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5 May 2006

Quote by PoloLady
whats the attraction of a guy wanting your ass, you tell them your no -no's and once you get started enjoying the moment wham there there trying to shove there fingers, dick up there , all that does for me is bring me down a couple of levels so thus not enjoying the moment any more, then they say are you gonna swallow HA.

To a lot of people saying you don't do anal only eliminates cock entering the brown starfish - finger stimulation is a different act. Usually a guy gets no real physical satisfaction from poking a digit in the dirtbox - but he is attempting to gain pleasure from your enjoyment.
Aside from that - if you realise you actually enjoy having a finger fumble up the fart flute - you may well change your mind about the willy-wonka up the chocolate factory.
lol

And here was me thinking all women were dirtbox divas......
Sheeeesh.....
I need to get out....or possibly in......More
bolt

5 May 2006

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5 May 2006

Quote by PoloLady
... your post implied that because she has a picture on her profile that looks like anal, then it is something that she should be happy doing so.

I have not been to look at the photos (yet) but I would say one thing here... having a photo containing anal sex on an ad/profile WILL and DOES strongly imply she likes anal - as not only has she had it, she is showing others she has had it too.
I do actually agree. If there was a particular act that I only enjoyed occasionally, or had tried but decieded I didn't like, I wouldn't graphically publisise the fact that I, at least on one occasion enjoyed it. I would feel that it was sending out mixed messages.

Quote by PoloLady
My point is that peoples boundries change. They may be comfortable performing an act with one person but not another. If the boundries are set out at the beginnning of play then those boundries should be respected!

True. Though in cases where there are mixed messages - people will/may ultimately have a quick fumble to see if the goal post has moved.

Quote by couple_ne2000
It IS an important point, if boundries are ignored then a situation can easily turn from play to sexual assault!

I get what you are saying, but where does the line get drawn? Do we all have to sit and write a list of does and don'ts - is sex always that prescribed?
Tip-toeing around boundaries is part of how we learn new things and have new experiences. There are some lines which should not be crossed and some which can be approached - people can't get it right all of the time if the messages are unclear.
Obviously common sense at the time is requiried. However, there are times when a person will clearly state they are not willing to perform a certain act. In that situation it is never right t try and coerce them during play to do it anyway. It is one thing if someone says they may not be to comfortable with something - implying they might, depending on how things go. It is different if they state they WILL NOT perform a certain act and are then pushed into it during play.
It is always important to remember that NO means NO and STOP means STOP.
Les x

5 May 2006

Quote by PoloLady
... where does the line get drawn? Do we all have to sit and write a list of does and don'ts - is sex always that prescribed?
Tip-toeing around boundaries is part of how we learn new things and have new experiences. There are some lines which should not be crossed and some which can be approached - people can't get it right all of the time if the messages are unclear.

This is true... maybe in that case the onus is on the advertisers to clearly explain their boundaries and not give mixed messages (as in the don't do anal but have anal sex pics in profile debacle described earlier). Giving mixed messages is a sure fire way to get approached by those one wouldn't want to meet othersie.

5 May 2006

Quote by couple_ne2000
It is always important to remember that NO means NO and STOP means STOP.
Les x

I would not argue with that - they are both clear messages.
Unlike, "I don't do anal - btw have a look at this cock up my arse".
We don't always cover all of our 'NO' subjects (sometimes because we don't know them all yet) - so for me the most important part of what you have said is the "STOP" meaning "STOP" - even when the stop-sign is a hand being brushed away.

5 May 2006

Quote by PoloLady
We don't always cover all of our 'NO' subjects (sometimes because we don't know them all yet) - so for me the most important part of what you have said is the "STOP" meaning "STOP" - even when the stop-sign is a hand being brushed away.

:thumbup:
Les x

5 May 2006

Well i think its all daft........
Mixed messages about sums this one up for me lol.......
I'm going to annoy another post xxxx
Mike xx

5 May 2006

i've deleted the photo in question due to mixed messages etc. to be honest i did not know that one portrayed the topic i mentioned, unbelievable i know call it (blonde hair day) if you like. that'll teach me to vet my pics even closer, i usually just check for faces tattoos & my belly out of posting. lol.

5 May 2006

Quote by Darkfire
: Anyone touched me somewhere , especially after I'd specifically said I dont like it , i wouldnt be sucking his cock, i'd have got a 12 inch dildo and shoved it up his ass :twisted:

Oh Dark, this really had me in stitches.
I just keep thinking how many guys went away thinking "oohh errrr - I hope I have the oppertunity to find where somewhere is" :shock:
Still chuckling to myself now biggrin

Oh bugger - I even have a vision of it now, you bad bad woman! confused

5 May 2006

Im with you cockslut - hopefully the removal of the picture will dispell some confusion
To me it feels far too close to the feeling of doing a poo... surprised

Mind you the guy at the time wasn't all that adventurous hmmm maybe it needs a real lover of the vintage to have a really positive experience lol
Food for thought... :o

6 May 2006

Quote by cockslut
i've deleted the photo in question due to mixed messages etc. to be honest i did not know that one portrayed the topic i mentioned, unbelievable i know call it (blonde hair day) if you like. that'll teach me to vet my pics even closer, i usually just check for faces tattoos & my belly out of posting. lol.

I am sorry but that is so funny.

7 May 2006

Quote by PoloLady
i've deleted the photo in question due to mixed messages etc. to be honest i did not know that one portrayed the topic i mentioned, unbelievable i know call it (blonde hair day) if you like. that'll teach me to vet my pics even closer, i usually just check for faces tattoos & my belly out of posting. lol.

I am sorry but that is so funny.
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