Order of importance .... Hugs Clare, plenty of hot drinks, hot water bottle and nurofen .... and rest up well.
As Morbius said I suffer terribly, simple things like getting out of bed have me in tears and that recent op I had never found a cause for it, so I'm at a loss really.
If you can stand it then get Steve to massage your back with some oil (if you have any essential oils then geranium or rose are ideal) in long sweeping strokes from neck to bum ..... and you can massage the stomach area but only gently and with circular clockwise motionson the person. Lavender will help relax you but isn't to everyones taste "smell".
Hope you feel better during the day ..
misschief you look so sexy when your angry
but i was only joking honest
misschief
i never wasone much for pain but it was a pleasure to get spanked by you :smitten:
Whilst I agree with the side of your post, it does not mean we do not have our own problems that we suffer? For instance it is emotions we cannot express, and if you have ever seen a man suffering from the real big breakdown that makes him sob, possibly for the first time since he was 7 or 8, you will know what I mean. It is ok to say it is fine for a guy to cry, but it dont come easy. Men also have major stress levels because of competing with others, it is the natural way we work. along with all the things that have been taken for granted over the years, it is difficult for us all in different ways.
I think women have the most complimentary way to our needs and vice versa. I dont know how many times i have felt close to another person, but NOTHING can ever come as close as when you are in the arms of a woman....the only thing close is your mum, but the one you are intimate with, is so much a deeper thing, that we often do not realise how special that is.
Sorry if it sounds a moan or a poke at your post, but i though a view from the other side would be of help? When you next get a chance, really talk deep with your guy, and ask him about his wishes and desires he had, and how he moved them because he had to? My biggest aspiration was always to work as a vet, because I love anials for their unconditional love to us as their owners...but being from a mining/railway enviroment I was snubbed and held back. being cheated on EVERY corner sure starts the burden off early, but then we cant really go and cry it off because although it seems to be so easy, many fellas just cant release the inner sadness....
Sorry, a bit OTT but feeling delicate myself this morning...
XXXXXX
Rocky
Rocky. If I wasn't a bloke, I'd give you a hug mate.
You say that it is difficult for men to express their feelings, but I think you have expressed yourself in a way that most of us men would love to be able to. I love my wife and to be with her is a wonderful feeling, and she has a way of getting me to say things I feel.
But what you said sums up what a lot of us blokes are feeling.
I really have to concur with Rockys' post above. I was going to write something similar myself but Rocky has reminded me of the psychology of male loneliness.
For males as they grow up they move and seperate psychologically from their mothers. This is healthy and those that don't remain a very odd bunch as you can imagine. This dosen't happen with the mothers and daughters who remain psychologically close. Men however experience a sense of seperation and loss and because of this pain they tend to hide this vulnerability, which they carry as a psychic scar, by burying their feelings and acting 'manly'. In effect they suppress their feminine and feeling sides of their psyche. However, women are far more fortunate, in that they do not have this wound and are able to connect with other women and share and express their feelings. The most obvious way for the male to achieve this closeness again is through the intimate contact of a loving partner. That is, if he is fortunate enough to find one.
Now this condition of the male is not all as black and white as I have described it. We all have within each of us elements of both male and female. Many men endevour to heal this psychic rift within themselves and embrace their feminine side. I count myself amongst them. It's just that there has evolved a tendancy in western culture, with it's partriarchal values and ridged social mores that have defined the masculine condition we inhabit as men, which makes it so difficult to address.
As Rocky has stated there are all sorts of pressures on men. We are expected to behave in certain ways, be competitive, aggressive, tough and put on a front while all the time we are hurting inside. Because in essence we feel we have lost forever that one very special relationship which gave us closeness and warmth, that which we had with our mothers.
So ladies, although we may not bleed visibly on the outside, as men, we carry deep inside us wounds which we silently and painfully keep to ourselves.
LC
Just to lighten the mood...
A study conducted by UCLA's Department of Psychiatry has revealed that the kind of male face a woman finds attractive can differ depending on where she is in her menstrual cycle.
For instance, if she is ovulating she is attracted to men with rugged and masculine features.
However, if she is menstruating, or menopausal, she is more prone to be attracted to a man with scissors lodged in his temple and a bat jammed up his ass while he is on fire.
Further studies are expected
Silky xxx
One of the biggest problems men have to deal with is being constantly beaten up by women over their problems. The psychological cruelties of being despised for something we can do nothing about, looked upon as inferiors because we supposedly do not suffer enough, and being bombarded with incessant barrages of "you don't know what it's like" a million times a day, are very difficult to bear.
You're right, we DON'T know what it's like, and we never WILL know what it's like no matter how much you complain, so please stop trying to punish us for it because it's not our fault and there is nothing we can do about it.
So , it feels much like that buff envelope from the taxman dropping onto the doormat ? :fuckinghell:
Ah nope - I've had PMT and it wasn't as bad as the corresponces from HM's Collectors
And the depth of my love for her means i dont have to physically 'feel' the pain, i can empathise with her, and all you who suffer :(
