performance anxiety

1 Apr 2006

Just had my first case of performance anxiety. Any one got any tips on how to get rid ( we arerelative newbies, thanks you know who) any tips would be great. And not sacastic ones, i've been on this site too long, i know whats coming)
jeff

1 Apr 2006

Well I suffered for months and it seemed to get worse and worse at one point but found it soon passes as you start to realise everyone is just as nervous really... it took me a while to settle down but it did (thank God) and feel it will for you too. Takes time and seeing the same people a few times will help too.. did for me and now all is well.... Usually lol!!!
Dont mention medications on here (Sarge........ :roll: :roll: )
Mike

1 Apr 2006

Quote by sexycouple22
Just had my first case of performance anxiety. Any one got any tips on how to get rid ( we arerelative newbies, thanks you know who) any tips would be great. And not sacastic ones, i've been on this site too long, i know whats coming)
jeff

I know whats not. :giggle:
sorrysorrysorrysorrysorry

1 Apr 2006

Quote by natandh
Just had my first case of performance anxiety. Any one got any tips on how to get rid ( we arerelative newbies, thanks you know who) any tips would be great. And not sacastic ones, i've been on this site too long, i know whats coming)
jeff

I know whats not. :giggle:
sorrysorrysorrysorrysorry
Cruel lol very cruel..................... Funny though xxx

1 Apr 2006

Quote by natandh
Just had my first case of performance anxiety. Any one got any tips on how to get rid ( we arerelative newbies, thanks you know who) any tips would be great. And not sacastic ones, i've been on this site too long, i know whats coming)
jeff

I know whats not. :giggle:
sorrysorrysorrysorrysorry
smackbottom

:laughabove:

1 Apr 2006

i knew as soon as i put on coming what would happen. In case it matters i DID :shock: :shock: :shock: . it just woulndnt work. Must buy a conainter load of xxxxxxxxxxxx lol, you are all a bunch of gits, just wish i could meet everyone face to face, it would be a mental time. biggrin

:D
jeff

1 Apr 2006

Only bit of advice I can give is "don't worry about it" it happens. If you are still in the mood have a go later and it'll be fine, honest.
Some prescribed (and many none prescribed) medications can interfere, particularly anti depressants and corticosteroids but if these aren't the cause then stress, tiredness, basically almost anything can be the cause, relax and don't let it bother you. It's happened to me on occaision but I think it happens to most of us to varying degrees at times. (I found a couple of times that volounteering to give a long slow full body massage sorted it out in no time!) Massage tends to relax me almost as much as the person I'mm massaging.

1 Apr 2006

Quote by sexycouple22
i knew as soon as i put on coming what would happen. In case it matters i DID :shock: :shock: :shock: . it just woulndnt work. Must buy a conainter load of xxxxxxxxxx, lol, you are all a bunch of gits, just wish i could meet everyone face to face, it would be a mental time. :D
jeff

Ooerr lol........ I did say!! Sarge must be snoozing at his post again lol.. Age maybe?
Mike

1 Apr 2006

Quote by mdr2000
i knew as soon as i put on coming what would happen. In case it matters i DID :shock: :shock: :shock: . it just woulndnt work. Must buy a conainter load of xxxxxxxxxx, lol, you are all a bunch of gits, just wish i could meet everyone face to face, it would be a mental time. :D
jeff

Ooerr lol........ I did say!! Sarge must be snoozing at his post again lol.. Age maybe?
Mike
Why do you always have to be so bloody sarcastic rolleyes

1 Apr 2006

Quote by sexycouple22
Just had my first case of performance anxiety. Any one got any tips on how to get rid ( we arerelative newbies, thanks you know who) any tips would be great. And not sacastic ones, i've been on this site too long, i know whats coming)
jeff

Best tip....
Be brave and admit what the problem is to your guests - say you are not going to fuck and just want to play (soft swing). Then forget about fucking and genuinely accept to yourself if it doesn't happen it is still ok to enjoy the erotic playing. That is - don't try and kid yourself - that doesn't work. Actually mean you are not going to fuck to totally remove the pressure.
Enjoy the touching, stroking, massaging, kissing, licking......
Chances are - it wil change it's mind back again once it thinks it is being left out.
We are talking about a dangle do-dah here aren't we.

1 Apr 2006

thing is, i managed the sex. It justwasn't as hard as i'd like. it was still semi asleep. and i did mention it to our guest and he was fine, it's just me
jeff

1 Apr 2006

Quote by sexycouple22
thing is, i managed the sex. It justwasn't as hard as i'd like. it was still semi asleep. and i did mention it to our guest and he was fine, it's just me
jeff

FFS - there is always something else that wasn't mentioned the first time....
are you just trying to make it hardfor me :grin:

1 Apr 2006

I will probably be beheaded for saying this but a few alcoholic beverages before hand can do wonders for releaving your nerves, just dont go over the top. Its a little bit of a balance, drink too much and you may get the flop anyway or may not get a full on. Dont drink and you may not get it up at all due to nerves. Doesnt seem to hurt all these people at the after munch partys does it :twisted:
There are other way, this is just one suggestion. Of course check anyone your playing with isnt anti alcohol, if they are offer to rub Baileys on them and lick it off.
Mr Tweeky

1 Apr 2006

polo lady, every time i see your profile it gets me going. Why, oh, why couldn't you be there today( apart from the loads of miles) you are making me feel loads better.
jeffxx

1 Apr 2006

Quote by sexycouple22
polo lady, every time i see your profile it gets me going. Why, oh, why couldn't you be there today( apart from the loads of miles) you are making me feel loads better.
jeffxx

I wasn't invited dunno

1 Apr 2006

Quote by PoloLady
Just had my first case of performance anxiety. Any one got any tips on how to get rid ( we arerelative newbies, thanks you know who) any tips would be great. And not sacastic ones, i've been on this site too long, i know whats coming)
jeff

Best tip....
Be brave and admit what the problem is to your guests - say you are not going to fuck and just want to play (soft swing). Then forget about fucking and genuinely accept to yourself if it doesn't happen it is still ok to enjoy the erotic playing. That is - don't try and kid yourself - that doesn't work. Actually mean you are not going to fuck to totally remove the pressure.
Enjoy the touching, stroking, massaging, kissing, licking......
Chances are - it wil change it's mind back again once it thinks it is being left out.
We are talking about a dangle do-dah here aren't we.
worship

not that i'd know owt about this . . . obviously . . . . but that seems absolutely spot on IMO. happens to the best of us ((( though not me . . . obviously! redface

)))
doesn't it piss you off though that we get all the pressure and the girlies have all the say? lol

:P

neil x x x ;)

1 Apr 2006

Quote by sexycouple22
Just had my first case of performance anxiety. Any one got any tips on how to get rid ( we arerelative newbies, thanks you know who) any tips would be great. And not sacastic ones, i've been on this site too long, i know whats coming)
jeff

Hey Jeff,
Relax, it happens and any guy here who says it hasnt is only kidding himself on !
Maybe a little alcohol as a relaxant but better still enjoy all the other sensations of play- kissing, touching, licking etc etc and dont think that your always going to have to fuck !
Oh and talk to your playmates,
GF2

2 Apr 2006

In a foursome sometimes its trying to watch what everyone else is doing which makes you (me) lose "interest". Just go back to concentrating on oyur own wife or just the other woman and forget the others. Life soon "perks up" agian then.
John

2 Apr 2006

Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple
i knew as soon as i put on coming what would happen. In case it matters i DID :shock: :shock: :shock: . it just woulndnt work. Must buy a conainter load of xxxxxxxxxx, lol, you are all a bunch of gits, just wish i could meet everyone face to face, it would be a mental time. :D
jeff

Ooerr lol........ I did say!! Sarge must be snoozing at his post again lol.. Age maybe?
Mike
Why do you always have to be so bloody sarcastic rolleyes

I was?? Mmmm Didn't realise....... Sense of humour transplant not took well then? Have we upset someone in anyway?? Wounded hun I'm wounded.............
Mike :lol: :wink:

2 Apr 2006

It's the worst thing ever, isn't it sad

Only ever had it happen once and it was just so annoying looking at this lovely girl lying there waiting, my brain just kept yelling "The hell? She's lovely, what's wrong with you?" but it was having none.
It happens, and I figure anybody who isn't understanding isn't worth my time anyway.

2 Apr 2006

Quote by mdr2000
Have we upset someone in anyway?? Wounded hun I'm wounded.............
Mike :lol: :wink:

Its just that I havent given you a smackbottom

for a few weeks, and think you are well overdue :wink:
Sorry for Hijack biggrin

2 Apr 2006

Quote by vdub
It's the worst thing ever, isn't it

From the male point of veiw may be - but from my point of veiw it isn't always...
I get...
more foreplay
more toy play
more massaging
more hands-on attention
more teasing, touching....
and usually fucked silly the next time/later when the guy wants to prove what he can actually do. :twisted:

2 Apr 2006

Quote by PoloLady
It's the worst thing ever, isn't it

From the male point of veiw may be - but from my point of veiw it isn't always...
I get...
more foreplay
more toy play
more massaging
more hands-on attention
more teasing, touching....
and usually fucked silly the next time/later when the guy wants to prove what he can actually do. :twisted:
It's just want want want with you girls, isn't it!

2 Apr 2006

Quote by vdub
It's the worst thing ever, isn't it

From the male point of veiw may be - but from my point of veiw it isn't always...
I get...
more foreplay
more toy play
more massaging
more hands-on attention
more teasing, touching....
and usually fucked silly the next time/later when the guy wants to prove what he can actually do. :twisted:
It's just want want want with you girls, isn't it!
yep wink

:twisted:

2 Apr 2006

xxx

2 Apr 2006

Thanks guys for all the help and advice. I'l try to take it on board for next time. thanks again. biggrin

:D
jeff

2 Apr 2006

Quote by neilinleeds
Just had my first case of performance anxiety. Any one got any tips on how to get rid ( we arerelative newbies, thanks you know who) any tips would be great. And not sacastic ones, i've been on this site too long, i know whats coming)
jeff

Best tip....
Be brave and admit what the problem is to your guests - say you are not going to fuck and just want to play (soft swing). Then forget about fucking and genuinely accept to yourself if it doesn't happen it is still ok to enjoy the erotic playing. That is - don't try and kid yourself - that doesn't work. Actually mean you are not going to fuck to totally remove the pressure.
Enjoy the touching, stroking, massaging, kissing, licking......
Chances are - it wil change it's mind back again once it thinks it is being left out.
We are talking about a dangle do-dah here aren't we.
worship

not that i'd know owt about this . . . obviously . . . . but that seems absolutely spot on IMO. happens to the best of us ((( though not me . . . obviously! redface

)))
doesn't it piss you off though that we get all the pressure and the girlies have all the say? lol

:P

neil x x x ;)
Its a bloody good job they do = some of us would be lost without instructions :lol:
Phredd

2 Apr 2006

Quote by PoloLady
It's the worst thing ever, isn't it

From the male point of veiw may be
Not from this male point of view. Isn't 95% of the fun in all the play (yes, even for the men)? I'm sure I could find plenty of ways to enjoy myself even without a "dangle do-dah". Not that I'm sorry that I've got one...

2 Apr 2006

Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple

Have we upset someone in anyway?? Wounded hun I'm wounded.............
Mike :lol: :wink:

Its just that I havent given you a smackbottom

for a few weeks, and think you are well overdue :wink:
Sorry for Hijack biggrin

After reading your troubles with your back your well forgiven my sweet........ please see my new post about being nice for a whole day soon xxxxx

3 Apr 2006

Its just being human and we should cherish that and it can all be turned around given time and a bit of TLC. wink