renewing vows

1 Nov 2009

We will be coming up to 15 years of marriage soon and were thinking of renewing our vows.
We thought we might like to do something a bit different so was thinking that it may be interesting to do it in our favourite swinging club .....
Do you think that all vicars would think this highly inappropriate?
Can anyone advise me where to find a vicar who might do this and how to broach the subject.

1 Nov 2009

Quote by Funlovers2009
We will be coming up to 15 years of marriage soon and were thinking of renewing our vows.
We thought we might like to do something a bit different so was thinking that it may be interesting to do it in our favourite swinging club .....
Do you think that all vicars would think this highly inappropriate?
Can anyone advise me where to find a vicar who might do this and how to broach the subject.

Find out what your local vicar looks like, you may spot him in there next friday wink

It's a fab idea but finding a vicar who's not going to preach to you the sanctity of marriage - forsaking all others blah blah blah - is gonna be a toughie.
Failing that, why not have a 'normal' ceremony and have the party at the club afterwards? Good luck! biggrin

1 Nov 2009

Quote by Kaznkev
We will be coming up to 15 years of marriage soon and were thinking of renewing our vows.
We thought we might like to do something a bit different so was thinking that it may be interesting to do it in our favourite swinging club .....
Do you think that all vicars would think this highly inappropriate?
Can anyone advise me where to find a vicar who might do this and how to broach the subject.

perhaps a vicar who performs gay weddings?you might have to look beyond the church of england tho
what a lovely romantic idea,hope you sort it out
Just out of interest, why would you think someone who performs civil partnerships would approve of a swinging ceremony?

1 Nov 2009

Why do you need a purveyor of any faith at all?
Surely a close friend could do an equally good job without trying to bring Him into it. You can then suit your reaffirmation of vows to whatever you wanted. After all it is your reaffirmation of each other that you want to celebrate?

1 Nov 2009

Quote by Funlovers2009
We will be coming up to 15 years of marriage soon and were thinking of renewing our vows.
We thought we might like to do something a bit different so was thinking that it may be interesting to do it in our favourite swinging club .....
Do you think that all vicars would think this highly inappropriate?
Can anyone advise me where to find a vicar who might do this and how to broach the subject.

I can't honestly seeing you finding a vicar that will agree to you having sex with anyone other that your marital partner. This is what you are asking them to give their blessing too in effect. It's just not what they believe is right.
If you do find one, the chances of them being from your area are slim, usually they all work within their own diocese.
I think it might be best to do it in your local church and have a party at the club after, as was previously suggested. Good luck!!

1 Nov 2009

We are maybe thinking that we might have a more formal ceremony in which we can invite friends and family to conform with the norm then do it again in a club.
Suppose we could just have a party in the club but thought that something a bit more special would be nice. It is a big thing after all hey.

1 Nov 2009

Many people have a non-religious wedding. So why not have a non-religious renewal? You simply arrange the location, people, food, drink and at the appointed time you stand up, everyone is quiet and attentive and you proclaim your renewal to each other and to your friends. Glasses are raised, food circulates, congratulations rain down.
Especially if the alternative is a vicar etc that you don't know, haven't attended their church etc. That would feel rather impersonal to me.

1 Nov 2009

I don't think Vicar's or Priests can perform anything other than religious ceremonies can they? I'm a bit crap at religion and politics though confused

I do know that Civil Partnerships can't have any relgious content at all.
I agree with Res - why not get somebody meaningful to lead the 'ceremony' for you? That way, you can do what you want, how you want.. I like the idea of renewing vows, very romantic in this turbulent world we live in - good luck x

1 Nov 2009

Quote by BIoke
I don't think Vicar's or Priests can perform anything other than religious ceremonies can they? I'm a bit crap at religion and politics though
I do know that Civil Partnerships can't have any relgious content at all.
I agree with Res - why not get somebody meaningful to lead the 'ceremony' for you? That way, you can do what you want, how you want.. I like the idea of renewing vows, very romantic in this turbulent world we live in - good luck x

Vicars etc can and do perform renewal cermonies (my bro had one). The legal stuff isn't repeated, that's just done the once, but the religious stuff can happen as often as you like.
I suppose it depends if the vows were originally made to each other or whichever God the couple are following.

2 Nov 2009

Quote by Funlovers2009
Can anyone advise me where to find a vicar

Have you tried a church...... rolleyes

2 Nov 2009

It might be worth you approaching a spiritualist or possibly even pagan organisation to help out. Its an idea worth searching out.
Good luck guys, sounds like a great idea. :thumbsup:

2 Nov 2009

Lots of ideas and food for thought .... I feel a plan coming together!!!
The plan so far...... Sat night in our local club with "friends" and then Sunday in a church for family and other friends.
Next problem ..... if you had some old (non swinging) friends who were quite open minded, would you invite them to the club???
Thanks for all advice so far .... we'll let you all know nearer the time if you want invites wink

2 Nov 2009

Dead right i would IF they were that cool and knew about your peccadillos. If they didn't know, then I don't think I'd bother Would it be worth the risk? dunno

3 Nov 2009

Quote by Sassy-Seren
We will be coming up to 15 years of marriage soon and were thinking of renewing our vows.
We thought we might like to do something a bit different so was thinking that it may be interesting to do it in our favourite swinging club .....
Do you think that all vicars would think this highly inappropriate?
Can anyone advise me where to find a vicar who might do this and how to broach the subject.

Find out what your local vicar looks like, you may spot him in there next friday wink

It's a fab idea but finding a vicar who's not going to preach to you the sanctity of marriage - forsaking all others blah blah blah - is gonna be a toughie.
Failing that, why not have a 'normal' ceremony and have the party at the club afterwards? Good luck! biggrin

A swinging vicar ?????
how come i cant get Dick Emery out of my mind :shock: :shock:
with his big teeth and smile.
trav..