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Might be married but am genuine and want to meet for NSA fun
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Sex God
Just be honest and stick to your guns.
Sex God
Hello and :welcome: to the forum!
I think that being honest about why you're here is good. I would just be clear on your profile what you're looking for but also a brief explanation of why.
There are some folk who will not play with a married man but there are plenty who will. I think being upfront is generally the best policy though.
Nola x
I think that being honest about why you're here is good. I would just be clear on your profile what you're looking for but also a brief explanation of why.
There are some folk who will not play with a married man but there are plenty who will. I think being upfront is generally the best policy though.
Nola x
Sexlightened
Been there, done that, and lied through my back teeth about it.
Fortunately, am now really single.*
However, I found that when I was truthful (-ish), I was more successful than when I told big fat porkies. Not a lot, just more.
Good luck, whatever your tactic.
Phil
* or am I?
Fortunately, am now really single.*
However, I found that when I was truthful (-ish), I was more successful than when I told big fat porkies. Not a lot, just more.
Good luck, whatever your tactic.
Phil
* or am I?
Quote by phildunn
Fortunately, am now really single.*
* or am I?
Before you joke about this, you may wish to read the site AUP.....
Quote by AUP
Your account shall be terminated immediately .....
......Holding an account type that is deceitful to others.
So as Clint Eastwood once said, Do you feel lucky? Well do ya?
On a lighter note, and this is a conversation that's been held over and over in the chatrooms. Many of the women in there are of the opinion that if somebodies wife isn't interested in sex, then the problem could be the somebody himself. Now if that was the case, why would anybody on here be interested in meeting them. Not my opinion, I'm just the messenger.
Sex God
Quote by Ian
Your account shall be terminated immediately .....
......Holding an account type that is deceitful to others.
So as Clint Eastwood once said, Do you feel lucky? Well do ya?
On a lighter note, and this is a conversation that's been held over and over in the chatrooms. Many of the women in there are of the opinion that if somebodies wife isn't interested in sex, then the problem could be the somebody himself. Now if that was the case, why would anybody on here be interested in meeting them. Not my opinion, I'm just the messenger.
I can't help feeling this is a little harsh.
Firstly, unless I'm missing something, I fail to see the relevance of the quote you've referred to. He states quite clearly that he's married, so he's not being deceitful.
Secondly while it is true that some might interpret his motives in a particular way, others may not, and may form a completely different opinion.
It's not important whether everyone approves, or is of a similar mind. What is important is that the information is there for people to make an informed choice. Being honest allows all parties the chance to come to a mutually agreeable position.
Quote by bbw_lover
Firstly, unless I'm missing something, I fail to see the relevance of the quote you've referred to. He states quite clearly that he's married, so he's not being deceitful.
Yes you are missing something....
The original poster of this thread c9plus did say that he was married. My quote of the AUP was for the benefit of phildunn
Quote by phildunn
Fortunately, am now really single.*
* or am I?
I merely made sure that this member was aware of the full impications of his statement, whether it was a lighthearted quip, or actually said to cast doubt into his genuine status.
Just wish I could get the chance and not be judged. Might have been an error at the time but wife is not as sensual as me and really isnt interested.
Was hoping to meet some chilled people that enjoy sex. Surely there must be married women on here doing the same as me.
Spose it Boo Hoo and going blind and repetitive strain injury on my wrist!
I am in the south so ladies I now need love and affection...
Was hoping to meet some chilled people that enjoy sex. Surely there must be married women on here doing the same as me.
Spose it Boo Hoo and going blind and repetitive strain injury on my wrist!
I am in the south so ladies I now need love and affection...
You would be better off joining an adultery site. I used one last summer and it was quite good. Married women meeting married men discreetly etc. Exactly what it said on the tin.
Swingers have their own code of conduct, and many don't like being enveigled into adultery and cheating. Others are fine with it.
Swingers have their own code of conduct, and many don't like being enveigled into adultery and cheating. Others are fine with it.
Sex God
Quote by Ian
Firstly, unless I'm missing something, I fail to see the relevance of the quote you've referred to. He states quite clearly that he's married, so he's not being deceitful.
Yes you are missing something....
The original poster of this thread c9plus did say that he was married. My quote of the AUP was for the benefit of phildunn
Quote by phildunn
Fortunately, am now really single.*
* or am I?
I merely made sure that this member was aware of the full impications of his statement, whether it was a lighthearted quip, or actually said to cast doubt into his genuine status.
Sorry my mistake.
duncan, you are right of course..but I can't help but notice that it's mostly men who get this sort of criticism..when a woman is playing away without her husband's consent, most people (the men anyway) seem prepared to close an eye... or at least cut her some slack, which does not seem to happen with men.
Quote by Melting_pot
duncan, you are right of course..but I can't help but notice that it's mostly men who get this sort of criticism..when a woman is playing away without her husband's consent, most people (the men anyway) seem prepared to close an eye... or at least cut her some slack, which does not seem to happen with men.
Thats true enough.
Double standards there I think.
Any kind of deceipt involving your partnet is wrong. That maybe being a bit moralistic but...We would never openly meet someone who is married, and their wife does not know.
I think it is wrong, and does not bode well for a good marriage at all.
I am one of those who say they will not knowingly meet married men. My reason is that last year, I did meet a married man; twice for a drink and once overnight. He assured me that his wife didn't care what he got up to and he would be careful.
So the day after our overnight tryst (!) I get several funny phone calls to my mobile (phone rings, private number and then no one speaks when I answer). I then get a txt from an unrecognised number telling me that ******* is a cheat and a liar and I was welcome to him.
I don't want this type of hassle and don't want any risk to my home life, so that is why I don't want to meet married men.
Its difficult as there seems to be quite a lot of them in my age group.
So I dont think its the man himself thats as c9plus describes but just the situation. I did believe that married men would be a better option for me as I only wanted NSA fun.
I chat to lots of married men that I would love to meet but dont because of the risk to me.
So I have been no help at all to you c9 but have given you my reason and hope you understand.
I also have to say that we women are more astute than ever given credit for and if your man is "playing away" without your permission- we know!!!
Wench xxxx
So the day after our overnight tryst (!) I get several funny phone calls to my mobile (phone rings, private number and then no one speaks when I answer). I then get a txt from an unrecognised number telling me that ******* is a cheat and a liar and I was welcome to him.
I don't want this type of hassle and don't want any risk to my home life, so that is why I don't want to meet married men.
Its difficult as there seems to be quite a lot of them in my age group.
So I dont think its the man himself thats as c9plus describes but just the situation. I did believe that married men would be a better option for me as I only wanted NSA fun.
I chat to lots of married men that I would love to meet but dont because of the risk to me.
So I have been no help at all to you c9 but have given you my reason and hope you understand.
I also have to say that we women are more astute than ever given credit for and if your man is "playing away" without your permission- we know!!!
Wench xxxx
Sex God
Quote by kentswingers777
duncan, you are right of course..but I can't help but notice that it's mostly men who get this sort of criticism..when a woman is playing away without her husband's consent, most people (the men anyway) seem prepared to close an eye... or at least cut her some slack, which does not seem to happen with men.
Thats true enough.
Double standards there I think.
Any kind of deceipt involving your partnet is wrong. That maybe being a bit moralistic but...We would never openly meet someone who is married, and their wife does not know.
I think it is wrong, and does not bode well for a good marriage at all.
Spot on!
However, back to topic, I dont necessarily think that I should judge anyone who is swinging/playing without their partners knowledge or consent. Just think about the judgemental things non-swingers probably think about us, and how do we respond? We probably say something along the lines of they dont understand swinging and know the full story so how can they judge us? So what gives us the right to judge someone playing away?
Personally, I would not swing/play behind my hubby's back, but I am lucky enough to be in a relationship where we can talk, and luckly we enjoy the same things sexually. I dont judge anyone who is 'playing away' because I have never been in their shoes and dont think I have that right.
We are all adults and if the person clearly states they are in a relationship, or are married, then at least I can make an informed decision to play or not to play
