my thoughts on single guys!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

12 Nov 2005

we recieved this message from a single guy!!!!!!!!
if you give me times when your free..i can accom in marylebone..but as for
messing about drinking then nothing happening..well who knoews..i am
clean/geniune and decent looking,will share bag of crisps but not all night
drinking
our reply was................
it`s a real effort 4 us 2 do these single guy meets............. kids/babsitters etc
its way easier 4 us 2 go down a club and find a nice bi fem couple or single guys on tap!!!!!!!!!!!!!
we`re not being funny but u should`ve been honoured that we even thought of meeting 4 a drink & see how things went!!!!!!!!!
we accept that loads of guys think they`re gods gift ....... but me & mike have been married 4 20 years and we r just looking 4 a bit of uncomplicated fun / variety
like to size people up and decide if we can trust people b4 trusting them with our homelife
ok so we got it wrong once .. but thats life and its made us cagier
r we wrong to give this guy an earbashing?????????????? or do single guys with no life have no thought to how much effort couples with kids go to????????????
dawn

12 Nov 2005

Quote by twos_company
we`re not being funny but u should`ve been honoured that we even thought of meeting 4 a drink & see how things went!!!!!!!!!

Pardon??? Sorry but why should they have felt honoured that you would even think of meeting them?? rolleyes

I could say alot more but I wont at this moment in time....
Shireen

12 Nov 2005

so can people read our posts b 4 we finish typing?
single guys think our lives r as easy as theirs...........
having forked out 4 3 lots of baby stitters ........ 2 be let down at the last minute ....we`re just fed up!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

12 Nov 2005

I wouldn't have met him either. His post doesn't seem to show that wants to make much of an effort to get to know you at all and he's assuming that you will want to shag him even before you've met.
Than again, he is one person and I wouldn't label all single men the same - I have met some really lovely single men :inlove:

12 Nov 2005

we`ve met some great single guys

12 Nov 2005

As a single man myself I know that my chances of meeting ladies/couples are slim so you gotta give it 110%.
Lets face it you're not going to go to the expense of hiring a babysitter, rent out a hotel room etc etc if you barely know someone and suspect that he isn't really serious.
It also means that if a genuine guy does email someone who has been stood in/messed around in the past then it is likely that he won't even be considered.
As Dixon of Dock Green once said "It only takes 1 bad apple to spoil the barrel!"

12 Nov 2005

Speaking from a perspective of a single guy, with absolutly no swinging experiance whatsoever, i am totally 'unqualified' to be a voice of reason in this debate... All i will say is that manners and respect cost nothing, and allowing for peoples personal situations is the first and formost thing to be taken into consideration when arranging to hook up... Before anything takes place, i think everyone should be comfey in there own situation, and with each other and those MUST be the honoured by all....
I hope everyone you meet from here on in respects you and your situation....we should never ever take each other for granted.

12 Nov 2005

Quote by Nospiltsecrets
Speaking from a perspective of a single guy, with absolutly no swinging experiance whatsoever, i am totally 'unqualified' to be a voice of reason in this debate... All i will say is that manners and respect cost nothing, and allowing for peoples personal situations is the first and formost thing to be taken into consideration when arranging to hook up... Before anything takes place, i think everyone should be comfey in there own situation, and with each other and those MUST be the honoured by all....
I hope everyone you meet from here on in respects you and your situation....we should never ever take each other for granted.

Well, you seem to have found a pretty good way to get yourself known, nospiltsecrets
wink

How many days have you been here? One?
kiss

I think that if you have a clear idea of what it is you want, the softly softly approach is the best way to go.
And knowing that not everyone who swings will automatically shag anyone anywhere any time is pretty fundamental for a start! :crazy:

12 Nov 2005

I wouldn't have met him either, and I would have replied with something probably quite shitty. However, it is wrong to tar all single guys with the same brush.... this is one arrogant individual, yet your title and some things you say implies you are meaning all single guys. There are MANY single guys on this site who are lovely and it is simply WRONG to imply anything less.

12 Nov 2005

despite being intensely jealous of nosplits youth, looks etc I think his attitude is entirely correct. Hoping that my grovelling will help eventually.......................

12 Nov 2005

Quote by twos_company
we recieved this message from a single guy!!!!!!!!
if you give me times when your free..i can accom in marylebone..but as for
messing about drinking then nothing happening..well who knoews..i am
clean/geniune and decent looking,will share bag of crisps but not all night
drinking
our reply was................
it`s a real effort 4 us 2 do these single guy meets............. kids/babsitters etc
its way easier 4 us 2 go down a club and find a nice bi fem couple or single guys on tap!!!!!!!!!!!!!
we`re not being funny but u should`ve been honoured that we even thought of meeting 4 a drink & see how things went!!!!!!!!!
we accept that loads of guys think they`re gods gift ....... but me & mike have been married 4 20 years and we r just looking 4 a bit of uncomplicated fun / variety
like to size people up and decide if we can trust people b4 trusting them with our homelife
ok so we got it wrong once .. but thats life and its made us cagier
r we wrong to give this guy an earbashing?????????????? or do single guys with no life have no thought to how much effort couples with kids go to????????????
dawn

With his attitude, I am suprised you bothered to replying at all
His reply to you shows not patience and undersatnding, therefor why should he expect to receive the same? Forget about him, plenty more fish and all that.
In my expereince there are some very nice thoughtfull single (?) guys out there, but cleary hse isnt one fo them

12 Nov 2005

we always try not to be rude and reply 2 mail.............
sometimes we think we`re wasting our breath
but sometimes we hit the jackpot!!!!!!!

12 Nov 2005

it is a double edged sword type of thing....
I can imagine that couples get that kind of thing from guys...I am not going to stand up for that single bloke... remember we are not all the same...
Then again... I know and have bumped into a few couples who do think they are doing US single guys a favour by meeting....so being condersending does swing both ways if you pardon the pun.....
so it is horses for corses..........
i personally have said no to meetings bacause i don't want to feel like any second class citizen....no one deserves that....

12 Nov 2005

Quote by Fallen Angel
Speaking from a perspective of a single guy, with absolutly no swinging experiance whatsoever, i am totally 'unqualified' to be a voice of reason in this debate... All i will say is that manners and respect cost nothing, and allowing for peoples personal situations is the first and formost thing to be taken into consideration when arranging to hook up... Before anything takes place, i think everyone should be comfey in there own situation, and with each other and those MUST be the honoured by all....
I hope everyone you meet from here on in respects you and your situation....we should never ever take each other for granted.

Well, you seem to have found a pretty good way to get yourself known, nospiltsecrets
wink

How many days have you been here? One?
kiss

And he is lovely as well smile

Takes me back when I was fifteen and in a convent school, still fancying men with hair longer than mine.....swoon... redface

12 Nov 2005

Is that the entire message from him - it reads like a part message, and a response to a previous message from yourselves?
Jas
XXX

12 Nov 2005

hi there,.
im new to all this and never met with any couple, so im not talking from experience.
i must say that if a couple agreed to meet me for a drink first to get to know each other that would be totally fine. its the same as going out on a first date, your not expecting anything, its the getting to know you time. where you decide if there is a spark there.

12 Nov 2005

i agree, it does seem a bit fragmented. are people really thick or illiterate or is it just that they put no effort into their posts. If i was a couple or female i dont think i would have sent a reply at all

12 Nov 2005

Quote by bluexxx
I wouldn't have met him either, and I would have replied with something probably quite shitty. However, it is wrong to tar all single guys with the same brush.... this is one arrogant individual, yet your title and some things you say implies you are meaning all single guys. There are MANY single guys on this site who are lovely and it is simply WRONG to imply anything less.

Very true. There are some lovely single guys on the site and a lot of them are always having to prove that they're not like some of the idiots.
They all get tarred with the same brush which often puts people off as there is some legend that all single guys are the same.
It just isn't true. From my experience the good guys far outweigh the bad.
I give most people the benefit of the doubt and have had some not so great experiences but never in a million years would I think they should feel honoured to meet me!

12 Nov 2005

Quote by twos_company
. . . . or single guys on tap!!!!!!!!!!!!!
we`re not being funny but u should`ve been honoured that we even thought of meeting 4 a drink & see how things went!!!!!!!!!

Are you fucking serious ???????????????
You expect to be treated with respect, following an attitude like that ??????????????????
I'm actually one of the few people that doesn't believe respect needs to be earned.
It's my belief that respect should be given as a mtter of courtesy.
It is however, by far the easiest thing in the world to lose.
I think this is probably only about the third or fourth time in 18 months I've used this emoticon, but here - have a fucking shed load :
mad

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:gagged:

12 Nov 2005

Quote by dambuster
I'm actually one of the few people that doesn't believe respect needs to be earned.
It's my belief that respect should be given as a mtter of courtesy.

Dammie
I agree with that. I wouldn't expect anyone who responds to my ad to be able to empathise with how different my life is and its demands, which is why I suppose, I do not have an ad. The single men I have met have been very respectful and non pushy, but that could be because I give the respeect that I expect to get.

12 Nov 2005

Quote by twos_company
we recieved this message from a single guy!!!!!!!!
if you give me times when your free..i can accom in marylebone..but as for
messing about drinking then nothing happening..well who knoews..i am
clean/geniune and decent looking,will share bag of crisps but not all night
drinking
our reply was................
it`s a real effort 4 us 2 do these single guy meets............. kids/babsitters etc
its way easier 4 us 2 go down a club and find a nice bi fem couple or single guys on tap!!!!!!!!!!!!!
we`re not being funny but u should`ve been honoured that we even thought of meeting 4 a drink & see how things went!!!!!!!!!
we accept that loads of guys think they`re gods gift ....... but me & mike have been married 4 20 years and we r just looking 4 a bit of uncomplicated fun / variety
like to size people up and decide if we can trust people b4 trusting them with our homelife
ok so we got it wrong once .. but thats life and its made us cagier
r we wrong to give this guy an earbashing?????????????? or do single guys with no life have no thought to how much effort couples with kids go to????????????
dawn

Look at it from a single guy's point of view. Why should they be honoured you gave him your time and attention?
I'm no psychology student, but venting your frustrations out on him by appearing to reassure yourselves against your own insecurities by belittling others isn't going to make people want to know you. And voicing it on the forums is shooting yourselves in the foot.
The majority of guys who will want to meet now will be those who will repeat what you whinged about above.

12 Nov 2005

some single guys do not use this as a swinging site but more of a quick shag site, as do some couples and females to be fair, but there are many many really nice genuine single guys on here, i have met many, don't let one put you off :thumbup:

12 Nov 2005

Quote by dambuster
. . . . or single guys on tap!!!!!!!!!!!!!
we`re not being funny but u should`ve been honoured that we even thought of meeting 4 a drink & see how things went!!!!!!!!!

Are you fucking serious ???????????????
You expect to be treated with respect, following an attitude like that ??????????????????
I'm actually one of the few people that doesn't believe respect needs to be earned.
It's my belief that respect should be given as a mtter of courtesy.
It is however, by far the easiest thing in the world to lose.
I think this is probably only about the third or fourth time in 18 months I've used this emoticon, but here - have a fucking shed load :
mad

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:gagged:
Absolutely agree with you
Now calm down, everything's going to be OK :therethere: :therethere: :therethere:

12 Nov 2005

i dont think it is any different from meeting someone in a club or at a dogging session.
you want a chat to get to know them and all they want to do is get down to the nitty gritty, well pardon me if i want to find out someones name b4 i set my pride and joy loose into their bits redface

12 Nov 2005

ok maybe honoured was the wrong word but the words were just flowing thru the keyboard as i let off steam!!!!!!!!!!!
it`s hard to get a babysitter so for us 2 try 2 set up something like a social meet /quiet getting to know u drink ...........
mike `ll drink a pint of lager shandy all night as he drives
but they`d rather just have a quick one
like to meet up with guys for a social drink 1st & see how we get on
dawn

12 Nov 2005

That guy was obviously a bit cost concious. Maybe he just wanted to get down to the nitty gritty. But that's been cracking me up for the last 10 mins lol

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12 Nov 2005

Quote by twos_company
ok maybe honoured was the wrong word but the words were just flowing thru the keyboard as i let off steam!!!!!!!!!!!
it`s hard to get a babysitter so for us 2 try 2 set up something like a social meet /quiet getting to know u drink ...........
mike `ll drink a pint of lager shandy all night as he drives
but they`d rather just have a quick one
like to meet up with guys for a social drink 1st & see how we get on
dawn

don't worry about it.... we all let off steam, we have all had people that we don't click with and a lot of guys will understand that you have other commitments....
now change the words you used and we can go back to normality!!!!! kiss

anyway loot forward to seeing you both at a munch sometime... and you can be as social as you like.....
sean xxxxxxxx

13 Nov 2005

I wish the single guys on this site would get a break from being slagged off some time soon!....I know there are some idiots around, but from my personal experience from meets, forums and chat....the majority are nice guys just looking for fun like the rest of us.
If someone PMs me in a way I don't like I either inform a mod or just politely reply back that I am not interested and they usually go away. Just ignore the ones who P**s you off and move on.
I know having kids makes things harder to organise and a pain when things don't go to plan but thats where you should be careful choosing the right guy....I find by getting to know him beforehand by PM or MSN a while before arranging a to see him usually guarantees a successful meet.
Good luck anyway x

13 Nov 2005

What a fantastic game!
I thought Sven would spoil it with loads of substitutions, but he didnt, best game I've seen for ages!

13 Nov 2005

Quote by Amber
I wish the single guys on this site would get a break from being slagged off some time soon!....I know there are some idiots around, but from my personal experience from meets, forums and chat....the majority are nice guys just looking for fun like the rest of us.
Good luck anyway x

Very sensible Amber smile

Most single guys round here are just after fun (and if the single guys weren't here, I probably wouldn't be either :P )
twos_company, Of course there are a few wallys, but there are wallys wherever you go in life.....the clever part is to try and avoid them lol