Owner of a lonely heart...............................
much better than the owner of a broken heart......discuss
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Owner of a lonely heart
Can I join the broken hearts club too? 
And there's me thinking I'd know better at my age 
Behind all my bravado and bullshit, I've been hurting really bad recently too. It does help to talk to someone who's completely neutral as I found out ( big thanks Uncle Pete for being my shoulder to cry on
)
It hurts like a bitch, you feel like you'll never stop crying but it really does ease hunni.
:therethere:
pm box always open if you feel the need to talk/rant/throw things :kiss:
And there's me thinking I'd know better at my age Behind all my bravado and bullshit, I've been hurting really bad recently too. It does help to talk to someone who's completely neutral as I found out ( big thanks Uncle Pete for being my shoulder to cry on
) It hurts like a bitch, you feel like you'll never stop crying but it really does ease hunni.
:therethere:
pm box always open if you feel the need to talk/rant/throw things :kiss:
Sex God
Quote by lambchop
Owner of a lonely heart...............................
much better than the owner of a broken heart......discuss
Love it. One of the best that Yes did, in my opinion.
Quote by steve_j
'Tis better to have loved and lost
Than never to have loved at all.
Alfred Lord Tennyson's poem 'In Memoriam:27', 1850.
IMHO I would prefer to have the broken heart than the lonely one.
as i see it, this quote of Tennyson is the opposite in meaning to Lambys "Owner of a lonely heart...............................
much better than the owner of a broken heart"
both are created by negative experiences ......
broken relates to "past experiences" and "lonley" relates to present and future experiences.
For me , to spend time dwelling on the past is very destructive and one of the hardest things in life to overcome........so too is worrying about the future. In order not to be affected by both, one has to train ones -self. easier said than done.
we tend to find "crutches" to hold us up and these too can turn out to be more destructive sometimes than the feelings that we blot out.
i think the main problem is that we generally get help and advice from those around us that care such as "forget it and move on", "its not so bad- someone will come along soon and fill the void ", " get over it" etc....... but we fail to listen and act upon whats staring us in the face.
personally ive felt both feelings and tried to see it as a battle between the head and the heart.... id prefer to go with my head rather than my heart, but its always a battle as i am an emotional person.
id say i agree with Lambys proposition...... id rather be lonley than have a broken heart.
id like to wish those with a broken heart the fastest of recoveries. i can feel for you........ but the answers are there and if you dont get over this feeling NOW, it can only get worse...you are the only nes who can understand exactly what youre feeling but if you do try and mend it, it will not take too long to get over............ but you need to start and try hard to do so.
good luck
Sex God
I would rather a lonely heart than a broken one. Broken hearts do mend but they hurt so much while they are broken :upset:
Quote by firelizard
I would rather a lonely heart than a broken one. Broken hearts do mend but they hurt so much while they are broken :upset:
Awwwww Fire. :therethere:
I had my heart broken once, it was almost unbearable. I often feel alone, even though I'm in a very loving relationship. That's just the way I am, I find it tough a lot of the time to connect with the rest of the world. This doesn't mean I'm sad or depressed because after 27 years you get used to it. Feeling alone but happy and content is preferable to a lot of other things.
Sex God
Quote by Kiss
I would rather a lonely heart than a broken one. Broken hearts do mend but they hurt so much while they are broken :upset:
Awwwww Fire. :therethere:
I had my heart broken once, it was almost unbearable. I often feel alone, even though I'm in a very loving relationship. That's just the way I am, I find it tough a lot of the time to connect with the rest of the world. This doesn't mean I'm sad or depressed because after 27 years you get used to it. Feeling alone but happy and content is preferable to a lot of other things.
:therethere: My PM box is just the right size for lonely people Twinkle!
Quote by firelizard
I would rather a lonely heart than a broken one. Broken hearts do mend but they hurt so much while they are broken :upset:
Awwwww Fire. :therethere:
I had my heart broken once, it was almost unbearable. I often feel alone, even though I'm in a very loving relationship. That's just the way I am, I find it tough a lot of the time to connect with the rest of the world. This doesn't mean I'm sad or depressed because after 27 years you get used to it. Feeling alone but happy and content is preferable to a lot of other things.
:therethere: My PM box is just the right size for lonely people Twinkle!
:rose:
Thanks, and the same goes. Like I said I'm actually used to it and find it a lot more bearable than some other emotions. The way I try to describe what having Aspergers is like is, imagine you are one side of a giant pane of thick glass and everyone else is on the other side, you can see them and you desperately want to join in but the glass stops you from connecting. Far from being something to pity it's just a fact and there is nothing I can do to change it.
The ocassions where I do truly connect with the world and other people is through playing music/gigging and also sex. So I make sure I do a lot of both.
Sex God
Quote by Kiss
I would rather a lonely heart than a broken one. Broken hearts do mend but they hurt so much while they are broken :upset:
Awwwww Fire. :therethere:
I had my heart broken once, it was almost unbearable. I often feel alone, even though I'm in a very loving relationship. That's just the way I am, I find it tough a lot of the time to connect with the rest of the world. This doesn't mean I'm sad or depressed because after 27 years you get used to it. Feeling alone but happy and content is preferable to a lot of other things.
:therethere: My PM box is just the right size for lonely people Twinkle!
:rose:
Thanks, and the same goes. Like I said I'm actually used to it and find it a lot more bearable than some other emotions. The way I try to describe what having Aspergers is like is, imagine you are one side of a giant pane of thick glass and everyone else is on the other side, you can see them and you desperately want to join in but the glass stops you from connecting. Far from being something to pity it's just a fact and there is nothing I can do to change it.
The ocassions where I do truly connect with the world and other people is through playing music/gigging and also sex. So I make sure I do a lot of both.
:thumbup: Way to go hun!!!
In response to the eloquent post by Deecee, you summise that you can only have the one broken heart...but surely you can keep having broken hearts, as they become mended over time, from many relationships which would involve happiness at one point to have the heart in such a situation as to become broken? ergo many relationships = much happiness and sadness in equal measure, lonely heart never having the relaionships to form the happiness.
Again I would prefer the broken heart lest i would never know the joy of happiness to have it broken.
Again I would prefer the broken heart lest i would never know the joy of happiness to have it broken.
Quote by steve_j
In response to the eloquent post by Deecee, you summise that you can only have the one broken heart...but surely you can keep having broken hearts, as they become mended over time, from many relationships which would involve happiness at one point to have the heart in such a situation as to become broken? ergo many relationships = much happiness and sadness in equal measure, lonely heart never having the relaionships to form the happiness.
Again I would prefer the broken heart lest i would never know the joy of happiness to have it broken.
i read it slightly differently...... but thanks for the compliment on my post.......
i suppose its a subjective thing........
for me a lonley heart is close to the description of the feeling that i have at the moment. in that id like to be in a relationship...... but im not lonley to the point where im desperate....infact i like my freedom very much...
ive really only been single for 4 yrs out of about 17 and only had my heart "broken" twice.. once badly........... so i can see where youre coming from......
anyhow. it looks as if lambchop is getting some clarity........
i do know a good tip for what youre going through at the moment.. if u wanna chat... PM me for my msn addy or phone number.... ill whip you into shape and help you move on.......... but as with situations like this, its only you who will hold yourself back......
Quote by lambchop
I'm overwhelmed by the response. Doesn't make things any easier but my clairty is returning back to normal. I cant help dwelling on what might have been,but I know thats not the right thing to do.
Never look back babe- life goes forwards and you don't want to be left behind
Quote by DeeCee
i do know a good tip for what youre going through at the moment.. if u wanna chat... PM me for my msn addy or phone number.... ill whip you into shape and help you move on.......... but as with situations like this, its only you who will hold yourself back......
Cheers DeeCee I do appreciate your help and assistance...a pm will be forthcoming
The words of wisdom from the saggy bottom boys
I am a man of constant sorrow
I've seen trouble all my day.
I bid farewell to old Kentucky
The place where I was born and raised.
For six long years I've been in trouble
No pleasures here on earth I found
For in this world I'm bound to ramble
I have no friends to help me now.
It's fare thee well my old lover
I never expect to see you again
For I'm bound to ride that northern railroad
Perhaps I'll die upon this train.
You can bury me in some deep valley
For many years where I may lay
Then you may learn to love another
While I am sleeping in my grave.
Maybe your friends think I'm just a stranger
My face you'll never see no more.
But there is one promise that is given
I'll meet you on God's golden shore.
He'll meet you on God's golden shore.
I am a man of constant sorrow
I've seen trouble all my day.
I bid farewell to old Kentucky
The place where I was born and raised.
For six long years I've been in trouble
No pleasures here on earth I found
For in this world I'm bound to ramble
I have no friends to help me now.
It's fare thee well my old lover
I never expect to see you again
For I'm bound to ride that northern railroad
Perhaps I'll die upon this train.
You can bury me in some deep valley
For many years where I may lay
Then you may learn to love another
While I am sleeping in my grave.
Maybe your friends think I'm just a stranger
My face you'll never see no more.
But there is one promise that is given
I'll meet you on God's golden shore.
He'll meet you on God's golden shore.
aww thanks everybody..its gonna take a while to get over but I will. Do you think its wrong to still want to be friends with her?The split was not acrimonious and was done for all the right reasons,to which I thank her for doing it now rather than later when I'm sure we both would feel a lot worse about it?
Quote by keeno
The words of wisdom from the saggy bottom boys
I am a man of constant sorrow
I've seen trouble all my day.
I bid farewell to old Kentucky
The place where I was born and raised.
For six long years I've been in trouble
No pleasures here on earth I found
For in this world I'm bound to ramble
I have no friends to help me now.
It's fare thee well my old lover
I never expect to see you again
For I'm bound to ride that northern railroad
Perhaps I'll die upon this train.
You can bury me in some deep valley
For many years where I may lay
Then you may learn to love another
While I am sleeping in my grave.
Maybe your friends think I'm just a stranger
My face you'll never see no more.
But there is one promise that is given
I'll meet you on God's golden shore.
He'll meet you on God's golden shore.
Ahhh - George Clooney at his best
As for contributing something to the thread - I will ponder that overnight.
Sometimes posting on impulse can be a very bad thing indeed.
And err - Keeno - it was Soggy, not Saggy if I recall correctly!! :D
Quote by Manolishi
The words of wisdom from the saggy bottom boys
I am a man of constant sorrow
I've seen trouble all my day.
I bid farewell to old Kentucky
The place where I was born and raised.
For six long years I've been in trouble
No pleasures here on earth I found
For in this world I'm bound to ramble
I have no friends to help me now.
It's fare thee well my old lover
I never expect to see you again
For I'm bound to ride that northern railroad
Perhaps I'll die upon this train.
You can bury me in some deep valley
For many years where I may lay
Then you may learn to love another
While I am sleeping in my grave.
Maybe your friends think I'm just a stranger
My face you'll never see no more.
But there is one promise that is given
I'll meet you on God's golden shore.
He'll meet you on God's golden shore.
Ahhh - George Clooney at his best
As for contributing something to the thread - I will ponder that overnight.
Sometimes posting on impulse can be a very bad thing indeed.
And err - Keeno - it was Soggy, not Saggy if I recall correctly!! :D
Yer sorry, I was in a funny mood yesterday. It's a personal thing really. This is a song I played a lot when my marriage collasped. Probably means more to me than anyone else, it always reminds me of the pain and confusion I was suffering.
Quote by lambchop
aww thanks everybody..its gonna take a while to get over but I will. Do you think its wrong to still want to be friends with her?The split was not acrimonious and was done for all the right reasons,to which I thank her for doing it now rather than later when I'm sure we both would feel a lot worse about it?
Lammy hun, only you can make the decision to stay friends though it's good you can see that you can take longer to get over it when you're still in contact but your friendship will reach a whole new level because of what you felt for each other.
I'm still best mates with my ex because that's what we were before we let sex get in the way and that's what we'll be until the end. He's my soulmate and I'll love him forever, I just can't be IN love with him.
Well, I did ponder all last night, literally almost all of last night. The result being that I do have an opinion that I will share.
Last year I had my heart broken big time. An event that really crushed me and one, if I am honest with myself, am not truly over.
I then found myself opening up to someone who became so much more than a friend and helped me with the loneliness.
End result, another broken heart.
So it’s back to loneliness again. Is that better than a broken heart? Personally I don’t think so. Mostly I suppose it’s to do with my current circumstances, trust me, living in a shed ain’t that much fun. Therefore maybe my judgement is clouded.
Loneliness can be such a desperate thing. To wake up each morning knowing that you are truly alone.
People deal with things differently, for me, I suppose I prefer to keep things inside, certainly now. Last time I opened up, it was thrown back at me.
Maybe loneliness is just to deal with the acceptance of the situation. No idea, maybe if I ever discover the truth for me, I will come back and update this entry.
Weird isn’t it, I read the thread thinking it was about one of the worlds greatest rock bands and end up writing stuff that, when I read it back, just comes over as bollocks.
Last year I had my heart broken big time. An event that really crushed me and one, if I am honest with myself, am not truly over.
I then found myself opening up to someone who became so much more than a friend and helped me with the loneliness.
End result, another broken heart.
So it’s back to loneliness again. Is that better than a broken heart? Personally I don’t think so. Mostly I suppose it’s to do with my current circumstances, trust me, living in a shed ain’t that much fun. Therefore maybe my judgement is clouded.
Loneliness can be such a desperate thing. To wake up each morning knowing that you are truly alone.
People deal with things differently, for me, I suppose I prefer to keep things inside, certainly now. Last time I opened up, it was thrown back at me.
Maybe loneliness is just to deal with the acceptance of the situation. No idea, maybe if I ever discover the truth for me, I will come back and update this entry.
Weird isn’t it, I read the thread thinking it was about one of the worlds greatest rock bands and end up writing stuff that, when I read it back, just comes over as bollocks.
