Sex change maybe?
lol, just kidding.
I apoligse for the inappropriate humour but i was just being realistic. I could.
But if and when i do become a single female again i will have to quit my job cause i can assure you at no expense that id be travelling up and down the length of the country to be with females and couples from this site!!!!!!!
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Jealousy
Quote by Elissamay
I think that a relationship can survive a certain amount of jealousy - its almost a token of how much you care about someone if the fear of losing them is huge - but once the trust is gone it never comes back......
I totally disagree with that in our situation it was gone for a while but it has come back stronger than ever.
Quote by Elissamay
I think that a relationship can survive a certain amount of jealousy - its almost a token of how much you care about someone if the fear of losing them is huge - but once the trust is gone it never comes back......
Quote by Clare_Lincs
I totally disagree with that in our situation it was gone for a while but it has come back stronger than ever.
Obviously different people will have different life expereinces and different opinions and if you have found that whatever happend with you guys has brought you together and made your relationship stronger thats great.
Personally I would have to say that trust is extremely precious and extremely fragile and once its been broken its almost impossible to ever repair.
Dxxx
This has become a very thought provoking thread.
Like so many others, I've been there too - a number of times. What starts out as an innocent thought grows and spirals into a desperate situation with little chance of reversal. Every plausible explanation is obviously a lie, every slight comment holds a darker meaning, and even a small time apart becomes a secret liason.
It can only go two ways; you become consumed with the anger and frustration until the other person is forced away completely (sometimes into the arms of the object of jealousy); or you learn from the experience and grow with it.
As I said, I've been down the first road more times than I should have. It's only as I've grown older and wiser that I've learnt to see through what's not there and to appreciate what I actually have.
Hindsight is a wonderful thing, but I've met lots of young people who are far more together than I ever was at their age, so it's not all doom and gloom. Just get it into perspective and live for the day.
Taking it in another direction, does anyone think that there's a reverse side to jealousy? Maybe it's a trait peculiar to people of the swinging persuasion, but I love my wife so dearly that I'm actually proud to share her with other caring people.
That's my two penneth for what it's worth. Good luck lil_miz. I hope you work(ed) it out.
Like so many others, I've been there too - a number of times. What starts out as an innocent thought grows and spirals into a desperate situation with little chance of reversal. Every plausible explanation is obviously a lie, every slight comment holds a darker meaning, and even a small time apart becomes a secret liason.
It can only go two ways; you become consumed with the anger and frustration until the other person is forced away completely (sometimes into the arms of the object of jealousy); or you learn from the experience and grow with it.
As I said, I've been down the first road more times than I should have. It's only as I've grown older and wiser that I've learnt to see through what's not there and to appreciate what I actually have.
Hindsight is a wonderful thing, but I've met lots of young people who are far more together than I ever was at their age, so it's not all doom and gloom. Just get it into perspective and live for the day.
Taking it in another direction, does anyone think that there's a reverse side to jealousy? Maybe it's a trait peculiar to people of the swinging persuasion, but I love my wife so dearly that I'm actually proud to share her with other caring people.
That's my two penneth for what it's worth. Good luck lil_miz. I hope you work(ed) it out.
Sex God
Quote by MrsFC
Hiya all
Does anyone think a relationship can survive when there is a lot of jealoisy and mis trust in it?
Also does anyone know if there is a way to help get over being so jealous?
What I think works best, and is ages old..........is talking............talking................talking.
That way you hopefully put to sleep any worries or concerns you have. Jealousy is usually feeling insucure, and that can sometimes be remedied with talking and being honest. Mis trust could be harder to conquer. Without trust it is hard to develop further.
I hope that makes some sense.
I thought there was no hope until I read this. Another pearl from a gem!
I will admit to struggling with jealousy ........ Hubby is at university and spends a lot of time with other females ... I can get quite worked up about this ... although the whole university situation is the problem not hubby ..... I wanted to go and he beat me to it ;) ;)
i have been known to seriously mistrust him ... and he will admit he's sometimes given me cause to.
However, when it comes to swinging and sex I do genuinely trust him, never once felt jealous watching him play/shag someone else ... and similarly he will admit here.
You must talk about whatever issues are there ... otherwise you will find the thought festering into something much larger and then it becomes an impossible situation.
i have been known to seriously mistrust him ... and he will admit he's sometimes given me cause to.
However, when it comes to swinging and sex I do genuinely trust him, never once felt jealous watching him play/shag someone else ... and similarly he will admit here.
You must talk about whatever issues are there ... otherwise you will find the thought festering into something much larger and then it becomes an impossible situation.
Quote by Clare_Lincs
I think that a relationship can survive a certain amount of jealousy - its almost a token of how much you care about someone if the fear of losing them is huge - but once the trust is gone it never comes back......
I totally disagree with that in our situation it was gone for a while but it has come back stronger than ever.
Then I'd say you are extremely lucky.
edit: I tend to find that if anyone breaks my trust, regardless of the type of relationship, then that relationship is tarnished. And, it saddens me to say, for a variety of reasons I have a hard time trusting anyone these days.
Sex God
Scandal wrote:
:lol: ...thanks Scandal. Reminds me (just a bit) of the John and Mary sketch from "I'm sorry I'll read that again" (with John Cleese, very early in his career) - remember it anyone? The one that ends:
Mike.
The person I've been having a relationship with for the last ten years is slowly slipping away from me. We've done all the talking, being honest, living up to promises, changing our ways, turning over new leaves. On the odd occasion I've even begged for more time. It's got to the point where I just wanna turn round and say "F*&K it, f*&k you I'm off" But I just can't. We're inseparable and they've got a hold on me.
Bank managers eh? Fookin orrible
:lol: ...thanks Scandal. Reminds me (just a bit) of the John and Mary sketch from "I'm sorry I'll read that again" (with John Cleese, very early in his career) - remember it anyone? The one that ends:MARY: Oh, John - why don't you admit it? You don't love me any more.
(pause)
JOHN: All right, I admit it.
MARY: John - once we had something that was pure, and wonderful, and - and good ... what's happened to it?
JOHN: You spent it all.
Mike.
