Turning the tables, from my own experiences, I have had guys who are big, I've had guys who were skinny and their weight made very little difference to their sexual performance, I imagine the same goes for women, some are good and some not so good regardless of their size and shape. It is a lot more to do with confidence and experience than what you look like.
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I am a BW and hate the thought that i may be thought of as an easy shag.
Do guys actually think that BW's are an easy shag???Serious question guys.
Gill x
Since its a serious question I'll give you a serious answer, and that is, yes they do.
The irony is that in fact larger women are generally harder to get into bed, I guess because they maybe feel a little more self concious and therefore need to be more reassured that the person really wants them rather than just "diving in" without a care.
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Stop!!! Stop right their!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Ive been a size 10 and am now size 18
No way am i more self concious, completely the opposite!!!
Im happy with my size and if anyone else isnt, that is there problem not mine! If my weight started to affect my healt then id do something about it, but id ont see my size as anything to be concious of.
In my experience we "lager women " have more confidence and generally feel better about ourselves than any size 10 who is constantlyon a diet and only has lettuce leaves for breakfast , lucnh and dinner. We know how to enjoy ourselvs with both food and sex!!
Rog and I love that parody too - he has it as his www link 
As you might have guessed I am a BBW, and I have to say I agree wholeheartedly with Foxylady in that I have bags more confidence now than when I was smaller but eating like a sparrow and felt totally down on myself. I take care of my appearance and make the most of what I've got - which anyone who saw my outfit for the Notts Munch will verify lol :twisted:
I love myself for who I am (sorry if that sounds vain)
Charlotte xx
As you might have guessed I am a BBW, and I have to say I agree wholeheartedly with Foxylady in that I have bags more confidence now than when I was smaller but eating like a sparrow and felt totally down on myself. I take care of my appearance and make the most of what I've got - which anyone who saw my outfit for the Notts Munch will verify lol :twisted:
I love myself for who I am (sorry if that sounds vain)
Charlotte xx
Quote by Bari
I am a BW and hate the thought that i may be thought of as an easy shag.
Do guys actually think that BW's are an easy shag???Serious question guys.
Gill x
Since its a serious question I'll give you a serious answer, and that is, yes they do.
You speak for all men? I don't recall voting for you as my spokesperson :P
Speaking for myself, I've never thought of anyone as an "easy shag".
If you look back and see someone you slept with as being nothing but an "easy shag" then you must ask yourself if you have a heart anymore,if you have a soul anymore.
I think there plenty of free spirited people on this site who love their loving and love their lovers whatever their age/build/ I said before its the person most of all,caring about them and them caring about you weither its a one off or a lifelong commitment.
I think there plenty of free spirited people on this site who love their loving and love their lovers whatever their age/build/ I said before its the person most of all,caring about them and them caring about you weither its a one off or a lifelong commitment.
I totally agree with fruity cake on this one.
Think how it'd feel to hear that you'd been "just a
" to somebody, I have been in this situation when I slept with a guy thinkin it'd get me over mr naughty (before we got back together) only to meet one of my best male mates that night who informed me that the guy had told everyone at the footie about it and that he was just after his hole that day.
Thankfully I didnt have any feelings for him but that wasnt the point. I dunno about others but where I stay if things like that happen people start to think your some sort of slapper or something.
Think how it'd feel to hear that you'd been "just a
" to somebody, I have been in this situation when I slept with a guy thinkin it'd get me over mr naughty (before we got back together) only to meet one of my best male mates that night who informed me that the guy had told everyone at the footie about it and that he was just after his hole that day. Thankfully I didnt have any feelings for him but that wasnt the point. I dunno about others but where I stay if things like that happen people start to think your some sort of slapper or something.
Quote by pendant
I am a BW and hate the thought that i may be thought of as an easy shag.
Do guys actually think that BW's are an easy shag???Serious question guys.
Gill x
Since its a serious question I'll give you a serious answer, and that is, yes they do.
You speak for all men? I don't recall voting for you as my spokesperson :P
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No, as I explained I speak from my experience of BBW sites (and observing the attitudes of guys on them) and from the experiences related to me by BBW women that I've known.
Quote by Flirty Fruitcake
Women are wonderful weither they are an 8 or an 18 or a PERSON ,who SHE is is the most wonderful thing of all
How's that for a PHD in PC then
What - that it was just an insincere line?
I might have many faults Musky but I do try to post truthfully my friend. :wink:
Theres no way of knowing why you feel it about who you feel it just do if you do,thats all.
And to quote your mate :It ain't why - it just is.
I don't doubt YOUR sincerity, I'm just an old cynic. You must admit it READS straight out of the Peoples Republic of Brent PC handbook. Personally being a vacuous empty-headed inane male I love slim, can handle chunky, booby, and wobbly, but I call a halt at the Sherman tank! Being SO prejudiced I regret it's my deficiency but I wouldn't take the time to know in the inner person. Applies to male of female btw, I never could take Cyril Smith seriously, made me feel ill just to watch him on TV.
Anyway, I would much rather hear it said that age was no barrier rather than size, it would engage with my own fears and doubts. :wink: :wink:
I'm a fairly typical brain washed male. Based on appearances alone, sure, I'm more inclined to go for slim to average women (though my definitition of slim to average seems a bit different to the definition provided by society today). Having said that I've got to know women who fall outside of what I'd typically go for and I've found them to be amazingly sexy women. Sexual attraction and physical attraction aren't the same.
Quote by Bari
No, as I explained I speak from my experience of BBW sites (and observing the attitudes of guys on them) and from the experiences related to me by BBW women that I've known.
Well if that's what you meant you could have avoided all this by saying "some of them do" instead of by implication tarring all males with the same brush :P
Orgasminator
Quote by musketeer
Personally being a vacuous empty-headed inane male I love slim, can handle chunky, booby, and wobbly...
OI! I've never knowingly been handled by you! :shock:
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Orgasminator
Quote by Bari
I prefer large women to slim women, and I defend any man to prefer slim women to large, as I say, each to their own.
Exactly... no one can help who they find attractive. GT is a boobs man... which is a good job seeing as I'm well stacked in that area. My ex prefers a perky arse... my Dad has alway stated that he's a leg man. A friend of ours states he gets turned on by tarty looking women... my hairdresser Peter loves hunky men... Vive la difference and a pox on anyone who says otherwise!
Me? I'd be very happy with George Clooney AND Brad Pitt... GT promises he'll keep us well supplied with refreshment... on the proviso that I'd return the favour with Pamela Anderson and Jennifer Aniston... I said ok... but only as long as I get to play with Jennifer Aniston as well! :twisted:
Orgasminator
Quote by musketeer
There's still time......just
Go on then... I'll bite... why just?
Sex God
Quote by Bari
No, as I explained I speak from my experience of BBW sites (and observing the attitudes of guys on them) and from the experiences related to me by BBW women that I've known.
The politically correct euphemism BBW is further evidence of the herd mentality of the big is beautiful brigade: The idea that a woman is beautiful just because she is big.
Self-praise is no recommendation, and those who label themselves in this way are trying to tell people what to think. I don't see that it's any different from the slim is beautiful media brainwashing you complain about.
Beautiful women who happen to be big don't need the BBW label, and would be insulted if you applied it to them. Beautiful means different things to different people and it means many things to me personally, but those things don't include being so far up yourself you have to wave a placard in the air saying 'hey, look at me, I'm beautiful', as if I were too stupid to work it out for myself.
Quote by musketeer
Women are wonderful weither they are an 8 or an 18 or a PERSON ,who SHE is is the most wonderful thing of all
How's that for a PHD in PC then
What - that it was just an insincere line?
I might have many faults Musky but I do try to post truthfully my friend. :wink:
Theres no way of knowing why you feel it about who you feel it just do if you do,thats all.
And to quote your mate :It ain't why - it just is.
I don't doubt YOUR sincerity, I'm just an old cynic. You must admit it READS straight out of the Peoples Republic of Brent PC handbook. Personally being a vacuous empty-headed inane male I love slim, can handle chunky, booby, and wobbly, but I call a halt at the Sherman tank! Being SO prejudiced I regret it's my deficiency but I wouldn't take the time to know in the inner person. Applies to male of female btw, I never could take Cyril Smith seriously, made me feel ill just to watch him on TV.
Anyway, I would much rather hear it said that age was no barrier rather than size, it would engage with my own fears and doubts. :wink: :wink:
NO I DO NOT ADMIT IT READS STRAIGHT OUT OF THE PEOPLES REPUBLIC OF BRENT PC HANDBOOK!
It reads from my own sincere opinion!
What is it that YOU gain Musketeer from making ME look like I DON'T mean what I write?
I've shared encounters with slim women - I've shared encounters with larger women - I've totally enjoyed and valued each of those statement you singled out for scorn was based on that FACT.
Quote by Flirty Fruitcake
What is it that YOU gain Musketeer from making ME look like I DON'T mean what I write?
'ere, you lookin' for a fight or somefing?
When did I suggest you might not mean what you say?
Might say I don't like what you say, might say I think what you say is odd, might say it reads out of the manual, but never did I say you didn't mean it. As a matter of fact I am a strong supporter of people being able to say and do whatever they like. Civil liberties R us.
Quote by musketeer
What is it that YOU gain Musketeer from making ME look like I DON'T mean what I write?
'ere, you lookin' for a fight or somefing?
When did I suggest you might not mean what you say?
Might say I don't like what you say, might say I think what you say is odd, might say it reads out of the manual, but never did I say you didn't mean it. As a matter of fact I am a strong supporter of people being able to say and do whatever they like. Civil liberties R us.
No I am not looking for a I misunderstood you - it is hard to "read" the tone of some posts - I've been mis-read myself you think what I say is odd and that it comes out of a manual you think it but please don't try to get the rest of the board to doubt what I sincerely am.
I really don't have any grudge toward you or anyone on here - if it got that way I'd have to leave the site for good - I didn't come here for that AND I'm sure you didn't either.
Quote by Flirty Fruitcake
If you think what I say is odd and that it comes out of a manual
I neither think it's odd or that it really came out of manual. The first was a general comment about anyones post, or about any other post of yours, something about freedom of speech, and as to the second I was only joking in the first place.
Quote by Ice Pie
The politically correct euphemism BBW is further evidence of the herd mentality of the big is beautiful brigade: The idea that a woman is beautiful just because she is big.
Self-praise is no recommendation, and those who label themselves in this way are trying to tell people what to think..
Yes, well done Ice Pie, this is exactly what Big G, and indeed I, was saying further up this thread... :roll:
For what its worth.... I would say that the extent to which I fancy a woman depends on how well I know her. If I see a woman from afar, I'm likely to fancy her more if she's thinner (nice boobs, arse etc), but if I've got to know her a bit, then I may well begin to fancy her because of her personality. In effect she becomes a REAL person. Seeing someone from a distance tells you very little about that person, so that sort of attraction is extremely superficial.
What a woman looks like begins to matter much less. As I've been with a few larger ladies now, to be honest, being thinner matters less & less for me. If she looks nice, smile... other bits as mentioned above(!), then without meeting her, that alone would attract me.
And I have met some real stunners (personality & looks) who fit into the "larger" category, & some of them were at the NE Munch. :P :P :P
What a woman looks like begins to matter much less. As I've been with a few larger ladies now, to be honest, being thinner matters less & less for me. If she looks nice, smile... other bits as mentioned above(!), then without meeting her, that alone would attract me.
And I have met some real stunners (personality & looks) who fit into the "larger" category, & some of them were at the NE Munch. :P :P :P
:lol:I can see that there are plenty of perhaps larger ladies who are comfortable with their size and shape and good on em for that!
I would guess there are lots who are perhaps less happy and more self concious.
I did hear of a story of a single guy who met a lady without seeing a picture who, when he met her, he saw that she was much larger than she had previously stated and turned on his heel and walked out of the pub. Shame! Rotter! You might say, however he felt he had been mislead and if he had known he wouldn’t have arranged to travel and meet. No doubt the lady in question was upset and hurt.
The moral of the story should be always be honest in what you are or are looking for. There are plenty of guys that like either slim large or something in between. No need for anyone to set themselves up for a fall.
Reading Fabios thread, it works both ways.
I would guess there are lots who are perhaps less happy and more self concious.
I did hear of a story of a single guy who met a lady without seeing a picture who, when he met her, he saw that she was much larger than she had previously stated and turned on his heel and walked out of the pub. Shame! Rotter! You might say, however he felt he had been mislead and if he had known he wouldn’t have arranged to travel and meet. No doubt the lady in question was upset and hurt.
The moral of the story should be always be honest in what you are or are looking for. There are plenty of guys that like either slim large or something in between. No need for anyone to set themselves up for a fall.
Reading Fabios thread, it works both ways.
