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at least you all get sum sorrta invites
the people i know on here find out what weekend im in work then hold the party on that specific weekend :!: :!:
is it coincedence :!: :!:
or they doing it on purpose :!: :!:
i know im special lol :lol:
the specialist said i was :!: :!:
Quote by Try2
As a single male I don’t expect to get party invites. What I find strange is the party host's need to broadcast their party on cam to everyone else. If you as the host have all your so called ‘real close friends’ at your home then why not enjoy their company and turn off the cams, why the need to broadcasting to people who are not your friends and have no interest in who is at your party. All you get is perves who sit in anticipation of some action watching a bunch of strangers in a room
Or is the cam on to show all others how popular you are and how many mates you have. Having a party is one thing. Having a party and rubbing it in others faces on cam is another and its that that makes those who didn't get the invite question your so called friendship.
Keep the private party private and no one gets upset

dont look if u dont like, others do like
Last party I went to the host's mum gave me a party bag on the way home sad
What I find strange is the party host's need to broadcast their party on cam to everyone else. If you as the host have all your so called ‘real close friends’ at your home then why not enjoy their company and turn off the cams, why the need to broadcasting to people who are not your friends and have no interest in who is at your party. All you get is perves who sit in anticipation of some action watching a bunch of strangers in a room
Or is the cam on to show all others how popular you are and how many mates you have. Having a party is one thing. Having a party and rubbing it in others faces on cam is another and its that that makes those who didn't get the invite question your so called friendship.
Keep the private party private and no one gets upset
have to agree with this lol
Two things being discussed here really. One is cams on at private socials and the other invites to private parties at someones home.
Hosts of course has the uncondtional right to invite to their home whom they so wish. If its a private social then really its no ones business except the host/s who gets invited.
However, if what I seem to be reading here is that sometimes people are offended at not being invited to their perceived 'friends' socials, thats a real feeling and I think we should never forget that people here do have real feelings. Surely no one here is really setting out to hurt the feelings intentionally of people? If they are then that seems sad and I would worry why.
I am not sure of the purpose of this thread but I hope that people are not being made to feel now 'Is it me? Am I in or out of the crowd of the day as i havent had an invite'.
Always wise to remember, this is a forum, one where feelings of trust, love and friendship can be very quick to change - something that I have had to learn the hard way. I am not in any crowd and choose my real friends carefully.
I love going to house parties to meet people and hope to get invited to more in the future. If I dont, thats fine also! I can always have my own if I can get my lazy act together except mine will def be no sex and lots of scrabble lol :lol:
On the topic of cams at socials, well not sure what the purpose is really as I go to see people not go online which I can do at any time.
Quote by corrie2008
Two things being discussed here really. One is cams on at private socials and the other invites to private parties at someones home.
Hosts of course has the uncondtional right to invite to their home whom they so wish. If its a private social then really its no ones business except the host/s who gets invited.
However, if what I seem to be reading here is that sometimes people are offended at not being invited to their perceived 'friends' socials, thats a real feeling and I think we should never forget that people here do have real feelings. Surely no one here is really setting out to hurt the feelings intentionally of people? If they are then that seems sad and I would worry why.
I am not sure of the purpose of this thread but I hope that people are not being made to feel now 'Is it me? Am I in or out of the crowd of the day as i havent had an invite'.
Always wise to remember, this is a forum, one where feelings of trust, love and friendship can be very quick to change - something that I have had to learn the hard way. I am not in any crowd and choose my real friends carefully.
I love going to house parties to meet people and hope to get invited to more in the future. If I dont, thats fine also! I can always have my own if I can get my lazy act together except mine will def be no sex and lots of scrabble lol :lol:
On the topic of cams at socials, well not sure what the purpose is really as I go to see people not go online which I can do at any time.

I must agree really, I cant see why the cams go on at parties - but they just do. Perhaps we should be more careful. Can only appologise for those that get offended by it. However, I stand by the point if u dont like dont look.
The idea of the socials was to stop the moaners who say the mids room is clicky but im begining to realise that some peeps will moan what ever u do. Our good intentions have once again been belittled.
Of course those people are equally able to open up there homes and invite people over. The roads go both ways.
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Quote by midsprincess
I must agree really, I cant see why the cams go on at parties - but they just do. Perhaps we should be more careful. Can only appologise for those that get offended by it. However, I stand by the point if u dont like dont look.
The idea of the socials was to stop the moaners who say the mids room is clicky but im begining to realise that some peeps will moan what ever u do. Our good intentions have once again been belittled.
Of course those people are equally able to open up there homes and invite people over. The roads go both ways.

with the greatest of respect.... if this a mids room problem, then could this have not sorted out in the mids room rather than bringing it on the forums and making the situation a lot larger......
I go thru the northern regional rooms... the north east, north west, yorkshire and scottish rooms and well as some of the others, and it seems that others don't tend to have these drama's... or tend to sort them out in house.......
now all that happens is that people who didn't go to the party in question but do go in that room will be wondering if they are being the ones talked about.....
Quote by fabio

I must agree really, I cant see why the cams go on at parties - but they just do. Perhaps we should be more careful. Can only appologise for those that get offended by it. However, I stand by the point if u dont like dont look.
The idea of the socials was to stop the moaners who say the mids room is clicky but im begining to realise that some peeps will moan what ever u do. Our good intentions have once again been belittled.
Of course those people are equally able to open up there homes and invite people over. The roads go both ways.

with the greatest of respect.... if this a mids room problem, then could this have not sorted out in the mids room rather than bringing it on the forums and making the situation a lot larger......
I go thru the northern regional rooms... the north east, north west, yorkshire and scottish rooms and well as some of the others, and it seems that others don't tend to have these drama's... or tend to sort them out in house.......
now all that happens is that people who didn't go to the party in question but do go in that room will be wondering if they are being the ones talked about.....
who meantioned talking about anyone
Quote by Try2
As a single male I don’t expect to get party invites. What I find strange is the party host's need to broadcast their party on cam to everyone else. If you as the host have all your so called ‘real close friends’ at your home then why not enjoy their company and turn off the cams, why the need to broadcasting to people who are not your friends and have no interest in who is at your party. All you get is perves who sit in anticipation of some action watching a bunch of strangers in a room
Or is the cam on to show all others how popular you are and how many mates you have. Having a party is one thing. Having a party and rubbing it in others faces on cam is another and its that that makes those who didn't get the invite question your so called friendship.
Keep the private party private and no one gets upset

we have parties and we somtimes have the cam on,why should we hide in a corner ??? this site is for peeps who enjoy all sorts of diferent things, it strikes me to many people would censor the site rather than just switch of their cams,its funny though how some people that have posted have done exactly what this post is trying to stop.
Quote by pisces2
As a single male I don’t expect to get party invites. What I find strange is the party host's need to broadcast their party on cam to everyone else. If you as the host have all your so called ‘real close friends’ at your home then why not enjoy their company and turn off the cams, why the need to broadcasting to people who are not your friends and have no interest in who is at your party. All you get is perves who sit in anticipation of some action watching a bunch of strangers in a room
Or is the cam on to show all others how popular you are and how many mates you have. Having a party is one thing. Having a party and rubbing it in others faces on cam is another and its that that makes those who didn't get the invite question your so called friendship.
Keep the private party private and no one gets upset

we have parties and we somtimes have the cam on,why should we hide in a corner ??? this site is for peeps who enjoy all sorts of diferent things, it strikes me to many people would censor the site rather than just switch of their cams,its funny though how some people that have posted have done exactly what this post is trying to stop.
if we went to a party and found out the cam was on...we would probably leave...having a cam on might rock some poeples boat...but we are looking for discretion.
Quote by londoncouple69
As a single male I don’t expect to get party invites. What I find strange is the party host's need to broadcast their party on cam to everyone else. If you as the host have all your so called ‘real close friends’ at your home then why not enjoy their company and turn off the cams, why the need to broadcasting to people who are not your friends and have no interest in who is at your party. All you get is perves who sit in anticipation of some action watching a bunch of strangers in a room
Or is the cam on to show all others how popular you are and how many mates you have. Having a party is one thing. Having a party and rubbing it in others faces on cam is another and its that that makes those who didn't get the invite question your so called friendship.
Keep the private party private and no one gets upset

we have parties and we somtimes have the cam on,why should we hide in a corner ??? this site is for peeps who enjoy all sorts of diferent things, it strikes me to many people would censor the site rather than just switch of their cams,its funny though how some people that have posted have done exactly what this post is trying to stop.
if we went to a party and found out the cam was on...we would probably leave...having a cam on might rock some poeples boat...but we are looking for discretion.
:thumbup: Yeah, me too. Personally, until I read this thread (maybe a tad naively rolleyes ) I had never even thought that anyone would have a cam on at a private party. Surely it is akin to the debate about people taking pictures at munches and socials? It's all about discretion for me. I think I'd leave too.
Quote by londoncouple69
As a single male I don’t expect to get party invites. What I find strange is the party host's need to broadcast their party on cam to everyone else. If you as the host have all your so called ‘real close friends’ at your home then why not enjoy their company and turn off the cams, why the need to broadcasting to people who are not your friends and have no interest in who is at your party. All you get is perves who sit in anticipation of some action watching a bunch of strangers in a room
Or is the cam on to show all others how popular you are and how many mates you have. Having a party is one thing. Having a party and rubbing it in others faces on cam is another and its that that makes those who didn't get the invite question your so called friendship.
Keep the private party private and no one gets upset

we have parties and we somtimes have the cam on,why should we hide in a corner ??? this site is for peeps who enjoy all sorts of diferent things, it strikes me to many people would censor the site rather than just switch of their cams,its funny though how some people that have posted have done exactly what this post is trying to stop.
if we went to a party and found out the cam was on...we would probably leave...having a cam on might rock some poeples boat...but we are looking for discretion.
these are social events rather than parties no one is playing and all are aware cam is on nothing happens that requires discression.
lets not forget the aim of these social evenings was to include new people into the mids room circle. People who are invited live within close proximity of each other not 20 30 40 miles away. If u looked and paid close attention to who was invited you would see that it is new people
Sour grapes are spoiling the ambiance of mids room.
Quote by londoncouple69
As a single male I don’t expect to get party invites. What I find strange is the party host's need to broadcast their party on cam to everyone else. If you as the host have all your so called ‘real close friends’ at your home then why not enjoy their company and turn off the cams, why the need to broadcasting to people who are not your friends and have no interest in who is at your party. All you get is perves who sit in anticipation of some action watching a bunch of strangers in a room
Or is the cam on to show all others how popular you are and how many mates you have. Having a party is one thing. Having a party and rubbing it in others faces on cam is another and its that that makes those who didn't get the invite question your so called friendship.
Keep the private party private and no one gets upset

we have parties and we somtimes have the cam on,why should we hide in a corner ??? this site is for peeps who enjoy all sorts of diferent things, it strikes me to many people would censor the site rather than just switch of their cams,its funny though how some people that have posted have done exactly what this post is trying to stop.
if we went to a party and found out the cam was on...we would probably leave...having a cam on might rock some poeples boat...but we are looking for discretion.
we always ask first before the cam goes on
Ooooooooooooo elloooooooooooo SH members biggrin I hope i wrote that right....................i mean we are all SH members, so the forums are open for all of us aren't they ???? Please correct me if i'm wrong..............& accept my apologies :D
Not really 1 for sayin much on ea, sooooooo ea goes...........................
Surely it is up to whom is holding the party at their home to invite whom they wish......tis their home after all.
As for bringing the topic of cams into it.................i still insist that 'X' marks the spot & again its is the SH members freedom of choice to either switch off or watch it. If you have something on tv that u want too watch, u leave it on, u dont like it ................. u turn it off ! Is that issue so hard to understand ?
Not everybody's home is a grand palace that hundreds or thousands could get into ........... tis just a humbel abode that the host calls home, please remember that wink
Its great that people have socials and they are really appreciated.
But is this thread going anywhere? Think the sour grapes who ever they are will have got the message and organisers of parties are getting upset.
Is there really anything else to say?
Tell you what now, this is becomin a absolute joke, yes it was my party every one on about, and its left a bad taste in the mids room, me personally i don't give a shit what other peeps think, u weren't invited so what it's gone, move on, get a feckin life.
What i don't like is people talking behind my back, like i said before, you got a problem say it my face.
Now the cam issue, ffs, when it is on every one is looking at it, but blow me down, they all complain there after, wtf.
Turn yours off then don't look, lift that finger press that button, it's that easy,
mine was on yes, but i left other peeps to go on sh that nite, i was too pissed ffs, so if cam was on they put it on, who signed on in there diff names.
Now i aint gonna ad to this any more, sick of it all, all this for peeps throwin there toys out there prams, grow up, ffs. A PISSED OFF VODDIE !!!!!!!
Quote by pisces2
As a single male I don’t expect to get party invites. What I find strange is the party host's need to broadcast their party on cam to everyone else. If you as the host have all your so called ‘real close friends’ at your home then why not enjoy their company and turn off the cams, why the need to broadcasting to people who are not your friends and have no interest in who is at your party. All you get is perves who sit in anticipation of some action watching a bunch of strangers in a room
Or is the cam on to show all others how popular you are and how many mates you have. Having a party is one thing. Having a party and rubbing it in others faces on cam is another and its that that makes those who didn't get the invite question your so called friendship.
Keep the private party private and no one gets upset

we have parties and we somtimes have the cam on,why should we hide in a corner ??? this site is for peeps who enjoy all sorts of diferent things, it strikes me to many people would censor the site rather than just switch of their cams,its funny though how some people that have posted have done exactly what this post is trying to stop.
if we went to a party and found out the cam was on...we would probably leave...having a cam on might rock some poeples boat...but we are looking for discretion.
we always ask first before the cam goes on
so what if someone says no?
do you ask them to leave?
Quote by Mr-Powers
As a single male I don’t expect to get party invites. What I find strange is the party host's need to broadcast their party on cam to everyone else. If you as the host have all your so called ‘real close friends’ at your home then why not enjoy their company and turn off the cams, why the need to broadcasting to people who are not your friends and have no interest in who is at your party. All you get is perves who sit in anticipation of some action watching a bunch of strangers in a room
Or is the cam on to show all others how popular you are and how many mates you have. Having a party is one thing. Having a party and rubbing it in others faces on cam is another and its that that makes those who didn't get the invite question your so called friendship.
Keep the private party private and no one gets upset

we have parties and we somtimes have the cam on,why should we hide in a corner ??? this site is for peeps who enjoy all sorts of diferent things, it strikes me to many people would censor the site rather than just switch of their cams,its funny though how some people that have posted have done exactly what this post is trying to stop.
if we went to a party and found out the cam was on...we would probably leave...having a cam on might rock some poeples boat...but we are looking for discretion.
we always ask first before the cam goes on
so what if someone says no?
do you ask them to leave?
they would be aware of wher the cam was picking up, but no one has said no yet.
Nope......................the cam stays off...........does that answer ur question ??
Quote by voddie68
Tell you what now, this is becomin a absolute joke, yes it was my party every one on about, and its left a bad taste in the mids room, me personally i don't give a shit what other peeps think, u weren't invited so what it's gone, move on, get a feckin life.
What i don't like is people talking behind my back, like i said before, you got a problem say it my face.
Now the cam issue, ffs, when it is on every one is looking at it, but blow me down, they all complain there after, wtf.
Turn yours off then don't look, lift that finger press that button, it's that easy,
mine was on yes, but i left other peeps to go on sh that nite, i was too pissed ffs, so if cam was on they put it on, who signed on in there diff names.
Now i aint gonna ad to this any more, sick of it all, all this for peeps throwin there toys out there prams, grow up, ffs. A PISSED OFF VODDIE !!!!!!!

Voddie I would always tell you to your face or in a pm if I was pissed off as I would anyone else. You are obviously pissed off with people. But take it to pm with them not here in the forum? I for one didnt realise this was about your party and I am not sure whats going on but chinese whispers is only that. Only important thing is that you had a great party at the end of the day?
Quote by voddie68
Tell you what now, this is becomin a absolute joke, yes it was my party every one on about, and its left a bad taste in the mids room, me personally i don't give a shit what other peeps think, u weren't invited so what it's gone, move on, get a feckin life.
What i don't like is people talking behind my back, like i said before, you got a problem say it my face.
Now the cam issue, ffs, when it is on every one is looking at it, but blow me down, they all complain there after, wtf.
Turn yours off then don't look, lift that finger press that button, it's that easy,
mine was on yes, but i left other peeps to go on sh that nite, i was too pissed ffs, so if cam was on they put it on, who signed on in there diff names.
Now i aint gonna ad to this any more, sick of it all, all this for peeps throwin there toys out there prams, grow up, ffs. A PISSED OFF VODDIE !!!!!!!

and again with the greatest of respect, if this was a mids room issue... should it have not remained a mids room issue and it been sorted out there in house.... rather than bringing it somewhere where 99.9% of the people would not have known what the bejesus happened and now made it seem a lot bigger than it is?
people in the forum may feel a lot different to those in the mids chatroom.......
Quote by fabio
Tell you what now, this is becomin a absolute joke, yes it was my party every one on about, and its left a bad taste in the mids room, me personally i don't give a shit what other peeps think, u weren't invited so what it's gone, move on, get a feckin life.
What i don't like is people talking behind my back, like i said before, you got a problem say it my face.
Now the cam issue, ffs, when it is on every one is looking at it, but blow me down, they all complain there after, wtf.
Turn yours off then don't look, lift that finger press that button, it's that easy,
mine was on yes, but i left other peeps to go on sh that nite, i was too pissed ffs, so if cam was on they put it on, who signed on in there diff names.
Now i aint gonna ad to this any more, sick of it all, all this for peeps throwin there toys out there prams, grow up, ffs. A PISSED OFF VODDIE !!!!!!!

and again with the greatest of respect, if this was a mids room issue... should it have not remained a mids room issue and it been sorted out there in house.... rather than bringing it somewhere where 99.9% of the people would not have known what the bejesus happened and now made it seem a lot bigger than it is?
people in the forum may feel a lot different to those in the mids chatroom.......
its an issue a lot of people have had to deal with, not just in the mids. how do we get an opinion if we dont post ??? whats the forum for ???
If i can put my two pence in... i think from someone that cant get to all the invites im (thankfully) lucky to get, i see it from both sides i think to the socials i have been to that have had the cam on its been a laugh the interaction between the party and the room has been lots of fun.. its not been about 'showing' anything but bringing the people into the ambiance of the party for them that maybe couldnt go.... there have been lots of times i havent gone to a pary but have participated from a far cos i chat with the go'rs and feel like ive joined in..... but like its been said by others... its a choice if i didnt want to look i would turn off... i dont feel rejected if im not there joining iin cos the cam partys and the host always make an effort never to leave people out not that ive seen.... i think its a silly thing to feel that way....... ive never seen a cam on at a private party that didnt want it on... so like others have said if you dont like turn it off.. and if you dont like that you have been invited or not involved that time doesnt mean you wont ever get an invite... i can vouch for a few of the posters on this forum... they do there ABSOLUTE best to invovle new faces to the mix... ever party ive been to ive meet new people that have not been before ..... but by doing that it means some of them that 'think' they have a right to every invite cant be as lets be honest.. a house is just a house its not a pub or a hall... theres only so many people that can get in.......
dont be sore.. be thankfull to be invited into someones home that have taken the time to ask you..... and if you dont like not being invited then dont have a go at the people that host the partys host one yourself.....!!
I wish i could repay the hosters of the partys ive been to with an invite to one of my own... but as i have a tiney tiny house an lump of a house mate.. oooo an i live a thousand miles away from any one its not possible.. so i would never complain as for me its all gravey!!!!
at the end of the day....... munches are there for massive groups of people ... and ive never seen a cam on one of them... lol though i think that would be very funny!!!
two pence... given.. hugs an kisses xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx