Hi all
Im probably going to get a lot of people angry who think Im a silly tart but I really need a bit of advice from people like you who have lived a little
Ok here goes I have been married to a man I love for 20 years and he doesnt notice me anymore says he tired ect dont tell me to try to dress sexy ect done that no reaction so have been flirting with a guy at work coz it makes me feel good and now he wants to step it up a notch I have agreed to meet him and I sooo want to but Im scared shitless In case Im no good I know he just wants sex and thats ok but terrified that I may be crap in the sack coz if I wasnt then maybe hubby would want me anyway this guy makes me feel soo good what would you do go or not?
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I would give myself more time and sit and talk to hubby, first and then see if I still wanted to meet this guy from work.
Have a long think first before you do anything you might regret later on
Have a long think first before you do anything you might regret later on
I'm just putting the whole sex thing aside for now.
Quick quiestion, cos it really is important ok
Are you happy to face the consequenses if your husband finds out about this meet you're thinking of having?
You have to presume the worst case scenario and that your husband will find out, that way you won't be surprised when/if he does. Only go ahead with this if your answer is yes you are happy to face whatever the consequenses are, because they can be devastating.
I'm not persuading you not to go ahead with this - I know nothing of your situation. Just want you to have your eyes wide open if you do decide to go ahead
Quick quiestion, cos it really is important ok
Are you happy to face the consequenses if your husband finds out about this meet you're thinking of having?
You have to presume the worst case scenario and that your husband will find out, that way you won't be surprised when/if he does. Only go ahead with this if your answer is yes you are happy to face whatever the consequenses are, because they can be devastating.
I'm not persuading you not to go ahead with this - I know nothing of your situation. Just want you to have your eyes wide open if you do decide to go ahead
Orgasminator
id ask for a divorce
Sex God
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also my hubby has had an affair in the past nearly killed me but I forgave him
It nearly killed you, but now you're thinking of doing the same to him?
If he had an affair then he can't have lost all interest in sex?
Maybe you both need to try talking again . . .
Tracy-Jayne
Orgasminator
I think MISSCHIEF has hit the nail on the head here:
Having been in a similar situation to you I spent a lot of time considering whether or not it was a good idea to go behind my wife's back, and in the end I decided to talk about it before I did anything. This is definitely a situation where it's better to ask for approval (or at least aquiesence) in advance rather than forgiveness after the fact. In my case my wife was very happy that I'd been able to trust her not to blow a gasket, and is now confident that I'm not about to run off with a nineteen year old leggy blond.
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Are you happy to face the consequenses if your husband finds out about this meet you're thinking of having?
Having been in a similar situation to you I spent a lot of time considering whether or not it was a good idea to go behind my wife's back, and in the end I decided to talk about it before I did anything. This is definitely a situation where it's better to ask for approval (or at least aquiesence) in advance rather than forgiveness after the fact. In my case my wife was very happy that I'd been able to trust her not to blow a gasket, and is now confident that I'm not about to run off with a nineteen year old leggy blond.
