I would be interested to know members views on the above.
I know throughout history this has not been uncommon amongst all levels of society. Given the propensity for 3 somes amongst members, would they consider this as a permananent arrangement?
Are there any members that live this way?
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Menage a trois.
Sex God
Obviously I can only speak for us but we dont do repeat performances. It's our way of looking after us.
OK first yes I have lived in a MFF status a number of times for varying periods of time, however this has been circumstances arising from friendships and swinging, on each occasion I have been in a relationship with only my partner, Sasha, the other girl has just been a friend staying with us and no more than that, yes I had sex with both the friend and my partner and my partner had sex with both of us, but the only relationship going on was between me and Sasha and not me and the other girl, Sasha felt the same way about the other girl, just a friend we have sex with, because we are swingers, had we not all been swingers the other girl would have just stayed with us as a friend.
I think to answer your question you might be better going to a site where the people have more than one partner as a general lifestyle, some orthadox mormons for instance, some Arabs as another example.
True I do know of some swingers who live in 3some situations but it is less common in swinging as it is in vanilla lifestyles and is normally more in the format of my own situation, swingers living together and having sex together without a relationship just as Fuck Buddies do in swinging.
The swinging lifestyle brings all sorts of scenarios which are less common into reality, I used to regularly have sex with 2 sisters, they never touched each other but I played with them both in the same bed at the same time, I have had sex with 5 girls at the same time who were "best friends" (is that a boast, damned right it is I want the whole world to know ...... giggles
I think to answer your question you might be better going to a site where the people have more than one partner as a general lifestyle, some orthadox mormons for instance, some Arabs as another example.
True I do know of some swingers who live in 3some situations but it is less common in swinging as it is in vanilla lifestyles and is normally more in the format of my own situation, swingers living together and having sex together without a relationship just as Fuck Buddies do in swinging.
The swinging lifestyle brings all sorts of scenarios which are less common into reality, I used to regularly have sex with 2 sisters, they never touched each other but I played with them both in the same bed at the same time, I have had sex with 5 girls at the same time who were "best friends" (is that a boast, damned right it is I want the whole world to know ...... giggles
Warming the Bed
Quote by Onthebeach_1
I would be interested to know members views on the above.
I know throughout history this has not been uncommon amongst all levels of society. Given the propensity for 3 somes amongst members, would they consider this as a permananent arrangement?
Are there any members that live this way?
I don't live that way myself (but would like to).
This is not something that everyone would be comfortable with, but it can be done. The word you are looking for here is Polyamory.
One of my regular partners lives with two other people, one of whom she is in a civil partnership with. That seems to have worked for them for getting on for a decade or more.
Casanova
Interesting to see the replies from Mids and Funlovers. I think it illustrates the point quite clearly - a lot of swingers seem to have permament arrangements or contacts they will meet repeatedly, but NSA is the name of the game and everything remains light. Emotional involvement is almost in swinging.
For sure, people that enjoy multiple/parallel relationships sometimes come to swinging tangentially - I am one of them myself. Just by chatting in the chatrooms I have come across a few that had been involved in long-term *relationship* threesomes and foursomes at some point in their life and are keen to get involved again. The shared sentiment I get from them though is that most don't appreciate the more carnal/rutting side of swinging. I can relate to that, for me so far it has been a type of compromise... eg. I would love to be taken in by a couple - but failing that I will settle for a good threesome ;)
For sure, people that enjoy multiple/parallel relationships sometimes come to swinging tangentially - I am one of them myself. Just by chatting in the chatrooms I have come across a few that had been involved in long-term *relationship* threesomes and foursomes at some point in their life and are keen to get involved again. The shared sentiment I get from them though is that most don't appreciate the more carnal/rutting side of swinging. I can relate to that, for me so far it has been a type of compromise... eg. I would love to be taken in by a couple - but failing that I will settle for a good threesome ;)
Quote by Onthebeach_1
I would be interested to know members views on the above.
I know throughout history this has not been uncommon amongst all levels of society. Given the propensity for 3 somes amongst members, would they consider this as a permananent arrangement?
Are there any members that live this way?
Yes I would, I even know who I want to add, but my wife would not want her friends to know, or share a bed with the lady.
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Interesting to see the replies from Mids and Funlovers. I think it illustrates the point quite clearly - a lot of swingers seem to have permament arrangements or contacts they will meet repeatedly, but NSA is the name of the game and everything remains light. Emotional involvement is almost in swinging.
For sure, people that enjoy multiple/parallel relationships sometimes come to swinging tangentially - I am one of them myself. Just by chatting in the chatrooms I have come across a few that had been involved in long-term *relationship* threesomes and foursomes at some point in their life and are keen to get involved again. The shared sentiment I get from them though is that most don't appreciate the more carnal/rutting side of swinging. I can relate to that, for me so far it has been a type of compromise... eg. I would love to be taken in by a couple - but failing that I will settle for a good threesome ;)
Very interesting, i take your point in respect of the carnal/rutting aspect however I assume you would still bring others into the equation if you wanted NSA extras!
Personally, i find it a very attractive lifestyle choice, in the context that it is not a substitute for swinging, but perhaps just another facet of an individuals own and shared lifestyle.
Orgasminator
I would never rule something like this out, I like to think I am quite open minded, but Im also a realist.
The odds of any two people being compatible enough to form a long term relationship are high, to find another person who then has to both suit each of the individuals and fit into the existing dynamic must be astronomical :shock:
While I am sure it happens it must be a very difficult goal to achieve, possibly more likely to occur successfully by chance than planning.
The odds of any two people being compatible enough to form a long term relationship are high, to find another person who then has to both suit each of the individuals and fit into the existing dynamic must be astronomical :shock:
While I am sure it happens it must be a very difficult goal to achieve, possibly more likely to occur successfully by chance than planning.
Casanova
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The odds of any two people being compatible enough to form a long term relationship are high, to find another person who then has to both suit each of the individuals and fit into the existing dynamic must be astronomical :shock:
What you are describing there is a perfect triangle... Not many live-in threesomes are like that, and to be honest they don't have to be. I don't think this equal involvement with everyone is something people specifically aspire to - as you say it is not realistic but also in general it is not a good idea to pre-prescribe the level and type of involvement for each party. Usually the way these relationship groups form/grow is when existing partners introduce new lovers, who -initially at least- are only their own. It is surprisingly easy to slot into existing dynamics if everybody is on the right key, though deplorably dissonant when even a single person is not. But yes, I would agree that this is not something you can plan for.
JOOI, how long is a long-term relationship?
Orgasminator
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JOOI, how long is a long-term relationship?
for me.....any in the winter time as a night lasts a lot longer :lol2:
Im the wrong person to voice an opinion, its over 10 years since I realised thats not what I am looking for, not in a conventional sense anyway.
Sex God
3somes are great, but they are a one off.
Casanova
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JOOI, how long is a long-term relationship?
for me.....any in the winter time as a night lasts a lot longer :lol2:
In this respect Fraser what you wrote further up about high odds etc make sense, coming from you. But I think a lot of people that are attracted to this type setup are geared for relationships - long-term ones, life-long ones if lucky enough. It is just a different type of turn-on, if you like. But yes, this also is not commitment "in a conventional sense".
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We havent gone as far as a three-sme yet, and may never do but I can imagine that if it happened more than a one off with the same person it may start to effect a relationship
Even one-offs can and do affect a relationship! For better, for worse. It doesn't necessarily mean that repeat meets would affect a relationship more, no more or less than a series of one-offs or even a single one.
A lot of couples engineer their play in different ways to protect their relationship, and I respect that as a priority. But I also believe that if everybody was open and honest about their wants and desires and eager to communicate them, falling in love with others would not be seen like the threat it is. What do you people think? I think that monogamy rules, even in swinging ;)
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I think my definition of swinging precludes emotional attachment.
I know I could shag anybody anywhere anytime and minx wouldn't turn a hair.
I also know that emotional attachment or dependency would hurt her deeply.
Good point, well made, that's exactly how me and my other half think and operate too Ben :thumbup:
PS: You've shagged everyone here anyway haven't you?
Sex God
Quote by Onthebeach_1
I would be interested to know members views on the above.
I know throughout history this has not been uncommon amongst all levels of society. Given the propensity for 3 somes amongst members, would they consider this as a permananent arrangement?
Are there any members that live this way?
Tried it, didn't work. My ex-husband now lives with the other woman.
I was absolutely gutted/distraught/insert other bad adjectives. However, I met someone else and we're getting married in January. So, all's well that ends well
Quote by Freckledbird
I would be interested to know members views on the above.
I know throughout history this has not been uncommon amongst all levels of society. Given the propensity for 3 somes amongst members, would they consider this as a permananent arrangement?
Are there any members that live this way?
Tried it, didn't work. My ex-husband now lives with the other woman.
I was absolutely gutted/distraught/insert other bad adjectives. However, I met someone else and we're getting married in January. So, all's well that ends well
:bounce:
Dave_Notts
Quote by Dave__Notts
I would be interested to know members views on the above.
I know throughout history this has not been uncommon amongst all levels of society. Given the propensity for 3 somes amongst members, would they consider this as a permananent arrangement?
Are there any members that live this way?
Tried it, didn't work. My ex-husband now lives with the other woman.
I was absolutely gutted/distraught/insert other bad adjectives. However, I met someone else and we're getting married in January. So, all's well that ends well
:bounce:
Dave_Notts
Surely you knew about it when the invite arrived Dave?
Oh.... ermm..... sorry....
;)
Sex God
Quote by Cubes
I would be interested to know members views on the above.
I know throughout history this has not been uncommon amongst all levels of society. Given the propensity for 3 somes amongst members, would they consider this as a permananent arrangement?
Are there any members that live this way?
Tried it, didn't work. My ex-husband now lives with the other woman.
I was absolutely gutted/distraught/insert other bad adjectives. However, I met someone else and we're getting married in January. So, all's well that ends well
:bounce:
Dave_Notts
Surely you knew about it when the invite arrived Dave?
Oh.... ermm..... sorry....
;)
Ooooooo you are a naughty Cube!
