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I have been around a lot of negativity recently and hearing so many upset people is getting to me so.........what about the positive aspects of swinging??
Why don’t we start a topic focusing on the positive experiences, the wonderful people you may have met and what fantasies you may have still to explore........inspire me to believe swinging is still for me.
Enjoy! xxxx
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What a good idea for a topic!
Positive aspects to swinging.
Well there's me for a starter. I'm almost average in bed, look good with the bag on my head and have the sexual dynamism of a turnip.
Therefore you shag me, anyone else is likely to be a world beater in comparison.
Form a queue ladies...
On a more serious note...
I think there's great many positives to be had. The strengthening of your own relationship (if you have a partner) and the benefits it has to your sex lives, the feeling of being completely sated sexually and having the freedom to allow your fantasies free reign, the great people you meet and form relationships with (not necessarily swinging ones, sometimes just friends), the improvement in self-confidence and image that is a huge boon for some, some people have even found love, there's support from those when you need it, advice too. I can see lots of up sides that often outweigh the real dimwits who can turn an evening sour.
Fantastic post. Yes its lovely to realise how many really good people there are in this lifestyle, and we have met some great people, some have become potential life long friends which is one of the bext bits for us.
Its funny how so many, typicially I suppose, always make comment about something they find displeasing. British culture - we are always ready to complain, but when something is good, we just take it for granted.
Lets celebrate the good things, and stop moaning about the not so good, after all they can be forgotten and moved away from
Goldsmith
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Great post.. my swinging 'positives':
I have a partner I thank my lucky stars every day I wake up next to. To me they are the sweetest, sexiest and best person in the world. They know where I am, what I'm doing and who's involved (normally) - we have total honesty between us. Having been cheated on in past relationships I can honestly say this is the healthiest one I've ever had.
I have a sex life right now that's beyond anything I ever imagined it might be - both with my partner and the sexy, cool people I/we choose to play with.
Swinging has re-ignited my interest in females again after around 20 years.. they are OK I suppose wink If you've have said at the age of 40 this would happen I'd have laughed in your face but hey, surprises are good!
I've also made a very small number of close friends through swinging that, if I'm honest, I didn't come here to do but as a by-product, that's great.
Happy swinging - share the love - I am :wink:
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what they all said^^
done things i never thought i would, had some amazing times, with some fab people, made great friends, met some very interesting people, chatted and debated about stuff i never ever dreamed of, and done some of it too.
all in all a sense of physical, spiritual and emotional freedom!!
The best thing for me out of all this is meeting people who make you feel normal.
If i told my friends some of the things i get up to they would be really upset with me, so just having people i can be open and honest with whilst living out my fantasies is amazing!!
It removes the stigma attached with being adventurous.
lots of positives, renewed self confidence, or at least a helping hand on the way to, after it being smashed to pieces during my marriage.
have made some really good friends all over the country who i will see if i am on the scene or not.
travelled to some parts of the country for socials/munch's i would never have visited, even just the sense of freedom of getting in my car and going somewhere.
broadening of sexual experiences and pushing some boundaries i never thought even existed
a place to discuss with openness questions, fears, experiences etc i may have with out fear of derision
a sense of community and belonging also to a certain extent
some damn fine sex, great nights, good laughs and fab times
Great thread! :thumbup:
I enjoy meeting people on the scene: people never cease to amaze me... the sexy folk, the witty ones, the ones who, without having met via swinging, I would probably have never imagined myself being friends with.
Great sex on my terms is good too! Being part of this community has allowed me to fulfill many of my sexual fantasies and to discover more I don't think I would have ever dreamed of having.
And yes, as Earthy said, getting about the place for meets and munches is also very cool.
Oh lots of things... too many to mention really - I have very little to moan about.
Oooooh and sexy Geordie men - that's my latest plus about all this! :rascal:
swinging is great.
one moment, you face the ground and face the terror of a fall
the next you sore to the sky, clouds or blue, what a view?
and it can all happen again and again... in any town you care to name
and they squeak!
I like sqeaks.
Swings, indeed most playground equipment, are brilliant!
lp
On the sex side of things, it's allowed me to express my sexuality without fear of being thought of as a freak, experience new things and enjoy a healthy and varied sex life.
On the more personal side, I've made some wonderful friends biggrin
Made my life alot easier. Without swinging sites like this one how on earth would I be able to find women for my bloke.
Im just an innocent little housewife trying to keep her hubby happy.
I have absolutely no interest in this swinging lark, I only do it to please him :shock: :shock: :shock:
So ladeeeeeeeeeees if you believe the above crapolla and are easily lulled into my clutches....oops I mean a false sense of security, then fill my box (my inbox that is)
Seriously though, I have found that having a huge sense of humour is an added bonus, but be aware not everyone is always on your wavelength. Its great when they are though.
Mistress_39
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Seriously though, I have found that having a huge sense of humour is an added bonus, but be aware not everyone is always on your wavelength. Its great when they are though.
Mistress_39

NO ONE is on your wavelength! loon
cept me :giggle:
Lots of the above reasons for me plus others i'll not mention here it'll take too long.
I love the drive home after the meet lol I dont mean the escape or the relief that has happened only very rarely thankgoodness. What I mean is The special time with My wife the quiet, usually, early morning journey when we're lazily talking about how the night went and how great it was to be with some lovely people doing crazy wonderful things.
In the afterglow with my wife in our car on the way home. Our own little universe, it doesn't get any better than that.
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In the afterglow with my wife in our car on the way home. Our own little universe, it doesn't get any better than that.

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for me the positive parts of swinging at first were that i gained in self esteem and confidence which i lacked when married
my ex hubby was very critical of me and a bit of a bully with his words and opinons and i was made to feel of no worth at all
however being here i learned that i was desirable to others smile
now the most wonderful positive part of swinging is that i met gary and we are now life partners and will get married as soon as possible (never thought that i would get married again and never wanted to either till now)
so now not only do i feel desirable but also loved
so for me swinging has been and still is a very positive part of my life
plus also swinging has given me the chance to do things (sexually) id never done before done ... and to enjoy them :) i have a fantastic sex/love life with gary :)
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Swinging has re-ignited my interest in females again after around 20 years.. they are OK I suppose wink If you've have said at the age of 40 this would happen I'd have laughed in your face but hey, surprises are good!

May I just remind you what's on your iPod... in case you were getting too 'straight' rotflmao
Erm, really I just wanted to say I like your new avatar hot stuff. :wink:
:swingingchair: I have have say I like this tread, it really gets you thinking for sure!
About 18 months ago I was ready to give this life up as i began to think because of the man I was engaged to seemed to be led only by his privates when it came to swinging and selfishly thought of himself in and out of bed that there was no point in feeling like that however, during a meet with another couple it was like fate had hit me with a stick in the middle of swinging and my soulmate was looking me in the eyes, his partner and my partner did some stupid things behind our backs and he caught an s.t.d which due to the fact that he was a money grabber i had to pay for his perscription. It ended our relationship as i couldn't trust him anymore. The guy from the other couple also had enough of his swing partner and they finished too.
A short while after both our splits we met for coffee, and yes the first thought was right, we are soulmates and now wake up everyday in eachothers arms and thank swinging heaven with our hearts! We have met some amazing people and recently held a party with about 40 people all of I truely can call friends who are there for you at a drop of a hat! funny though no swinging went on as we all now see eachother as too close as mates to do anything lol
Im greatful I stuck with this site and I am so lucky to have met the true man of my life, we still enjoy swinging but at least he knows how to respect our relationship x
I suppose i would have never dropped into the scene if i was still in a normal relationship. Twas something that i had already had feelings on, but alas things fell by the wayside shall we say and i decided to do something about the nagging twinges that i had. So signed upto the sight and have never really looked back.
As with all of us we have to mingle the two lifesyles which we all know can be a very fine balancing act at times, but it usually pays off with patience and understanding with each others own personal issues. I can honestly say that i have met some great people on this site, they are completly genuine and great fun to be around. But alas there are those that aren't so genuine, this cant be helped, if everything was perfect, life would get so boring.......... but as with life these situations are dealt with and we all move along to another day/situation.
This lifestyle allows us to be who we are, with no prejudices (hopefully), it allows us to let our hairdown freely, gives us the freedom to explore etc etc etc, i'm sure you all know where i am coming from.
For me it has allowed me to be me, given me the self confidence to move forward, knowing that i am whole heartidly capable with what life throws at me (some very good & close friends off this site have made sure to that).
If i hadnt have joined.........how the hell would i have met my swinging partner Jon, after 3yrs it actually feels right, sayin nowt else cause i gone shy, yes to those that know me thats sayin somethin lol
But in all honesty swinging is what you make of it, it can be great, dull, boring, or exciting..............only you can decide what you want and at this present moment, i'm happy with what i have got........................NOW LETS PARTYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY...............well i have made sure the kids am fine as they are a main priority aren't they lol
That’s another positive aspect to swinging, it gives you the confidence and strength to move on from the badness of your past and enjoy what you have now, don’t linger on what happened and throw away those grudges you maybe carrying and live every minute with happiness in your heart.
I believe you have to know what you want from things in your life and reach for the stars to be able to really relax and enjoy the sex side of things, with no ridged barriers.
Having friends who will stand by you no matter what things they may hear about you is amazing and i wouldn’t change those relationships for anything. This is the one place people should be able to understand your desires and not judge you for them.
Thanks to those that have made my life naughty again!
lol xxxxxx