Yes...piss taking does go on......most of the time it is in good fun....usually a baptise of fire just to see if they have a sense of humour, it gets nasty is when the true colour of the of the poster come's out.....alot of people can spot a troll a mile off!
as someone that joined in March I remember what it was like to start - but I started quiet, and never had the "baptism of fire", because I didn't draw attention to myself - what I know since is a lot of people like to take the piss ( especially me ) in the cafe - but if there is a serious question or subject, it is handled seriously by most. The piss taking is there to root out po-faced humourless bastards and trolls. If you accept it good naturedly, you will be accepted.
Think of the cafe as just that a bar or cafe environment - somewhere people go for a laugh and a bit of piss taking....unless you are a humourless tea-totaller!
are we looking at the same forum?
i've not been on here 5 years ( nor has the site if i remember) but have a good look around, yes there is a lot of piss taking but i rarely see anything abusive- just people with a sense of humour. i've been posting on here for about 2 months and have met some great friends with who i regularly flirt or take the piss or have a moan, we are all (fairly) sensible adults and understand the comments and what you might see as harrasment is probably a little in joke between friends. i've seen a couple of threads from newbies this week, one from a buy that just made a total arse of himself from the start before leaving as fast as he came, the second from a guy that immediatly got the humour level on here and had a laugh with the rest of us & i think he's still around. lets face it, if someones abusive on here, unintenionally or not, unless an apology if forthcoming quickly they probably wouldn't be welcome. we come here to have fun & de-stress with like minded people, you soon find your own sub groups who you post and pm with. Have a look at the recent threads on depression and tell me the roots of this site are not caring?
i love it here, i can't keep away, i respect the opinions of many of the members when things are serious but i also love the twisted humour they aren't. if everyone had friends like these the world would be a happier place
i wasnt quite and i got the shit kicked out of me but it was fun !!!!!
ITS JUST LIKE REAL LIFE .................DEFEND YOURSELF NOONE ELSE DOES !!!!!.
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I would have thought Mark keeps an eye on the site, so surely he would have done something if he objected?
Has the site been running for five years - I thought it was about two or three?
Piss taking is one thing.......
but some of the new peops do NOT deserve the barage that they go through......
sometimes a genuine new post is met with such critisism that I wonder why they come back for more.......credit to them
I'm just glad that I never went through that..........or else I think I might have thought .......well does it need saying??
Think of it another way. A newbie posts "hi" and are often unsure what to say or how to follow it up. A piss take gives them the ideal opportunity to respond and join in.
If you dont have a sense of humour of some sort, this place probably isnt for you.
Or, again think of it differently. You are a single guy looking for success, what better way of standing out than having a laugh with people?
Give it a go, you might like it!
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I think Dino has a point though.
When somebodies preferences are questioned e.g age or size, it can become a bit tedious.
Give them a chance........