this is a diversion from the beauty brains topic. There was a guy posting there saying how charisma does it for him.
I go to a place & there is a guy & he plays hard to get. Women who reject handsome men are intrigued by him & chase & chase him. I've seen it happen in the chatrooms too can anyone relate to this or had similar experiences.
So what turns you on..hard to get or easy to get?
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Well for me it's got to be easy every time. 
I have neither the time, or the inclination to play chase me chase these days :cry:
It must me a middle age thing
I have neither the time, or the inclination to play chase me chase these days :cry:
It must me a middle age thing
For me, there's no bigger turn off than a bloke, or woman who's easy.
Chances are they're easy with everyone else too, and I'd rather waste my time, play pm tennis or whatever if necesary to sort the wheat from the chaff.
Probably also explains why I tend to go for women who are 'allegedly' straight!! :shock: i like the challenge :twisted:
Chances are they're easy with everyone else too, and I'd rather waste my time, play pm tennis or whatever if necesary to sort the wheat from the chaff.
Probably also explains why I tend to go for women who are 'allegedly' straight!! :shock: i like the challenge :twisted:
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Quote by Darkfire
For me, there's no bigger turn off than a bloke, or woman who's easy.
SHIT!
:cry: *goes to sit in corner and sob quietly*
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this is a diversion from the beauty brains topic. There was a guy posting there saying how charisma does it for him.
I go to a club & there is a guy there behind the bar & he plays hard to get. Women who reject handsome men are intrigued by him & chase & chase him. I've seen it happen in the chatrooms too can anyone relate to this or had similar experiences.
So what turns you on..hard to get or easy to get?
It's a human nature thing, that falls into the "advance and retreat" description. It also applies to equines, and probably more animals.
I agree with Pete to a degree.
I tired of the vanilla "hunt and chase" some years ago, but I think sometimes we, in this lifestyle; can too easily forget the thrill of being eyed up, thought about and coyly half approached. We can become too cold, matter of fact and blase.
This was reminded to me on Saturday at a munch.
I walked into the venue behind an absolute vision of beauty (imho) that superficially and physically "ticked all the right boxes"
Shortly afterwards as I was standing at the end of the bar, chatting and socialising as you do. I noticed the girl, also at the bar, but far enough away not to be able to speak or do the nod of the head thing - we've never met. Yet close enough for me to see the "life" in her eyes and to be able to tell she was "alive". Two things that will always attract me to someone.
The eye contact thing happened, more than once. You know the "half a second too long" thing ?
Ok ok - I know ........
She could have been thinking absolutely anything from to "Why does he have his head on backwards" to "take me take big boy, I'm yours"
She could, of course, have been letching at the person stood with me (another vision of beauty)
But the sheer "vanilla" type thrill I had from the glances shocked me, and took my mind back to the "good" part of the vanilla" chase.
So to answer the actual question, I think ..................................
A bit of both :thumbup:
Quote by Darkfire
....but I think sometimes we, in this lifestyle; can too easily forget the thrill of being eyed up, thought about and coyly half approached. We can become too cold, matter of fact and blase.
:thumbup:
Morbius and I had a similar conversation the other day. We've both forgotten the art of flirting and verbal foreplay
It's so easy to just ask now, the thrill of the chase is lost :( Cx
Quote by Calista
....but I think sometimes we, in this lifestyle; can too easily forget the thrill of being eyed up, thought about and coyly half approached. We can become too cold, matter of fact and blase.
:thumbup:
Morbius and I had a similar conversation the other day. We've both forgotten the art of flirtingand verbal foreplay
It's so easy to just ask now, the thrill of the chase is lost :( Cx
I can't say about Morb, but ................... no you haven't Sweetie
Don't forget, a huge part of it isnon-verbal
Oh - and the girl at the bar ?
It's come to me now.
She was probably thinking "Why is that arse staring at me ?"
Quote by easy
For me, there's no bigger turn off than a bloke, or woman who's easy.
SHIT!
:cry: *goes to sit in corner and sob quietly*
:rotflmao: :rotflmao:Awww Easy :therethere: you want some worms to eat too??
Now come ere you gorgeous beast you :twisted: :bounce: Even if you are easy
:twisted:But clean yer teeth first if you're gonna eat them worms!! :shock:
Quote by dambuster
I tired of the vanilla "hunt and chase" some years ago, but I think sometimes we, in this lifestyle; can too easily forget the thrill of being eyed up, thought about and coyly half approached. We can become too cold, matter of fact and blase.
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good post dambuster but one question.... what is the Vanilla hunt? Is it something I missed out of in my yoof? Should I be scanning t'net for Vanilla catch up courses?
As for easy vs difficult well it all depend on the size of their tits :shock: and the colour of their hair
Hat, coat! Quote by dambuster
I tired of the vanilla "hunt and chase" some years ago, but I think sometimes we, in this lifestyle; can too easily forget the thrill of being eyed up, thought about and coyly half approached. We can become too cold, matter of fact and blase.
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good post dambuster but one question.... what is the Vanilla hunt? Is it something I missed out of in my yoof? Should I be scanning t'net for Vanilla catch up courses?
As for easy vs difficult well it all depend on the size of their tits :shock: and the colour of their hair
Hat, coat! Quote by Shloppy
I tired of the vanilla "hunt and chase" some years ago, but I think sometimes we, in this lifestyle; can too easily forget the thrill of being eyed up, thought about and coyly half approached. We can become too cold, matter of fact and blase.
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good post dambuster but one question.... what is the Vanilla hunt? Is it something I missed out of in my yoof? Should I be scanning t'net for Vanilla catch up courses?
OOOOOH - no.
We don't do vanilla :shock:
Sex God
Not sure about this one - I suppose for me Hard to get is quite a turn-on, I quite enjoy a challenge and if it is someone I like I am not necessarily ever going to completely give up on the idea. Although I do appreciate honesty and I'm quite happy to be told I have no chance It's never stopped me being friends with someone yet!
As far as flirting goes I think it is a big part of the fun, even if it is with someone you already know, a glance or a look across a room can be rather fun, sets the blood tingling a bit.
It's never stopped me being friends with someone yet!As far as flirting goes I think it is a big part of the fun, even if it is with someone you already know, a glance or a look across a room can be rather fun, sets the blood tingling a bit.
Sex God
Quote by duncanlondon
I have had sex with a few women who said I had been hard to get.
I had no idea at all they were chasing me or had those kind of urges.
Ditto. :cheers: :thumbup:
Quote by dambuster
....but I think sometimes we, in this lifestyle; can too easily forget the thrill of being eyed up, thought about and coyly half approached. We can become too cold, matter of fact and blase.
:thumbup:
Morbius and I had a similar conversation the other day. We've both forgotten the art of flirtingand verbal foreplay
It's so easy to just ask now, the thrill of the chase is lost :( Cx
I can't say about Morb, but ................... no you haven't Sweetie
Don't forget, a huge part of it isnon-verbal
assionkiss: :passionkiss: :passionkiss: :passionkiss: :passionkiss:Cx
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As for easy vs difficult well it all depend on the size of their tits :shock: and the colour of their hair
Do you mean by this that you don't mind putting some effort in if they've got blonde hair and big tits?
H.x
SOME effort? I'd work my balls off for a big titted blonde beauty!! :smitten:
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:wave: :wave: :wave: Blueeyes6969 Sex God
Quote by Sassy-Seren
Well for me it's got to be easy every time.
I have neither the time, or the inclination to play chase me chase these days :cry:
It must me a middle age thing
Pete, you're easier than a 6 piece jigsaw ffs ! :giggle:
OY
:smackbottom: :smackbottom: :smackbottom: :smackbottom: I resemble that remark :shock:
seriously though, I think it may come from spending my formative years in Europe, where the whole attitude towards sex is / was so much more relaxed. Many a time I have been in a bar, made eye contact across the room, given by bestest smile, and suddenly had a very attractive young lady next to me asking if I fancied a shag :shock:
how refreshing compared to some of the poor repressed souls on meets over here (of the vanilla variety) quite happy to sit across the room fluttering their eyelashes at you, very happy for you to buy them drinks all night, but dare to suggest coffee back at their / your place and all you get for your trouble is a slap in the gob, if your lucky :roll:
No thanks, give me a woman who knows what she wants and isn't afraid to ask for it anytime.
Sex God
Quote by mike48
Well for me it's got to be easy every time.
I have neither the time, or the inclination to play chase me chase these days :cry:
It must me a middle age thing
Pete, you're easier than a 6 piece jigsaw ffs ! :giggle:
OY
:smackbottom: :smackbottom: :smackbottom: :smackbottom: I resemble that remark :shock:
seriously though, I think it may come from spending my formative years in Europe, where the whole attitude towards sex is / was so much more relaxed. Many a time I have been in a bar, made eye contact across the room, given by bestest smile, and suddenly had a very attractive young lady next to me asking if I fancied a shag :shock:
how refreshing compared to some of the poor repressed souls on meets over here (of the vanilla variety) quite happy to sit across the room fluttering their eyelashes at you, very happy for you to buy them drinks all night, but dare to suggest coffee back at their / your place and all you get for your trouble is a slap in the gob, if your lucky :roll:
No thanks, give me a woman who knows what she wants and isn't afraid to ask for it anytime.
Columbia was good....sucky sucky fucky fucky 5 dollas pleeeeeze
was 16 at the tine ...nother story m8:shock: :shock: 5 dollah ? blimey mate, nothing like going executive.
Hanoi was aye eeengleesh, 1 dollah, love you long time.
(appologies to Suzy Wong :lol: )
Sex God
Quote by Sassy-Seren
No thanks, give me a woman who knows what she wants and isn't afraid to ask for it anytime.
fancy a shag? 
Your place or mine? :P oh and do you mind if the wife comes along for the 'ride' ? :twisted:
