Ive been on this site for about 10 months...
and Im afraid I'm not convinced!
I actually think people on here on a day to day level arent that friendly... lots of barriers, pretty closed and thats about it.
you'll shoot me down in flames IM sure.... and defend things.... but thats really what I have found in my personal experience.
maybe people will blame my lack postings or whatever... but something about it really doesnt work in the same way other "community" or profile sites do...
theres less traffic to my mailbox... and I dont really know why.
I just dont know... any ideas or comments about this would be interesting - but to be honest I think it will descend into a dead thread pretty quick!
maybe this posting will be shoved aside as quickly as possible... or maybe it opens things up a bit...
Im not negative... have no problem getting sex or being fancied in the real world at all... but what I thought I might get from this place (i.e. horny up for it sexy MF couples... who wan to meet) is about as easy as trying to make a 8 tog duvet out of dodo feathers!
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Quote by sarflad
Ive been on this site for about 10 months...
and Im afraid I'm not convinced!
I actually think people on here on a day to day level arent that friendly... lots of barriers, pretty closed and thats about it.:-)
All i can say is that your experiences have been totally different to mine. Met some cracking people through this site, people I enjoy being with and not always for sex.
Maybe its a question of attitude and expectation?
Same for me too Reiki.
I've had a few meets, some social some not, most were excellent, one or two not so great. They came about from all different parts of the site.... the Cafe forum, chatrooms and the ads. For some, only the forums work, for others it's the ads etc etc. Dipping your toes into each of them and having a good old wiggle about is sure to bring something swimming your way.
Good luck! :thumbup:
btw, love the 8 tog duvet comment. Must remember that one :notes: :giggle:
I've had a few meets, some social some not, most were excellent, one or two not so great. They came about from all different parts of the site.... the Cafe forum, chatrooms and the ads. For some, only the forums work, for others it's the ads etc etc. Dipping your toes into each of them and having a good old wiggle about is sure to bring something swimming your way.
Good luck! :thumbup:
btw, love the 8 tog duvet comment. Must remember that one :notes: :giggle:
We would like to comment that although we have been using this site on/off for a while now, we have met with some really great people. This in turn has evolved into good friendships and ... cough... 
fabulous sexy times... 
ops: .... lol
So we would perhaps question what it is that you are really wanting from the site? We have managed to get out of it what we had hoped for, if it's not for you - then maybe you should look elsewhere??
SSC xxx
fabulous sexy times... ops: .... lolSo we would perhaps question what it is that you are really wanting from the site? We have managed to get out of it what we had hoped for, if it's not for you - then maybe you should look elsewhere??
SSC xxx
Thanks SSC. The comment about me "looking elsewhere"... well I found not that helpful really!
I think that you will find the experience of WHO you are in this site i.e. couple looking for other couples/ woman looking for couples etc is VERY VERY different.
I have just received some very friendly post inviting me out based on this posting...
BUT
In the single male bracket, you will find that the general attitude towards you is hostility.
People presume you are a dickhead loner with no friends, no manners, no intelligence and completely incapapable of being charming, considerate and sexy.
The attitude seems to be if youre a sijngle man on here - then you cant cut it in the real world and have no social skills. Im afraid thats not true in my case at all. IM intelligent and well liked and have a massive groups of friends.
It actually doesnt matter what approach you use in adverts, e.g. horny/polite/ anything
The result, for a single bloke is generally the same - which is frequently hostile and dismissive.
This is even true of casual conversation - as there seems to be little or no culture of conversational emails that have nothing to do with sex initially or may lead to it. I dont expect to turn up and shag someone. I want personality and a connection, and I have found that extremely difficult.
The culture on here is one of some bizarre elongated interview technique with kafka-esue rules.
I'm sure there are nice people on here. But its extremely hard to find a good fun bi couple, and I though this *might* be the place to do it!
But after a year of attempting - Im beginning to think not...
The idea that this site as you said ..." not for me" and I should "look elsewhere" actually just typifies the responses I have come to expect when I ask a reasonable questions and try to explain and help other people who might not be able to articulate their own experiences. The inference is always that I have a wrong approach, dont know the rules etc...
Initially before I bought a membership, I though that might be the case, but having done so not much changed.
I also apologise for putting this in the wrong section of the forum...
If anyone knows how to now shove it in the Cafe section... please do so!
Thanks for the people who wrote to me directly. It was refreshing, polite and inclusive - and Iook forward to meeting other people like them.
I must reiterate that Im not trying to criticise, but actually show what goes on here, but maybe never gets talks about. It might be theres a way this can change, and if something good comes from this thread then great.
phew!
:-)
Thanks alot
P
I think that you will find the experience of WHO you are in this site i.e. couple looking for other couples/ woman looking for couples etc is VERY VERY different.
I have just received some very friendly post inviting me out based on this posting...
BUT
In the single male bracket, you will find that the general attitude towards you is hostility.
People presume you are a dickhead loner with no friends, no manners, no intelligence and completely incapapable of being charming, considerate and sexy.
The attitude seems to be if youre a sijngle man on here - then you cant cut it in the real world and have no social skills. Im afraid thats not true in my case at all. IM intelligent and well liked and have a massive groups of friends.
It actually doesnt matter what approach you use in adverts, e.g. horny/polite/ anything
The result, for a single bloke is generally the same - which is frequently hostile and dismissive.
This is even true of casual conversation - as there seems to be little or no culture of conversational emails that have nothing to do with sex initially or may lead to it. I dont expect to turn up and shag someone. I want personality and a connection, and I have found that extremely difficult.
The culture on here is one of some bizarre elongated interview technique with kafka-esue rules.
I'm sure there are nice people on here. But its extremely hard to find a good fun bi couple, and I though this *might* be the place to do it!
But after a year of attempting - Im beginning to think not...
The idea that this site as you said ..." not for me" and I should "look elsewhere" actually just typifies the responses I have come to expect when I ask a reasonable questions and try to explain and help other people who might not be able to articulate their own experiences. The inference is always that I have a wrong approach, dont know the rules etc...
Initially before I bought a membership, I though that might be the case, but having done so not much changed.
I also apologise for putting this in the wrong section of the forum...
If anyone knows how to now shove it in the Cafe section... please do so!
Thanks for the people who wrote to me directly. It was refreshing, polite and inclusive - and Iook forward to meeting other people like them.
I must reiterate that Im not trying to criticise, but actually show what goes on here, but maybe never gets talks about. It might be theres a way this can change, and if something good comes from this thread then great.
phew!
:-)
Thanks alot
P
Quote by SSC
We would like to comment that although we have been using this site on/
off for a while now, we have met with some really great people. This in turn has evolved into good friendships and ... cough...
So we would perhaps question what it is that you are really wanting from the site? We have managed to get out of it what we had hoped for, if it's not for you - then maybe you should look elsewhere??
SSC xxx
Sex God
We'd have to agree, with everybody above...... In the time we have been here, we have met some great people at munches, socials, and privately.... It certainly works for us.
Now for the same old cliches......... and yes they are relevant.
What exactly do you want ? ........ a quick shag?
Do you participate in the social aspects of the site?
You are male.
The site isn't a quick shag site. There are lots of people on here (us included) that would be very cautious about who they will meet with. They want to be able to communicate, and make friends as well as have some good sex.
The social side of the site is important, be it the forums or the chat rooms. A lot of the successful single guys on here are successful because they use the forums and/or chat rooms, and they go to the social events.... they are effectively networking, and yes it can work very well for them.
Being male is not always easy around here, even for one who is frankly as attractive as you! (H says you ain't a bad looker
) There are literally thousands of single males for a couple or single woman to choose from so the competition is hot.
So get known, network more, and see what happens.
MandH
Edited to add that since your second post we can see you do indeed want more than a quick shag....... good on yer :thumbup:
The only thing to add is just keep plugging away and be patient....... even posting what you have in here is actually being positive, people are noticing you, and even though you are finding that you are not getting what you are looking for, you have still been polite and thoughtful with what you have written..... again good on yer.
Keep looking it can happen. :)
Now for the same old cliches......... and yes they are relevant.
What exactly do you want ? ........ a quick shag?
Do you participate in the social aspects of the site?
You are male.
The site isn't a quick shag site. There are lots of people on here (us included) that would be very cautious about who they will meet with. They want to be able to communicate, and make friends as well as have some good sex.
The social side of the site is important, be it the forums or the chat rooms. A lot of the successful single guys on here are successful because they use the forums and/or chat rooms, and they go to the social events.... they are effectively networking, and yes it can work very well for them.
Being male is not always easy around here, even for one who is frankly as attractive as you! (H says you ain't a bad looker
) There are literally thousands of single males for a couple or single woman to choose from so the competition is hot. So get known, network more, and see what happens.
MandH
Edited to add that since your second post we can see you do indeed want more than a quick shag....... good on yer :thumbup:
The only thing to add is just keep plugging away and be patient....... even posting what you have in here is actually being positive, people are noticing you, and even though you are finding that you are not getting what you are looking for, you have still been polite and thoughtful with what you have written..... again good on yer.
Keep looking it can happen. :)
Sex God
Quote by MandH
We'd have to agree, with everybody above...... In the time we have been here, we have met some great people at munches, socials, and privately.... It certainly works for us.
Now for the same old cliches......... and yes they are relevant.
What exactly do you want ? ........ a quick shag?
Do you participate in the social aspects of the site?
You are male.
The site isn't a quick shag site. There are lots of people on here (us included) that would be very cautious about who they will meet with. They want to be able to communicate, and make friends as well as have some good sex.
The social side of the site is important, be it the forums or the chat rooms. A lot of the successful single guys on here are successful because they use the forums and/or chat rooms, and they go to the social events.... they are effectively networking, and yes it can work very well for them.
Being male is not always easy around here, even for one who is frankly as attractive as you! (H says you ain't a bad looker
So get known, network more, and see what happens.
MandH
Edited to add that since your second post we can see you do indeed want more than a quick shag....... good on yer :thumbup:
The only thing to add is just keep plugging away and be patient....... even posting what you have in here is actually being positive, people are noticing you, and even though you are finding that you are not getting what you are looking for, you have still been polite and thoughtful with what you have written..... again good on yer.
Keep looking it can happen. :)
I echo what has been said before..............
i think the single guys that do well from the site ( and yes in a selfish way i am including myself in this) will go out of there way to meet people socially first and then if anything else happens so be it.
Socially i end up traverling most weekend up and down the m6 corridor or in the london area. This means i am out and about meeting people having a laugh with them
I find for me if i know someone, as a person/people i am more likly to want to play with the them.
if the site isnt for you why dont you try a club, there are plenty of clubs around and it will give u the chance to "network"
Gonna move this to the Cafe as you've put up a couple of cracking posts, plus this bit just got me!! 
:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
OK, now lets just pretend for a minute that you have the site at your feet, everyone wants to meet you - you get to choose absolutely anyone, so would it be....
a) Just though a couple of PMs, swapping statistics, the odd cock and tit photo?
b) Someone you've bantered with a bit online, swapped pics, you get on well online, chat laugh with each other, and discover you share the same fantasies.
c) Someone you've bantered with online, discover the same fantasies and have met socially at some event or another, got on brilliantly in RL - and discovered you also have that all important "spark".
So Mister Sarflad, the choice is yours :lol2:
The one thing you can't do online is find out if there is a real physical attraction between you, that can only happen face to face. No, or little spark can still make for good sex. But a spark usually makes for great sex.
Now reverse that back out to the ratio of single guys to couples and females, I would rather go for 'c'......
Mainly cos I would get painfully awkward, embarrassed (not to mention the motormouth that goes into overdrive if it even thinks there's gonna be one of them awkward silences
), I just don't find it as comfortable as taking things up a level with someone that I've already met and got on brilliantly with 
But - there are very different circumstances as well. I've given one aspect, the one from my point of view (excluding when we visit clubs!! Cos we do have a whole different attitude then :twisted: ).
Due to the numbers thing, the chances of a single guy being picked out purely from the ads section is extremely slim ............ I presume, judging by the amount of guys that have the same complaint
Good luck :thumbup: I hope you stick around here, cos you do seem a nice guy (and funny! :lol2: )
Quote by sarflad
about as easy as trying to make a 8 tog duvet out of dodo feathers!
:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:OK, now lets just pretend for a minute that you have the site at your feet, everyone wants to meet you - you get to choose absolutely anyone, so would it be....
a) Just though a couple of PMs, swapping statistics, the odd cock and tit photo?
b) Someone you've bantered with a bit online, swapped pics, you get on well online, chat laugh with each other, and discover you share the same fantasies.
c) Someone you've bantered with online, discover the same fantasies and have met socially at some event or another, got on brilliantly in RL - and discovered you also have that all important "spark".
So Mister Sarflad, the choice is yours :lol2:
The one thing you can't do online is find out if there is a real physical attraction between you, that can only happen face to face. No, or little spark can still make for good sex. But a spark usually makes for great sex.
Now reverse that back out to the ratio of single guys to couples and females, I would rather go for 'c'......
Mainly cos I would get painfully awkward, embarrassed (not to mention the motormouth that goes into overdrive if it even thinks there's gonna be one of them awkward silences
), I just don't find it as comfortable as taking things up a level with someone that I've already met and got on brilliantly with But - there are very different circumstances as well. I've given one aspect, the one from my point of view (excluding when we visit clubs!! Cos we do have a whole different attitude then :twisted: ).
Due to the numbers thing, the chances of a single guy being picked out purely from the ads section is extremely slim ............ I presume, judging by the amount of guys that have the same complaint
Good luck :thumbup: I hope you stick around here, cos you do seem a nice guy (and funny! :lol2: )
Sex God
Missy here here hun,
no one ever reply to my ad, so i stopped putting one up....
i would rather be know for my "ugly look" and bad sence of humor and make thing for getting naked at every opertunity.
but to be honest a lot of people like to meet people they have some connection with.....
p.s. cock pics just dont do it for me......
no one ever reply to my ad, so i stopped putting one up....
i would rather be know for my "ugly look" and bad sence of humor and make thing for getting naked at every opertunity.
but to be honest a lot of people like to meet people they have some connection with.....
p.s. cock pics just dont do it for me......
Quote by sarflad
The idea that this site as you said ..." not for me" and I should "look elsewhere" actually just typifies the responses I have come to expect...
But if you look back it was the 3rd of 3 ( % of the comments to that point) - what about the other 2 ( % - which is a majority) who didn't say 'look elsewhere' or words to that effect?
Single guys quite often do find it hard work when they come on this site (usually because it is not as easy as they expected) - but it does work for those who find there own way to adapt what they are doing to meet the expectations of those they are looking for (in terms of communication that is).
Quote by sarflad
In the single male bracket, you will find that the general attitude towards you is hostility.
People presume you are a dickhead loner with no friends, no manners, no intelligence and completely incapapable of being charming, considerate and sexy.
The attitude seems to be if youre a sijngle man on here - then you cant cut it in the real world and have no social skills. Im afraid thats not true in my case at all. IM intelligent and well liked and have a massive groups of friends.
It actually doesnt matter what approach you use in adverts, e.g. horny/polite/ anything
The result, for a single bloke is generally the same - which is frequently hostile and dismissive.
It's a shame you've experienced this hunni. Yes, SOME single males ( marrieds too at times ) get flamed/dismissed/put out for the binmen but only when they come across as desperate for a shag, disrespectful or just downright rude. A lot of guys just message females en masse, without reading their profiles properly then wonder why they're told to go forth.
From reading your posts so far, I doubt you've approached anyone with that attitude.
Personally I don't meet guys so if you messaged me, the chances are you'd get a thanks but no thanks reply ( though you never know
)If you take a look around here you'll notice an awful lot of single men who take part in the banter and flirting and sometimes this is enough to find them that elusive partner they've failed to find elsewhere. We don't generally make single men stand in the corner ( unless you've farted
) so stick around here, have some fun, dip your toes into the social/munch scene and see what happens :thumbup: 
Sex God
The attitude seems to be if youre a sijngle man on here - then you cant cut it in the real world and have no social skills.
The culture on here is one of some bizarre elongated interview technique with kafka-esue rules.
that i'm sure is true of your experience, but it isn't true of mine at all. the only 'interview' process i've been through is chatting to people online, making friends, and going to munches. not exactly jumping through hoops?
maybe people will blame my lack postings or whatever... but something about it really doesnt work in the same way other "community" or profile sites do...
you've answered your own question there haven't you? after nearly a year of being on here, with only 30 posts to your name, what do we, on the forum ((( i.e. the people you're addressing now. ))) know about you? nothing, that's what. i don't know what you've done via email / PM / chat, but as far as the forum? hardly given us a chance. and no . . . it's not like other community / profile sites, probably because swinging is more complex by it's very nature?
stick with it. yep, it takes time, and effort, but then nothing worth having ever comes easy, does it? ;)
neil x x x ;)
Sex God
Quote by sarflad
Ive been on this site for about 10 months...
and Im afraid I'm not convinced!
I actually think people on here on a day to day level arent that friendly... lots of barriers, pretty closed and thats about it.
you'll shoot me down in flames IM sure.... and defend things.... but thats really what I have found in my personal experience.
maybe people will blame my lack postings or whatever... but something about it really doesnt work in the same way other "community" or profile sites do...
theres less traffic to my mailbox... and I dont really know why.
I just dont know... any ideas or comments about this would be interesting - but to be honest I think it will descend into a dead thread pretty quick!
maybe this posting will be shoved aside as quickly as possible... or maybe it opens things up a bit...
Im not negative... have no problem getting sex or being fancied in the real world at all... but what I thought I might get from this place (i.e. horny up for it sexy MF couples... who wan to meet) is about as easy as trying to make a 8 tog duvet out of dodo feathers!
:-)
the bits that i put in bold are the two bits that caught my eye........and i know that certain people will jump on what on what i am about to say... but you do get out of the site what you put in... I.E are you being proactive or reactive????? what are YOU doing to possibly increase your chances of meeting people..... being in the forums i am sure helps.... being regular in certains chatroom i am sure helps in the same way......
I know people who do a lot of backgroud reading on people before they choose whom to play with... i also know people who dont......but remember that the amount of single blokes out there is always going outnumber those of couples, so you have to be able to sell yourself....have you given them reasons as to why they should pick you as an individual over anyone else......
I have met loads of people and had my fair share of fun.... i have also made loads of friends who i know that i could count on in times of need and they know i would do the same for them(i hope)
I don't feel that as a single people i have to jump thru hoops to meet people... i have just been to best MEi can be.... if people like that then good.... if they don't the such is life... you are not going to be able to please everyone........
sean
Master of Sex
You do really have to get yourself known as a single male on here, don't forget men are ten a penny so couples or even females are going to be more interested in someone they have spoken to in a while either on the forum, in chat or PM. couples or fems who look for males can afford to be choosy. So standing out in a crowd is going to be a major thing.
Sorry but this seems to be no different then the usual complaints we get when people haven't had any luck, it's just written out better.
Good luck with your search.
Jas
XXX
Quote by sarflad
Thanks SSC. The comment about me "looking elsewhere"... well I found not that helpful really!
But if you're not convinced about the site and it's not offering what you want then surely it's reasonable advice
I think that you will find the experience of WHO you are in this site i.e. couple looking for other couples/ woman looking for couples etc is VERY VERY different.
Of course it is, supply and demand makes it so. There are far more single males looking for meets then any other category they do have to work harder to stand out, it's just life I'm afraid
I have just received some very friendly post inviting me out based on this posting...
Sympathy shag threads obviously do work if you are more elequent in your complaining then. Take note other single men
BUT
In the single male bracket, you will find that the general attitude towards you is hostility.
Unfortunatly some idiots have created the stereo type that single males are pushy idiots, a lot of people don't like contact with them for that reason.
The only way for that to change is for the sensible amongst you to keep on contacting others to change the stereo type.
I have never been hostile to a single male just because he is a single male - there would be no one to play with if they all vanished. :shock:
People presume you are a dickhead loner with no friends, no manners, no intelligence and completely incapapable of being charming, considerate and sexy.
You're making a presumption about what people think of single males - easy to do really isn't it
The attitude seems to be if youre a sijngle man on here - then you cant cut it in the real world and have no social skills. Im afraid thats not true in my case at all. IM intelligent and well liked and have a massive groups of friends.
Good for you - truly I mean that
It actually doesnt matter what approach you use in adverts, e.g. horny/polite/ anything
So your ad hasn't stood out enough for people to contact you I presume? Have you made it stand out enough from the crowd? I
've had a quick look and to be honest there isn't anything there that makes you look more interesting or exciting than many of the others on there
The result, for a single bloke is generally the same - which is frequently hostile and dismissive.
This is even true of casual conversation - as there seems to be little or no culture of conversational emails that have nothing to do with sex initially or may lead to it. I dont expect to turn up and shag someone. I want personality and a connection, and I have found that extremely difficult.
Have you advertised in LMU for e-mail chat perhaps leading to more? You can't advertise for e-mail in the ads you would need to be requesting it specifically or get very lucky in your responses
The culture on here is one of some bizarre elongated interview technique with kafka-esue rules.
I'm sure there are nice people on here. But its extremely hard to find a good fun bi couple, and I though this *might* be the place to do it!
But after a year of attempting - Im beginning to think not...
The idea that this site as you said ..." not for me" and I should "look elsewhere" actually just typifies the responses I have come to expect when I ask a reasonable questions and try to explain and help other people who might not be able to articulate their own experiences. The inference is always that I have a wrong approach, dont know the rules etc...
Well here's a thing, if you were meeting all and sundry on a frequent basis then your approach could be said to be working.
As you've posted complaining about the lack of meets and e-mails you have received then it's a reasonable assumption for those who have had successful meets to question your approach.
You make think that your approach is spot on but if it's not working then perhaps it might be you and not everyone else. :dunno:
Initially before I bought a membership, I though that might be the case, but having done so not much changed.
Why did you buy a membership, you should have had a free one shouldn't you?
I also apologise for putting this in the wrong section of the forum...
If anyone knows how to now shove it in the Cafe section... please do so!
Thanks for the people who wrote to me directly. It was refreshing, polite and inclusive - and Iook forward to meeting other people like them.
I must reiterate that Im not trying to criticise, but actually show what goes on here, but maybe never gets talks about. It might be theres a way this can change, and if something good comes from this thread then great.
It gets talked about a lot - a huge amount of single men on here post with similar problems.
It's the nature of the beast I'm afraid and the threads rarely cause any change as only a small amount of site members read the forums with the majority of ads users never stepping foot in here.
phew!
:-)
Thanks alot
P
Good luck with your search.
Jas
XXX
Quote by sarflad
Im not negative... have no problem getting sex or being fancied in the real world at all...
You know when you go out socialising - there tends to be a pretty good mix of males and females in the bars and night clubs
... well try think of it this way...You are now trying to acheive the same level of results in a wine-bar containing 100-200 equally keen men - all trying to hit on 5 couples and 1 single fem (who some of the couples are likely to be more interested in anyway).
Someone is bound to be going home disappointed.
Im sorry sarflad, I have to agree with Jas-Tim
You say that you have had less traffic to your mailbox, and you dont know why
seems to me that with 30 posts you will always struggle, why is it that you are better then the countless thousand single males that frequent this site?
Ok, so you may have won over some people with witty comments, but if you are that eloquent, why havent you put it to use?
You have no problem getting sex, or being fancied in the real world, but perhaps that is the problem, you see the real world, and this one, which by saying you are ok elsewhere, is a fake one?
you state that you arent negative, but preceded that comment with "I actually think people on here on a day to day level arent that friendly" and also "but something about it really doesnt work in the same way other "community" or profile sites do"
Single males (and yes, I am one) seem to get a raw deal here, which some would say are justified, but for those single males that post regularly, attend munches etc, seem to be better received by the site as a whole, it really is a case of you reap what you sow, and there is never rewards without effort
and there are a number of people here who are worth the effort, i just hope in time you can find that out for yourself
You say that you have had less traffic to your mailbox, and you dont know why
seems to me that with 30 posts you will always struggle, why is it that you are better then the countless thousand single males that frequent this site?
Ok, so you may have won over some people with witty comments, but if you are that eloquent, why havent you put it to use?
You have no problem getting sex, or being fancied in the real world, but perhaps that is the problem, you see the real world, and this one, which by saying you are ok elsewhere, is a fake one?
you state that you arent negative, but preceded that comment with "I actually think people on here on a day to day level arent that friendly" and also "but something about it really doesnt work in the same way other "community" or profile sites do"
Single males (and yes, I am one) seem to get a raw deal here, which some would say are justified, but for those single males that post regularly, attend munches etc, seem to be better received by the site as a whole, it really is a case of you reap what you sow, and there is never rewards without effort
and there are a number of people here who are worth the effort, i just hope in time you can find that out for yourself
Quote by essex34m
Im sorry sarflad, I have to agree with Jas-Tim
You say that you have had less traffic to your mailbox, and you dont know why
seems to me that with 30 posts you will always struggle, why is it that you are better then the countless thousand single males that frequent this site?
Post count means nothing realy. Ok 30 is low and that means you only just got here but some myself included have a few and are in the same position but that could also mean i'm posting in the wrong places or the wrong time.
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Ok, so you may have won over some people with witty comments, but if you are that eloquent, why havent you put it to use?
Same again
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You have no problem getting sex, or being fancied in the real world, but perhaps that is the problem, you see the real world, and this one, which by saying you are ok elsewhere, is a fake one?
Have to agree with that.
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you state that you arent negative, but preceded that comment with "I actually think people on here on a day to day level arent that friendly" and also "but something about it really doesnt work in the same way other "community" or profile sites do"
Thats right too.
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Single males (and yes, I am one) seem to get a raw deal here, which some would say are justified, but for those single males that post regularly, attend munches etc, seem to be better received by the site as a whole, it really is a case of you reap what you sow, and there is never rewards without effort
Yep i would say that too in general. I've been well recieved her and only just done a munch.
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and there are a number of people here who are worth the effort, i just hope in time you can find that out for yourself
Me too for all of us.
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Im sorry sarflad, I have to agree with Jas-Tim
You say that you have had less traffic to your mailbox, and you dont know why
seems to me that with 30 posts you will always struggle, why is it that you are better then the countless thousand single males that frequent this site?
Post count means nothing realy. Ok 30 is low and that means you only just got here but some myself included have a few and are in the same position but that could also mean i'm posting in the wrong places or the wrong time.
He states he has been here a year, and in that time has posted 30 times, its not really a great amount to get noticed with, its been said many times before, for single males to be noticed, they have to put more effort in, cock shots are two a penny, it seems to me, and im happy to be corrected if im wrong, but more attention will be made by the ladies of this site to whats written, not whats shown
this may be only my experience, but i have received more PM's after munches, than because of posts, but i will put my hands up and admit that is down to the fact that most of my posts are smartarse comments, and rarely anything of substance, but it shows that with effort (going to munches, actually talking with the people who are there, then i have something out of it
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Im sorry sarflad, I have to agree with Jas-Tim
You say that you have had less traffic to your mailbox, and you dont know why
seems to me that with 30 posts you will always struggle, why is it that you are better then the countless thousand single males that frequent this site?
Post count means nothing realy. Ok 30 is low and that means you only just got here but some myself included have a few and are in the same position but that could also mean i'm posting in the wrong places or the wrong time.
I think in this case it does have relevance as he's complaining about the lack of mail he receives as well as the lack of meets.
A lot of personal mail is generated by posting. To have been around for 10 months and contributing that little just doesn't make you stand out from the crowd I'm afraid and that is what most single males have to aim at for success.
Jas
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seems to me that with 30 posts you will always struggle,
I don't see how post count can even come into the equation except maybe that it means sarflad hasn't yet discovered the forums to the extent of the rest of us. Post count can hardly be used as a yard stick by which to measure someone's success rate ( believe me, I have NOT had over 5000 post-worth of shags
) We sometimes seem to forget that the people who use the forums are only a small percentage of the total site membership and plenty of others find success in varying degrees in the chatrooms and through the ads.
Sarflad, I hope you stick around and give the forums a try, check out the socials and see what happens. You might even pick up some pearls of wisdom in here...............though not from me as I talk bollocks :giggle:
Sex God
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maybe people will blame my lack postings or whatever... but something about it really doesnt work in the same way other "community" or profile sites do...
theres less traffic to my mailbox... and I dont really know why.
I think you pretty much know that your lack of posts means no mail, without doing a 'look at me' post for sympathy.
Sex God
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I don't see how post count can even come into the equation except maybe that it means sarflad hasn't yet discovered the forums to the extent of the rest of us. Post count can hardly be used as a yard stick by which to measure someone's success rate ( believe me, I have NOT had over 5000 post-worth of shags
But you're not complaining about the site and how it's not worked for you, are you?
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You say that you have had less traffic to your mailbox, and you dont know why
seems to me that with 30 posts you will always struggle, why is it that you are better then the countless thousand single males that frequent this site?
Post count means nothing realy. Ok 30 is low and that means you only just got here but some myself included have a few and are in the same position but that could also mean i'm posting in the wrong places or the wrong time.
He states he has been here a year, and in that time has posted 30 times, its not really a great amount to get noticed with, its been said many times before, for single males to be noticed, they have to put more effort in, cock shots are two a penny, it seems to me, and im happy to be corrected if im wrong, but more attention will be made by the ladies of this site to whats written, not whats shown
Yep sarflads post to time here ratio isn't good and hasn't helped. I just feel it's not the only thing that makes a difference maybe i'm wrong i dunno.
It may be sarf lad had done what i did when i first joined that is to think the chatrooms were the best place to start when joining and i struggled. Then started using the forum, somethig i would reccomend.
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this may be only my experience, but i have received more PM's after munches, than because of posts, but i will put my hands up and admit that is down to the fact that most of my posts are smartarse comments, and rarely anything of substance, but it shows that with effort (going to munches, actually talking with the people who are there, then i have something out of it
Something i would recomend to you sarflad having just done one and now invited to more.
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I don't see how post count can even come into the equation except maybe that it means sarflad hasn't yet discovered the forums to the extent of the rest of us. Post count can hardly be used as a yard stick by which to measure someone's success rate ( believe me, I have NOT had over 5000 post-worth of shags
But you're not complaining about the site and how it's not worked for you, are you?
Not in the least. What I was trying to say was a lot of people use the other parts of SH and have a great deal of success. For some people the chatrooms work, for others it doesn't. For me, the forums work best, for others they don't.
I only began to arrange meets and get to know people socially when I joined the forums so maybe Sarflad could do the same.
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I don't see how post count can even come into the equation except maybe that it means sarflad hasn't yet discovered the forums to the extent of the rest of us. Post count can hardly be used as a yard stick by which to measure someone's success rate ( believe me, I have NOT had over 5000 post-worth of shags
But you're not complaining about the site and how it's not worked for you, are you?
Not in the least. What I was trying to say was a lot of people use the other parts of SH and have a great deal of success. For some people the chatrooms work, for others it doesn't. For me, the forums work best, for others they don't.
I only began to arrange meets and get to know people socially when I joined the forums so maybe Sarflad could do the same.
Yes, but if you're going to come into the forums and complain about lack of success then a lot of the viewpoints and advice are going to be forum based.
Jas
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Im not negative...
i think youll find that your whole post was completely negative....
negative about this... negative about that............ about the other......
as much as id like to say what i think... its already been said by almost everyone... and to be honest.... its gonna be pretty negative too...
