As far as limits go, what do you think about this one? I have seen it on a few couples' profiles and I find it a little peculiar. I understand that kissing can be *very* personal, I myself don't always care for kissing strangers as foreplay (for me it often falls in the same "severity" as the rest of oral sex). But I wouldn't want to play with people that ruled it out any more than I would like to go for a drink with people that said they would not address me directly.
Nope, it's for real - I've seen it too. It's for some couples because they believe kissing to be an act of love, whereas other physical contact is just sex. Horses for courses I guess.
It is very very common in swinging, some people like to keep one thing special and personal to each other, in our experience at least 50% of the couples we meet would not consider kissing during swapping.
We are happy with this because it is personal preference and respecting other peoples preferences is paramount in meeting.
Do we kiss, yes, but in our own way, that is to say we would not dream of snogging someone at the bar in a club or whilst chatting and getting to know each other but during the actual playing (sex) we just see it as part of the sex, kinda hard to explain but like many we see it as two types of kissing, one is snogging, personal and intimate whilst the other is just an act of sex like carressing, oral or foreplay.
Yes you can say that sucking a cock is more personal than him sticking his tongue in your mouth, but for some it isn't, to see your partner sucking cock can be considered "just a sex act" but watching them snogging the face of someone on the dancefloor or at the bar can be seen as a much more intimate act, it is just one of those peculiarities of the human mind and how we interpret things
Personally I enjoy lots of kissing as part of foreplay...
Passionate kissing is such a turn on :thumbup:
I too most likely would not meet anyone who didn't enjoy kissing as part of the fun...
what about kissing but no oral?
keep the oral as something only partners do.
the peeple whop state no kissing would not be ok with that as i am sure sucking on a guys cock for a woman is part and parcel of having sex with someone> and so is kissing a massive huge part of the sexual act, and without it for us it would feel cold and somehow sordid.
that is kind of like having a nice sunday roast dinner but it is as dry as an old bone as there is no gravy. no gravy? then is is no sunday roast!! no kissing is not part of sex.
kissing is a no no for us and personally we find kissing alot more intimate than sexual intercourse, maybe because of the preluding eye contact Im not sure. One thing we do know id its one of our boundaries and we all know how important boundaries are in this scene.
Kissing is an absolutely essential part of any play meet.
We'd go so far as to say that the first kiss must be right - if it's not then we simply don't play.
We just cannot understand for the life of us what on earth people who don't kiss can get out of any kind of sexual play. Kissing is very much part of the whole - steamy passionate sex - and without kissing it's just a mechanical act.
- and we just ain't interested in a mechanical act - we might as well just have a wank and watch each other (not that we're dismissing that cos we've done it, but it isn't what we signed up for)
Its not something we think about the second a meet starts and in some meets kissing has been minimal to non existant and in others there has been more. However thats just the way the meets went but we certainly wouldent meet couples where the profile states no kissing same as we dont meet soft swap couples. For us everything has to be uninhibited I hate having to remember rules.
Nope still don't care if we get to kiss or not, prefer it if we do but can still have a great time if we don't, we like rules in meets, providing we know what the rules are, to us they are important, for example, Sasha does not enjoy Anal, would hate to find some guy trying to do that because he doesn't think rules or personal boundaries are necessary (not saying anyone in this thread would do that but it has happened to us and friends in the past)
The same applies to me when I am going to orgasm, I know some women have preferences to where us guys do that and some have boundaries as to where you don't do it, so I always whisper and ask first.
Soft swing is something we are happy to do as well, but for us soft swinging is everything except penetration, we are not into this "girls play, guys watch, then own partners to finnish" I can see Sasha play with women anytime I don't need to arrange meets to do that. There is no doubt that there are many variations to what people consider soft play. The worst for us is both couples playing with own partners in the same room but no swapping of any description, we have done this in couples rooms at clubs and the presence of other couples playing while we play with each other has enhanced our own fun, but again not something we would consider arranging a meet to do.
What we will not do is judge others for what they enjoy, we simply find couples who are compatible with us and what we enjoy.
It's fascinating the way people have different turn ons, turn offs & dos & don'ts.
i expect its to do with indicating how much you are connected and sexually focussed. i got snogged and tongued in all of an instant, before recoiling, by a guy in a club one night. it wasn,t unpleasant but unexpected.
but most people hand out the odd peck or two, scaling up to a smacker and then the more intimate snog.
but you do need to know where those lips were last in action. like my guy above, he may well have been snogging an altogether different orifice before launching himself on me......
I'm cool with kissing....but I could quite understand why someone might not want to snog me.. lol On the other hand I'm o.k. with snowballing too, but recently drew the line at something called "felching"...eeeew...I had to ask what it was, and said no fanks.
I once went out with a girl who thought that giving a guy a blow job was not unfaithful!!!!
I looked at their profile when we got home and there was no mention of it.
so maybe it doesn't count?
