Physical Attraction

9 Feb 2005

This is a hard one for me to answer........ and it falls into two categories for me.
1) The men that I see walking down the street and go 'Phwwwwwooooooarrr' at, those I would have no problem having sex with wink

2) The men that I get to know and then BECAUSE I know them I find them physically attractive even though I might not have done before......damned if that makes sense to me but that's how I am.....

9 Feb 2005

I don't worry about physical attraction really. I need to feel that there is a spark there in a personality.
A person who is confident but not big headed, friendly, relaxed, and easy to get along with will get me going every time - even if he happened to look like Quasimodo wink

Tracy-Jayne

9 Feb 2005

Quote by DreamerHelen
damned if that makes sense to me but that's how I am.....

My point exactly DH. I had a lot of stick off my friends for a woman i fell head over heels for last year. One of my friends even nickamed her "muttley" becuase she could not see the beauty that radiated outwards from this person.
I still class myself fortunate to have met this person - even it didn't work out.
Ad yes - I know that isn't really a "swinging" situation - but swinging or RL - I feel much the same.

9 Feb 2005

Quote by Rainbows
damned if that makes sense to me but that's how I am.....

My point exactly DH. I had a lot of stick off my friends for a woman i fell head over heels for last year. One of my friends even nickamed her "muttley" becuase she could not see the beauty that radiated outwards from this person.
I still class myself fortunate to have met this person - even it didn't work out.
Ad yes - I know that isn't really a "swinging" situation - but swinging or RL - I feel much the same.
I totally agree hun......the men I'm attracted to tend to be a lot older than me (go away amauter psychologists that say it's a father thing!! mad

) and some of my friends don't get how I can be attracted to men twice my age but I see something special in them, one in particular, and he's gorgeous to me......

9 Feb 2005

Gotta be some attraction there for me.
Or blindfold me and tell me you're hot! :shock: lol

10 Feb 2005

There has to be attraction. That is the whole point.
I can't get excited about having sex with someone who does nothing for me, and so I don't. I would rather eat a cheese and pickle sandwich and watch the news.
Mentally and physically stimulated. Lovely.

10 Feb 2005

I have to agree with a lot thats been said quite a few on here i consider friends but i just couldnt play with because i dont fancy them regardless of how great they are as friends.
Theres gotta be some attraction there,or whats the point?

10 Feb 2005

In my experience, someone that has looks but no personality is a complete turn off. I have been with some (in my opinion) gorgeous women that I eventually lost interest in either because I never clicked with them mentally or they were downright annoying.
But then when you've found someone that you click with mentally AND they make your libido start playing you up, then that's my perfect situation. It's at this point that I would seriously start to consider making things more serious or permanent, and I would discuss it with my partner to find out if they felt the same.

10 Feb 2005

I personaly would only really want to swing with people I find attractive, but even physical attraction is a very complex thing, I find that someone I like and get on with I often find more physically attractive.
The only time it wouldn't really matter to me would be in a group sex situation where it is more about having fun as a group than the appearance or personality of any individual.
Roger the Dragon.

10 Feb 2005

Physical attraction to me is more about body language. It doesn't really matter what the guy looks like if we are on the same wavelength AND that body language is clicking together.
I have no idea what it is - it's not a touchy feely body language, cos if that's done from the off, it gives me the creeps. Think it's more two bodies silently interracting with each other. It can be across a room full of people if you've noticed each other, or done while you're chatting, the effect can be electric. Both people subconsciously picking up on signals and returning them, eventually closing the gap between you.
Reminds me of a guy I met ages ago. I pulled up in the car and thought oh god, this is never gonna work out :shock: From the moment we walked into the pub and got a drink, our bodies started chatting :shock: By the end of the 'date' (social only), we were pretty in tune with each other. That kiss good bye was just incredible, was the first time we physically came into contact with each other, not a big kiss, just a graze across the lips - but it was enough for us to both pull back and just go WOW!!
That sticks in my mind, mainly because I was so adamant, when I pulled up, that it was not going to work out. It was pure body lanugage that told us otherwise cool

So physical looks doesn't really come into the equation for me (I don't think :undecided: ), unless there's a comb over involved, which completely cancels out the above :lol2: ........... mind you even that's all in the body language thing - a comb over to me says 'I'm not comfortable with myself, I'm going to try and hide my bonce under this bit of hair, which will make me look more confident and desirable' :undecided: dunno

or something like that lol

10 Feb 2005

I thought my answer to this was clear-cut once......
I have previously posted somewhere, something along the lines of "I am shallow, I need to fancy them instantly".
But now I find that generally applies to people I arrange to meet through exchanging photos and chatting. Also I realise how important it is that they chat a certain way. I have exchanged photos and chatted on cam to some really gorgeous people who just bored the pants off of me and I decided never to meet.
There have been some instances where the photo just didn't do it for me - however, after meeting them in person and getting to know them I have been aroused.
My only clear-cut conclusion is.... I have to want to! confused

Now my brain hurts.

10 Feb 2005

physical attraction is a must for me and there has to be some kind of "chemistry" there too.
The men that I would actively look for are those who can switch my mind on too

10 Feb 2005

Quote by MISSCHIEF
So physical looks doesn't really come into the equation for me (I don't think :undecided: ), unless there's a comb over involved, which completely cancels out the above :lol2: ...........

So does this apply to a pubic comb over hair Missy??? confused

10 Feb 2005

Quote by Rainbows
I had a lot of stick off my friends for a woman i fell head over heels for last year. One of my friends even nickamed her "muttley" becuase she could not see the beauty that radiated outwards from this person.
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Rainbows, my short comment to this is "some friends!" :shock:
Mike.

10 Feb 2005

Quote by MISSCHIEF
Physical attraction to me is more about body language. It doesn't really matter what the guy looks like if we are on the same wavelength AND that body language is clicking together.

That is so true. And body language is the betrayal of how you feel. It is also mutually reinforcing between two people.
There are times when my body speaks pure Arctic and others when it talks fluent sex.

11 Feb 2005

Quote by westerross
Physical attraction to me is more about body language. It doesn't really matter what the guy looks like if we are on the same wavelength AND that body language is clicking together.

That is so true. And body language is the betrayal of how you feel. It is also mutually reinforcing between two people.
There are times when my body speaks pure Arctic and others when it talks fluent sex.
Oh sooo true!!! Tell me - am I the only one who can pick up "body language" on the forum without actually seeing it? I posted before on a newbie thread about how, when I was a newbie, I had great fun working out who "knew" each other and who was flirting with whom. I may have been wrong sometims - but it was great fun!!
I tend to be one of those "people watcher" type people. Sit quietly in the background watching what is going on.
I have actually texted a friend across the table to tell her that the body language of the person she was sat next to her was such a "come on" towards her. She hadn't even noticed!!!!!!!
Have to admit that i use body language in meetings to get people on my side redface

ops:

11 Feb 2005

Quote by Rainbows
There are times when my body speaks pure Arctic and others when it talks fluent sex.

Oh sooo true!!! Tell me - am I the only one who can pick up "body language" on the forum without actually seeing it? I posted before on a newbie thread about how, when I was a newbie, I had great fun working out who "knew" each other and who was flirting with whom. I may have been wrong sometims - but it was great fun!!
I tend to be one of those "people watcher" type people. Sit quietly in the background watching what is going on.
I have actually texted a friend across the table to tell her that the body language of the person she was sat next to her was such a "come on" towards her. She hadn't even noticed!!!!!!!
Have to admit that i use body language in meetings to get people on my side redface

ops:
Bluddy hell girl - you're not implying I'm that obvious - are you? If you are, PM me with your findings - I might even tell you whether you're right or not. lol

:lol: <<< laughs nervously - hoping he's got the wrong end of the stick >>>>

11 Feb 2005

TE - I haven't analysed you yet!!! Be patient!! lol

:lol:
Oooh - but I so wanna know if that is really you in the shower!!!????? Or at least a body double!!!!
:twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:

11 Feb 2005

Quote by westerross
There are times when my body speaks pure Arctic and others when it talks fluent sex.

What a quote! Classic! :thumbup: I can almost imagine Oscar Wilde saying that!
LC biggrin

11 Feb 2005

Quote by westerross
There are times when my body speaks pure Arctic and others when it talks fluent sex.

What about Arctic sex? They must have sex in the Arctic!

11 Feb 2005

For me, if it's just a quick shag, then looks are definitely unimportant (cleanliness is tho). However, if it is a longer session, then I would be looking for a bit of chemistry, again looks are not *that* important really. Now, Mr Redbird, it is VERY different. He just cannot get horny unless he fancies the lady.

11 Feb 2005

Quote by MikeNorth

There are times when my body speaks pure Arctic and others when it talks fluent sex.

What about Arctic sex? They must have sex in the Arctic!
You flucking try it mate and see what it does to your body language

:rotflmao: :rotflmao:

12 Feb 2005

Wow! I'm not as shallow as I Ithought I was.
What I LOVE about swinging (or whatever the equivalent is if you're single) is the liberation from everything that matters normally. I would really like a partner in my life and I need to be physically attracted to that partner. This is where I am un-liberated.
But at a party, a club after a Munch I LOVE that it doesn't matter. Looks, age, personality, it doesn't matter. You can have a great time with someone you would avoid at a normal party (because they vote tory or something).. You can have great sex with somebody and THEN go to the bar, introduce yourselves, get to know each other. How cool is that!!!
And the best thing of all is - in my whole year of 'swinging' I have NEVER regretted any of the liaisons I have made.
Jezzay.

12 Feb 2005

Quote by jezzay
Wow! I'm not as shallow as I Ithought I was.
What I LOVE about swinging (or whatever the equivalent is if you're single) is the liberation from everything that matters normally. I would really like a partner in my life and I need to be physically attracted to that partner. This is where I am un-liberated.
But at a party, a club after a Munch I LOVE that it doesn't matter. Looks, age, personality, it doesn't matter. You can have a great time with someone you would avoid at a normal party (because they vote tory or something).. You can have great sex with somebody and THEN go to the bar, introduce yourselves, get to know each other. How cool is that!!!
And the best thing of all is - in my whole year of 'swinging' I have NEVER regretted any of the liaisons I have made.
Jezzay.

That sorta sums it up don't it?

12 Feb 2005

Quote by rogerthedragon
I personaly would only really want to swing with people I find attractive, but even physical attraction is a very complex thing, I find that someone I like and get on with I often find more physically attractive.
Roger the Dragon.

I agree that physical atraction can be a complex thing. I have a friend who i did not find attactive at all when i first knew him but the more i get to know him as a person the more i am attracted to him smile

Im still not atracted to him physically but am mentally and emotionally and think that would be enough wink