Orgasminator
Just been in the chatrooms only to find a Fantasy Room. We're all for people having fun but do we need something like that on here?
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I appreciate what you are saying T but the site caters for all i suppose and if its a fantasy chatroom, anyone it offends just doesnt go there, not sure if there are rules covering this or not, but i suppose some people find things offensive that you or i may find acceptable.
just my own personal opinion which i am bound to get shot down for.
Earthy xx
just my own personal opinion which i am bound to get shot down for.
Earthy xx
Orgasminator
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I appreciate what you are saying T but the site caters for all i suppose and if its a fantasy chatroom, anyone it offends just doesnt go there, not sure if there are rules covering this or not, but i suppose some people find things offensive that you or i may find acceptable.
just my own personal opinion which i am bound to get shot down for.
Earthy xx
Hiya Earthy - long time no speak ;)
Yeah it is a grey area but is illegal and if it were a room there'd rightly be an uproar.
Sex God
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I appreciate what you are saying T but the site caters for all i suppose and if its a fantasy chatroom, anyone it offends just doesnt go there, not sure if there are rules covering this or not, but i suppose some people find things offensive that you or i may find acceptable.
just my own personal opinion which i am bound to get shot down for.
Earthy xx
I'd never "shoot" you Earthy but theres a few other things I wouldn't mind :twisted:
The room has been deleted and the opener has been banned for 24 hrs.
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I appreciate what you are saying T but the site caters for all i suppose and if its a fantasy chatroom, anyone it offends just doesnt go there, not sure if there are rules covering this or not, but i suppose some people find things offensive that you or i may find acceptable.
just my own personal opinion which i am bound to get shot down for.
Earthy xx
Hiya Earthy - long time no speak ;)
Yeah it is a grey area but is illegal and if it were a room there'd rightly be an uproar.
hi sweetie ye long time,
i appreciate that hun thats why i said i didnt know what the rules on the site surrounding it are, ie the chatrooms you cant have names with girl n boy n stuff like that.
Earthy xx
Sex God
The mention of the word just sickens me.
Sex,in fantasy,or virtual,or actual physical,it can be as wild and wanton as can be,that's fine,bring it on!
But,even as a fantasy,mention the r word and its a total turn off to me.
Sex,in fantasy,or virtual,or actual physical,it can be as wild and wanton as can be,that's fine,bring it on!
But,even as a fantasy,mention the r word and its a total turn off to me.
Sex God
See above post folks. It's never tolerated on here.
Orgasminator
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I appreciate what you are saying T but the site caters for all i suppose and if its a fantasy chatroom, anyone it offends just doesnt go there, not sure if there are rules covering this or not, but i suppose some people find things offensive that you or i may find acceptable.
just my own personal opinion which i am bound to get shot down for.
Earthy xx
I'd never "shoot" you Earthy but theres a few other things I wouldn't mind :twisted:
The room has been deleted and the opener has been banned for 24 hrs.
Good work Laird!
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I appreciate what you are saying T but the site caters for all i suppose and if its a fantasy chatroom, anyone it offends just doesnt go there, not sure if there are rules covering this or not, but i suppose some people find things offensive that you or i may find acceptable.
just my own personal opinion which i am bound to get shot down for.
Earthy xx
I'd never "shoot" you Earthy but theres a few other things I wouldn't mind :twisted:
The room has been deleted and the opener has been banned for 24 hrs.
oooh The Laird, long time no see, swoon :twisted:
Earthy xx
Orgasminator
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Yeah it is a grey area but is illegal and if it were a room there'd rightly be an uproar.
You've certainly got a point there.
Although, since it says ' Fantasy' I guess it's a bit of a grey area...
Not sure that the p fantasy wouldn't be shut down sharpish though...
Sex God
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Kids.
Animals even!
There's surely nothing to entertain about the idea of any of those even in fantasy.
Kids.
Animals even!
There's surely nothing to entertain about the idea of any of those even in fantasy.
Orgasminator
We have to have somelimits!
Warming the Bed
technically isn't it a self Nerfing thing? is forced and against the recipients will, so if they are fantasising about it, technically it's not ?
I have a good friend who once had a girl friend who wanted him to sneak into their bedroom whilst she slept/pretended to sleep and then would fight him whilst he had sex with her. She would ask for this before hand and was one of her fantasies.
Very odd, I certainly think it would turn me off sex with a woman if she was fighting me, needless to say he isn't with that lass anymore
Perhaps it was a poor choice of words by the chatroom instigator ?
I have a good friend who once had a girl friend who wanted him to sneak into their bedroom whilst she slept/pretended to sleep and then would fight him whilst he had sex with her. She would ask for this before hand and was one of her fantasies.
Very odd, I certainly think it would turn me off sex with a woman if she was fighting me, needless to say he isn't with that lass anymore
Perhaps it was a poor choice of words by the chatroom instigator ? Quote by clinguist
technically isn't it a self Nerfing thing? is forced and against the recipients will, so if they are fantasising about it, technically it's not ?
Good point well made
It's all role play - a world away from the horrific reality.
I kinda defend the Fantasy thing, but hear me out ok
I have indulged in it, done a post about it somewhere, when this subject cropped up before. About the only bit of role play I have comfortably done, cos always feel so silly doing the role play thing :undecided: It was with someone I was with for a while and had absolute 100% trust in. We talked about it loads beforehand, the fantasy side and then the toned down 'what you would actually do' side.
Once talked about, we talked a load more. When it came to the actual time a fair while later, both with the safe word drilled into us, although there was the element of surprise for both of us, it was still in a fairly controlled environment.
I say a surprise for both of us, cos neither of us had done this before, him and the way he carried it out so convincingly and me and the way I took it.
The only reason this worked (and worked bluddy well :twisted: ) was because, although there were surprises, there was nothing done that hadn't been spoken about and agreed upon. Not only that, but the fact that I had absolute trust in this guy.
All in all, it was an incredibly intense experience for both of us - one that required a whole lot of talking about, both before and afterwards.
Because this is, or can be, such an extreme scenario, I personally don't think it has a place being advertised on a swingers site, or any site in fact. Sure I think that discussing the fantasy concept is kinda cool, tis great to get such different opinions :D
But because of the nature of the fantasy, it really shouldn't ever be 'advertised' by anyone - that is getting onto very dangerous territory, not fully knowing the person you're thinking of doing this with. It really is essential that the people who take part in this kind of scenario, have no less than 100% trust and faith in each other.
The danger element of this fantasy cannot be emphasised enough, it just isn't something you can advertise for
Orgasminator
It is always worth remembering that what may be a fantasy to one person may be business to the other person and inviting someone unknown to fulfil a fantasy is inviting danger in. At least Missy did it with someone she knew well.
That's it Tania, not only had I been with him for a while, knew him, his nature and his style very well. I also had absolute trust in him.
So although it was a very intense role play, I knew the whole time at the back on my mind that I was in a safe environment, and also with a safe word that could be used at any time.... which in reality is a long way from .
I s'pose it's not the ' ' fantasy that turns me on - cos it doesn't, just the thought of sickens, scares and horrifies me as much as it does the next person. It's more the act, the intense situation when playing out this scenario ......... doing it with someone you know and trust takes the whole ' ' element out of it I s'pose
at any point either of us could easily get out of the situation.
Confusing myself now :lol2:
So although it was a very intense role play, I knew the whole time at the back on my mind that I was in a safe environment, and also with a safe word that could be used at any time.... which in reality is a long way from .
I s'pose it's not the ' ' fantasy that turns me on - cos it doesn't, just the thought of sickens, scares and horrifies me as much as it does the next person. It's more the act, the intense situation when playing out this scenario ......... doing it with someone you know and trust takes the whole ' ' element out of it I s'pose
at any point either of us could easily get out of the situation.Confusing myself now :lol2:
me personally find this a very touchy subject, mainly cause noone really fantasises about being , when you look at what is and the way a lot of the victims are left, mentally and pysically scared, a bit of rough sex yeah but to call it and to fantasise over it is a but insultive to to all real victims i think
Orgasminator
Actually naughtynymphos, some people who have experienced a form of sexual attack end up fantasising about it, reworking the scenario in their heads till it makes sense, attempting to gain some control over a situation that happened long ago and cannot be changed.
Missy, I think what you really wanted out of that play acting was to experience loss of control. I bet you are a very strong-willed woman in your everyday life who always gets what she wants so you elected to give up control for a while to relax your spirit.
Missy, I think what you really wanted out of that play acting was to experience loss of control. I bet you are a very strong-willed woman in your everyday life who always gets what she wants so you elected to give up control for a while to relax your spirit.
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Actually naughtynymphos, some people who have experienced a form of sexual attack end up fantasising about it, reworking the scenario in their heads till it makes sense, attempting to gain some control over a situation that happened long ago and cannot be changed.
Do they??
:? :? So how come I haven't?? 
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me personally find this a very touchy subject, mainly cause noone really fantasises about being , when you look at what is and the way a lot of the victims are left, mentally and pysically scared, a bit of rough sex yeah but to call it and to fantasise over it is a but insultive to to all real victims i think
Yep, just been pondering this - it's more of a kind of extreme dom/sub scenario
I never have and never would condone in any way shape or form. I'm talking about a saucy scenario that was played out in the bedroom between two people that knew each other extremely well.
Like you said, it holds none of the backlash of , like I said, it can't be compared to a RL situation whatsoever.
The last thing on my mind, not even the last cos it was never on my mind until you just mentioned it, would be to be insulting towards anyone that has gone through something as horrific as that.
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Missy, I think what you really wanted out of that play acting was to experience loss of control.
It's taken me loads of posts and pondering - and you bluddy get in in one line
Thatloss of control. Not so much a dom/sub scenario as the roles are already set
Yep, the loss of control (in a safe environment) was what it was I reckon
Blimey, this is freaky, self analysis on the www :shock:
' ' fantasy is sort of my ultimate - but I know in my own head it isnt and wouldnt be, .
I understand exactly what you're saying Missy, it is an extreme sub/dom thing, and I'm joining you in the freaky self-analysis thing Last time I did this I scared myself half to death :shock: :lol:
While I dont agree with the other half of Tania's post, this smacks the nail on the head for me:
The rottweiler thing on here started as a bit of a joke, a snide comment that i thought was hilarious - because in real life I really can be a rottweiler :lol: I'm a feisty, hard faced control freak, I'm selfish, I always get my own way, I never back down if i can possibly help it, and once the fangs sink in, they stay there :lol: Physically men are very little threat to me, I've worked the doors for years and in that respect am very capable of holding my own. If I play with someone its always by my rules and ultimately it's me who's in control. However, that side of my personality also means I crave absolute loss of control - and I found that that kind of release (for me) comes sexually.
That said, I couldn't act out such fantasies in full with someone from here. The sheer level of trust and respect required to enable me to let someone else 'take' me and take over my body & mind (because effectively that's what it is/ what I need ) , imo, is not something I'll find within the swinging scene. But I have dabbled round the edges and loved it
I understand exactly what you're saying Missy, it is an extreme sub/dom thing, and I'm joining you in the freaky self-analysis thing
Last time I did this I scared myself half to death :shock: :lol: While I dont agree with the other half of Tania's post, this smacks the nail on the head for me:
Missy, I think what you really wanted out of that play acting was to experience loss of control. I bet you are a very strong-willed woman in your everyday life who always gets what she wants so you elected to give up control for a while to relax your spirit.
The rottweiler thing on here started as a bit of a joke, a snide comment that i thought was hilarious - because in real life I really can be a rottweiler :lol: I'm a feisty, hard faced control freak, I'm selfish, I always get my own way, I never back down if i can possibly help it, and once the fangs sink in, they stay there :lol: Physically men are very little threat to me, I've worked the doors for years and in that respect am very capable of holding my own. If I play with someone its always by my rules and ultimately it's me who's in control. However, that side of my personality also means I crave absolute loss of control - and I found that that kind of release (for me) comes sexually.
That said, I couldn't act out such fantasies in full with someone from here. The sheer level of trust and respect required to enable me to let someone else 'take' me and take over my body & mind (because effectively that's what it is/ what I need ) , imo, is not something I'll find within the swinging scene. But I have dabbled round the edges and loved it
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' ' fantasy is sort of my ultimate - but I know in my own head it isnt and wouldnt be, .
I understand exactly what you're saying Missy, it is an extreme sub/dom thing, and I'm joining you in the freaky self-analysis thing
While I dont agree with the other half of Tania's post, this smacks the nail on the head for me:
Missy, I think what you really wanted out of that play acting was to experience loss of control. I bet you are a very strong-willed woman in your everyday life who always gets what she wants so you elected to give up control for a while to relax your spirit.
The rottweiler thing on here started as a bit of a joke, a snide comment that i thought was hilarious - because in real life I really can be a rottweiler :lol: I'm a feisty, hard faced control freak, I'm selfish, I always get my own way, I never back down if i can possibly help it, and once the fangs sink in, they stay there :lol: Physically men are very little threat to me, I've worked the doors for years and in that respect am very capable of holding my own. If I play with someone its always by my rules and ultimately it's me who's in control. However, that side of my personality also means I crave absolute loss of control - and I found that that kind of release (for me) comes sexually.
That said, I couldn't act out such fantasies in full with someone from here. The sheer level of trust and respect required to enable me to let someone else 'take' me and take over my body & mind (because effectively that's what it is/ what I need ) , imo, is not something I'll find within the swinging scene. But I have dabbled round the edges and loved it
How come everyone can write so much more eloquently than me?
I've bolded up one bit cos it kinda says it all on the safety side, which goes back to my first post on here and something I can't stress enough. This sort of scenario should never be advertised for, it has no place on this site or any others. Safety is paramount, and you can only guarantee that if you're with someone you trust totally and also have that important 'safe word', as opposed to some stranger you know barely anything about
As for the analysis thing Miss Fire........ you coulda bluddy warned me!!! :lol2: Been crapping myself here!!!! :shock: Mind you, I've unravelled a few things in this fuddled head of mine, I've realised that certain words are far too strong for what I mean and what I've indulged in.
From what I've read today, fantasy is one of the top female fantasies according to quite a few webbies. I guess it's a bit like S&M and the more 'brutal' sexual acts, if you both (or all ) respect the boundaries and know where to stop, then it's a matter of whatever floats your boat, so long as it's acted out as roleplay and not used for the gratification of just one much as I like a bit of rough and tumble every now and then, it's not MY ideal but then we're all different aren't we?
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certain words are far too strong for what I mean and what I've indulged in.
:thumbup: I dont like the term ' fantasy' at all, it gives all the wrong conotations, its offensive and deeply emotive . is , and that's certainly not what we're talking about here. it's a term used to 'describe' something that is far far more complex than 'simply' being non-consentual sex - for a start what we're talking aboutisconsentual!!
