Judged....

1 Aug 2008

Do you ever feel you are judged? Not always in the swinging world, sometimes in "normal" lifestyle?
I do. I feel a lot of people judge me for being BBW. They look at the outside and don't actually get to know the inner person.
What do u think? About you of course and what some may judge you of?
Lil x

1 Aug 2008

Yeah, people probably judge me for something or other that they aren't. But I stopped giving a shit quite some time ago. biggrin

1 Aug 2008

People judge people all the time. We probably shouldn't, but let's be honest, we all do to a greater or lesser extent.

1 Aug 2008

i try to be as non judgemental as possible...its hard nto to judge soemtimes in your life tho.....
Im a bbw and some would judge me as soooo not sexy whatsoever, but there are people who do find me sexy(I hope so anyway) but if they chhose to judge on my outward appearance and judge me negatively, i can say without doubt they are missing out on one of the bestest and most fiercely loyal friends they could have!

1 Aug 2008

is this the same word as stereotyped?

1 Aug 2008

Quote by Phuckers
is this the same word as stereotyped?

No. From Cambridge Online:
stereotype
a fixed idea that people have about what someone or something is like, especially an idea that is wrong
judge
to form, give or have as an opinion, or to decide about something or someone, especially after thinking carefully

1 Aug 2008

Quote by Freckledbird
is this the same word as stereotyped?

No. From Cambridge Online:
stereotype
a fixed idea that people have about what someone or something is like, especially an idea that is wrong
judge
to form, give or have as an opinion, or to decide about something or someone, especially after thinking carefully
oh in that case i cant remember being judged!

1 Aug 2008

I get judged all the time. The people who's opinions of me matter are few.
I really, really couldn't give a shit what Joe Blogs on the street thinks. Why worry about the opinion of someone who, like as not, could well be an utter fuckwit? dunno

1 Aug 2008

Quote by Whipsnspurs
is this the same word as stereotyped?

No. From Cambridge Online:
stereotype
a fixed idea that people have about what someone or something is like, especially an idea that is wrong
judge
to form, give or have as an opinion, or to decide about something or someone, especially after thinking carefully
oh in that case i cant remember being judged!
yes you have been!
whips
stop judging me whips wink

1 Aug 2008

awwwww good response....
Is it me?? am i just thinking people think that way?
Awww i dunno!!

1 Aug 2008

Quote by Freckledbird
is this the same word as stereotyped?

No. From Cambridge Online:
stereotype
a fixed idea that people have about what someone or something is like, especially an idea that is wrongjudge
to form, give or have as an opinion, or to decide about something or someone, especially after thinking carefully
am actually confused according to this discription i think being judge is a good thing compared to being stereotyped

1 Aug 2008

Judged ?
Me ??
Frequently...

1 Aug 2008

I think we may all have judged others at times, sometimes unconsciously other times just because we can. Personally I don't really give a hoot if someone has judged me, especially if they don't know me from adam.... it used to! But over the years I've grown a thick skin to it (had to in some respects as i wouldn't have survived in my job).
I feel I've became more aware of how I have judged others unfairly in the past and now I'm more laid back and enjoy and celebrate difference in life dunno

1 Aug 2008

Put it this way, I'm autistic, like I give a flying frisbee about being judged biggrin

1 Aug 2008

There seems to be a judgement phobia on the site. In some cases this fear is not so much of judgement, but perhaps in the way the judgement has been reached. Thereby acknowledging judgement as being something that can be applicable, but requiring it to be correctly administered.
But we all use judgement to some degree in most things in life. Obviously we don't sentence a cheap looking vegetable steamer to the electric chair, but we make a choice, a decision and evaluation. So its a fairly common practice.
Such consumers that we are; means that we apply this skill, because we have a lot of practise in it; to people as well. But its not always in a bad way as has been stated by others.

2 Aug 2008

Quote by Phuckers
is this the same word as stereotyped?

No. From Cambridge Online:
stereotype
a fixed idea that people have about what someone or something is like, especially an idea that is wrongjudge
to form, give or have as an opinion, or to decide about something or someone, especially after thinking carefully
am actually confused according to this discription i think being judge is a good thing compared to being stereotyped
It is - it's just that the judgement that people come to, is often wrong.

2 Aug 2008

Quote by duncanlondon
There seems to be a judgement phobia on the site. In some cases this fear is not so much of judgement, but perhaps in the way the judgement has been reached. Thereby acknowledging judgement as being something that can be applicable, but requiring it to be correctly administered.
But we all use judgement to some degree in most things in life. Obviously we don't sentence a cheap looking vegetable steamer to the electric chair, but we make a choice, a decision and evaluation. So its a fairly common practice.
Such consumers that we are; means that we apply this skill, because we have a lot of practise in it; to people as well. But its not always in a bad way as has been stated by others.

i dont think that judgement is the issue here as we all have to make judgements or choices in our daily lives. Do i buy that dress or does it make my ass look big, do i want to swing with this person or not.
The issue is when judgement turns to critisism. I may not appreciate how some one chooses to live but unless it directly effects me and mine then i have no right to voice an opinion unless the person asks me to.

2 Aug 2008

Another big failing in places like this is when one member of a group makes a judgement and his his/her buddies take the same opinion rolleyes

A group of people making a judgement on the basis of one persons opinion is almost akin to a kangaroo court....

2 Aug 2008

Quote by flower411
But not always !!! I think it`s interesting that most of the replies seem to be suggesting that being judged by other people is going to have an adverse outcome :shock:
You of all people FB should see that you have been judged of late on this forum and look at all the nice things that people have said about you !!!

No, not always. Being judged doesn't have any adverse outcome on me, even if it's negative.
Er, and why 'me of all people'? In fact, don't answer that :shock:
There's plenty said that's not nice too lol

That said, there's more good than bad I suppose. smile

2 Aug 2008

Quote by flower411
Er, and why 'me of all people'? In fact, don't answer that :shock:

:rotflmao: :rotflmao:
Answer it in PM!

2 Aug 2008

Quote by midsprincess
There seems to be a judgement phobia on the site. In some cases this fear is not so much of judgement, but perhaps in the way the judgement has been reached. Thereby acknowledging judgement as being something that can be applicable, but requiring it to be correctly administered.
But we all use judgement to some degree in most things in life. Obviously we don't sentence a cheap looking vegetable steamer to the electric chair, but we make a choice, a decision and evaluation. So its a fairly common practice.
Such consumers that we are; means that we apply this skill, because we have a lot of practise in it; to people as well. But its not always in a bad way as has been stated by others.

i dont think that judgement is the issue here as we all have to make judgements or choices in our daily lives. Do i buy that dress or does it make my ass look big, do i want to swing with this person or not.
The issue is when judgement turns to critisism. I may not appreciate how some one chooses to live but unless it directly effects me and mine then i have no right to voice an opinion unless the person asks me to.
So that would be judgement with a kick in the face so to speak. In effect judgement is being abused as the one who applies it then goes on to add insult to injury etc.
yes that is incorrectly administered judegment.

2 Aug 2008

Quote by Lilmiss
Do you ever feel you are judged? Not always in the swinging world, sometimes in "normal" lifestyle?
I do. I feel a lot of people judge me for being BBW. They look at the outside and don't actually get to know the inner person.
What do u think? About you of course and what some may judge you of?
Lil x

taking OP statement i can confidently say she meant being stereotyped which is far worst than being judged..judging is compulsory in life which sometimes can be a matter of life and death.
but however bad stereotyping is its the intial group judgement before you know the person(s) properly...
a stranger will stereotype you for being BBW,black,tall,american,irish...etc but until they get to know you better then they can make an independent judgement...just like you are doing on me because by now you know am annoying waste of space..
i walk into a lift and a woman clutches her bag tightly by her...am i stereotyped or judge?

2 Aug 2008

Quote by Phuckers
i walk into a lift and a woman clutches her bag tightly by her...am i stereotyped or judge?

Paranoid. Maybe she just changed position or something.

2 Aug 2008

Quote by Freckledbird

i walk into a lift and a woman clutches her bag tightly by her...am i stereotyped or judge?

Paranoid. Maybe she just changed position or something.
paranoid....excatly its not being judged
Rant over!

2 Aug 2008

Also I would like to add (as if you are interested rolleyes

), that people are usually happy that you have used your own judgement for yourself, but not on behalf of anyone else.

2 Aug 2008

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2 Aug 2008

Quote by Phuckers

i walk into a lift and a woman clutches her bag tightly by her...am i stereotyped or judge?

Paranoid. Maybe she just changed position or something.
paranoid....excatly its not being judged
Rant over!
Paranoid? Possibly.
Stereotyped? Probably.
But for you to have noticed something that subtle, I get the impression you sort of half expected it. So to a degree you possibly stereotyped her too.

2 Aug 2008

Quote by duncanlondon
Also I would like to add (as if you are interested ), that people are usually happy that you have used your own judgement for yourself, but not on behalf of anyone else.

Thats got me thinking.....I know it takes a lot to do that before anyone says it :roll:
Is using your own judgement the same as judging dunno

2 Aug 2008

Quote by Steve
Is using your own judgement the same as judging

Depends if your name is Solomon.

2 Aug 2008

Quote by Peanut

i walk into a lift and a woman clutches her bag tightly by her...am i stereotyped or judge?

Paranoid. Maybe she just changed position or something.
paranoid....excatly its not being judged
Rant over!
Paranoid? Possibly.
Stereotyped? Probably.
But for you to have noticed something that subtle, I get the impression you sort of half expected it. So to a degree you possibly stereotyped her too.
now what did you base your assumption on?