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wow is that poshkate in her avitar? <wipes dribble from chin>
Good god no she looks nothing like that, think nora batty with even more wrinkeled stockings
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Quote by westerross
Got to be a mixture of both but personality is by far the dominant factor.
Another important factor is whether that person is turned on by me - bit selfish, I know but it's a real turn on if it happens and, obviously vice versa.
ooo thanks for that, its what id like to say too lol
i am known for going for good looks but ive learnt over the years how much personality counts.....since i began using the forum and attanding socials etc ive found myself having really good times with people who, if i hadnt got to know them, wouldnt have found them attractive on the face of it, im really glad thats happened as its taught me alot about how i interact with people.
and i dont think its selfish to like being liked.....
My 2p worth on this one.
I suppose if you want to be out in public, having a romantic meal, having a walk together then it would be looks - as long as you don't speak.
If all you did was talk on the phone or on line etc, then yeh, personality.
But how boring would that be. So I'd go with having both. 'Cos when you're in love thats just the way it is. Just so nice to be with someone you fancy the pant off, in your own opinion is great looking and has the ability to have that "click" that can make you smile with the most stupidest of comments and who's every word you actually listen to.
So yes, I'm gonna vote for both cos it's all down to the individual choice and how you interpret looks and personality.
I suppose if you want to be out in public, having a romantic meal, having a walk together then it would be looks - as long as you don't speak.
If all you did was talk on the phone or on line etc, then yeh, personality.
But how boring would that be. So I'd go with having both. 'Cos when you're in love thats just the way it is. Just so nice to be with someone you fancy the pant off, in your own opinion is great looking and has the ability to have that "click" that can make you smile with the most stupidest of comments and who's every word you actually listen to.
So yes, I'm gonna vote for both cos it's all down to the individual choice and how you interpret looks and personality.
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Just a few from the search button then I got bored
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/84115.html?highlight=looks%20and%20personality
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/81221.html?highlight=looks%20and%20personality
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/77640.html?highlight=looks%20and%20personality
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THREAD HIJACK :silly:
Hey...rememeber not all of us have been on the site as long as you forum regulars
Things may have been discussed before but sometimes new people will bring up the same topics. If newbies think of a question, its not that much fun finding the answer in old posts. Sometimes its nice to hear what current active members have to say about it.Not aiming my response at Sheddy at all, more a general comment and I'm just using this thread as my opportunity to vent....just I have seen in a few threads before where people reply 'this has been discussed before a million times...how boring...here's the link to here its been discussed before'.. Newbies may want the opportunity to put their views across on the topic too!
HIJACK OVER :silly:
Sex God
Quote by girlonamission
. Newbies may want the opportunity to put their views across on the topic too!
And they can - by adding to the old thread when they've perused it.
Sex God
Quote by girlonamission
...but old threads dont generate much interest I find...
I don't recall many old threads being resurrected since you joined.
Yeah Shireen, it's a bugger if they're locked - then again, maybe people could get an idea of how not to behave/what not to say in the forum from the locked threads.
Quote by girlonamission
THREAD HIJACK :silly:
Hey...rememeber not all of us have been on the site as long as you forum regulars
Not aiming my response at Sheddy at all, more a general comment and I'm just using this thread as my opportunity to vent....just I have seen in a few threads before where people reply 'this has been discussed before a million times...how boring...here's the link to here its been discussed before'.. Newbies may want the opportunity to put their views across on the topic too!
HIJACK OVER :silly:
:thumbup:
I think some of the responses from "established members" along the lines of "This has been done before/to death/last month/last year" can be patronising and unwelcoming. Some of them seem to expect newer members to have read every thread from the last 2 years
And let's be fair - the search button can sometimes be crap to the point of being worthless.
Quote by dambuster
I think some of the responses from "established members" along the lines of "This has been done before/to death/last month/last year" can be patronising and unwelcoming. Some of them seem to expect newer members to have read every thread from the last 2 years
And let's be fair - the search button can sometimes be crap to the point of being worthless.
sorry but a simple emoticn says it all in this case
Quote by dambuster
Another important factor is whether that person is turned on by me - bit selfish, I know but it's a real turn on if it happens and, obviously vice versa.
Not selfish at all Choon.
It's (for me) a very important factor in anything other than "stranger sex"
We all know the light-hearted joke about the girls syaing "I'm up here" when guys (or girls) are talking to the titties; but . . . . . .
On more than one occasion, I've had to bite my lip so I didn't say "Oi, there's a bloke on the end of that cock"
I'm lucky I don't have that problem
I'd find it very hard to be turned on by someone who didn't feel the same way. Chemistry only works if there's a reaction on both sides.
But for me it has to be the whole person - who they are and what they look like that flicks my switch, a good looking guy with the personality of a swamp toad does nothing for me.
H.x
Quote by H-x
But for me it has to be the whole person - who they are and what they look like that flicks my switch, a good looking guy with the personality of a swamp toad does nothing for me.
H.x
How about a female swamp toad with the personality of a mildly entertaining, flirtatious badger?
Quote by Kiss_Me
But for me it has to be the whole person - who they are and what they look like that flicks my switch, a good looking guy with the personality of a swamp toad does nothing for me.
H.x
How about a female swamp toad with the personality of a mildly entertaining, relentlessflirtatious badger?
H.x
Quote by H-x
But for me it has to be the whole person - who they are and what they look like that flicks my switch, a good looking guy with the personality of a swamp toad does nothing for me.
H.x
How about a female swamp toad with the personality of a mildly entertaining, relentlessflirtatious badger?
H.x
:shock:
Well I would stop it in an instant........
If I thought for a moment you didn't enjoy it..... even just a teensy bit! :rascal:
Quote by Kiss_Me
But for me it has to be the whole person - who they are and what they look like that flicks my switch, a good looking guy with the personality of a swamp toad does nothing for me.
H.x
How about a female swamp toad with the personality of a mildly entertaining, relentlessflirtatious badger?
H.x
:shock:
Well I would stop it in an instant........
If I thought for a moment you didn't enjoy it..... even just a teensy bit! :rascal:
You do brighten my day, sweatpea.
H.x
ops:Quote by girlonamission
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Not aiming my response at Sheddy at all, more a general comment and I'm just using this thread as my opportunity to vent...:
Well why quote me then? especially as all my post consisited of was a few links to previous topics of a similar vein. Not once in it did I imply that it had been covered loads of times or that the subject didn't need doing again. It was just me being helpfull old me but I guess I won't bother in future. Prehaps I could have added a bit of text as to why I'd dug out the links but quite frankly if people see my actions as hostile when they are not is that my fault/problem? besides at the time of posting the links my dinner was ready and a hungry sheddy is not a happy bunny
I voted a mix.
For a long term realtion ship i really do feel you have to have both.
TBH even if i was just sex i still think they would have to have AT least a good personality, Hence while i like to meet up for a drink beofr a meet.
If a women had a body like Christina Aguilera but had no personality then i wouldnt find her so sey as i do now!
Its what makes the world go round
For a long term realtion ship i really do feel you have to have both.
TBH even if i was just sex i still think they would have to have AT least a good personality, Hence while i like to meet up for a drink beofr a meet.
If a women had a body like Christina Aguilera
but had no personality then i wouldnt find her so sey as i do now!Its what makes the world go round
Quote by sheddy
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Not aiming my response at Sheddy at all, more a general comment and I'm just using this thread as my opportunity to vent...:
Well why quote me then? especially as all my post consisited of was a few links to previous topics of a similar vein. Not once in it did I imply that it had been covered loads of times or that the subject didn't need doing again. It was just me being helpfull old me but I guess I won't bother in future. Prehaps I could have added a bit of text as to why I'd dug out the links but quite frankly if people see my actions as hostile when they are not is that my fault/problem? besides at the time of posting the links my dinner was ready and a hungry sheddy is not a happy bunny
Sheddy..nooo....I saw you re-quote old threads and it reminded me of a few posts I have seen which have basically been ' been there, discussed that, now heres the thread, don't bore us anymore'. I hoped to make it clear that I was just hijacking this thread to vent an opinion unrelated to the main topic and that in no way was I poking at you. I quoted your links to get the general idea across. It probably would have been best to actually find the posts in question and quote them...but I was horny and my judgment tends to get a bit clouded when I'm in that state.
I apologise sincerely for any undue coldness to your dinner and make it up to you by saying you have the best looking shed I have ever seen.
Casanova
For me, personality always wins over looks, although looks do (of course!) have some influence too. This was brought home to me recently when I was looking at the profile of a couple and perusing her pictures, and at the time I thought "I could NEVER sleep with her because she does not turn me on with her looks." Anyway, a few weeks later I got to meet the couple in the pub, and she was very very nice to talk to, and her personality definitely turned me on! Not too long after that, Nicky and I played with them and had a good time. So that was "case closed" for me - personality wins in that situation!
Having said that, it does rather depend on the situation and how much chance you actually get to know someone. If I was at a swinging party (which Nicky and I will be on Sat) and saw an absolutely gorgeous and horny looking woman, and managed to persuade her to come and play, then since I wouldn't actually have had chance to really get to know much about her personality, then it would be the looks that carried the day!
Let's face it - everyone would ideally like their play-partners to have both looks and personality. But it entirely depends on how you go about meeting your play-partners as to which is more important, as well as the fact that everyone is different and rates looks and personality differently. And that is the glory of swinging! Everyone is different, which means there is always a chance of finding the sort of person or people that you are looking for.
Russell
Having said that, it does rather depend on the situation and how much chance you actually get to know someone. If I was at a swinging party (which Nicky and I will be on Sat) and saw an absolutely gorgeous and horny looking woman, and managed to persuade her to come and play, then since I wouldn't actually have had chance to really get to know much about her personality, then it would be the looks that carried the day!
Let's face it - everyone would ideally like their play-partners to have both looks and personality. But it entirely depends on how you go about meeting your play-partners as to which is more important, as well as the fact that everyone is different and rates looks and personality differently. And that is the glory of swinging! Everyone is different, which means there is always a chance of finding the sort of person or people that you are looking for.
Russell
I would meet up with anyonewho I could get along socially with. After all, when I do meet someone, it is not with the sole intent to shag. Therefore, me meeting someone is based purely on personality.
Would I meet an ugly old crow if that ugly old crow held good conversation, absolutely I would. Would we shag - definately not.
Would I meet an ugly old crow if that ugly old crow held good conversation, absolutely I would. Would we shag - definately not.
I am not sure I really understand what constitutes "good looks" .
I have lost count of the times I have been in social contact with ladies I have not initially thought were conventionally attractive but as I have grown to know their personaility I have also found myself noticing attractive physical features about them, it may be a smile , their lips or eyes or bum(yesI am stil a perv .lol) or even just a sensual manner in the way they move and hold postures .
I guess I am saying its a little like taking the glasses off the secretary in as much as it's a ..."why Miss jones you are beautiful" revelation as one matches the inner beauty with the outer beauty.
Does anybody know what I am trying to say .. here ..lol
I think I am saying that you cannot judge true beauty until you now someone inside and out.
So my votes both(incase I hadn't made that clear )
I have lost count of the times I have been in social contact with ladies I have not initially thought were conventionally attractive but as I have grown to know their personaility I have also found myself noticing attractive physical features about them, it may be a smile , their lips or eyes or bum(yesI am stil a perv .lol) or even just a sensual manner in the way they move and hold postures .
I guess I am saying its a little like taking the glasses off the secretary in as much as it's a ..."why Miss jones you are beautiful" revelation as one matches the inner beauty with the outer beauty.
Does anybody know what I am trying to say .. here ..lol
I think I am saying that you cannot judge true beauty until you now someone inside and out.
So my votes both(incase I hadn't made that clear
) Quote by one guy from kent
so would you guys/gals meet up (for sex) :shock: without knowing what a member of this site loks like just because you get along with them?
i never meet anyone for sex no matter what they look like or how well i get on with them online cause offen people look and act totally diffarent in real life, but yes i would meet swomeone for a drink and see how we got on based on their personaqilty only
Sex God
I go for looks first.....but if they can't hold up a conversation.....i'll get my shag and make a quick exit.
:shock: :shock: makes note to buff up her intellectual conversational ability
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