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James, you sound pissed off 
Yes, there are some fakes, as there are on all sites that do this sort of thing, and a fair sprinkling of dreamers too. I doubt that even collectively they total 98% though! The fakers are the bad guys always
, but I think that some of the dreamers should be forgiven (although I admit they can be annoying!). Dreamers come in all shapes and sizes, but some of them place ads genuinely believing that they can go through with what they want to go through with, but when it comes down to it they (for whatever reason) bottle out. I've had various experiences with these sorts of people and I've forgiven them all (I'm nice like that! :shock: ). In an ideal world, dreamers would realise that their fantasies are not realistic for them BEFORE they place an ad, but we live in the really real world and I'm afraid that dreamers are around to stay 
No help to the serious folks, but simply the way of the world.
Chin up, James, there really are some genuine folks on here
Yes, there are some fakes, as there are on all sites that do this sort of thing, and a fair sprinkling of dreamers too. I doubt that even collectively they total 98% though! The fakers are the bad guys always
, but I think that some of the dreamers should be forgiven (although I admit they can be annoying!). Dreamers come in all shapes and sizes, but some of them place ads genuinely believing that they can go through with what they want to go through with, but when it comes down to it they (for whatever reason) bottle out. I've had various experiences with these sorts of people and I've forgiven them all (I'm nice like that! :shock: ). In an ideal world, dreamers would realise that their fantasies are not realistic for them BEFORE they place an ad, but we live in the really real world and I'm afraid that dreamers are around to stay No help to the serious folks, but simply the way of the world.Chin up, James, there really are some genuine folks on here
Love the avatar, Jomu. 8)
James...
Ditto everything Blue said.
You're dealing with people here. People change their minds, get scared, are struck down with a sudden personal crisis... In the normal course of daily life, just how long does the average person spend in pursuit of sex? I don't know about you but it doesn't take much to chuck my plans in the air.
That's not to say there isn't a fair amount of idiots out there... but a 98% claim smacks of sour grapes and isn't realistic.
Hxx
James...
Ditto everything Blue said.
You're dealing with people here. People change their minds, get scared, are struck down with a sudden personal crisis... In the normal course of daily life, just how long does the average person spend in pursuit of sex? I don't know about you but it doesn't take much to chuck my plans in the air.
That's not to say there isn't a fair amount of idiots out there... but a 98% claim smacks of sour grapes and isn't realistic.
Hxx
I think he has a point to some extent.
Its very dificult to meet people on this site.
We are all here for pleasure, and for lots of different personal reasons.
It appears to me that there are lots of guys sorry gays posing as couples
Photos and a direct phone line has not received one single reply .
I think if you are honest enough to give your phone number then that means you will meet.
We all dont have 12 inch dicks drown woman with cum and last 24 hours
Like all the people advertising
But we do have people who are fun ,intelligent ,sexy , honest and reliable people who do this just for fun and are genuine.
Lets have a system where we can weed out the time wasters like they do in e bay and lets start having fun and not wasting so much time with people whe are not shy but really are pathetic people .
Lets stop defending these people and through them out.
I am sure thats fucked me up with this site buts its the most fun ive had out of it in 6 months.
Regards Tony
Its very dificult to meet people on this site.
We are all here for pleasure, and for lots of different personal reasons.
It appears to me that there are lots of guys sorry gays posing as couples
Photos and a direct phone line has not received one single reply .
I think if you are honest enough to give your phone number then that means you will meet.
We all dont have 12 inch dicks drown woman with cum and last 24 hours
Like all the people advertising
But we do have people who are fun ,intelligent ,sexy , honest and reliable people who do this just for fun and are genuine.
Lets have a system where we can weed out the time wasters like they do in e bay and lets start having fun and not wasting so much time with people whe are not shy but really are pathetic people .
Lets stop defending these people and through them out.
I am sure thats fucked me up with this site buts its the most fun ive had out of it in 6 months.
Regards Tony
the only way you could do that, is to have other members verify people who are genuine on here. Which in principal is a good idea, however, this can also be open to abuse. You will allways experience time wasters, last minute cancellations, etc... that's human nature, and what really ruins it, are the brainless idiots that as soon as a couple turns up, either planned or not, they drive right upto them or immediately jump out of their cars and hang around the car. This ultimately puts the couple off, and they drive off, ruining the night for all us geniune guys & couples.
Got to agree with that one, aboutr the idiots rushing up to cars. It's happened to us, and I've put a posting on the forum before about it. People who DON'T follow the dogging etiquette are a real problem, but just because a couple are put off and drive away doesn't make them either fakers or dreamers....just concerned about their own safety!!
Thats fine people who turn up and are put off are not time wasters.
I am more concerned about safety as much as any one.
Its people who advertise probably receive 20 replies and never
reply 2 one of them.
There has to be a simple system of I replied to that add who? meet up with them
If 10 guys or couples say i did then fine but if 20 people say we replied and no body met up then they are time wasters
I am more concerned about safety as much as any one.
Its people who advertise probably receive 20 replies and never
reply 2 one of them.
There has to be a simple system of I replied to that add who? meet up with them
If 10 guys or couples say i did then fine but if 20 people say we replied and no body met up then they are time wasters
Looks like this one could run & run 
Well, IMHO, I think sticking around for a while & taking part should give people a better opinion of someone, and you are bound to build up friendships with people over time (and we all know where THAT can lead if you're genuine & patient too
)
Personally, making some frinds is why I'm here, and if anything comes of it - Bonus!
Take care folks!
BB
Well, IMHO, I think sticking around for a while & taking part should give people a better opinion of someone, and you are bound to build up friendships with people over time (and we all know where THAT can lead if you're genuine & patient too
)Personally, making some frinds is why I'm here, and if anything comes of it - Bonus!
Take care folks!
BB
I've followed this thread with a fair bit of interest. For my own part, every person that I've (physically) met through this site has been great, we've all had a good time and got what we've wanted.
However, I've still had my fair share of people that haven't turned up or even bothered to reply messages. I'm quite philosophical about this because as we all know, there's just as much rough as there is smooth!
I'm more annoyed by the people who automatically assume that if they post a topic or a personal ad, they will automatically fulfil all of their desires. They don't seem to have any interest in devloping an ongoing realtionship with or through the site, just getting their rocks off. Some of the ads and topics are so overladen with either desperation or arrogance that it's no great surprise that they don't get any interest.
I too would like to see a system of 'vouching', but how do new starters get off the ground? I'm inclined to think that there are three levels of members on the site: Those that take an interest and make a constructive input, those that lurk until something that is of personal interest to them comes up and those that have registered just to be able to post once in the hope (or belief) that they'll get a result. I've got nothing to support these assumptions, but I would think they probably break down in percentage terms as 20, 30, 50. Think about it, most posting is done by the same core of people who have all earned their credentials.
If we could factor out the last group and encourage people in the lurkers group to actively participate, it would be a tighter, more focussed (sic?) arena.
I'm still in contact with many lovely people that I've met through this site and I've got an honest expectation of meeting more in the future. It's just a shame that there's so much chaff to wade through before you get to the wheat! I'd love to see newbies encouraged to really get going and I'd love it if we all played by the same rules of respect and etiquette. Meanwhile, back in the real world...............
Hope this makes sense. On the readback I'm not sure it does, but I just wanted to chip in with some thoughts!
However, I've still had my fair share of people that haven't turned up or even bothered to reply messages. I'm quite philosophical about this because as we all know, there's just as much rough as there is smooth!
I'm more annoyed by the people who automatically assume that if they post a topic or a personal ad, they will automatically fulfil all of their desires. They don't seem to have any interest in devloping an ongoing realtionship with or through the site, just getting their rocks off. Some of the ads and topics are so overladen with either desperation or arrogance that it's no great surprise that they don't get any interest.
I too would like to see a system of 'vouching', but how do new starters get off the ground? I'm inclined to think that there are three levels of members on the site: Those that take an interest and make a constructive input, those that lurk until something that is of personal interest to them comes up and those that have registered just to be able to post once in the hope (or belief) that they'll get a result. I've got nothing to support these assumptions, but I would think they probably break down in percentage terms as 20, 30, 50. Think about it, most posting is done by the same core of people who have all earned their credentials.
If we could factor out the last group and encourage people in the lurkers group to actively participate, it would be a tighter, more focussed (sic?) arena.
I'm still in contact with many lovely people that I've met through this site and I've got an honest expectation of meeting more in the future. It's just a shame that there's so much chaff to wade through before you get to the wheat! I'd love to see newbies encouraged to really get going and I'd love it if we all played by the same rules of respect and etiquette. Meanwhile, back in the real world...............
Hope this makes sense. On the readback I'm not sure it does, but I just wanted to chip in with some thoughts!
Yep, pain in the ass reducing homer to 10k Heather...but some things are worth the effort !
As for the "couples never showing"........................
That's life.
Get used to it guys, life often doesn't go to plan.
And in this game, if you get a bit worried then the rule is GET OUT.
Now, I never go to arranged meets....or should I say meets arranged in an open forum (well, almost never)...too many turds driving about, and many of them just want to piss people off anyway. Although I did meet Lissa and her man....once. Even with the drivebys.
I have just got back from another night in the local layby....the same one that my w/screen got smashed in...some times it's good...most times its cold...tonight a couple just drove in, got stripped and got on with it....with the interior lit up like a xmas tree. Believe me, there ain't many like that anymore...the young lady was a smasher...but the usual lorry wandered in...and they just carried on...sigh...the rest of the year will be shit...
Now, who knows the guy in the big red motor...ending LOP...this idiot should grow up...and learn to walk...
Anyway, if you can't be bothered to wait you should get a different hobby...or become a driveby.
As for the "couples never showing"........................
That's life.
Get used to it guys, life often doesn't go to plan.
And in this game, if you get a bit worried then the rule is GET OUT.
Now, I never go to arranged meets....or should I say meets arranged in an open forum (well, almost never)...too many turds driving about, and many of them just want to piss people off anyway. Although I did meet Lissa and her man....once. Even with the drivebys.
I have just got back from another night in the local layby....the same one that my w/screen got smashed in...some times it's good...most times its cold...tonight a couple just drove in, got stripped and got on with it....with the interior lit up like a xmas tree. Believe me, there ain't many like that anymore...the young lady was a smasher...but the usual lorry wandered in...and they just carried on...sigh...the rest of the year will be shit...
Now, who knows the guy in the big red motor...ending LOP...this idiot should grow up...and learn to walk...
Anyway, if you can't be bothered to wait you should get a different hobby...or become a driveby.
We have a standard reply for guys who respond to ads we place if they are not what we are looking for but there are a lot of guys that we don't reply to.
The reason we don't reply to those is simply this, if they can't be bothered to read our ad properly and respond in the way we requested or think that they needn't bother then in our opinion they don't deserve a reply.
Single guys need to read ads properly, look at what they are putting in a reply and ask themselves whether their reply meets what has been requested. If it does and they don't receive a reply maybe they can described them as time wasters. We have found that in most cases this does not happen in the e-mails we receive.
We get e-mails from guys who have seen our profile in saying if we are interested they will send us a pic. This is all that is in their
e-mail. How do they expect us to know if we are interested if they don't supply details and a pic. Needless to say we do not reply to these either.
The reason we don't reply to those is simply this, if they can't be bothered to read our ad properly and respond in the way we requested or think that they needn't bother then in our opinion they don't deserve a reply.
Single guys need to read ads properly, look at what they are putting in a reply and ask themselves whether their reply meets what has been requested. If it does and they don't receive a reply maybe they can described them as time wasters. We have found that in most cases this does not happen in the e-mails we receive.
We get e-mails from guys who have seen our profile in saying if we are interested they will send us a pic. This is all that is in their
e-mail. How do they expect us to know if we are interested if they don't supply details and a pic. Needless to say we do not reply to these either.
Just to clarify, most of the occasions on which I've had my time wasted are from guys who have been offered the chance of a show and have either not bothered to reply to a mail/PM or not bothered to turn up. I know that things do crop up and plans do get changed, but just a quick line to explain a no show/no reply is only courteous. Only very rarely (twice) have I ever responded to a couple's ad and I still think that if someone goes to the trouble of replying to an ad, the least that they deserve is a 'thanks, but no thanks' reply.
I get responses from people who are clearly unsuited to what we're looking for, but I still mail them back and thank them for their interest. The main reasons for me doing this are that you never know that even if that person isn't useful to you at the time, they might be in the future, but also, if people keep putting themselves forward and never get any kind of acknowledgement at all, they simply become disillusioned and lose faith in the system. Even if someone submits a terrible and unsuitable reply to a request, at least they're trying and can possibly be guided.
I get responses from people who are clearly unsuited to what we're looking for, but I still mail them back and thank them for their interest. The main reasons for me doing this are that you never know that even if that person isn't useful to you at the time, they might be in the future, but also, if people keep putting themselves forward and never get any kind of acknowledgement at all, they simply become disillusioned and lose faith in the system. Even if someone submits a terrible and unsuitable reply to a request, at least they're trying and can possibly be guided.
Hi all
Please please please understand that you are in cyberspace.
Of course it is courteous to reply or say I cannot make it.
I always do.
But to be whinging about the lack of response or courtesy shown by strangers hidden behind a computer who have absolutely no responsibility to you whatsoever is the nature of the internet.
YOU ARE SEEKING NO STRINGS SEX WITH STRANGERS OF COURSE YOU WILL FIND THE DESPERATE AND THE NEEDY.
Do not be so pious.
Just keep bashing away and eventually you will if you have common sense find the real people.
There is always dangers here that girls could be posing as boys and vice versa lies and walter mittys abound the internet.
If you want to utilise this medium then know the risks you cannot legislate.
Surely guessing who is real is part of the fun.
Go safe
Sandie
Please please please understand that you are in cyberspace.
Of course it is courteous to reply or say I cannot make it.
I always do.
But to be whinging about the lack of response or courtesy shown by strangers hidden behind a computer who have absolutely no responsibility to you whatsoever is the nature of the internet.
YOU ARE SEEKING NO STRINGS SEX WITH STRANGERS OF COURSE YOU WILL FIND THE DESPERATE AND THE NEEDY.
Do not be so pious.
Just keep bashing away and eventually you will if you have common sense find the real people.
There is always dangers here that girls could be posing as boys and vice versa lies and walter mittys abound the internet.
If you want to utilise this medium then know the risks you cannot legislate.
Surely guessing who is real is part of the fun.
Go safe
Sandie
Quote by petesue
We have a standard reply for guys who respond to ads we place if they are not what we are looking for but there are a lot of guys that we don't reply to.
Pete&Sue, I had a reply from you ages ago. It was a very nice reply and didn't seem at all standard, even though you said no thanks it made a nice change to even get one
A lot of people are gen and do "back out" at the last moment, many have real reasons for doing so. I crashed my car on the way to meet a couple once and it took me an age to convince them it was true!! But as we all know, not all are who they say they are......
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well i for one would like to add my say! i`m still yet to fully get to grips with this scene. so far i`ve had no replies to my posts requesting help and site advice, so , will i ever get broken in?? i`m sure that others on this site know of local sites and could give experienced advice to someone who is wary of offending those not in the scene....go on , help me!!
