no contact no sex.

13 Dec 2006

having been married for a good many years my wife is no longer interested in sex, and has not been for a number of years, we have in the past tried to resolve this problem in various ways, but she finds sex of little interest. she says it does not affect for feelings for me. in truth she has always has had a low sex drive and over time ihave accepted this. how ever it very lonely day to day existence not having sexual contact with your partner. swinging may solve my problem i dont feel anymore that i would be cheating, i only know that if a women of any age offererd sex i could not refuse it. a prostitue is not the cure for me i dont think i could respond to one. i dont think im alone in this situation , and wondered how many other people turn to swinging to find human contact.?

13 Dec 2006

so! just clarify for me
you havnt told her your swinging , is that right?

13 Dec 2006

Quote by sercher01
so! just clarify for me
you havnt told her your swinging , is that right?

now that was not the answer to his question was it?

13 Dec 2006

no it wasnt but i have a feeling that he may be posting the answer to my question in a bit wink

ill give him the chance first :wink:

13 Dec 2006

Quote by sercher01
no it wasnt but i have a feeling that he may be posting the answer to my question in a bit
ill give him the chance first :wink:

not that he has to! :wink:

13 Dec 2006

Quote by loveblock
having been married for a good many years my wife is no longer interested in sex, and has not been for a number of years, we have in the past tried to resolve this problem in various ways, but she finds sex of little interest. she says it does not affect for feelings for me. in truth she has always has had a low sex drive and over time ihave accepted this. how ever it very lonely day to day existence not having sexual contact with your partner. swinging may solve my problem i dont feel anymore that i would be cheating, i only know that if a women of any age offererd sex i could not refuse it. a prostitue is not the cure for me i dont think i could respond to one. i dont think im alone in this situation , and wondered how many other people turn to swinging to find human contact.?

Plenty, I would imagine. Finding others who are willing to say so, might be a different matter.
I am in a similar situation, and from PMs I have had in the past, i know others are too. My partner however is vageley aware of the situation, and it works well for us. Good luck.

13 Dec 2006

Quote by sercher01
no it wasnt but i have a feeling that he may be posting the answer to my question in a bit
ill give him the chance first :wink:

Looking at his past posts on the forum, he`s not about to start but has already started swinging and having extra marital "relations". Not judging, just an observation. :wink:

13 Dec 2006

Quote by loveblock
having been married for a good many years my wife is no longer interested in sex, and has not been for a number of years, we have in the past tried to resolve this problem in various ways, but she finds sex of little interest. she says it does not affect for feelings for me. in truth she has always has had a low sex drive and over time ihave accepted this. how ever it very lonely day to day existence not having sexual contact with your partner. swinging may solve my problem i dont feel anymore that i would be cheating, i only know that if a women of any age offererd sex i could not refuse it. a prostitue is not the cure for me i dont think i could respond to one. i dont think im alone in this situation , and wondered how many other people turn to swinging to find human contact.?

I feel for you mate. I'm in a similar situation, it's a hard problem - and one I'm still trying to resolve.
Drop me a PM if you want to discuss it - there's most likely enough guys/gals here (many calling themselves single) with the same problem that we could start a club!
36

13 Dec 2006

iv had my questian answered in pm confused

bet you cant guess wink

13 Dec 2006

Quote by sercher01
iv had my questian answered in pm
bet you cant guess

Would we want to guess? Does it really affect you personally that you have to be so judgmental? :?
Give the guy a break. As long as it doesn't affect you, I can't see that it's any of your business quite honestly rolleyes

TJ

13 Dec 2006

Quote by sercher01
iv had my questian answered in pm
bet you cant guess

don't really care!

13 Dec 2006

Quote by RedHot
iv had my questian answered in pm
bet you cant guess

Would we want to guess? Does it really affect you personally that you have to be so judgmental? :?
Give the guy a break. As long as it doesn't affect you, I can't see that it's any of your business quite honestly rolleyes

TJ
:roll:
and who am i to judge anyone :?:
but if he wanted an honest answer i thought that bit could effect the advice people gave him thats all
ofcorse if you would like to bace your advice to this person on half a story thats your choice RH
jmo :?

13 Dec 2006

pmsl..........

13 Dec 2006

Did you have to go to hospital after forcing that pint glass upon yourself lol

:lol:

13 Dec 2006

Quote by makaveli69
Did you have to go to hospital after forcing that pint glass upon yourself :lol:

??

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13 Dec 2006

Searchers Profile pic lol

:lol:

13 Dec 2006

There must be tons of people who are living with a relationship that isnt right in one way or another.
Next time Valentine`s day comes around and you`re looking at all the cards trying to find one for your loved one,have a look around and look at the other card pickers........I always wonder how many are only buying them to keep the peace at home and how many REALLY mean the loving wishes they`re sending.

13 Dec 2006

Quote by loveblock
having been married for a good many years my wife is no longer interested in sex, and has not been for a number of years, we have in the past tried to resolve this problem in various ways, but she finds sex of little interest.

lovelock.............................does she feel that she is sexy in herself still ? Do you still make her feel she is someone that is special and love her for her now, and still find her sexy, seen as you have been married for many years.
A thought smile

Shhhhhh quote gone wrong LOL

13 Dec 2006

Quote by MrsFC
having been married for a good many years my wife is no longer interested in sex, and has not been for a number of years, we have in the past tried to resolve this problem in various ways, but she finds sex of little interest.

lovelock.............................does she feel that she is sexy in herself still ? Do you still make her feel she is someone that is special and love her for her now, and still find her sexy, seen as you have been married for many years.
A thought smile

Shhhhhh quote gone wrong LOL
Ss'OK - I fixed your quotes for you!!
kiss

13 Dec 2006

Quote by sercher01
iv had my questian answered in pm
bet you cant guess

sorry Sercher hun, its got to be said - If you've had your question answered in pm, then it should remain in pm and not used in a subtle hint guessing game to which you've (allegedly) just given half the forum the answer.

13 Dec 2006

I think that must be a very lonely thing actually, coming to the realisation your partner no longer wants to make love as it's more than a 'shag', its the being close, the caressing and kissing. You don't mention if you still do all that but my heart goes out to you and whatever you decide, good luck xx

13 Dec 2006

Quote by Jags
Ss'OK - I fixed your quotes for you!!

:kiss: Can you tell its past my bedtime rolleyes

13 Dec 2006

Quote by Darkfire
iv had my questian answered in pm
bet you cant guess

sorry Sercher hun, its got to be said - If you've had your question answered in pm, then it should remain in pm and not used in a subtle hint guessing game to which you've (allegedly) just given half the forum the answer.
bloody hell have a go at sercher nite is it rolleyes

right lets get some stuff right first
1/ i couldnt give advice on this if i wanted (im single)
2/ i asked a question that imho is valid to the gent in questions post as he states he dosent count it as cheating but if she dosent know imho again i think it is?
3/ insted of posting his answer to my question in public he chose to PM me
i didnt ask for this and told him he should put his answer in the thread as it is relevent to his post
4/ why PM the answer to me ? why not put it in public ? ( maybe he knew that wouldnt go down well and he would get "flamed" for it dunno

IMHO
now go flame someone else you lot :kissmyarse: :grin:

13 Dec 2006

Quote by sercher01
iv had my questian answered in pm
bet you cant guess

sorry Sercher hun, its got to be said - If you've had your question answered in pm, then it should remain in pm and not used in a subtle hint guessing game to which you've (allegedly) just given half the forum the answer.
bloody hell have a go at sercher nite is it rolleyes

not on my part, I am simply responding to a post in the thread..... but,

3/ insted of posting his answer to my question in public he chose to PM me
i didnt ask for this and told him he should put his answer in the thread as it is relevent to his post
4/ why PM the answer to me ? why not put it in public ? ( maybe he knew that wouldnt go down well and he would get "flamed" for it
IMHO
now go flame someone else you lot :kissmyarse: :grin:

the fact is, Loveblock pm'd you the answer to the question you posed - he chose to do that in private to you, and it is not for you to then give out the jist of that pm in the forum - if Loveblock wanted that info public, I'm sure he'd have given it in time... you just beat him to it.
And, you should know better than to think this is flaming.

13 Dec 2006

Quote by sercher01
iv had my questian answered in pm
bet you cant guess

sorry Sercher hun, its got to be said - If you've had your question answered in pm, then it should remain in pm and not used in a subtle hint guessing game to which you've (allegedly) just given half the forum the answer.
bloody hell have a go at sercher nite is it
right lets get some stuff right first
1/ i couldnt give advice on this if i wanted (im single)
2/ i asked a question that imho is valid to the gent in questions post as he states he dosent count it as cheating but if she dosent know imho again i think it is?
3/ insted of posting his answer to my question in public he chose to PM me
i didnt ask for this and told him he should put his answer in the thread as it is relevent to his post
4/ why PM the answer to me ? why not put it in public ? ( maybe he knew that wouldnt go down well and he would get "flamed" for it dunno

IMHO
now go flame someone else you lot :kissmyarse: :grin:
Sercher01 you smell! poke

:wink:

13 Dec 2006

so! do i take it you dont think my question to said gent was relivent to said gents post
and that you could give a honest opinion to said gent without this information? confused

and as for the pm thing i asked in the thread not in pm so thats where it should have been answered (or egnored ) wink

13 Dec 2006

Quote by sercher01
so! do i take it you dont think my question to said gent was relivent to said gents post
and that you could give a honest opinion to said gent without this information?
and as for the pm thing i asked in the thread not in pm so thats where it should have been answered (or egnored )

Sercher - you're digging a hole for yourself. Throw away the spade and pick up the glass instead.
lol

13 Dec 2006

Quote by sercher01
2/ i asked a question that imho is valid to the gent in questions post as he states he dosent count it as cheating but if she dosent know imho again i think it is?

I agree the question sercher asked is relevant to answering the original post...and I agree swinging without honesty with your partner is cheating...jmo too lol

13 Dec 2006

Quote by Jags
so! do i take it you dont think my question to said gent was relivent to said gents post
and that you could give a honest opinion to said gent without this information?
and as for the pm thing i asked in the thread not in pm so thats where it should have been answered (or egnored )

Sercher - you're digging a hole for yourself. Throw away the spade and pick up the glass instead.
lol

ok ill stick to the fun threads rolleyes

just thought id have a go at it :? it didnt work
oh! well! ( least i got my first jags smackbottom

out of it :wink: )
an as for the pint grass ! it wasnt pushed ok!
an i only had a semie on so there flipa

:grin:

ps/ i do not smell redface

13 Dec 2006

Quote by loveblock
i dont think im alone in this situation , and wondered how many other people turn to swinging to find human contact.?

NOPE - this was the question which no-one has even tried to answer yet!!
cool