Please explain the purpose of this site???

30 Nov 2005

Here's one for you!
Why does it seem more popular to discus: how to build a model aircraft, playing games on the internet and non-sex related issues, than it does to get anything happening as far as any socials, meets or qualilifing for a munch. confused

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Both myself and caz joined this site with the aim of actually meeting other like minded people... but so far very little and very disapointed... As no-one is willing to meet, socialise or party!!! banghead

Are we on the wrong site. if so can anyone suggest any other sites
Sadly yours :cry:
Steven and Caz

30 Nov 2005

I guess you ain't looked in LMU then? confused

I was at a social within two weeks of joining and have been to others and stayed in touch with people since..... bit baffled here :?

30 Nov 2005

Have you perchance noticed another forum called "lets meet up" That's where all the meets are arranged ;)

30 Nov 2005

You are currently posting in The Cafe and this is primarily for general chat..... For meets etc you would need the Lets Meet Up forum....
Oh and as has been said before.... You would hardly go into Asda and ask if they can recommend another supermarket would you?? dunno

Shireen

30 Nov 2005

I must agree, i've searched the site and can find no playground equipment anywhere - I may be forced to go back to Toys'r'us...

30 Nov 2005

Quote by Shireen_Mids
You would hardly go into Asda and ask if they can recommend another supermarket would you??

I did.

30 Nov 2005

Steve and Caz
Thats just not true !!!
How long have you been here ? I have been to a few munches and social events and met loads of people ....... The Cafe, however, is somewhere to go and have a laugh ........ the Lets meet Up section or dogging section are where u go to meet folks !
Happy Hunting
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

30 Nov 2005

Hi SCCouple, I will say welcome to the site, as I have never noticed your posts before.
You are very wrong about the meets which take place from the site, just look at all the munches presently being organised in the Lets Meet Up Section and ask anyone who has been to a munch, just how many other meets they have had as a result of the munch.
You only get out of the site what you put in. You have only done 37 posts in the few weeks you have been a member, so you have not exactly done a lot to get yourself known. I know that someone people find it easy to join in and others are a little more shy, but please dont criticise what is an excellent and obviously successful site without at least giving it a fair go.
Complaining is not necessarily the best way to get invites as people just start to think you are miserable so and so's/ Ok so they might be wrong, but as you have not done that many posts, its hard to determin exactly what you are really like!
As I said earlier, you only get out of the site what you put in, and perhaps you need to try joining in a little bit more! (not a dig in any way, just a general observation and genuine advice) smile

30 Nov 2005

Evidently you have seen the lets meet up forum... this is a post of yours putting feelers out for a meet (and moaning about the fact you aren't allowed to call it a munch dunno

)
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/62782.html
Plenty of people have replied saying they'd be interested but you haven't followed it up. It does take some effort on your part you know :doh:

30 Nov 2005

Quote by Shireen_Mids
You are currently posting in The Cafe and this is primarily for general chat..... For meets etc you would need the Lets Meet Up forum....
Oh and as has been said before.... You would hardly go into Asda and ask if they can recommend another supermarket would you??
Shireen

No! this message wasnt asking for a meet, just wanted to express feelings and know of any good alternative sites. As for the Asda comment, I would have thought that visitors to this site visited other sites too and were not just employees of asda so to speak!

30 Nov 2005

Oh FFS, get off the cross, some body else needs the wood mad

What is it with whinging willies in here today..... dunno

30 Nov 2005

Quote by Angel Chat
Evidently you have seen the lets meet up forum... this is a post of yours putting feelers out for a meet (and moaning about the fact you aren't allowed to call it a munch )
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/62782.html
Plenty of people have replied saying they'd be interested but you haven't followed it up. It does take some effort on your part you know :doh:

As a matter of fact we had followed up but no decent replies... one of them was even moaning at us!

30 Nov 2005

Quote by sccouple
Both myself and caz joined this site with the aim of actually meeting other like minded people... but so far very little and very disapointed... As no-one is willing to meet, socialise or party!!!

Myself and the hundred people I met last weekend and the 200 people I'm meeting this weekend don't agree.

30 Nov 2005

Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple
Hi SCCouple, I will say welcome to the site, as I have never noticed your posts before.
You are very wrong about the meets which take place from the site, just look at all the munches presently being organised in the Lets Meet Up Section and ask anyone who has been to a munch, just how many other meets they have had as a result of the munch.
You only get out of the site what you put in. You have only done 37 posts in the few weeks you have been a member, so you have not exactly done a lot to get yourself known. I know that someone people find it easy to join in and others are a little more shy, but please dont criticise what is an excellent and obviously successful site without at least giving it a fair go.
Complaining is not necessarily the best way to get invites as people just start to think you are miserable so and so's/ Ok so they might be wrong, but as you have not done that many posts, its hard to determin exactly what you are really like!
As I said earlier, you only get out of the site what you put in, and perhaps you need to try joining in a little bit more! (not a dig in any way, just a general observation and genuine advice)

I'm sorry if 37 posts arnt good enough for you... we cant afford to spend all the time on the internet. if it so requires us to spend so much more time trying to convince everyone that we are serious before we are allowed to try and organise something just as simle as a social... then sadly we are on the wrong site

30 Nov 2005

Quote by sccouple
Hi SCCouple, I will say welcome to the site, as I have never noticed your posts before.
You are very wrong about the meets which take place from the site, just look at all the munches presently being organised in the Lets Meet Up Section and ask anyone who has been to a munch, just how many other meets they have had as a result of the munch.
You only get out of the site what you put in. You have only done 37 posts in the few weeks you have been a member, so you have not exactly done a lot to get yourself known. I know that someone people find it easy to join in and others are a little more shy, but please dont criticise what is an excellent and obviously successful site without at least giving it a fair go.
Complaining is not necessarily the best way to get invites as people just start to think you are miserable so and so's/ Ok so they might be wrong, but as you have not done that many posts, its hard to determin exactly what you are really like!
As I said earlier, you only get out of the site what you put in, and perhaps you need to try joining in a little bit more! (not a dig in any way, just a general observation and genuine advice)

I'm sorry if 37 posts arnt good enough for you... we cant afford to spend all the time on the internet. if it so requires us to spend so much more time trying to convince everyone that we are serious before we are allowed to try and organise something just as simle as a social... then sadly we are on the wrong site
Don't let the door slam behind you rolleyes

30 Nov 2005

Quote by sccouple
Hi SCCouple, I will say welcome to the site, as I have never noticed your posts before.
You are very wrong about the meets which take place from the site, just look at all the munches presently being organised in the Lets Meet Up Section and ask anyone who has been to a munch, just how many other meets they have had as a result of the munch.
You only get out of the site what you put in. You have only done 37 posts in the few weeks you have been a member, so you have not exactly done a lot to get yourself known. I know that someone people find it easy to join in and others are a little more shy, but please dont criticise what is an excellent and obviously successful site without at least giving it a fair go.
Complaining is not necessarily the best way to get invites as people just start to think you are miserable so and so's/ Ok so they might be wrong, but as you have not done that many posts, its hard to determin exactly what you are really like!
As I said earlier, you only get out of the site what you put in, and perhaps you need to try joining in a little bit more! (not a dig in any way, just a general observation and genuine advice)

I'm sorry if 37 posts arnt good enough for you... we cant afford to spend all the time on the internet. if it so requires us to spend so much more time trying to convince everyone that we are serious before we are allowed to try and organise something just as simle as a social... then sadly we are on the wrong site
People answered your post in LMU .......... then u didnt do anything about it ????
You should have posted a date and then organised a meet for all !!! thats how it normally works !!!
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

30 Nov 2005

Quote by sccouple
Hi SCCouple, I will say welcome to the site, as I have never noticed your posts before.
You are very wrong about the meets which take place from the site, just look at all the munches presently being organised in the Lets Meet Up Section and ask anyone who has been to a munch, just how many other meets they have had as a result of the munch.
You only get out of the site what you put in. You have only done 37 posts in the few weeks you have been a member, so you have not exactly done a lot to get yourself known. I know that someone people find it easy to join in and others are a little more shy, but please dont criticise what is an excellent and obviously successful site without at least giving it a fair go.
Complaining is not necessarily the best way to get invites as people just start to think you are miserable so and so's/ Ok so they might be wrong, but as you have not done that many posts, its hard to determin exactly what you are really like!
As I said earlier, you only get out of the site what you put in, and perhaps you need to try joining in a little bit more! (not a dig in any way, just a general observation and genuine advice)

I'm sorry if 37 posts arnt good enough for you... we cant afford to spend all the time on the internet. if it so requires us to spend so much more time trying to convince everyone that we are serious before we are allowed to try and organise something just as simle as a social... then sadly we are on the wrong site
Well leave then mad

:x :x
phredd (ana., of Red Phd)

30 Nov 2005

Someones been surfing around this site with blinkers on lol

30 Nov 2005

Quote by sccouple
I'm sorry if 37 posts arnt good enough for you... we cant afford to spend all the time on the internet. if it so requires us to spend so much more time trying to convince everyone that we are serious before we are allowed to try and organise something just as simle as a social... then sadly we are on the wrong site

No one tried to stop you organising your social event, if I remember rightly, you were just told that it could not called a Munch (its like buying a Fiesta and calling it a Mondeo wink

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As I said previously, if you are not willing to put in the effort then you are not going to get the meets. The number of posts you have or havent done does not bother me in anyway what so ever, as I am not the one complaining about the place confused

As for being on the wrong site, well only you can answer that. People have made you very welcome in your previous posts (which I have just had a quick read through) but if you dont feel the site is right for you, then fair enough. However, if you do want to be part of it, then you will need to get your finger out and join in like you did when you first joined the site.

30 Nov 2005

Quote by sccouple
Evidently you have seen the lets meet up forum... this is a post of yours putting feelers out for a meet (and moaning about the fact you aren't allowed to call it a munch )
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/62782.html
Plenty of people have replied saying they'd be interested but you haven't followed it up. It does take some effort on your part you know :doh:

As a matter of fact we had followed up but no decent replies... one of them was even moaning at us!

Quote by sccouple
.....had a bit of a whinge....
then...
Who in the hampshire area would like to meet together with other likemindeds. just putting out feelers for a possible "socal" :happy: :rose: :beer: :boo: :evil2: :taz: :karaoke: somewhere local.
interested? then reply or send us an email or PM
Steven and Caz
xxxx

Quote by Missy
Depending on when, babysitters etc - I would be up for a good night out! :happy:

Quote by The Muttleys
Hi sccouple, we are not in Hampshire but always like to travel to events etc, so we would welcome one in hampshire as its fairly local to us as compared with the nwest anyway lol.
:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

Quote by two4u
totally agree sccouple, we would love to meet people from the cold & lonely south, perhaps we could start a little fire
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two4u

Quote by RedHot
Funin and Mike are already thinking abvout planning a possible social night in Southampton.
Details here : http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/62367.html
This is planned if it goes ahead to be on a Mondy evening, but perhaps if there is enough interest, a Fri or Sat may be possible?
Tracy-Jayne

Quote by Benjamin24
I'm new to the scene and would definatley appreciate a casual meet. Count me in. Just need to know date, time, place, etc,etc.
Cheers

Quote by chaznroz
we'd pop over the border and would love to attend,need it to be on a friday or saturday
hope you get enough people interested.
kisses where you want then
chaz and roz

How many people have to tell you they're interested before you do something about it? :dunno: I have an idea, why not stop whinging and get something organised. That's a decent sized social for starters, we have some hugely successful socials in the NW with that number of people - and once people know you've met someone they know, it builds from there. I think I've reached my "helpful" limit for today though.... especially as I have a feeling my advice will be completely ignored rolleyes

30 Nov 2005

Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple
You only get out of the site what you put in. You have only done 37 posts in the few weeks you have been a member, so you have not exactly done a lot to get yourself known. I know that someone people find it easy to join in and others are a little more shy, but please dont criticise what is an excellent and obviously successful site without at least giving it a fair go.

I have to say i totally agree, i was on the site for a week and was invited to my first munch, unfortunately i wasnt able to attend due to other commitments, but i know that it was a direct result of just joining in and posting away like the more established members of the site. If i said a few words to someone in the pub i wouldnt expect them to feel they knew enough about me for them to invite me into their home or indeed to feel comfy with coming to mine. Just chill out relax and be yourself and most importantly enjoy the site, that way youll make friends and the rest will come in time.

30 Nov 2005

iagree .......ive been a member here for oooooooooooooo agesssss...........
but i disagree about the meeting people........ive met some very nice and special people from this site..........
yeah.....tescos is round the corner...........

30 Nov 2005

Quote by blonde
Hi SCCouple, I will say welcome to the site, as I have never noticed your posts before.
You are very wrong about the meets which take place from the site, just look at all the munches presently being organised in the Lets Meet Up Section and ask anyone who has been to a munch, just how many other meets they have had as a result of the munch.
You only get out of the site what you put in. You have only done 37 posts in the few weeks you have been a member, so you have not exactly done a lot to get yourself known. I know that someone people find it easy to join in and others are a little more shy, but please dont criticise what is an excellent and obviously successful site without at least giving it a fair go.
Complaining is not necessarily the best way to get invites as people just start to think you are miserable so and so's/ Ok so they might be wrong, but as you have not done that many posts, its hard to determin exactly what you are really like!
As I said earlier, you only get out of the site what you put in, and perhaps you need to try joining in a little bit more! (not a dig in any way, just a general observation and genuine advice)

I'm sorry if 37 posts arnt good enough for you... we cant afford to spend all the time on the internet. if it so requires us to spend so much more time trying to convince everyone that we are serious before we are allowed to try and organise something just as simle as a social... then sadly we are on the wrong site
People answered your post in LMU .......... then u didnt do anything about it ????
You should have posted a date and then organised a meet for all !!! thats how it normally works !!!
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Sorry but we did try to contact people but they didnt reply... We did give a date but it was only ignored... but as you can see we did get two requests to leave. so thats what we are now going to do

30 Nov 2005

Quote by Angel Chat
I think I've reached my "helpful" limit for today though.... especially as I have a feeling my advice will be completely ignored

Quote by sccouple
we did get two requests to leave. so thats what we are now going to do

:roll: I give up
Bye wave

30 Nov 2005

:silly:

30 Nov 2005

Quote by sccouple
Hi SCCouple, I will say welcome to the site, as I have never noticed your posts before.
You are very wrong about the meets which take place from the site, just look at all the munches presently being organised in the Lets Meet Up Section and ask anyone who has been to a munch, just how many other meets they have had as a result of the munch.
You only get out of the site what you put in. You have only done 37 posts in the few weeks you have been a member, so you have not exactly done a lot to get yourself known. I know that someone people find it easy to join in and others are a little more shy, but please dont criticise what is an excellent and obviously successful site without at least giving it a fair go.
Complaining is not necessarily the best way to get invites as people just start to think you are miserable so and so's/ Ok so they might be wrong, but as you have not done that many posts, its hard to determin exactly what you are really like!
As I said earlier, you only get out of the site what you put in, and perhaps you need to try joining in a little bit more! (not a dig in any way, just a general observation and genuine advice)

I'm sorry if 37 posts arnt good enough for you... we cant afford to spend all the time on the internet. if it so requires us to spend so much more time trying to convince everyone that we are serious before we are allowed to try and organise something just as simle as a social... then sadly we are on the wrong site
You've been on the site for a month,.I've been a member for two years and I've never been to a social event or a Munch. Not because the people in here are unfriendly or selective, but because that isn't what I'm here for. This site is perfect for my needs. I get all the response I desire for my Dogging nights, and I love the banter and the chit-chat in the Cafe. There are some fantastic people on here, and whinging because you haven't yet found what you were looking for isn't very constructive and won't get you a positive response. Just try to be realistic with your expectations...................good things come to those who wait (and I HATE Guiness by the way)

30 Nov 2005

Quote by Glasgowfella
I have to say i totally agree, i was on the site for a week and was invited to my first munch, unfortunately i wasnt able to attend due to other commitments, but i know that it was a direct result of just joining in and posting away like the more established members of the site. If i said a few words to someone in the pub i wouldnt expect them to feel they knew enough about me for them to invite me into their home or indeed to feel comfy with coming to mine. Just chill out relax and be yourself and most importantly enjoy the site, that way youll make friends and the rest will come in time.

You joined the site on 16th November and I remember reading quite a lot of your posts, laughing at your comments, agreeing with you etc etc etc, You have joined in, made yourself known, and let your personality show through. In other words you put in the effort and people on here have appreciated it (well, I appreciate your posts) wink

It's like being in a pub and expecting everyone to go out of their way to meet you when you are just sat sulking in a corner! Now if you were having a laugh and a joke, then people would actually WANT to get to know you!
SSCouple, no one asked you to leave, they were just repeating your suggestion. Personally, I would start again, introduce yourself here in the cafe, join in with the banter and get yourselves known a bit better. But the decision is yours!

30 Nov 2005

Surely to God this has to be a wind up......
Im gonna throw my tuppence worth in just for the hell of it...
We went to our first munch on saturday (and what a night out!) the hardest thing we had to do was put our names on the "lets meet up" thread and walk through the door....
You have already had people saying they would be happy to travel a bit to go to a social... so what went wrong?
i can almost guarentee you that if i posted up a thread in LMU with a date a fair bit in advance, there would be people wou would like to meet up, and im not meaning the locals on here but folk you and i dont know yet....
my advice to you.....
try again, with a date and a venue in mind (although keep the venue quiet till you get closer to the time).. you never know, you might get the same responce as last time "we would love to"

30 Nov 2005

Quote by Angel Chat
I give up

Ever felt you were pissing in the wind, Angel?
When someone comes in with a negative attitude, it doesn't matter what you say... they'd already answered the question for themselves before starting the thread.
A familiar pattern which I call the "WAFT" process:
Whinge by newbie
Advice from regs
Flounce by newbie
Tata wave

from the regs
We've been wafted again. biggrin

30 Nov 2005

Quote by Ice Pie
A familiar pattern which I call the "WAFT" process:
Whinge by newbie
Advice from regs
Flounce by newbie
Tata from the regs
We've been wafted again.

:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
Excellent, I'd never had any idea there was a name for it :giggle: Brilliant! :rotflmao: