Hello Everyone and Merry Christmas,
My wife and I met a young man from thie Swinging Heaven Website last night and had the most wonderfully sexy evening. He was attentive, polite, well endowed, only an average pussy kisser but when he fingered my wife it was an absolutely awesome spectacle and she rewarded his endeavours with her first female ejaculation.
The way he used his fingers was to start gently and slowly but very quickly build up to the point where it was very physical, almost violent and I was sure my wife would ask him to slow down, she didn’t, she urged him on even more, and then had the most explosive orgasm I have ever seen.
It has left me somewhat confused as my wife has always encouraged me to pleasure her orally, and only to use fingers sparingly and in conjunction with oral sex.
Several question spring to mind
1. Is there any reading material available to improve my technique?
2. How do other women view the subject of “fingering”?
3. Is there a right and a wrong way?
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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Aha I'm not on my own then.
I have always encouraged people not to bother with their fingers on me as I usually find it uncomfortable and intrusive.
However, we read some posts about female ejaculation and spoke to some poeple and the majority agreed that finger work was key to it.
Timmy and I have been experimenting for a couple of months with this now and I have surprised both of us with how enthusiastic I get and with my requests for it to be harder and faster on occassion.
I'm glad that you enjoyed seeing the effect on your partner and I would suggest that you start experimenting together. Just take it steady and encourage her to tell you when you are in the right area and what speed and how hard she would like it.
I know that makes it sound a bit clinical and even off putting, but if you use the right language it can really add to the experience.
I haven't really felt comfy enough to try it properly with others but I'm sure I will :twisted:
Jas
XXX
I have always encouraged people not to bother with their fingers on me as I usually find it uncomfortable and intrusive.
However, we read some posts about female ejaculation and spoke to some poeple and the majority agreed that finger work was key to it.
Timmy and I have been experimenting for a couple of months with this now and I have surprised both of us with how enthusiastic I get and with my requests for it to be harder and faster on occassion.
I'm glad that you enjoyed seeing the effect on your partner and I would suggest that you start experimenting together. Just take it steady and encourage her to tell you when you are in the right area and what speed and how hard she would like it.
I know that makes it sound a bit clinical and even off putting, but if you use the right language it can really add to the experience.
I haven't really felt comfy enough to try it properly with others but I'm sure I will :twisted:
Jas
XXX
Warming the Bed
all i can say is go with the flow, maybe let her hand guide yours 2 start, then take it from there, theres not a guaranteed technique for every woman, each is different and all like it different ways
Warming the Bed
practise makes perfect as they say, keep on practising!! 
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Quote by Dawnie
I would expect it is a very individual thing which depends on the situation and people along with the mood everyone was in at the time
Surely it is for the female to suggest or hint at what suits her :dunno:
:thumbup: Dawnie
Intimate, it may even be that she enjoys that roughness and speed as part ofyour swinging activities, and has encouraged you to do it in a particular way because that's what she enjoys with you. She may not want you to do as he did, or to be fingered like that often :dunno:
I also wonder if she 'allowed' him to be quite rough because you were there, it was just something she was happy with in that situation, and if, had she needed to say stop, she knew (in a trust way) that you were there to ensure it. (i hope that makes sense, it doesnt to me when reading it
) As with many things in life – people often go with what they know, so it’s not even a sure certainty to give an orgasmic gushing frig to a woman by following her lead.
Frigging is not always about teasing or simulating a fuck with the hand (though both can be a most pleasurable experience) sometimes very little movement can produce the most intense results, as the focus is placed on manipulating ‘the spot’.
The worst friggers (IMHO) are those who see it as a mission to cram as may fingers in as soon and as hard as possible :shock: or the ones who just poke a finger in and out like they are trying to ring a doorbell
Frigging is not always about teasing or simulating a fuck with the hand (though both can be a most pleasurable experience) sometimes very little movement can produce the most intense results, as the focus is placed on manipulating ‘the spot’.
The worst friggers (IMHO) are those who see it as a mission to cram as may fingers in as soon and as hard as possible :shock: or the ones who just poke a finger in and out like they are trying to ring a doorbell
you have such a way with words, but very true :giggle:Many thanks to everyone for their observations and PoloLady & Darkfire you've made some really helpful comments and suggestions. One of the most obvious advantages of meeting other people either at Swinging Clubs or private meetings is that if you're an open minded person then you're going to learn techniques that would otherwise have never occurred to you regardless of how imaginative a lover you may be.
This has cetainly been our experience and it has ensured that our private sex life has remained vibrant and passionate which is vitally important when you're in a long-term relationship; we've been together 30years and we're only mid forties. I do take the point about being influenced by the surroundings and the people you're with, and what is enjoyable in those circumstances would not necessarily be as desirable in private.
I think I've always viewed "fingering" as something ham fisted and adolescent and have tended to concentrate on what I've considered more creative and pleasureable aspects of sex. Another lesson learnt of course because it's obviously a part of sex that can give great pleasure to a woman and her lover(s).
This has cetainly been our experience and it has ensured that our private sex life has remained vibrant and passionate which is vitally important when you're in a long-term relationship; we've been together 30years and we're only mid forties. I do take the point about being influenced by the surroundings and the people you're with, and what is enjoyable in those circumstances would not necessarily be as desirable in private.
I think I've always viewed "fingering" as something ham fisted and adolescent and have tended to concentrate on what I've considered more creative and pleasureable aspects of sex. Another lesson learnt of course because it's obviously a part of sex that can give great pleasure to a woman and her lover(s).
Sex God
I've always prefered penetration to oral sex, so I love it! Den has a VERY good technique, so if any one wants instructions, then send us a pm!
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polo, you're right about the door bell thang, but sometimes for me, the more fingers the better ;) hehehe
you definately have to keep trying out plenty of different techniques though....
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polo, you're right about the door bell thang, but sometimes for me, the more fingers the better ;) hehehe
you definately have to keep trying out plenty of different techniques though....
The thing is, no matter how you "finger" your woman, she will always show or tell you if it's "working" or not.
IF it don't feel right to her, she will say so. I always prefer oral to "fingering" to be honest but the times I do use my finger (usually just the one), it's usually in a tight circular motion around her clit, occationally penetrating her. I find that technique usually does the trick when I'm doing it.
Hope this helps and good luck.
IF it don't feel right to her, she will say so. I always prefer oral to "fingering" to be honest but the times I do use my finger (usually just the one), it's usually in a tight circular motion around her clit, occationally penetrating her. I find that technique usually does the trick when I'm doing it.
Hope this helps and good luck.
Warming the Bed
first and foremost, make sure your fingernails are short and clean, remember that what you are doing belongs to the whole of a woman and is not seperate...alternate between fingers and mouth, and as she responds, then both.....no repsonse, no continuance...take your cue from the lady, she will let you know.....and most of all , both have to enjoy it..... 
:shock: Seeing as your talking about fingering pussy here is a fact i have just found out the juices(if this is the best way of discribing) are very Alkolotic and in the passed many gynacologists have lost finger etc due to there constant vaginal examintion :shock:
ok i shall now get my coat and leave the room
ok i shall now get my coat and leave the room
Sex God
Well I always thought fingers and tongues were always a part of sex
What I tend to do when we are with another guy who is obviously hitting the right spot with H, using a technique I've never used before, is to save what the guy is doing to memory and try it for myself later if the mood is right.
M
What I tend to do when we are with another guy who is obviously hitting the right spot with H, using a technique I've never used before, is to save what the guy is doing to memory and try it for myself later if the mood is right.
M
Hi Jas,
I've been following this thread because I've had a similar experience, your post was interesting and informative. I appreciate female sexuality is a complicated subject to ever fully understand but I'd like to think I could be a life long student
Paul
I've been following this thread because I've had a similar experience, your post was interesting and informative. I appreciate female sexuality is a complicated subject to ever fully understand but I'd like to think I could be a life long student
Paul
Quote by Jas-Tim
Aha I'm not on my own then.
I have always encouraged people not to bother with their fingers on me as I usually find it uncomfortable and intrusive.
However, we read some posts about female ejaculation and spoke to some poeple and the majority agreed that finger work was key to it.
Timmy and I have been experimenting for a couple of months with this now and I have surprised both of us with how enthusiastic I get and with my requests for it to be harder and faster on occassion.
I'm glad that you enjoyed seeing the effect on your partner and I would suggest that you start experimenting together. Just take it steady and encourage her to tell you when you are in the right area and what speed and how hard she would like it.
I know that makes it sound a bit clinical and even off putting, but if you use the right language it can really add to the experience.
I haven't really felt comfy enough to try it properly with others but I'm sure I will :twisted:
Jas
XXX
Warming the Bed
learn all about the G spot... and girls get yourself a crystal wand they hit the spot !!! didnt know i could gush till we got one, now he can do it with his fingers as well
Jay
Jay
ooooh fond memories 
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few years back when used to meet single males dek was working away and we had been talking to this man a while, so 1 night i let him come visit me (looking back he must of been mad he drove all the way from wales to the northeast and home again in the same night).
usually i dont gush/orgasm etc through fingering alone, but this man had me in the doggy position fingering me from behind while kissing my back, dont know what he was doing with his fingeres but it felt so good and sure enough it was my first orgasm the carpet and my clothes were soaked through and as it was the first time id actually gushed i was embarrashed as thought it was pee until he rather nicely explained what i had just done, sadly didnt get to meet this man again but would love to have the same thing happen
Think being very relaxed with the other person helps a bit to (somehow)
ops: :oops: :oops: few years back when used to meet single males dek was working away and we had been talking to this man a while, so 1 night i let him come visit me (looking back he must of been mad he drove all the way from wales to the northeast and home again in the same night).
usually i dont gush/orgasm etc through fingering alone, but this man had me in the doggy position fingering me from behind while kissing my back, dont know what he was doing with his fingeres but it felt so good and sure enough it was my first orgasm the carpet and my clothes were soaked through and as it was the first time id actually gushed i was embarrashed as thought it was pee until he rather nicely explained what i had just done, sadly didnt get to meet this man again but would love to have the same thing happen
Think being very relaxed with the other person helps a bit to (somehow)
Quote by Jas-Tim
Aha I'm not on my own then.
I have always encouraged people not to bother with their fingers on me as I usually find it uncomfortable and intrusive.
Jas
XXX
I can sometimes find it a bit uncomfortable too unless I'm really turned on. One guy I met, right at the start of our swinging life, was absolutely brilliant at fingering :twisted: He just seemed to hit the perfect spot and it was amazing. I'll need to look him up again now that I've been reminded of this!
I like a bit of oral and occassionally some fingers but basically prefer to be shagged senseless :twisted:
Fee
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I don't normally post on here, more of an observer. I resally enjoy fingering a pussy, my wife cums really quickly from my long fingers. The secret seems to be to add a little variation to the technique, strokes, circles, slow and fast. One long finger slipping into a pussy from behind as she is lying on her front with the fingers either side rubbing the pussy lips soon has her screaming into the pillow. Remember that you have 5 fingers and not all of them need to be in the pussy, use them to stroke and brush the clit or pussy lips. Sliding the middle finger in and out of the pussy and using your thumb to rub up and down through her pubic hair, bring your thumb and middle finger together as you slide out so they meet and gently pinch her clit and slowly back in again. Try rubbing the sides of the pussy walls, slowly work your way around, curl your finger up a little and slowly rotate it. It does help to have long fingers and the ability to wiggle just the tip of your finger against her G spot.
If anyone needs any demonstrations or more suggestions just drop me a message.
Fingers Mc Gee.
If anyone needs any demonstrations or more suggestions just drop me a message.
Fingers Mc Gee.
Warming the Bed
My ex only ever gushed if I used fingers, I don't think its possible to hit the spot with enough force with your cock unless its L shaped! :shock: I learnt that theres the normal clit orgasm and the deeper more intense one through the finger work.
I found it with her help. Pushing 2 fingers up against the G-spot and pressing your thumb into the 2 fingers (which are inside pressing against the zone) from outside. Now I rubbed my 2 fingers and thumb together rather vigorously (yep it did seem extreme first time). After 20-30 seconds she said it felt like she wanted to pee, which she ignored. From there she always almost passed out with pleasure, was a more deep and long, rumbling orgasm. She didn't always gush, but I could tell it was much more intense feeling. Afterwards she would just lie there quiet with her eyes closed. The penetration/ clith orgasm seemed sharper and quicker. Duno really, hard for me to explain.
I found it with her help. Pushing 2 fingers up against the G-spot and pressing your thumb into the 2 fingers (which are inside pressing against the zone) from outside. Now I rubbed my 2 fingers and thumb together rather vigorously (yep it did seem extreme first time). After 20-30 seconds she said it felt like she wanted to pee, which she ignored. From there she always almost passed out with pleasure, was a more deep and long, rumbling orgasm. She didn't always gush, but I could tell it was much more intense feeling. Afterwards she would just lie there quiet with her eyes closed. The penetration/ clith orgasm seemed sharper and quicker. Duno really, hard for me to explain.
