Hi there
This is a topic I have been intending to raise - sort of!!
I have been wondering what the potential dangers are with regard to sexual diseases & soft swinging.
For example
If person A peforms oral sex on Person B and then Person C can STD's be passed from B to C???
Gosh all sounds a bit algebraic!!! :shock:
Dx
There is a very high possibility the std could be transmitted orally. So even oral swap I'd want to use protection for (although displaying doubles standards as I don't wear gloves when with a woman lol)
hmmm, yeah this seems quite strange, because most people say safe sex always and that they go to parties and dont do it seems strange to me.
Does safe sex include the Pill? and that safe actually means i dont want to get pregnant
Because to me safe sex is wearing a condom so STDs are not passed, assuming there is one present, where obviously if there arent then there is no need for the protection.
Good ramble ramble...
But i hope you get what i am asking
To be honest, I have NEVER seen anyone at a club use condoms or any other method of safe sex while giving oral sex, whether that be girl on girl, boy on boy, or between boys and girls. I'm not saying that no-one ever does, just that I've never seen it myself.... and I've been to clubs a few times - OK, a few more times than normally associated with the term "few" :shock: Some people do seem aware not to let guys cum in their mouth though, so I guess that is a form of making sex a little bit safer.
When it comes to shagging though, the opposite seems to apply. You VERY RARELY see anyone getting shagged (male or female) without a condom when they are getting shagged by a stranger. In fact I think I've only seen condomless sex between strangers a handful of times. Seems a tad too dangerous for me, that :shock: Between couples, condom use is rare.
Just my experience
Thanks everyone for you advice... I will definately be asking men to put condoms on before they come near me or my fella!!!! If they refuse.. they don't get fantastic sex (well not off us anyway lol)
It's the same with me I've seen little condom use for oral but nearly always for sex. As for where you keep them if I'm completely naked i slip one under my watch strap. Failing that just openly carry the pack, I've actually had people approach me in clubs & ask me to meet their partner solely based on the fact I would be playing safe. So my suggestion is be very open about condoms, people will respect you for it & those that don't, well you probably wouldn't want to get together with them anyway.
How about going down on ladies of short acquaintance, do you see people generally using a dam? I think I realise the chances of death are pretty slim, but the chances of herpes etc. are quite high if ones target is a carrier.
I must say nervousness of this, and the feeling that its a hard to raise issue, has held me back.
Nope, never seen any form of protection whatsoever used for oral of any kind. Like I said above, that doesn't mean people don't use dams or condoms, just that they don't use them while I'm watching
As frequent clubbers we've never seen barriers used for oral but condoms are the norm for intercourse.
However, there are a few guys, usually part of a couple, that will try to slip in an un-rubbered cock until told no.
Couples that play bareback are fairly rare and it is only when two such couples play together that we've seen unprotected intercourse.
Hi there
You should not feel worried about offending anyone if you suggest using protection when having sex with other it seems the norm to go without protection when having oral sex with others,from what we have seen and what protection do you give a woman when a man gives her oral? :confused:
D and M
Big question this one isnt it? Read the Sexual Health advice on this site as well. Its quite informative.
There's something I very rarely see mentioned in safe sex discussions, and that's Hepatitis B vaccination - anyone who works in the biomedical professions has probably had one, but you can get it from the GP or GUM clinic - one course of jabs, and a very nasty STI you don't have to worry about for 10 years or so. Definitely a good idea if you're in a "high risk" group, and if you're planning on fun with multiple partners, that means you!
Which reminds me, I really must go and get mine done!!
CM
Just out of interest what's the acronym GUM stand for? In my day, (great father time writes), they were called "Special Clinics", or in particularly obscure cases, "Martha and Luke Clinics", (which sounds like a biblical reference).
...and yes I have been inside one, at age 27, something called NSU that a very pretty friend gave me as a present.
temptation I guess,uhm.
