Hi all...
Just wanted to ask a general question of why do couples very rarely reply to emails?
I'm not talking about long, detailed responses just a short courtesy 'thanks for your email, but you're not for us' or 'thanks for your mail, we'll get back to you'.
I respond to every email sent to me (and yes I know couples will receive far more than a single guy) and can't see why the courtesy cannot be returned to polite emails.
Anyway, rant over lol. I just wondered if there was a reason that couples aren't expected to reply or not.
cheers
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hello yorkie, and welcome to the forum 
This is a question thats ben asked many many times before, and there are probably as many reasons why people dont reply.
Could be that they have so many messages in their inbox that they dont have time to reply to them all, could be that someone has sent them a wink, and they dont reply to them, could be that they dont want to say they dont find you attractive....
dont give up hope, im sure that you will find a reply or two in your inbox
hope this helps
Mrs B xxx
This is a question thats ben asked many many times before, and there are probably as many reasons why people dont reply.
Could be that they have so many messages in their inbox that they dont have time to reply to them all, could be that someone has sent them a wink, and they dont reply to them, could be that they dont want to say they dont find you attractive....
dont give up hope, im sure that you will find a reply or two in your inbox
hope this helps
Mrs B xxx
Sexlightened
Could be that they have so many messages in their inbox that they dont have time to reply to them all, could be that someone has sent them a wink, and they dont reply to them, could be that they dont want to say they dont find you attractive....
Yorkie..... I am sorry that people are so rude as to not offer a reply to your messages
. I think that is pure ignorance not to respond to bona-fide email messages. It is not a reasonable or honest excuse that you have no spare time have a full inbox. OK, if you say in your profile that you will not be responding to winks etc then it is fine but do not ignore someone who has gone to the bother of writing a personal note to you.
Surely you would never tell someone that you didnt find them attractive enough - just a polite 'thanks but no thanks'is all it takes. Even cut & paste a standard reply if you have to but please be courteous.
It takes a bit of courage to start the ball rolling with prospective new friends so give them a break.
Rant over
Steve
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Just another point - the people who haven't answered or who don't answer emails, might not even use the forum - so wouldn't even see this type of post.
Sex God
Quote by Kazsc
Could be that they have so many messages in their inbox that they dont have time to reply to them all, could be that someone has sent them a wink, and they dont reply to them, could be that they dont want to say they dont find you attractive....
Yorkie..... I am sorry that people are so rude as to not offer a reply to your messages
. I think that is pure ignorance not to respond to bona-fide email messages. It is not a reasonable or honest excuse that you have no spare time have a full inbox. OK, if you say in your profile that you will not be responding to winks etc then it is fine but do not ignore someone who has gone to the bother of writing a personal note to you.
Surely you would never tell someone that you didnt find them attractive enough - just a polite 'thanks but no thanks'is all it takes. Even cut & paste a standard reply if you have to but please be courteous.
It takes a bit of courage to start the ball rolling with prospective new friends so give them a break.
Rant over
Steve
jeez.... this old chestnut again....
okay, time for a little "devils advocat" and lets see if you would actually put what you claim to preach actually into practice
I know a single lady that was new to the site, and was looking for the odd couple and single bloke to play with......
so she puts up an ad, and goes on holiday for two weeks....
when she comes back, she had 800 e-mails from single blokes and 300 e-mails from couples...
so would YOU hand on heart have answered each and every one of them???? really????? honestly????
I don't you'd find many that would......
Sex God
Quote by Yorkie2009
Hi all...
Just wanted to ask a general question of why do couples very rarely reply to emails?
cheers
cos we dont get any
Sex God
Quote by essex34m
jeez.... this old chestnut again....
Says the one who recently put up a poll about Marmite.
:lol: and marmites been done how many times compared to this?.....p.s still waiting of the person who has replied to every single piece of mail.....
Quote by fabio
jeez.... this old chestnut again....
Says the one who recently put up a poll about Marmite.
:lol: and marmites been done how many times compared to this?.....The Op's first post, and you go straight in with a negative comment, it is no wonder it has been said that people are afraid to post in these forums.
Sex God
Quote by essex34m
jeez.... this old chestnut again....
Says the one who recently put up a poll about Marmite.
Hmmm marmite and chestnuts?? Never thought about that one.:undecided:
I think that I have responded to all messages I've received but there are practically no approaches from strangers included in that. So I don't know what I'd do if I had hundreds or dozens.
I'm not sure that there really is any obligation on anyone to respond to anything, even morally.
I think the trick is to assume that the absence of a response is in fact a 'No thanks' and keep moving on until you do get a reply.
I think the other thing to remember is that this is not a dating site.
Good luck Yorkie2009 - keep yer pecker up!
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Sex God
Quote by essex34m
jeez.... this old chestnut again....
Says the one who recently put up a poll about Marmite.
:lol: and marmites been done how many times compared to this?.....The Op's first post, and you go straight in with a negative comment, it is no wonder it has been said that people are afraid to post in these forums.
Hey... if i really wanted to go after his first post, I would have said something really negative....
I put up a real situation so he could see what its like for the person at the other end of the posts and pm's.. and asked a genuine question,
so rather than hijack this persons post... you know where my pm box is......
sean
Sex God
Quote by fabio
p.s still waiting of the person who has replied to every single piece of mail.....
Sex God
Quote by Dirtygirly
p.s still waiting of the person who has replied to every single piece of mail.....
Always bloody one.......
:lol: :lol: anyway before anyone thinks that me and essex have fallen out.... sorted :thumbup:
Sex God
Quote by BIoke
He just wants you fabio - he's playing hard to get mate :rascal:
as much as I luffs him to bits hes just not my type....
:lol: we share many common loves in life, but each other isn't one of them.......I can hear the "phew" coming all the way from essex as I type this.... hi yorkie
welcome to the forums, xx
i do try and reply to all the messages i get,
i have my account set to bounce back the winks, so i dont have to reply to those personally.
if one was to place an add, it seems a bit daft and frustrating for the peron replying if said advertiser then bugers off for 2 weeks on holidays.
ive placed adds before and if people reply wh DO NOT fit anything ive asked for then i typically dont reply.
in the past i did and it started either email tennis they send one back asking another question, or they are very rude and nasty.
the other side of the coin is maybe they are not actively seeking really, and its profiles you/people responde to ?
xxx fem xx
welcome to the forums, xx
i do try and reply to all the messages i get,
i have my account set to bounce back the winks, so i dont have to reply to those personally.
if one was to place an add, it seems a bit daft and frustrating for the peron replying if said advertiser then bugers off for 2 weeks on holidays.
ive placed adds before and if people reply wh DO NOT fit anything ive asked for then i typically dont reply.
in the past i did and it started either email tennis they send one back asking another question, or they are very rude and nasty.
the other side of the coin is maybe they are not actively seeking really, and its profiles you/people responde to ?
xxx fem xx
Sex God
Some pushy types who have sent a message treat a "thanks but no thanks" response or other brief refusal as an invitation to a "why not" discussion (when it isn't), so some folk have learned that it is safest and least bother NOT to reply at all.
I agree with Choonie, it's best to leave it and move on.
I agree with Choonie, it's best to leave it and move on.
Casanova
wait till the government start taxing politeness and manners at 17.5%
Rich usually leaves the mail, forum posting etc etc to me
So if ya dont get a reply from us, blame me not Rich
dee
Rich usually leaves the mail, forum posting etc etc to me
So if ya dont get a reply from us, blame me not Rich
dee
Sex God
Quote by Rich_and_dee
wait till the government start taxing politeness and manners at 17.5%
Rich usually leaves the mail, forum posting etc etc to me
So if ya dont get a reply from us, blame me not Rich
dee
surely it would be 15%
Casanova
Quote by wild rose and the stag
wait till the government start taxing politeness and manners at 17.5%
Rich usually leaves the mail, forum posting etc etc to me
So if ya dont get a reply from us, blame me not Rich
dee
surely it would be 15%
Knew as soon as i hit the send button i had done the wrong % :lol:
dee
Sex God
Quote by fabio
p.s still waiting of the person who has replied to every single piece of mail.....
Always bloody one.......
:lol: :lol: --------------------------------------------
Sex God
Quote by TanKinky
p.s still waiting of the person who has replied to every single piece of mail.....
Always bloody one.......
:lol: :lol: She didn't reply :bounce: she didn't reply :bounce: She is fibbing :lol2:
Now we both know that's not true Tan!
Would you like me to post our conversation?! :giggle:
