i think that i can afford to be a little arrogant.... after reading the forums over the last six months or so im pretty CONFIDENT that im in the top percentile of people on the site worth meeting based on a number of different factors.
flidais-media.... i would suggest that favours can include providing accomodation, helping a couple to enhance their sex-life (by experimenting with another ), offering to take photographs for their private collections... etc....
my rant was about people who start conversations with you and tell u that they wany to meet up but then when it comes to making arrangements they ignore your messages. I feel sorry for those who actually go to meets and the other party/parties fail to show.
as for arrogance, to be honest, id say it was more of a case of confidence... and id rather be arrogant/confident than ignorant.
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not knockin ya about the arrogance........confidence.....is a good thing...and very attractive in the right circumstances :thumbup:
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i think that i can afford to be a little arrogant.... after reading the forums over the last six months or so im pretty sure that im in the top percentile of people on the site worth meeting based on a number of different factors.
flidais-media.... i would suggest that favours can include providing accomodation, helping a couple to enhance their sex-life (by experimenting with another ), offering to take photographs for their private collections... etc....
thats often the problem with couples on this site....... they advertise for people to meet but seem to think that all they should provide is another set of sexual organs for their pleasure when really they are providing a little more......
not knockin ya about the arrogance........confidence.....is a good thing...and very attractive in the right circumstances :thumbup:
thanx alot........
to be honest i wasnt perturbed at all by your post, i could see that you echoed my sentiments in some way... im sure you two get equally peeved by those who just drift off without as mych as a bye or leave... and i notice from your profile that you like the friendship side of things too...
we know where it's at....
nice to meet u both by the way
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thanx alot........
to be honest i wasnt perturbed at all by your post, i could see that you echoed my sentiments in some way... im sure you two get equally peeved by those who just drift off without as mych as a bye or leave... and i notice from your profile that you like the friendship side of things too...
we know where it's at....
nice to meet u both by the way
x
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i think that i can afford to be a little arrogant.... after reading the forums over the last six months or so im pretty CONFIDENT that im in the top percentile of people on the site worth meeting based on a number of different factors.
flidais-media.... i would suggest that favours can include providing accomodation, helping a couple to enhance their sex-life (by experimenting with another ), offering to take photographs for their private collections... etc....
my rant was about people who start conversations with you and tell u that they wany to meet up but then when it comes to making arrangements they ignore your messages. I feel sorry for those who actually go to meets and the other party/parties fail to show.
as for arrogance, to be honest, id say it was more of a case of confidence... and id rather be arrogant/confident than ignorant.
Favours and confidence are one thing, arrogance is another. Each to his/her/their own but we would not be keen on meeting anyone who thinks that are 'doing us a favour'. As far as we are concerned our swinging meets are for everyone's 'mutual pleasure', not a case of someone 'doing us a favour'
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i think that i can afford to be a little arrogant.... after reading the forums over the last six months or so im pretty CONFIDENT that im in the top percentile of people on the site worth meeting based on a number of different factors.
flidais-media.... i would suggest that favours can include providing accomodation, helping a couple to enhance their sex-life (by experimenting with another ), offering to take photographs for their private collections... etc....
my rant was about people who start conversations with you and tell u that they wany to meet up but then when it comes to making arrangements they ignore your messages. I feel sorry for those who actually go to meets and the other party/parties fail to show.
as for arrogance, to be honest, id say it was more of a case of confidence... and id rather be arrogant/confident than ignorant.
Favours and confidence are one thing, arrogance is another. Each to his/her/their own but we would not be keen on meeting anyone who thinks that are 'doing us a favour'. As far as we are concerned our swinging meets are for everyone's 'mutual pleasure', not a case of someone 'doing us a favour'
id have no intentions of meeting you either... for different reasons.... but as you say, each to his/her own.
that however is not the issue, as i keep explaining.... but as you keep failing to see the point im making, or recognise that by favours i meant the examples i raised above, ill take it that youre just one of those people who has to have the last word... or your trying to suggest that you have something more to offer than the average couple..... which is borderline arrogance/confidence
of course, being a fully bi-couple youll perhaps also be ignorant of the fact that many couples seeking single straight males often advertise for someone to have sex with their wives etc. citing satisfaction for one/either/both of them - which to me is doing them a favour- and one that i dont mind doing (at my own home, time and expense)- as long as they appreciate that im not gonna do it if theyre a timewaster who says theyre interested and then go off the radar!!
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i think that i can afford to be a little arrogant.... after reading the forums over the last six months or so im pretty CONFIDENT that im in the top percentile of people on the site worth meeting based on a number of different factors.
flidais-media.... i would suggest that favours can include providing accomodation, helping a couple to enhance their sex-life (by experimenting with another ), offering to take photographs for their private collections... etc....
my rant was about people who start conversations with you and tell u that they wany to meet up but then when it comes to making arrangements they ignore your messages. I feel sorry for those who actually go to meets and the other party/parties fail to show.
as for arrogance, to be honest, id say it was more of a case of confidence... and id rather be arrogant/confident than ignorant.
Favours and confidence are one thing, arrogance is another. Each to his/her/their own but we would not be keen on meeting anyone who thinks that are 'doing us a favour'. As far as we are concerned our swinging meets are for everyone's 'mutual pleasure', not a case of someone 'doing us a favour'
id have no intentions of meeting you either... for different reasons.... but as you say, each to his/her own.
that however is not the issue, as i keep explaining.... but as you keep failing to see the point im making, ill do what the people i was referring to seem to do----- ignore , without so much as...
Well, likewise, as you are a straight male and we never meet those anyway
We totally understand the point you are making about replying..it's just the bits about 'doing people favours' that you have thrown in a few times that are making us so surprised. There's no point in keep repeating the same stuff but, as swingers of many years standing (as singles before we were a couple) we only ever meet those who we think we will get on with mentally and physically and never look at any 'favours' they believe they are offering us. For us swinging is about mutual fun for all concerned. We are well aware that people have all sots of interests and wants but it should still, for us, all be about mutual satisfaction with everyone having something to offer to the meet. :roll:
By the way, nothing to do with having the 'last word', there is no last word on anything as there are no right or wrong answers...this is a forum and, as such, everyone can voice their opinions.
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HOWEVER, i have noticed that when i have recieved replies from certain members, and started to correspond with them, the trail seems to go cold.... they dont reply to simple pm's and dont have the decency to even say the odd hello in reply to a friendly mail trying to take things further, even after theyve said they are interested.
ive decided that im now never going to meet these members as i doubt that theyd even turn up.... infact their lack of response tells me that they are just timewasters, ungenuine, and to be honest i dont think thet are the type of people id want to have in my house....i dont do ignorance.... and im not givin them the opportunity to have one of the best shag of their lives and the opportunity to meet a real stud with a comfy home in an unpressurised atmosphere if they cant treat me like a "pal".
if they think my PMs are pressurising them, they should realise that its me who was intending to do them a favour.... ffs, how many fellas on here can offer them what i can...especially when many ads want a genuine single male, with big cock, accomadation, respectful of boundaries, good looking, etc etc. ... after seeing how let down some people are when their expectatons arent met, i honestly dont answer adverts?LMU posts if i dont fully fit the criteria...ok. there might have been 1 or 2 until i realised that i shouldnt.
it just goes to show that a little common curtousey does cost..... or atleast having a lack of it does!!!!
RANT OVER
maybe you scare them away...
we have the same problem with single guys ....just keep at it and once in a while u find what u r looking for......
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Thank you those that have read this and bothered to reply!
I guess i just have higher standards/better manners then some, however that is something that i have noticed in life and not just on here. i just think its common curtesy to reply to the considered, well written ads (again i am not talking the winks and one liners) IF people have bothered to read and compose a reply to your OWN ad.
I understand the weight of mail some people get, but judging by the replys on here most are the "junk"type anyhow, so how hard can it be to say no thank you to the doz or so considered replies?
Also interesting is the amount of timewasters people seem to endure, just goes to show that you cant judge a book by its cover doesnt it? i wonder how many "genuine" people got binned? Makes me think why bother reading the ads at all, you may just as well take pot luck!
I wasn't going to say anything, as one day you will open your eyes and realise what utter tosh it is to be expected to plough through 100's of PM's - just to demonstrate good manners to a bunch of people you have never met and just don't know..... BUT...
something got the better of me (probably because I have just finished a 2 hour stint of answering PM's).
I set out once to answer every PM - even if just to say 'no thanks'.
Last week I had a moment of clarity - regardless of the 1000+ PM's I had previously sent replies to - I still found I had 1300+ PM's in my inbox (they had of course built up over a period of time). I decided that I had to bite the bullet and just delete the lot.
Now if as a result of doing that, some person I have never met thinks I am an ignorant bitch - so what? The alternative would have been to make replying to PM's a full-time job. I have a job already and I know without doubt answering PM's will not pay the salary I currently am rewarded with from my employer.
Since deleting all of the previous PM's and totally clearing my inbox at the begining of the week - I have had another 100+ arrive. I have managed to read, consider and reply to all of them (apart from 4 - which were so crap I decided to just delete).
Whilst I am at present back on top of my emails - should I ever find myself in a similar position as last week - I would do the same again.
Afterall - what is the point of answering all of your PM's if it is going to leave you with no time to actually FUCK!
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Thank you those that have read this and bothered to reply!
I guess i just have higher standards/better manners then some, however that is something that i have noticed in life and not just on here. i just think its common curtesy to reply to the considered, well written ads (again i am not talking the winks and one liners) IF people have bothered to read and compose a reply to your OWN ad.
I understand the weight of mail some people get, but judging by the replys on here most are the "junk"type anyhow, so how hard can it be to say no thank you to the doz or so considered replies?
Also interesting is the amount of timewasters people seem to endure, just goes to show that you cant judge a book by its cover doesnt it? i wonder how many "genuine" people got binned? Makes me think why bother reading the ads at all, you may just as well take pot luck!
I wasn't going to say anything, as one day you will open your eyes and realise what utter tosh it is to be expected to plough through 100's of PM's - just to demonstrate good manners to a bunch of people you have never met and just don't know..... BUT...
something got the better of me (probably because I have just finished a 2 hour stint of answering PM's).
I set out once to answer every PM - even if just to say 'no thanks'.
Last week I had a moment of clarity - regardless of the 1000+ PM's I had previously sent replies to - I still found I had 1300+ PM's in my inbox (they had of course built up over a period of time). I decided that I had to bite the bullet and just delete the lot.
Now if as a result of doing that, some person I have never met thinks I am an ignorant bitch - so what? The alternative would have been to make replying to PM's a full-time job. I have a job already and I know without doubt answering PM's will not pay the salary I currently am rewarded with from my employer.
Since deleting all of the previous PM's and totally clearing my inbox at the begining of the week - I have had another 100+ arrive. I have managed to read, consider and reply to all of them (apart from 4 - which were so crap I decided to just delete).
Whilst I am at present back on top of my emails - should I ever find myself in a similar position as last week - I would do the same again.
Afterall - what is the point of answering all of your PM's if it is going to leave you with no time to actually FUCK!
Well said, sometimes you just receive so many PM's (not just on this site but others you may be a member of too) that it is just easier to delete those that don't interest you. As we don't even have an ad inviiting PM's then, have to say, always amazed anyone bothers to contact us anyway?
Yeh sorry, another resurection.
A lot of the time the reason I don't reply to mail is because it's not actually written to me. It's written to 'single female'. If I get the impression from a reply that the sender actually would like to get to know me then I reply. Much of the time though they may as well be replying to a glorified inflatable doll or a lump of meat with a hole in, for all they care what I'm like.
Yep, one wink too many today. I'll just crawl back under my stone.
H.x
A lot of the time the reason I don't reply to mail is because it's not actually written to me. It's written to 'single female'. If I get the impression from a reply that the sender actually would like to get to know me then I reply. Much of the time though they may as well be replying to a glorified inflatable doll or a lump of meat with a hole in, for all they care what I'm like.
Yep, one wink too many today. I'll just crawl back under my stone.
H.x
Put the automated reply on H-x... makes it even funnier when they try again and you get "thanks for your reply, I can relate to that"
Well if you can relate to the fact I only want people who fit my profile wants pming me why the feck are you still persevering if you're a single guy?? Got to love the poor litte dears who really do have a problem understanding the english language
Well if you can relate to the fact I only want people who fit my profile wants pming me why the feck are you still persevering if you're a single guy?? Got to love the poor litte dears who really do have a problem understanding the english language
