolerance,gentleness. Sense of smell is very important to me too so in order for me to actually really fancy someone I have to have the brain connection, the smell thing and enough physical attraction and then I'm smitten 
Sounds like I want it all doesnt it, I hope I made abit of sense though cos I know what I mean
Sounds like I want it all doesnt it, I hope I made abit of sense though cos I know what I mean
Sex God
Quote by firelizard
I don't know you well enough yet to know if we are alike in any way at all, but you may be abit like me in the way that I rarely get turned on by physical appearance only. What I mean is that my brain gets turned on by humour,tolerance,gentleness. Sense of smell is very important to me too so in order for me to actually really fancy someone I have to have the brain connection, the smell thing and enough physical attraction and then I'm smitten
Sounds like I want it all doesnt it, I hope I made abit of sense though cos I know what I mean
The brain connection comes first for me too. And if someone smells nice, phwoarrrr :twisted:
Sex God
I dont bother any more as it gets me nowhere :-(
Sex God
Quote by Mallock2006
I dont bother any more as it gets me nowhere :-(
Sex God
i cant remember the last person who walked passed me and i thought i really fancy them tbh dont think it has ever happened yes i fancy people its very little to do with looks well nothing at all to do with looks charm humour confidence are biggies tho so im with u h x we can be 2 odd balls together 
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I dont bother any more as it gets me nowhere :-(
I hadn't bothered for a very long time but a few months back I ended up having a kiss with someone out of the blue. Now I look forward to a pm, hug or kiss from that person :rascal:
Sometimes I think we can look to hard rather than seeing what turns up
Orgasminator
I see ladies on here and else where and think 
hwoar: everyday, but that is looks alone and I could never just go on that.
I have to get to know the brain as well before I could do anything, I just dont relax otherwise. I spent over a year on here now and was beginning to think why am I here, but now I just go with the flow
And yes H-x you do make me think :phwoar: we just never chatted and you live miles away.
hwoar: everyday, but that is looks alone and I could never just go on that.I have to get to know the brain as well before I could do anything, I just dont relax otherwise. I spent over a year on here now and was beginning to think why am I here, but now I just go with the flow
And yes H-x you do make me think :phwoar: we just never chatted and you live miles away.
Sex God
Quote by Marya_Northeast
I like lots of people .... till they speak.
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I like lots of people .... till they speak.
oh gosh that is soooooo true. It is rare that I actually want to meet once I have started talking to a person. How does that get resolved then.
H-x I actually put it down to my age as well but there are loads of people on here that are older that me and have a super time and meet often.
Sex God
Quote by Freckledbird
I don't know you well enough yet to know if we are alike in any way at all, but you may be abit like me in the way that I rarely get turned on by physical appearance only. What I mean is that my brain gets turned on by humour,tolerance,gentleness. Sense of smell is very important to me too so in order for me to actually really fancy someone I have to have the brain connection, the smell thing and enough physical attraction and then I'm smitten
Sounds like I want it all doesnt it, I hope I made abit of sense though cos I know what I mean
The brain connection comes first for me too. And if someone smells nice, phwoarrrr :twisted:
I can understand the brain bit but should I have been walking around exposing me armpits a bit more?
Are we talking pheromones or Brut 33 here?
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Sex God
Quote by westerross
I can understand the brain bit but should I have been walking around exposing me armpits a bit more?
Are we talking pheromones or Brut 33 here?
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Either pheromones or aftershave, just not BO
Well it would seem I'm not so odd, well at least not alone in being odd 
I can't tell just from writing or a photo, although I can tell from those things that I don't which is weird. As Fire says, smell has a lot to do with it, but generally it's the complete person - they're looks, manerisms, voice, character.
In the last five years I've met one guy I fancy, it's frustrating. But what can you do? You can't make yourself fancy someone and I don't like to play games or lead people on. So it's easier not to arrange meets, a slightly defeatist attutude maybe but a fairer one.
H.x
I can't tell just from writing or a photo, although I can tell from those things that I don't which is weird. As Fire says, smell has a lot to do with it, but generally it's the complete person - they're looks, manerisms, voice, character.
In the last five years I've met one guy I fancy, it's frustrating. But what can you do? You can't make yourself fancy someone and I don't like to play games or lead people on. So it's easier not to arrange meets, a slightly defeatist attutude maybe but a fairer one.
H.x
I regularly see women who make me go phwor!, shopping, walking down the street on TV, on here, lots of places, but they are all physical reactions, not emotional ones.
In other cases the phwor is an emotional one caused by a personality or an attitude. I know you still have the first, “Hugh Jackman”……..see.
It’s the latter you are lacking,…………… Yes?
I think you have just become a little jaded, the time of year can have an impact on how we feel, giving us a belief that another year is over, and we have still failed to move forward. It’s not uncommon to feel like this, I think you just need to step outside your comfort zone for a while and do something that scares you. We come here for a variety of reasons; mostly I think to experience something new. If we get in a rut here it’s just like anywhere else, we need to shift expectations and relight the little spark of fear that we first felt when we arrived.
Speaking just for me now, when we first joined this site, our membership alone was enough to scare and excite me. Now I need more to make me feel the rush I once did.
Step off the pavement for a bit, and do something scary
In other cases the phwor is an emotional one caused by a personality or an attitude. I know you still have the first, “Hugh Jackman”……..see.
It’s the latter you are lacking,…………… Yes?
I think you have just become a little jaded, the time of year can have an impact on how we feel, giving us a belief that another year is over, and we have still failed to move forward. It’s not uncommon to feel like this, I think you just need to step outside your comfort zone for a while and do something that scares you. We come here for a variety of reasons; mostly I think to experience something new. If we get in a rut here it’s just like anywhere else, we need to shift expectations and relight the little spark of fear that we first felt when we arrived.
Speaking just for me now, when we first joined this site, our membership alone was enough to scare and excite me. Now I need more to make me feel the rush I once did.
Step off the pavement for a bit, and do something scary
Sex God
Quote by Stormwalker
I regularly see women who make me go phwor!, shopping, walking down the street on TV, on here, lots of places, but they are all physical reactions, not emotional ones.
In other cases the phwor is an emotional one caused by a personality or an attitude. I know you still have the first, “Hugh Jackman”……..see.
It’s the latter you are lacking,…………… Yes?
I think you have just become a little jaded, the time of year can have an impact on how we feel, giving us a belief that another year is over, and we have still failed to move forward. It’s not uncommon to feel like this, I think you just need to step outside your comfort zone for a while and do something that scares you. We come here for a variety of reasons; mostly I think to experience something new. If we get in a rut here it’s just like anywhere else, we need to shift expectations and relight the little spark of fear that we first felt when we arrived.
Speaking just for me now, when we first joined this site, our membership alone was enough to scare and excite me. Now I need more to make me feel the rush I once did.
Step off the pavement for a bit, and do something scary
OMG!!! I do believe Stormy is finally going to let me buy a strap on :bounce:
Quote by H-x
I'm beginning to think I'm odd, yes, yes I know, you'd think I would have come to that conclusion a long tim ago, I mean about something specific - not generally.
I read threads on here about people fancying each other and in chat there's usually a fair amount of flirting going on. What makes me think I'm odd is that I very rarely fancy anyone. This isn't to say I don't like people, or think there's anything wrong with them, it's just such a rarity for me to meet or chat to someone I think 'cwor' about.
It's got to the point where I've just about given up arranging meets because I don't like waisting people's time. Is it me? Am I odd? Is there anything I can do about it? I'm fully prepared for a slating but some useful advice would also be appreciated.
H.x
I think in all the years Ive been on this site Ive only met maybe two people that I actually really fancied. Im a fussy moo best of times though!!! Then again, I dont use the site for what its intended purpose so maybe I look at it differently, I dont know
Dont beat yourself up over it though. When your not looking for something, its usually under your nose so Ive found
Sex God
Quote by MR-FB
FB was walking thru Meadowhell once and noticed a bloke looking her up and down, so she looked him up and down as they walked towards each other. They made eye contact and realised (at the same time ) they were inlaws
Well, you look alike!
Sex God
I couldn't possibly be interested in anyone who didn't understand the correct use of the apostrophe. 
Sex God
Quote by MikeNorth
I couldn't possibly be interested in anyone who didn't understand the correct use of the apostrophe.
I know exxxaccckly whatyer means'.
Cheers mate - Happy New Year!
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