I'm pretty much with everyone else on this.....
Its not that difficult to make me cum but once you do I'm not multi-orgasmic......so once I've cum it's pretty hard to get me to do it again....so I just enjoy the journey and have fun.....I don't feel that I need to cum lots of times to make it good.....
And if I don't make the guy cum it IS disappointing....but I wouldn't feel like a failure.....
i like it when i make someone cum,if possible several times before i do,if they dont then it does bother me.
i like to be teased and dont like to cum quickly,sometimes i dont like to cum but save it till i get home,other times the sooner the better but theres no hurry really.
sometimes i dont always stay hard though out a session and this puts people off thinking that im not enjoying it.
this is so far from the truth sometimes when im just semi it feels more sensitive and horny espcially if being rubbed carresed over satin panties.
I agree orgasms ARE the ultimate, and not always necessary. In many ways, being on the edge is better than tipping over - on the edge every nerve in your body is hyper-sensitive, and every touch electrifying. Once your orgasm starts - the senses get overwhelmed as it crashes through you. Sometimes coming together you miss enjoying your partners orgasm, and I doubt there is anybody that does not take huge pleasure in being able to make a partner have a REALLY huge orgasm.
There are times when Kit and I will want to concentrate on pleasuring each other. Pampering your partner if you like, concentrating fully on their needs without thinking of your own. It is simply about the enjoyment of exploring your partner and learning how to read where they are, and what they want, how far you can take them.
When I am on the receiving end, Kit will try and hold me right on the edge to make the orgasm as intense as possible. Not by starting and stopping, but by making small adjustments here and there that she KNOWS will keep me teetering. :crazy:
This does take a certain amount of understanding of your partner - and that only comes from experience.
Mind you - it does mean that there is always one of us lost in ecstasy completely oblivious to anything but what we are feeling. We quite fancy the idea of ganging up on a third party....... :twisted:
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Kat
I think the types of orgasm, play a bit of a part as well. I can orgasm very easily with oral, but find it very difficult during full sex. Though I never find it a problem, and can have just as much enjoyment without the orgasm or enjoy masturbation :twisted: during sex which of course ends with the desired result.
But I would feel a little worried if the male partner hadn't achived an orgasm and yes I prob would feel a faliure in that respect.
for me personally i prefer the lady come first .iam always in control such that i dnt cum until i have to which is when a woman orgasms the moment i see that its gets me so high such that i come with so much intensity both of us will be satisified .i also found out that if a woman comes before me the thrill keeps me going for ever i dont need to rest that much .
stamina in the mid 30's male can be kinda poor, even if we can theoretically last for hours.((( yeah bloody right! 
:lol2: ))) i blame the smoking, drinking and meds meself? :roll: :lol2:
me, me, me!!!!! LoL