Learning to flirt again

30 Aug 2005

Hi All
We are newbies so looking for advice. We have been married a long time, children growing up, looking to grow young again but have spent so long being responsible, faithful respectable, etc. How do you throw off those learned behaviours and regain that reckless, not afraid to fail, go for it, attitude we had before we grew up?
I would love to hear from anyone about haw they approach or like to be approached at a party. How you agree aims/boundaries (if at all) with a new partner?
I've been too good for so long confused

that I've forgotten how to be bad! wink

30 Aug 2005

You could try going to a munch... as I understand it... its a chance to flirt if you want to and get to know some people... would let you practice your skills without fear of crushing failure. I am sure you will find it all comes back to you pritty quick.
I find flirting through e-mail or on message boards to be rather good fun too, it sharpens up the old skills and tends to happen quite unconciously as I tend to be very flirty when I have to type it :P

30 Aug 2005

Thanks Chris.
Nice package sir!

30 Aug 2005

see you have started already that was not hard

30 Aug 2005

Hello and welcome smile

I know it sounds a little cliche but I think you should just take it slowly and see what happens. Nothing worse than failed expectations and thoughts of what should happen.
I am sure you will know exactly how do you throw off those "learned behaviours" when the situation deserves it. As for approaching people, I just do what every I feel is right at the time.. yes yes I know I have been no help .. Sorry.
I wish you all the luck in finding your "new" selves ..
Take care

30 Aug 2005

Quote by fitfunandsexy
Thanks Chris.
Nice package sir!

Why thankyou very much, *** Sits back and blushes ***
with complements like that feel free to PM me any time you want to practice flirting ;) :P

30 Aug 2005

don't ask me, been swinging about 5 years now and still ain't got a clue, i'm as crap now at flirting and picking up signs as i was when we started
I think some people are natural born flirts and so other (like me) it does not come easy, i'm more your.....so do you want a shag or what? :shock: type woman

30 Aug 2005

Naughty
I think I could get the hang of that. Now I know there's at least one woman out there for me. Thanks!

30 Aug 2005

A smile and a genuine interest in the person you're talking to can often lead to a little flirtation; then I rather think instinct takes over and it all comes naturally. You don't have to be overtly flirtatious in the sense of physical contact or suggestive language - that can lead to misunderstandings and embarrassing situations!
Take it easy, keep it friendly, see how they respond and how things progress: you might be very pleasantly surprised! wink

Sappho xxx

30 Aug 2005

Well I have to admit to being completely flirt-blind, pretty much anything other than 'so do you fancy a shag then' will probably go straight over my head.
I somehow suspect that had I been better at reading people's intentions I'd have had a lot more shags over the years, instead of large numbers of female friends who tried it on, thought I wasn't interested (even though I was almost certainly trying to work out how to flirt with them, also a skill I don't possess to any great degree), and decided that I might be a half-decent mate instead.
I blame going to an all-boys school, it took me at least two years after I'd left before I could converse with an attractive woman without turning into a gibbering wreck and staring at my shoes.

30 Aug 2005

i dont actually think the ability to flirt is something learned.
its something everyone has.,
if you find yourself in the situation where u cant flirt, it seems to me that the situation is not right for you. either u are not that attracted to the person, or feel uncomfortable etc.
if u meet the right people, u wont even have to think about it.
x

30 Aug 2005

Quote by bhd1976
I blame going to an all-boys school, it took me at least two years after I'd left before I could converse with an attractive woman without turning into a gibbering wreck and staring at my shoes.

I still do that... and I never went to an all-boys anything!

30 Aug 2005

I'm another one who finds flirting a real problem... dunno how to do it or what signals people are giving off, unless they are totally obvious lol

I've always found chat rooms, email and the net to be a place where you can get past all the shyness that may come over you when out in the real world but then you can't hide behind the keyboard all the time.
I guess you just have pluck up the ol' courage and jump in, sink or swim so to speak. I do agree with well busty babe in that when you meet the right person it'll come naturally.
Gawd! us humans are to complicated...lolol
Happy flirting

30 Aug 2005

Quote by EnglishChris99

I blame going to an all-boys school, it took me at least two years after I'd left before I could converse with an attractive woman without turning into a gibbering wreck and staring at my shoes.

I still do that... and I never went to an all-boys anything!
I pray that munch venues are dark-ish because I still blush when talking to people I haven't previously met redface

30 Aug 2005

Quote by well_busty_babe
i dont actually think the ability to flirt is something learned.
its something everyone has.,
if you find yourself in the situation where u cant flirt, it seems to me that the situation is not right for you. either u are not that attracted to the person, or feel uncomfortable etc.
if u meet the right people, u wont even have to think about it.
x

What the gorgeous wbb said.
I love flirting (as if people didn't know that already redface

)
Here.
In person.
On the phone.
At work (??????)
At the supermarket.
At the petrol station.
Anywhere.
Everywhere.
Yeah - I've had my face slapped.
Been shot down in flames.
Had my ego bubble burst.
But just keep coming back for more.
It makes me feel "alive"
And I have to say, some of the most flirtatious people I've ever come across, are right here within SH.
Don't ya just luv 'em ??
So just join in the banter, fitfunandsexy and do what comes naturally.
Good luck :thumbup:

30 Aug 2005

Quote by Scoobaru
dunno .. what signals people are giving off, unless they are totally obvious

Mmm.. thats me.. I need someone to beat me with a big stick while shouting... "Are you gonna fuck me or what??"
:lol: :lol:

30 Aug 2005

Quote by wolvie_dude
dunno .. what signals people are giving off, unless they are totally obvious