Over the years I've been here, I have commented a few times that there seems to be a higher number of "depressed" swingers than you'd find in many other social groupings. I recall a long running thread about the topic yonks ago. However, I don't think there's a gender difference.
i do the chatroom a lot and also post on the forums when i see something i want to comment on.
am i unwell? maybe.
but recently im having to dedicate myself to a lot of dieting and training so coming here is a welcome break from that.
i get a lift from some people i know and as the site is the only place i can chat to some then being here is the only path open.
lots of lovely people here.
and your point is ???
Joy x
I use the chat rooms regularly, the same room as Dean and its fun with lots of banter because we all know each other well, and I also drop into the forum from time to time to add my twopennorth when i feel like it.
Personally I didn`t come onto SH to make myself feel better, it was nothing to do with self esteem at all, it was about being single at the time and wanting some no strings fun.
In my humble opinion, being only a woman an all, I think the get well threads are started with good intentions by people who care for other members and want to let them know that others are thinking of them when they are feeling at their lowest, and it also informs us as to why XXX hasn`t been around for a while.
Brucie if its full of mentally unstable women then why are you here? surely they dont fall into your "fit as fuck" criteria and if you find lots of them in the clubs you regulary visit then why do you still go there too?
I have over the last few hours looked at this thread several times....
at first i had a firey answer to it...
but have now come back calmly....
why should anyone have to justify any of our reasons for being on sh, or in the chatrooms?
we all have our reasons... and to suggest that low estime is a reason is a thing that makes my blood boil....
~~feels the fire rising again - so leaves it at that!!~~~
The chat rooms are not that bad. But there's one bloke on the forum that must have low self esteam. Always going on about how good his job is or that he's drove someone else expensive car or where he's been or who he's slept with.
Funny that cause he seems to be the only one that feels the need to bragg about his life...........
I go in the chat rooms because I’m a sad and lonely single old man who has no friends and find it hard to interact with people in the outside world. In the chat rooms I can be brad pitt and make women’s legs turn to jelly with my wit imagination and charm but in real life I’m just a boring gimp. Before I found SH chat rooms I use sit in my room listening to my collection of 78’s. Now I can go in the chat rooms click on a cam and wank myself silly, I have even managed to open my curtains since being in the chat rooms and wave at people walking by my window.
i give loads of xx if i know or have known then a while and only a few xx if i have at least chatted to them in the past and none if i either dont like or dont know well enough. but then again i do give at least a peck on the cheek to say hi and bye in real life so its not that much different to chat for me.
bIoke you to me will always get loads of xxxxx. (john says not off him tho, perhaps a firm handshake lol)
Balance and moderation are important to general well being I think.
The concepts apply to chat rooms and forums just as they apply to drink or drugs or sex for that matter.
That said at some times excess does no harm and can be of great benefit. A jolly good reason not to think we can understand let alone label and belittle the motivations of others.
apart from the happy birthday threads, get well threads etc, what about the condolences threads, is it wrong for us to know one of us has passed and to pass on our sincere feelings to those left behind, especially when so many who havent posted for along time or havent been around much make the effort to let the loved once know they care and their dearly departed were cared for, loved, popular
the small words of comfort, birthday wishes, get well wishes are made by people who care, those that arent interested or dont care wont post, but as a community, and i do still believe are, munch's like wigan help verify it, we need to let each other know we care.
as for the chat rooms i go through phases of living there and then not being there much at all, life dictates my attendance so does interest, i dont believe sh is any more/less balanced/unbalanced than every day life, given the number of members there is surely a good cross section of everyday life here
I don't think the issue is just about the chat room - but is about this very site itself. The OP relates to psychological issues involving "over" use of the chat room. Yet the OP spent an alleged week-end in Paris permanently logged on to SH updating the forum as to his activities in Paris. Personally, I would say there are some psychological issues with that kind of behaviour too.
As a broad generalisation when you have self confessed "non swingers" as moderators and/or prolific posters on a site called Swinging Heaven you would have to question their motives unless the Site is in fact not a Swinging site at all. If it is a social site why is it not called social heaven?
There are many unusual reasons why people adobt their own and alternative persona's to inhabit chat rooms and forum on this web site but making a swinging site a major part of your social interactions will surely only end in disaster sooner or later unless swinging really is a major part of your life (lives).
i think using the internet has become a mild form of mental health problem. we 'geek out' for a reason; which I think is to restore ourselves from the ravages of modern life. which usually involves working stressfully to acquire internet technology. The internet lets us see the world that suits how we want to see it. because we don't really want to deal with what it is.
having a laugh and trying to gee the old forums up Either that or remedially stupid :lol2: I think I was in the chatroom when someone was being bigheade and arrogant and member, might even of been on OP who said that person was doing a Brucie 
