Sexlightened
i think there should be some where were you can name and shame time wasters we have had to many time wasters now and they have all been single males plz have a name and shame part on here
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Sex God
And just for equality you understand how many single guys have had their time wasted by couples and single ladies ??
Plenty....
Plenty....
Warming the Bed
Quote by Steve
And just for equality you understand how many single guys have had their time wasted by couples and single ladies ??
Plenty....
Jeez ....and I thought I was the only one ;-)
and for Shrep!!!! ...ONLY if they have it turned on!!
Orgasminator
Quote by Dave__Notts
There is a Shrep system on this site. If you arrange your meets through this then feedback can be left on their Shrep if it is turned on.
Just naming and shaming on the public forum is not allowed on this site
Dave_Notts
And there is the crux of the matter - if it's not then there's no-way to leave a comment.
Also the reverse of those that do turn-up and don't have SHrep active.
We've recently arranged a meet via SHrep but it's also a problem if they don't 'accept' the meeting request and then fail to arrive.....
Sex God
think Just naming and shaming is not a good idea....
if some one don t like some body, they could name them n give a bad rep for nothing.
we find the shrep is handy....yes we have had time wasters n very rare we do still get caught out.
now those we not sure of we just say sorry got to many at mo.....
or tell them to put there names down for a social....
do i make sence?
if some one don t like some body, they could name them n give a bad rep for nothing.
we find the shrep is handy....yes we have had time wasters n very rare we do still get caught out.
now those we not sure of we just say sorry got to many at mo.....
or tell them to put there names down for a social....
do i make sence?
Quote by Gufuncouple
There is a Shrep system on this site. If you arrange your meets through this then feedback can be left on their Shrep if it is turned on.
Just naming and shaming on the public forum is not allowed on this site
Dave_Notts
And there is the crux of the matter - if it's not then there's no-way to leave a comment.
Also the reverse of those that do turn-up and don't have SHrep active.
We've recently arranged a meet via SHrep but it's also a problem if they don't 'accept' the meeting request and then fail to arrive.....
Members wanted a system and Shrep was designed in request to that.
The designers had to look at lots of scenarios and this one, IMO, catered for those that wanted a system and those that did not.
Those that wanted a verification system wanted it so that they knew the other person was "OK". So if they are playing with people who do not have the system turned on, then I have to ask myself, do the people complaining about an individual want a system or not, and if they did why are they not using it
Dave_Notts
Quote by twos_company
think Just naming and shaming is not a good idea....
if some one don t like some body, they could name them n give a bad rep for nothing.
we find the shrep is handy....yes we have had time wasters n very rare we do still get caught out.
now those we not sure of we just say sorry got to many at mo.....
or tell them to put there names down for a social....
do i make sence?
You make sense to you and that is all that matters, as long as your system works.
Lots Of people have different ways of doing things to ensure that the people the are meeting are genuine. Verification systems of any kind are only a tool to help you. It will never replace common sense and your gut feeling.
I am glad you have only had very few problems. Yours must work for you :thumbup:
Dave_Notts
The whole point was always not to be able to leave any negative feedback'
I am and always was in favour of a system that allowed members to leave feedback for others.
The only feedback we wanted to see was that the said individual/s had actually turned up for the meet.
There is a two pronged approach for us. IF someone has been on the site for a while and does not activate Shrep, we could possibly ask why, and if they did have it activated and had nothing written on it, that would also make us wonder.
The object of a verification system for us, was simply to show that people had actually turned up for a meet, regardless of whether any play took place or not.
Yes of course it could show that a person turned up for a meet but was actually a total loser, that is something that we would have to find out for ourselves, we just want the chance of a no show to be as limited as possible.
I am and always was in favour of a system that allowed members to leave feedback for others.
The only feedback we wanted to see was that the said individual/s had actually turned up for the meet.
There is a two pronged approach for us. IF someone has been on the site for a while and does not activate Shrep, we could possibly ask why, and if they did have it activated and had nothing written on it, that would also make us wonder.
The object of a verification system for us, was simply to show that people had actually turned up for a meet, regardless of whether any play took place or not.
Yes of course it could show that a person turned up for a meet but was actually a total loser, that is something that we would have to find out for ourselves, we just want the chance of a no show to be as limited as possible.
Sex God
Quote by kentswingers777
There is a two pronged approach for us. IF someone has been on the site for a while and does not activate Shrep, we could possibly ask why,
Why
Quote by Steve
There is a two pronged approach for us. IF someone has been on the site for a while and does not activate Shrep, we could possibly ask why,
Why
Because being ever the cynic on this site, and we all know it is full of time wasters and dreamers, we would just ask that question to ourselves.
You obviously do not agree with that, and that is fine but people have different criterias, and that is the way we look at things.
Of course that does not mean we are right or wrong, but it worked well enough for us on another site, so until it does not work then we will continue to use that as a guide.
Sex God
It's not that I dont agree it's just I wondered why....
I have been here since December 2003 and dont have SHREP activated and wondered what that made me....
I have been here since December 2003 and dont have SHREP activated and wondered what that made me....
Quote by Steve
It's not that I dont agree it's just I wondered why....
I have been here since December 2003 and dont have SHREP activated and wondered what that made me....
It does not make you anything Steve, just our choice to make.
It could work both ways for you, but for us now it is here we aim to use it the same as on the other site we belong too, which btw we have never had a no show, yet on here we have had three, and believe me we check big time.
Sex God
Quote by kentswingers777
There is a two pronged approach for us. IF someone has been on the site for a while and does not activate Shrep, we could possibly ask why,
I'm still struggling to understand why someone who has been here for a while who does not have SHREP enabled would make you ask why....
I dont understand the link between the time spent here and the lack of SHREP on someones profile :confused:
Sex God
Quote by Ben_welshminx
I fit helps steve we dont have shrep enabled either and neither from what i can see do some of the more vociferous contributors to this debate.
A lot would say I'm past help anyway Ben :lol2:
Sex God
I enjoyed the first one but thought going for a third was a little bit of a cash in
Sex God
Just for the record ..... we have never been let down by a single guy, or a single girl for that matter. We have been let down by couples a fair few times but we do arrange to meet more couples than singles so maybe that has something to do with it.
We have shrep enabled, and do look at other peoples shreps (I'm nosey like that). A lack of shrep wouldnt put me off meeting anyone. I think if it did then new members would never get a chance to meet (just my opinion).
I have wished we could name and shame plenty of times. The men pretending to be couples, the people who get shitty when they receive a polite 'thanks, but no thanks', the people who stand you up or get abusive in the chatrooms, blah blah blah.
At the end of the day its the rules and no matter how many threads come on here about naming and shaming, it aint gonna happen!! It's a good thing!! How would you feel if someone named and shamed you when you may not have actually done anything wrong. People disagree and when they do, they get anti and want to slag you off to the world!! There are 2 sides to every story and often only bits of each are fact!!
In my humble opinion, a policy of naming and shaming would go horribly wrong!!
We have shrep enabled, and do look at other peoples shreps (I'm nosey like that). A lack of shrep wouldnt put me off meeting anyone. I think if it did then new members would never get a chance to meet (just my opinion).
I have wished we could name and shame plenty of times. The men pretending to be couples, the people who get shitty when they receive a polite 'thanks, but no thanks', the people who stand you up or get abusive in the chatrooms, blah blah blah.
At the end of the day its the rules and no matter how many threads come on here about naming and shaming, it aint gonna happen!! It's a good thing!! How would you feel if someone named and shamed you when you may not have actually done anything wrong. People disagree and when they do, they get anti and want to slag you off to the world!! There are 2 sides to every story and often only bits of each are fact!!
In my humble opinion, a policy of naming and shaming would go horribly wrong!!
Sex God
Quote by kentswingers777
Blah blah blah..............same old rubbish.
I do not have to explain our reasons to anyone on here, certainly not about who and why we choose to meet someone................so stick that in ya pipe and smoke it, as the saying goes.
Ah well......That's the end of what I had hoped to be a reasoned exchange of views.....
Orgasminator
Half the trouble with SHrep is it tries to be all things to all members.
Until it's adopted by all it's useless, if nobody uses it, it's redundant but 'optional' is the worst possible lash-up.
Serial time-wasters will never activate it, those with it off by choice will eventually suffer, people who use it only to find it won't give an accurate reflection of the truth and will get disillusioned with it...we're quickly falling into the last category. :sad:
So much promise - so little delivery..
Until it's adopted by all it's useless, if nobody uses it, it's redundant but 'optional' is the worst possible lash-up.
Serial time-wasters will never activate it, those with it off by choice will eventually suffer, people who use it only to find it won't give an accurate reflection of the truth and will get disillusioned with it...we're quickly falling into the last category. :sad:
So much promise - so little delivery..
Sex God
Quote by Gufuncouple
Half the trouble with SHrep is it tries to be all things to all members.
Until it's adopted by all it's useless, if nobody uses it, it's redundant but 'optional' is the worst possible lash-up.
Serial time-wasters will never activate it, those with it off by choice will eventually suffer, people who use it only to find it won't give an accurate reflection of the truth and will get disillusioned with it...we're quickly falling into the last category. :sad:
So much promise - so little delivery..
Agreed, you sometimes have to take the like it or lump it stand point. It needed to be implemented on everyone because as you say in its current state its pretty pointless. Being able to hide a negative is the worst part of it, what is the point
Quote by Steve
Blah blah blah..............same old rubbish.
I do not have to explain our reasons to anyone on here, certainly not about who and why we choose to meet someone................so stick that in ya pipe and smoke it, as the saying goes.
Ah well......That's the end of what I had hoped to be a reasoned exchange of views.....
Sorry Steve I did not mean to be rude to you matey.
By all means pm me as otherwise the usual crowd come in just to have a pop.
Your call.
i dont have shrep acctivated, nor will i ever do so.
does this mean i will not get people messaging me for meets? i dont care as if im looking "Im" looking im not the hunted i prefer to be the hunter lol
would shrep influence my desision on meeting someone or not? nope. why not well because i would have to get a feeling for someone , not rely on what could be someone elses judgement.
in fact if i look at the quickies etc and see lots of comments i actually dont like it. i prefer discretion.
if not having shrep means people will not reply to my message to meet etc then fair enough.
as long as the not having shrep does not influence if i can attend socials etc then i dont care.
people whated this, some pointed out the pointlessness of it, and i feel what we have now are peopel just with another feature to complain about.
you wanted it, you got it, dont moan if no one wants to use it use the best tool you have , common sense.
xx fem xxx
does this mean i will not get people messaging me for meets? i dont care as if im looking "Im" looking im not the hunted i prefer to be the hunter lol
would shrep influence my desision on meeting someone or not? nope. why not well because i would have to get a feeling for someone , not rely on what could be someone elses judgement.
in fact if i look at the quickies etc and see lots of comments i actually dont like it. i prefer discretion.
if not having shrep means people will not reply to my message to meet etc then fair enough.
as long as the not having shrep does not influence if i can attend socials etc then i dont care.
people whated this, some pointed out the pointlessness of it, and i feel what we have now are peopel just with another feature to complain about.
you wanted it, you got it, dont moan if no one wants to use it use the best tool you have , common sense.
xx fem xxx
Sex God
Quote by fem_4_taboo
i dont have shrep acctivated, nor will i ever do so.
does this mean i will not get people messaging me for meets? i dont care as if im looking "Im" looking im not the hunted i prefer to be the hunter lol
would shrep influence my desision on meeting someone or not? nope. why not well because i would have to get a feeling for someone , not rely on what could be someone elses judgement.
in fact if i look at the quickies etc and see lots of comments i actually dont like it. i prefer discretion.
if not having shrep means people will not reply to my message to meet etc then fair enough.
as long as the not having shrep does not influence if i can attend socials etc then i dont care.
people whated this, some pointed out the pointlessness of it, and i feel what we have now are peopel just with another feature to complain about.
you wanted it, you got it, dont moan if no one wants to use it use the best tool you have , common sense.
xx fem xxx
Nail on head! :thumbup:
