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m1970
Sexlightened
After browsing through loads of ads and photos :shock: biggrin , I thought I would take a peek at the people who live "0" miles from me wink , and surprise surprise there are people on here that I have see about in my area :D , I would never approach any of them but I can think to myself "I know what you do in your spare time :D " if I ever saw them out and about.
So, have you seen people on here that you know, have you seen the local vicar brandashing a whip or your next door neihbour. confused:
Darkfire
Sex God
Dont forget - there's always a chance they've noticed you too, and are probably thinking exactly the same thing lol
we're all here for the same reasons luv, and given your own situation you're best off not even giving anyone a smug 'i know' smirk in the street - they might do one in return to her indoors :twisted:
I've seen several people locally who I know, but when I say local I mean way way too close to home ....... so I keep my gob shut and smug grins to myself :smile2:
Dlep
Sex God
It's getting hairier for me too.....I've noticed a lot more people living in the same postcode as me (even though it covers a large area) and where my Parents live (a VERY small area :shocksmile. I havent seen anyone I know.....yet! :shock:
poshkate
Sex God
well to be honest i use this site to meet people who are into the same things as me or just as a way to meet like minded people......
i'm not here to spy on my neighours......
even if my neighbours were on here.....i would have the same thing on them as they have on me.......so its not like i'd go round all my other neighbours saying 'u'll never guess who i saw on sh the other day'
Devon1
Orgasminator
For myself, I like anonymity. I know of a few swingers in my area, but I would never go up to them etc.
I like to keep that side of my life more private.
Darkfire
Sex God
Quote by Devon1
For myself, I like anonymity. I know of a few swingers in my area, but I would never go up to them etc.
I like to keep that side of my life more private.

:cheers:
Pete_sw
Sex God
Same theme but slightly on a tangent.
We have always said to each other (me n Caron that is) how crazy would it be if we came across someone on here that we knew? ( bearing in mind that we live in a very small village close to a very small town in the middle of no-whereville) well, after 2 years, it finally happened.
The funniest thing is, that it took several revealing historical / geographical facts coming forth, before we did a double take on the profile pics and said “OMFG guess who this is”
Now, point of fact is, this was a person who had been to our home, in a totally vanilla role you understand, as a friend, sports buddy, and occasionally drinking partner.
Moved away many years ago, and lost touch.
Now you would think, wouldn’t you, that when you have known a person this well that 15 years later, you would recognise them right?
…………. Wrong, like I said, it was not until certain facts had been revealed that we realised who we were looking at, and if you think that’s bad, they did not recognise us until we revealed some very close to home stuff (non sexual)
How scary was that? …………… in truth? ………….. not very. It was surprising, a bit of a revelation, and in some ways quite cute, ………….. but threatening? no, not in the slightest.
Once we had recognised each other, we had a good long chat, caught up on all kinds of stuff, and agreed that getting together for a drink sometime was a good idea.
End of, no big deal, no drama no fright mares, and yes we do know each others family and vanilla friends.
dunno seems to me sometimes we create problems where there are none.
IMHO
rotflmao
:shock: :shock: that really does have to be one of my biggest waffle modes. certification and trophy's this way plz <<<<<<<<<<<<
lol
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Unknown User
Quote by Darkfire
For myself, I like anonymity. I know of a few swingers in my area, but I would never go up to them etc.
I like to keep that side of my life more private.

:cheers:
Agreed totally, what our neighbours are up to is no matter to us whatsoever and wouldn't try to find out either.
After meeting several people from the city where we live in Chams recently though we did discuss what we would do if we met them in the street but the obvious thing is just to say 'Hello', as you would anyone you had met anywhere, and leave it at that.
duncanlondon
Sex God
Usually, very little happens when you bump into a partner again. If circumstances allow it, you might have a quick hug and a cuddle, and a few words. But if its not okay, you have to ignore them, which should be possible.
If it was meant to be, you would have had a reunion long before the chance encounter, so there is no need to behave like you've found someone long lost. It was then and there's nsa.
Unknown User
ive often read posts on the forum with complaints that meets have to be avoided because:
" your too far away"..... " its too far to travel"........etc.
surely the fact that people are local is an advantage.......... like minded people, living close to eachother.......... surely you are a " community within a community".
i often used to hear stories of local people all swinging and swapping together... having a jolly good time... and im sure that was how it was before the internet changed the world today as we know it.
id love to meet local people, become friends and enjoy playing locally.... surely this would increase the frequency of, lessen the hassle of and broaden the horizons of ( through networking) all concerned.
it sounds like some of you are embarrased by your sexuality and not convinced of the discretion of your fellow swingers.
Debauchery_Cpl
Forum Virgin
Small World - that it is!!!
We got chating to a local couple (we knew they were local from the postcode) and seemed to get on fairly well, exchanged a couple of pics (no faces showing); and we also prefer the friends we make to be local, easier for spotaneous fun!!! (We are also extremely descrete!! )
Anyway one thing lead to another - we were using MSN and both decided to reveal a facial pic of ourselves at the same time, only to find out that we went to school together!!! :shock: and new each other through our children (kind of made it easier to initally meet redface .... lol ) - our hearts were going 10 to the dozen though.....
But what started out as looking for local friends has turned in to great evenings of fun wink - so, the fact it is a small world has suited us.
Just thought we would share.
J & L xxx
southukcouple
Master of Sex
I agree with DeeCee it's better to get to know couples close to us not just for the swinging but also for friendship and social evenings too :cheers: drinkies
We have made a few good friends from this site already that live within a few miles of us and have enjoyed good social nights with no pressure to do anything with plenty more parties to look forward too. :drinkies:
As DeeCee said we are a "community within a community"
Unknown User
Quote by DeeCee
ive often read posts on the forum with complaints that meets have to be avoided because:
" your too far away"..... " its too far to travel"........etc.
surely the fact that people are local is an advantage.......... like minded people, living close to eachother.......... surely you are a " community within a community".
i often used to hear stories of local people all swinging and swapping together... having a jolly good time... and im sure that was how it was before the internet changed the world today as we know it.
id love to meet local people, become friends and enjoy playing locally.... surely this would increase the frequency of, lessen the hassle of and broaden the horizons of ( through networking) all concerned.
it sounds like some of you are embarrased by your sexuality and not convinced of the discretion of your fellow swingers.

Not at all, we're quite happy to play with people wherever they live (near or far) and the fact that we have started to go to a club which is only 30mins from where we live mean we are bound to bump into people from our own city.
What we don't do is try and find 'local' people who are swingers, that seems like snooping, but if any contact us then that's up to them and will will reply accordingly wink
Maybe we are different from others here though as though we want to meet people we get on with we don't really have any interest in social meets so that's not an issue that comes up with us, but each to his/her/their own on this one as we know many other people love the social side biggrin
Unknown User
Quote by flidais-media
ive often read posts on the forum with complaints that meets have to be avoided because:
" your too far away"..... " its too far to travel"........etc.
surely the fact that people are local is an advantage.......... like minded people, living close to eachother.......... surely you are a " community within a community".
i often used to hear stories of local people all swinging and swapping together... having a jolly good time... and im sure that was how it was before the internet changed the world today as we know it.
id love to meet local people, become friends and enjoy playing locally.... surely this would increase the frequency of, lessen the hassle of and broaden the horizons of ( through networking) all concerned.
it sounds like some of you are embarrased by your sexuality and not convinced of the discretion of your fellow swingers.

Not at all, we're quite happy to play with people wherever they live (near or far) and the fact that we have started to go to a club which is only 30mins from where we live mean we are bound to bump into people from our own city.
What we don't do is try and find 'local' people who are swingers, that seems like snooping, but if any contact us then that's up to them and will will reply accordingly wink
Maybe we are different from others here though as though we want to meet people we get on with we don't really have any interest in social meets so that's not an issue that comes up with us, but each to his/her/their own on this one as we know many other people love the social side biggrin
i wish i understood what you are saying here.........
i got a bit confused with the opening few words and then i got completely lost.....
Unknown User
Quote by DeeCee
ive often read posts on the forum with complaints that meets have to be avoided because:
" your too far away"..... " its too far to travel"........etc.
surely the fact that people are local is an advantage.......... like minded people, living close to eachother.......... surely you are a " community within a community".
i often used to hear stories of local people all swinging and swapping together... having a jolly good time... and im sure that was how it was before the internet changed the world today as we know it.
id love to meet local people, become friends and enjoy playing locally.... surely this would increase the frequency of, lessen the hassle of and broaden the horizons of ( through networking) all concerned.
it sounds like some of you are embarrased by your sexuality and not convinced of the discretion of your fellow swingers.

Not at all, we're quite happy to play with people wherever they live (near or far) and the fact that we have started to go to a club which is only 30mins from where we live mean we are bound to bump into people from our own city.
What we don't do is try and find 'local' people who are swingers, that seems like snooping, but if any contact us then that's up to them and will will reply accordingly wink
Maybe we are different from others here though as though we want to meet people we get on with we don't really have any interest in social meets so that's not an issue that comes up with us, but each to his/her/their own on this one as we know many other people love the social side biggrin
i wish i understood what you are saying here.........
i got a bit confused with the opening few words and then i got completely lost.....
Ok, we are saying we don't give a toss where the people we meet are from (apart from the obvious need for discretion because of jobs) and we only want to meet for sex not social. Is that simple enough? rolleyes
Darkfire
Sex God
Quote by DeeCee
id love to meet local people, become friends and enjoy playing locally.... surely this would increase the frequency of, lessen the hassle of and broaden the horizons of ( through networking) all concerned.
it sounds like some of you are embarrased by your sexuality and not convinced of the discretion of your fellow swingers.

From my personal view, it depends on just how local! For instance, there is a couple on this site who live literally doors away from me - however, they're certainly not folk I would trust, fellow swingers or not. Regardless of the fact we're here for the same thing, it would be common knowledge within 5 minutes flat :shock: I work in the local community and am bound by a 'morality clause' - anyone locally opens their mouth about my activities and I can kiss my job goodbye. It doesnt help that I am a well known face locally through various jobs I've had/ do and things that I'm involved with.
I also know (and have met socially) quite a few of the people here I consider to be 'local' but within say a 15 minute drive - to me that's local but comfortable dunno and its these people I see regularly but live far away enough to not know people I know.
But for me its certainly not 'embarrasment' about my sexuality - more that I choose to keep my vanilla & swinging life seperate because I like it that way, and also obviously because of my job.
Unknown User
Quote by Darkfire

id love to meet local people, become friends and enjoy playing locally.... surely this would increase the frequency of, lessen the hassle of and broaden the horizons of ( through networking) all concerned.
it sounds like some of you are embarrased by your sexuality and not convinced of the discretion of your fellow swingers.

From my personal view, it depends on just how local! For instance, there is a couple on this site who live literally doors away from me - however, they're certainly not folk I would trust, fellow swingers or not. Regardless of the fact we're here for the same thing, it would be common knowledge within 5 minutes flat :shock: I work in the local community and am bound by a 'morality clause' - anyone locally opens their mouth about my activities and I can kiss my job goodbye. It doesnt help that I am a well known face locally through various jobs I've had/ do and things that I'm involved with.
I also know (and have met socially) quite a few of the people here I consider to be 'local' but within say a 15 minute drive - to me that's local but comfortable dunno and its these people I see regularly but live far away enough to not know people I know.
But for me its certainly not 'embarrasment' about my sexuality - more that I choose to keep my vanilla & swinging life seperate because I like it that way, and also obviously because of my job.
Know totally what you mean Darkfire, we both have jobs where it wouldn't help at all that certain people knew about our swinging activities. Like you say it's nothing to do with 'embarassment' about swinging but to with straightforward discretion. biggrin
Unknown User
Quote by flidais-media
ive often read posts on the forum with complaints that meets have to be avoided because:
" your too far away"..... " its too far to travel"........etc.
surely the fact that people are local is an advantage.......... like minded people, living close to eachother.......... surely you are a " community within a community".
i often used to hear stories of local people all swinging and swapping together... having a jolly good time... and im sure that was how it was before the internet changed the world today as we know it.
id love to meet local people, become friends and enjoy playing locally.... surely this would increase the frequency of, lessen the hassle of and broaden the horizons of ( through networking) all concerned.
it sounds like some of you are embarrased by your sexuality and not convinced of the discretion of your fellow swingers.

Not at all, we're quite happy to play with people wherever they live (near or far) and the fact that we have started to go to a club which is only 30mins from where we live mean we are bound to bump into people from our own city.
What we don't do is try and find 'local' people who are swingers, that seems like snooping, but if any contact us then that's up to them and will will reply accordingly wink
Maybe we are different from others here though as though we want to meet people we get on with we don't really have any interest in social meets so that's not an issue that comes up with us, but each to his/her/their own on this one as we know many other people love the social side biggrin
i wish i understood what you are saying here.........
i got a bit confused with the opening few words and then i got completely lost.....
Ok, we are saying we don't give a toss where the people we meet are from and we only want to meet for sex not social. Is that simple enough? rolleyes
very simple.....
it was the "not at all" quote that lost me.......i was interested to find out which part of my post
you didnt agree with.
i was referring to the members who had posted on the thread before me......... where it does seem that the issues are those of discretion and privacy( perhaps more than embarrasment).
Unknown User
Quote by DeeCee
ive often read posts on the forum with complaints that meets have to be avoided because:
" your too far away"..... " its too far to travel"........etc.
surely the fact that people are local is an advantage.......... like minded people, living close to eachother.......... surely you are a " community within a community".
i often used to hear stories of local people all swinging and swapping together... having a jolly good time... and im sure that was how it was before the internet changed the world today as we know it.
id love to meet local people, become friends and enjoy playing locally.... surely this would increase the frequency of, lessen the hassle of and broaden the horizons of ( through networking) all concerned.
it sounds like some of you are embarrased by your sexuality and not convinced of the discretion of your fellow swingers.

Not at all, we're quite happy to play with people wherever they live (near or far) and the fact that we have started to go to a club which is only 30mins from where we live mean we are bound to bump into people from our own city.
What we don't do is try and find 'local' people who are swingers, that seems like snooping, but if any contact us then that's up to them and will will reply accordingly wink
Maybe we are different from others here though as though we want to meet people we get on with we don't really have any interest in social meets so that's not an issue that comes up with us, but each to his/her/their own on this one as we know many other people love the social side biggrin
i wish i understood what you are saying here.........
i got a bit confused with the opening few words and then i got completely lost.....
Ok, we are saying we don't give a toss where the people we meet are from and we only want to meet for sex not social. Is that simple enough? rolleyes
very simple.....
it was the "not at all" quote that lost me.......i was interested to find out which part of my post
you didnt agree with.
i was referring to the members who had posted on the thread before me......... where it does seem that the issues are those of discretion and privacy( perhaps more than embarrasment).
'Not at all' was to do with being embarassed by our sexual acitivity, which, as swingers with well over thirty years experience between us, we certainly are not. Trust we've got that sorted now? :wink:
Darkfire
Sex God
I dont particularly hide the fact that I'm bi either - most of my close vanilla female friends now know, but its not something I rub in their face, I would never come on to one of them and they know it.... I dont 'pull' women when I'm out with them and I certainly dont talk about it or divulge details when I do , but again that's not embarrassment or being 'ashamned' of who I am - its me keeping the two things seperate, to the point where I'm almost living a double life lol , but hey, that's me, and its how I like to keep it wink
Unknown User
Quote by DeeCee
i was referring to the members who had posted on the thread before me......... where it does seem that the issues are those of discretion and privacy( perhaps more than embarrasment).

:small-print: :small-print: :small-print: :small-print: :small-print: :small-print:
see, thats called " conceding a point"... it normally follows that once this has been done.... you move on to another subject/topic/...........
please also note when it occurred in the chronology of the thread.
wink
tmann
Sex God
I have not found anyone from where I live yet but I did find someone from one of the places I work. I said nothing, nor did she. I do not play with people at work. Perhaps she had the same rule, or she just did not work out who I was.
bell
Warming the Bed
Being new and still nervous I do like the privacy of this site. I would worry more about someone at work recognising me than neighbours to be honest!!!! biggrin
Aud (bbwcouple69)
couplefunuk
Orgasminator
I'm a recruitment consultant, and on Tuesday I got a cv e mailed to me. I looked at the first name and chuckled as we have met up with a couple one of whose names was the same. I didnt know her surname but the thought was niggling me, so I compared the number on the cv with the number in my phone - and it was her :shock:
So there I am, calling to discuss her cv, and get her booked in to see me - eventually it got the better of me and I asked her how her recent jaunt round the world went. That freaked her out a bit cos it wasnt on her cv lol When she eventually twigged who I was we were laughing her heads off. My work colleagues were wondering wot was going on but of course I couldnt tell them - I've only worked there 4 weeks fgor gods sake :lol:
bell
Warming the Bed
Wow - lol
A few minutes of heart failure of what :shock:
At least you were both cool about it cool
It's a bloody small world sometimes lol wink
couplefunuk
Orgasminator
Not quite a swinging thing, but still a small world story...
A few years ago (ok, more like 14 years ago when i was in my early teens!) my brother and I were out swimming in the communal pool (shared by 10 houses). Some random woman who'd just moved in to the house next to us came up to us asking if we were english cos she'd heard us shouting and laughing.
We explained where we were from (we were living in the Bahamas at the time) and what school we went to etc. Turns out her sons had just started at the same school that year and when we got back one of them had been moved into my brothers dorm.
So yeah, very small world!
*Him*
bell
Warming the Bed
lol
I know what you mean - I'm from a very small village in Ireland and I have on three separate occasion met someone from there while walking down Oxford Street!!!
Spooky biggrin
m1970
Sexlightened
Quote by couplefunuk
Not quite a swinging thing, but still a small world story...
We explained where we were from (we were living in the Bahamas at the time) and what school we went to etc. Turns out her sons had just started at the same school that year and when we got back one of them had been moved into my brothers dorm.
So yeah, very small world!
*Him*

I used to live in the bahamas and went to st pauls school biggrin
spooky!
markz
Sex God
I dont bump into anyone as I am the only one on my planet rolleyes
couplefunuk
Orgasminator
Quote by m1970
Not quite a swinging thing, but still a small world story...
We explained where we were from (we were living in the Bahamas at the time) and what school we went to etc. Turns out her sons had just started at the same school that year and when we got back one of them had been moved into my brothers dorm.
So yeah, very small world!
*Him*

I used to live in the bahamas and went to st pauls school biggrin
spooky!
I meant we went to school in Kent - which is why this convo in a pool on Paradise Island was so wierd!
Which town did you live in?