So we all love this lifestyle and we wouldn't be here if we didn't, but at what point do you say enough is enough?
I don't want to be the older couple that people avoid at parties and am not looking forward to responses to messages saying "Sorry but you're too old for us". I'm guessing that as you get older the ages you are looking for also change. To be honest, I don't want couples in their early 20's anymore as, at 38,they make me feel old, although it is a nice compliment. On the other hand, older people dont do it for us and I'm not sure they ever will.
We have discussed this before and said that we will stop when we're 45 but for me that is only 7 years away and I'm not sure I'll want to.
Will you stop when no one wants you anymore or when you are on top of your game? Have you even discussed it?
omg funs i was 45 last week! does that mean i gotta retire?
Allen xx :cry:
We are pretty much agreed that within 6-7 years we want to be done with this. We at the moment dont want to be older swingers but who knows that may change. The sad thing is by the time we get to the age where we will be able to go out and do as we wish as the kids will be old enough then we wont want to do it anymore, bum.
We'll stop when people aren't attracted to us anymore. That's me finished, but Jewl's got a few years in her yet.
all this talk about retirement, for heavens sake we get old once we stop ourselves being young.. dont stop being young guys.
simple
When you stop enjoying it....stop doing it !!
until then....its game on !!!
Can you just give up? What about if you decided to and then a bit down the road you though "Really fancy doing someone else" Do you just then say "Nope, said we given up so we bloody well stick to it" or say " Bollox to it, put an ad up"
As a couple i'm not sure we could give up now unless there was a ulterior reason other than age. OK so it might take some getting used to that things are going south and, maybe, the "type" of people you may of swung with in the past aren't there as much but hey there are always sexy people out there that defy the shallowness of just having the looks and are sexy because theres just something about them that is.
Things ebb and flo but don't need to stop so why would you want to tie yourself to a definite end time.
Funlovers I find your latest post distinctly ageist – retirement? When I was in my twenties people over thirty were old! Ruth and I’s sex life has always been good and it has continued to improve over time to a level of intimacy and response I would never have imagined. Many of our friends have given up on sex. We continue to ‘work at it’ and allocate specific ‘us’ time in our still busy schedules - even though our children have (largely) left home. Ruth in her mid 50’s runs miles in under 9 minutes, and keeps her body toned at the gym. I cycle and am looking forward competing in a 125k sportive with our 25 year old son in June. We are all given bodies which age in a different way. Yes we are ‘slightly foxed’ and show age – but why should ‘your’ image prohibit us from being part of the swinging community? We signed up to SH last year to further explore our sexuality before age finally debars us. There are some really beautiful mature swingers on this site, and some I would not entertain half my age! Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. ‘Old hag? - I think not! Age and experience will often outwit youth and enthusiasm. You have no idea how you will feel in your mid 50’s - until you get there.... or know what you will be able to accomplish! Do not pre-judge.
Age is but a number. If you feel and act the same as before why not continue to do so. People who are older have experience,can be more reliable and more considerate to their partner(s). I am 63 but still active and enjoy sex and will do so until I get too tired or no-one to have fun with
Age is but a number. If you feel and act the same as before why not continue to do so. People who are older have experience,can be more reliable and more considerate to their partner(s). I am 63 but still active and enjoy sex and will do so until I get too tired or no-one to have fun with
