Pushy People!

21 Apr 2005

Quote by da69ve
Well that make sense why I donâ€™t get any replies from this site didnâ€™t know the men was that bad on here well you must weed out all the shit from the good but in a mans defence some time you need to ask for a better photo to look at because you just cannot go by a photo of a tit or bum

And the same goes for the ladies when the guys just send cock shots!
I agree with you so much i just had a look at your profile and you have two great photos on there I can see who you are fully and that or I ask for when I look at profile so I know whom im chatting with But sorry if a man send a photo of his bit then that say it all for him has nothing els to offer lol

21 Apr 2005

You will note - my initial statement was regarding... men, women, couples , combo's
All are just as bad as the next when you meet a pushy one.

21 Apr 2005

I just don't understand why some people assume that just because someone has a liberal attitude to sex it then translates into that person being open to the idea of shagging anyone and everyone. I often find that it is actually the opposite that rings true - it is always the people who have a conservative attitude towards sex that end up doing it with everyone.
love,
maia
still waiting to be accosted by a leery woman (rather than a leery man), i think it might be an interesting experience... :P

21 Apr 2005

Quote by PoloLady
I ferkin hate pushy people - men, women, couples, combo's....
:x :x :x :x
I am becoming more and more intolerant of the pushy, irritating bastards!
They send a couple of photos (if you are lucky) and then it is straight on to "do you wanna meet?"
No what do you like, what do you want, would you like to chat. Straight in to the shag question (usually followed by a comment that implies if you don't say "yes" you will be branded a time waster).
Complete ferkin strangers and they expect an answer from a dodgy holiday snap!
Then they complain because I reply in a mildly sarcastic tone! :shock:
:x :x :x :x :x
OK rant over for the minute.

My experience was quite different, I met a couple for sex and the wife wanted to get straight down to it, as I was talking to them to make them feel at ease, she told her husband that she wanted to start performing, even though that was our first meeting, don't get me wrong, they are nice people and very unassuming, but the wife didn't want talk, but action !!!

21 Apr 2005

Quote by Maia
still waiting to be accosted by a leery woman (rather than a leery man), i think it might be an interesting experience... :P

It isn't Maia, trust us on this smile

Though I suppose depends on your outlook...

21 Apr 2005

Quote by Maia
still waiting to be accosted by a leery woman (rather than a leery man), i think it might be an interesting experience... :P

Are you sure, Maia?

leerÂ·y adj. leerÂ·iÂ·er, leerÂ·iÂ·est
Suspicious or distrustful; wary:
"was leery of aggressive salespeople".
(from )

21 Apr 2005

Quote by MikeNorth
Are you sure, Maia?
leerÂ·y adj. leerÂ·iÂ·er, leerÂ·iÂ·est
Suspicious or distrustful; wary:
"was leery of aggressive salespeople".
(from )

Arrrrggghhhh.. iI knew you were going to pick me up on that choice of word..alright...i am exercising semantic freedom now.. the words I use serve the meaning i intend them for.... lol

:lol:

21 Apr 2005

Quote by O. K.
My experience was quite different, I met a couple for sex and the wife wanted to get straight down to it.... ...... but the wife didn't want talk, but action !!!

You had already arranged to meet to have sex - that is a different kettle of fish. You are missing the point totally. rolleyes

21 Apr 2005

yes....or the ....... cant we have cam2cam fun? even though it explicityly states in our ad we dont do cam2cam...
or this guy who we were talking to and we said our ad says we dont and he went - right, whats your ad again? hed only just added us to his msn!!
we never have people pushing for a meet thiough.....just for us to turn the on while they wank... humff....
mad

21 Apr 2005

Quote by Vicky_uk
it usually runs like this after initail chats n a phone call
Me ........ ile only meet for a coffee n chat for the first time to get to know you better

So how do you take your coffee Vicky?
John
wink

21 Apr 2005

Hmmm sounds like an awful lot of guys responding to ads quite badly. So if I'm not doing any of this stuff (although I must admit my first couple of responses when I joined last year were quite badly done), and I'm sending a good quality face pic.... ahh I see what the problem is lol

... No, really..
Either they're all too picky over appearances and seeing the pic makes them delete my mail I've taken some time over (checking requirements, that it reads ok and spell-checked etc, hopefully write enough to give them an idea of who I am), or.... ??? that it just requires infinite patience?
I've made far more friends in the chatroom but it would still be nice to get a reply to one of the several-tens of responses I've written to adverts over the months.
How many percent do you reckon go straight in the "delete" box of responses? I wouldn't know the females side of it cos I suspect you get a lot more responses than I do (er... none to my men-seeking-women/couples ones so far). Am I not being active enough?
No-pressure coffee/drink and a chat is the way to go for me too for first-times, that way any misunderstandings/differences in how they are, to how you perceived them over the phone/instant-messaging can be dealt with before anyone gets hurt or put out. Anything more happens first time if you're both/all happy, it's a big bonus but not expected in my book.

21 Apr 2005

I got one last nite all it said was
Do you like to watch confused

So i said
Do i like to watch what? lol

Carol

21 Apr 2005

i agree there is no need too be pushy a b bit of chat doesnt cost anything likes dislikes and everthing

22 Apr 2005

Quote by les_southwest
i agree there is no need too be pushy a b bit of chat doesnt cost anything likes dislikes and everthing

Yip - and then you should still have the right to say "no" without being asked to explain exactly why no. rolleyes

I suppose I am lucky becuase I only use msn to chat to people I am already friendly with and I don't have an ad, but I can just imagine what it must be like to get the pushy people.
What pisses me off is, as POLO has said - if you say no - there is an implication that you are a time waster! Agreeing to meet and then not turning up is time-wasting. Taking the time to get to know people to see if you click is NOT time-wasting! It is the most important thing for some of us!
Right - I'm off to throw something at a duck cool

aRSex :color:

22 Apr 2005

like i said it doest cost anything for a chat get to no if someone is to pushy or no likes dislikes got a sense of humour if you arange a meet then say no this should be respected or if you cant make it a polite message should suffice there should be no name calling of time wasters or anything like that its that simple and guys its just not about you emptying your load you know have a bit of respect please no means no wink

22 Apr 2005

Quote by breezer
Hmmm sounds like an awful lot of guys responding to ads quite badly.

I will emphasis a point again â€“ it is NOT just guys!
I admit it appears there are more pushy guys as there are more guys in general. In some ways the pushy guys are the easiest to handle as they are so easy to spot & stop â€“ one liner and straight to the point questions.
Some of the most indirectly manipulating pushy people have been couples, in my experience.
Adding guilt comments to encourage you to reply. Suggesting you are not real and a wind-up merchant.
I have no problem with people being enthusiastic â€“ I am as guilty as the next person of being keen and sometimes over enthusiastic once I have decided I want something. You may think this is the same as being pushy â€“ I define 'pushy' as people who think because you are here you are abstaining from any freedom of choice and take anything that is on offer.
Top 10 questions I HATE being asked by people I do not know anything about and have never spoken to before:
1: Are you interested in meeting up? (When used as an opening line or before any information has been exchanged)
How the f*ck am I supposed to know that?
2: Do you have many meets?
What the f*ck do people gain from asking that question â€“ what has it got to do with them? I have a tendency to read this question asâ€¦ Are you easy?
3: I/we am/are looking for NSA fun are you?
No â€“ is this not Kitchens Direct?
4: Hi, do you do daytime meets?
No â€“ f*ck off!
5: Do you have a web cam?
You know I f*cking do you can see the f*cking icon!
6: Can you turn your web cam on?
Yes â€“ it is a simple function, but I have no intention of doing it at the moment!
7: Hi, can you send some photos?
mad

8: I/we have sent you a photo, will I/we do?
Do for what ? dunno

I am to answer that question after seeing some dodgy out of focus holiday shot where they are 6 miles away from the camera and wearing the largest sun-glasses in the world!
Worse still the photo is of one singlular part of the body! banghead

9: Are you free this afternoon?
Yes â€“ because I am not meeting you!
Like I am going to meet a total f*cking stranger just because I have been asked if I am free!!!!!!!
10: What are you looking for? (used as an opening line)
:x :x :x

22 Apr 2005

well said polo lady to mant like that on here lol

22 Apr 2005

We had a rather unfortunate one recently with a couple. They responded to our profile / add with a few lines about themselves and a couple of face pics.
Looked and, more importantly for us, sounded nice so we replied to the email with some facial pics of ourselves.
Nice reply, want to chat on MSN? was the next question.
So onto MSN we go. Quick cam on to prove the couple thing then switched off. Not really big on the cam thing when it's a new contact and besides it slows down the chat confused

Started off good, general chit chat, a bit about each other etc then......
Them - "Right get your cam on" :shock:
Us - "Eh, not yet, not really big on the cam thing"
Them - "Come on, look heres us" Their cam goes on......
Us - "Very nice, now as we were saying....."
Them - "Just get your cam on, what are you scared off?"
Us - "We'd rather get to know you a bit better first thanks"
Them - "Well this isn't going to work. WE only play with real swingers blah blah blah...."
and off on a rant they go, while still trying to get us to cam with them.
Basically, we were accused of being fakes / not genuine and were advised to have a good think about wether or not we were ready for a swinging lifestyle rotflmao

All because we wouldn't "indulge" them banghead

Note : the delete contactsbutton IS your friend flipa

Now as some of you know, we are quite shy wink

But there are a few who could "vouch" for our authenticity cool

For us, the important thing is to get to know people first via things like the forum, MSN and the good old fashioned phone call.
We, and this is only our personal preference, wouldn't entertain an ad with the immortal "dont want endless emails etc etc"
Thats just OUR swinging lifestyle, pushy people dont fit into our party plan :twisted:

22 Apr 2005

Well if I've ever been thought of as pushy, then sorry! Forgive me, I'm new to all this redface

What is the best way to meet people, would you say? I'm loathe to type out my life story replying to an Ad, especially when I think it would get deleted as a matter of course! Also, the bloody chat room I can't get to work... you need a degree in computer programming!
Spose, I'll just carry on being patient!
lol

22 Apr 2005

Quote by curious_catz
my least fave question is "have you got a cam?"

And our answer to that is.... .Yes we have actually and she's gorgeous!!!'
This usually confuses them
For the people who don't know... our 'cam' is Cameron, our longterm live-in girlfriend
Alex DJ

23 Apr 2005

Not being one to take things too seriously for too long â€“ I started to think of some new and less bluntly sarcastic responses for those irritating pushy bastards. So far I have come up withâ€¦.
Are you interested in meeting?
Hell Yes â€“ I am so glad you have not been put off by the last incident. It wasnâ€™t all my fault, people are just twisting the story to make it sound worse than it was. Anyway, they are out of hospital now. So, when would you like to meet and are you after the same type of set-up?
Are you interested in meeting?
Can I have your address? I just need to check where you are. I have a few restraining orders on me from people in your area.
Are you interested in meeting?
Sure, which equipment would you like me to bring? Oh, and what blood group are you? I am being a bit more careful and taking no chances after the incident the other week.
Do you do daytime meets?
Yes, I can only do daytime meets at the moment. My bail curfew is set at 7am - 7pm.
Do you accommodate?
No, the hostel doesnâ€™t allow guests.
Have you had many meets?
Not since they tagged me. I canâ€™t go beyond a mile radius of the hostel.
What are you looking for?
Commitment. Deep and meaningful commitment. Maybe marriage, but I would like to spend a few months getting to know you first.
What are you looking for?
That is a very philosophical question and deserves a deep and meaningful response. I shall give the answer serious consideration and get back to you when I have revealed my true search from within my soul.

23 Apr 2005

:giggle: :giggle: :giggle:
I must print those out!

23 Apr 2005

Pololady awesome smile

23 Apr 2005

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PoloLady
Joined: 03 Aug 2004
Location: Midlands
Posted: Fri Dec 10, 2004 12:38 pm Post subject: Good shag wanted tonight!
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talking of oneliners..now who would have written such an ad in" lets meet up "
answers on a postcard please

23 Apr 2005

I'm always intrigued by people who say they want a good shag.
I mean, who the hell wants a bad one? dunno

23 Apr 2005

"You should never slate someone for being straight to the point"
Who said that?
innocent

23 Apr 2005

Quote by Happy Cats
"You should never slate someone for being straight to the point"
Who said that?

Conrad Gesner?????

23 Apr 2005

Quote by Ice Pie
I'm always intrigued by people who say they want a good shag.
I mean, who the hell wants a bad one?

I'd settle for that at the moment!!!! confused

:? :?

:lol: :lol:

23 Apr 2005

Quote by Sgt Bilko
I'm always intrigued by people who say they want a good shag.
I mean, who the hell wants a bad one?

I'd settle for that at the moment!!!! confused

:? :?

:lol: :lol:
Righto Sarge, one bad shag coming up!! wink

23 Apr 2005

Quote by deancannock
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PoloLady
Joined: 03 Aug 2004
Location: Midlands
Posted: Fri Dec 10, 2004 12:38 pm Post subject: Good shag wanted tonight!
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Temel
talking of oneliners..now who would have written such an ad in" lets meet up "
answers on a postcard please

I think you have taken this out of context redface

You have to relate the ad to discussions that were going on in the forum at the time - honestly - that is my story and I am sticking to it!!!!!!! lol