School reunion...

8 Jun 2009

Would you go?
Have you been?
What was it like?
My mum told me that my old school is having a reunion. There's a whole website dedicated to it as well as a Facebook page. So I had a poke around and recognised a lot of names from days of old. One of whom was one of my best mates in the early days at high school. So, I dropped her a message. She looks fabulous - she was the one I had my first pervy girlie thought about, never did anything about it but she had amazing breasts! :rascal:
Anyway, I digress... the thought of a school reunion fills me with dread and I've always said I'd never go. My thinking was confirmed today when I received her reply which was along the lines of:
Hi DG! Yes, I'm coming up for the reunion! Can't wait! What are you doing? Where? Married? Kids? How are your parents? And your brother? Can you believe it's been over 20 years?!!!
Why is it those questions that fill me with a certain sense of inadequacy? Married? Erm, no. Kids? Erm, even bigger no! I'm happy with my life, I'm happily single and I love my dog!! So why do I feel that if I were to appear at a school reunion I'd be the uncomfortable single who's being judged because I haven't conformed to what's socially expected?
Does everyone feel that sort of pressure to be someone who's conformed? Done all the socially acceptable things? Have 2.4 children, the husband and the white picket fence?
Fear not, I'm aware that I'm being a bit of a girl but I can't actually think of anything worse than meeting up with people I was at school with and having them judge me for being me.
Any thoughts?

8 Jun 2009

not school... but my rehab has an annual reunion/gathering.
Im afraid to go as the majority of people I knew there are now dead... and the remainder.. well... they might be like me.
the horror!
lp

8 Jun 2009

I've just been invited to one this week
:scared:
I have valid excuses for not going but I wouldn't go anyway redface

8 Jun 2009

I sooooooooooooooooo want to go to a school reunion!!! :bounce:
Ive caught up with soooo many ppl from school on facebook, many have got kids, many haven't, many are married, many aren't.
Although Im so so ready to have kids, and feel like I should me now, what with lasses having kids younger these days, it kinda nice to hear of school friends who haven't any yet.
I heard someone thinks there should be a 10yr reunion, so im keeping my ears pricked up :bounce:

8 Jun 2009

The only reasons I can see for reunions are:
* if you liked the people but have lost touch and would quite like to see them again.
* if you hated them all and wanted to get revenge by tipping rancid prawn salads into their handbags while they weren't looking
* if you are incredibly nosey and can't bear the thought of not knowing what's happened to them all
* if you are still in touch with someone you knew from way back when and can have a good old "oh my goodness..." moment, together.
* if you wanted to have a bit of harmless fun, took random pictures with you and made up a new life story for everyone you chatted with... then swanned out after creating some kind of DaVinci like spectacled scene of wonderous creative nonesensical tomfoolery (just minus the explosions, people tend not to like indoor explosions although indoor fireworks are very amusingly entertaining with the right crowd. At a push... exploding confettie tunnel tube thingies and disappear into the night).
* to gloat at how wonderful your life is and how awfully the others turned out
* to use up an evening where nothing better would have been done and provide yourself with the new list of reasons why you must do ...blah...blah...and...blah... before the year twothousandandnever.
;) lol

9 Jun 2009

There's only one reason why I would go to a school reunion. I would go just to tell the girls I was right about that George Michael.
blast

9 Jun 2009

Would I go to a reunion Hmmm let me see now.
No f*cking way!
It would be worse than sticking pins in my own eyes. Probably for others who went too. hope everyone who i went to school with is in their own way Ok sort of but do i care? Do I fuck.
School was something designed to survive by any means possible. All Learning came incidentally
Most people who want to go just want to show off and the remainder wanting to go are care in the community cases

9 Jun 2009

I would go if I were in your shoes DG. If I were single because I wanted to be and had no kids through choice and it was just me living the life I wanted to I would be quite proud that I had made that decision and happy to answer people's questions about it.
Lets face it alot of them rather than judging you might be feeling just a wee bit jealous smile

9 Jun 2009

I caught up with a few old school friends on Facebook and Friends Reunited. I had coffee with 2 of them - one was an old boyfriend and one was a major crush of mine when I was 14. I know it's been 32 years since I saw them last but truth be told, the years have not been kind confused

There was talk of a reunion next year when we all reach 50 ( :scared: ) though I'm not sure I'd go. I didn't have one real friend in school and was very much a loner so the thought of these people pretending to be interested in how my life has panned out kind of sticks in my throat a bit.

9 Jun 2009

I have just been invited to a reunion.
My wife thinks I should go, I do not.
Now if this is the same reunion, there was something put in the village water.
Travis
What a reunion it would be?

9 Jun 2009

I personally couldnt think of anything worse, but then again I could meet up with the bullies there and show then they didn't succeed in ruining my Adult life.
I think if I was happy at school I would attend, but as I have no happy memories from school it isnt a place I would like to go back too.
If it was an old work one I would be excited to meet up with everyone.

9 Jun 2009

Yeah... so far you're all thinking along the same lines as me. :giggle:
Fire, I hear what you're saying but you know that way that people look at you and think, "oh yeah, she says she's happy single but I bet she's not really" sort of thing because it seems a lot of people think that our sole purpose in life is to meet someone and live happily ever after. lol

9 Jun 2009

I havent been to a school reunion as I dont now live in the same area as I went to school and it was years and years and years ago.
Last year, by total fluke, I made contact with an old school friend who was my best buddy until my parents decided to move (yet again) out of the area. We kept in touch but over the next couple of years lost contact.
Im so glad we are in touch again. Its been a brilliant year and we have laughed, giggled, cried and shared each others problems.
Amazingly we shared the same married name for a while, complete with the same initial, our husbands names were the same and we had children in the same year. It just conincidence but kind of funny anyway.
She is my best friend and I am so glad we got in touch again.
Not too sure about a school reunion though.........dont think my menopausal emotions could cope with all excitement biggrin

9 Jun 2009

oh..school re-unions can be great fun. Yiou say you think looking down your nose at you because your single. maybe they think you may look down your nose at them as they now divorced for third time and have kids by three differant fathers..etc etc. In reality..its a blast, and fun. Go along..if you don't like it can always walk out the door. If you don't go you will never know !!! sure you will find more people jealous of you than looking down nose at you.

9 Jun 2009

Never

if they was good friends they would have kept in touch !

9 Jun 2009

I dont agree Brum. For people my age, lol, mobile phones werent around, housephones were for those posh people who could afford it and letter delivery was left to the carrier pigeon......ok Im teasing.
Its not always possible to keep in touch but that doesnt stop you re-establising an old friendship. I so glad I did.

9 Jun 2009

Quote by Dirtygirly
Yeah... so far you're all thinking along the same lines as me. :giggle:
Fire, I hear what you're saying but you know that way that people look at you and think, "oh yeah, she says she's happy single but I bet she's not really" sort of thing because it seems a lot of people think that our sole purpose in life is to meet someone and live happily ever after.

Just tell them you're a sex mad nymphomaniac recently released from a sex addiction clinic (by the way is that *your* husband over there ;)) They'll soon forget you're single :twisted:

9 Jun 2009

Quote by Calista
Yeah... so far you're all thinking along the same lines as me. :giggle:
Fire, I hear what you're saying but you know that way that people look at you and think, "oh yeah, she says she's happy single but I bet she's not really" sort of thing because it seems a lot of people think that our sole purpose in life is to meet someone and live happily ever after.

Just tell them you're a sex mad nymphomaniac recently released from a sex addiction clinic (by the way is that *your* husband over there ;)) They'll soon forget you're single :twisted:

:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:

9 Jun 2009

I went to one a few years back and met up with some people I had not seen for over 30 years. Whilst it didn't result in any major friendships being rekindled it was good to see them again and interesting to discover what they were all up to. We had a good night and promised to do it again a few years down the line. My advice is just to go and enjoy the evening.

9 Jun 2009

Never been to one, never would, the playground days were not the best days of my life.
I remember when I first joined friends reunited and observed the same nasty people I remembered behaving in the same ways.
I do like the quote about George Michael
biggrin

9 Jun 2009

I went to my school reunion in the year we all were 40. I went with no expectations, and didn't really think about it too deeply. I was curious how people had turned out, and what they were up to.
I laughed so much that night!
- At my first crush who was born and bred in Devon and now has one of the poshest accents (quite camp really!!lol) and is now a succesful architect.
- At a guy I had a fumble with at a party who said I was the first girl to make him cum!! (I had the decency to blush too)
- At being with 5 of my closest school friends and recounting when Vicky smashed a toilet when stood on it having a fag!
It was a great night and there is even a rumour there will be one next year for our 50th.
But each to their own and I think you have to go with what's right for you. I can understand why some would rather not.
Wench x

9 Jun 2009

Quote by Dirtygirly
Yeah... so far you're all thinking along the same lines as me. :giggle:
Fire, I hear what you're saying but you know that way that people look at you and think, "oh yeah, she says she's happy single but I bet she's not really" sort of thing because it seems a lot of people think that our sole purpose in life is to meet someone and live happily ever after.

ok, this isnt said with any malice but ....
""Hmmmm... I'm pondering this.
On the one hand money would be could cause you could buy good sex and my friends and family love me already!
On the other hand, you just can't beat that all consuming, unconditional, heart melting schmaltz so I'm going with love too! ""
i think i know whats going on inside. i am not saying you are not happy being single, but the above cut and paste makes me think you think like i have done but us single female swingers dare not admit....
although we are single and yes happy and yes we are un comforming by being sexual liberated independent women, and yes we can do just sex..
ultimately we would all love to meet our soul mates and feel that encompassing love.
maybe the worset judge is ourselves? and this is why your feeling hesitant at going to the reunion? deep down you would like to have found that everlasting love?
but .... just because half will be married does not mean they are happy, just be honest and if anyone asks say happy single, till love sweeps you off your feet but no one special enough has come along to make you give up your single freedom?/
sorry long psycho babble post
xxxx fem xxxx

9 Jun 2009

:giggle:
I'd say your psycho babble makes some sense fem, I'm fairly sure there's a certain amount of truth to it.
I'm quite happy to admit that I watch my parents who have been married for 45 years and wish what they have for myself. Not denying that for a second. But I won't settle for less so I suspect I'll remain single until I can let those standards go. wink

Nor would I deny that I've been in that all consuming, unconditional, heart melting schmaltzy loving relationship. My heart broke and four years later I'm still not sure I'm ready to take that chance again.
Of course I want that special someone, who doesn't want a soul mate? I don't have any problems admitting that, I just wouldn't look for it here which I dare say is a whole new thread altogether. lol

However, my life doesn't depend on it and I don't need a man in my life to make me feel happy with my lot. Nor do I need to justify myself to people I went to school with 20 years ago.
I should probably say at this point that I won't be going to the school reunion, I can't actually think of anything worse (well I suspect poking pins in my eyes might be worse but I'd be tempted to double check first!) but I wanted everyone to feel able to give their views without me being too negative in my opening post. :wink:

9 Jun 2009

there are some up sides to being expelled when your 13 lol.
my memory is so crap i wouldnt even recall who someone is if i were to attend a reunion. however i was um quite well known for being opinionated and a reble so they all think casue they remember me id remember them.
xx fem xx

10 Jun 2009

Quote by Max777
I went to one a few years back and met up with some people I had not seen for over 30 years. Whilst it didn't result in any major friendships being rekindled it was good to see them again and interesting to discover what they were all up to. We had a good night and promised to do it again a few years down the line. My advice is just to go and enjoy the evening.

Enjoy the evening. I would have to put-up with a Church service, afternoon tea, speeches from the teachers. Only then can we get on with the barbecue in the evening.
I do not think so.

10 Jun 2009

Quote by Mistress_39
I havent been to a school reunion as I dont now live in the same area as I went to school and it was years and years and years ago.
Last year, by total fluke, I made contact with an old school friend who was my best buddy until my parents decided to move (yet again) out of the area. We kept in touch but over the next couple of years lost contact.
Im so glad we are in touch again. Its been a brilliant year and we have laughed, giggled, cried and shared each others problems.
Amazingly we shared the same married name for a while, complete with the same initial, our husbands names were the same and we had children in the same year. It just conincidence but kind of funny anyway.
She is my best friend and I am so glad we got in touch again.
Not too sure about a school reunion though.........dont think my menopausal emotions could cope with all excitement

But a lot of the other women there, would be the same wouldn't they - being the same age?
I've been to a school reunion - well, two actually. They were both fab. Best bit was saying a very confident 'hello - remember me?' to the girls who bullied me - and watching them cringe. One part was kinda a 'bugger' moment. One of the boys I'd had a major crush on, told me that he'd always been too scared to ask me out :cry:

10 Jun 2009

Yes indeed Freckle lol.........probably make for a most interesting night out now I have thought about it

10 Jun 2009

Quote by
I went to one a few years back and met up with some people I had not seen for over 30 years. Whilst it didn't result in any major friendships being rekindled it was good to see them again and interesting to discover what they were all up to. We had a good night and promised to do it again a few years down the line. My advice is just to go and enjoy the evening.

Enjoy the evening. I would have to put-up with a Church service, afternoon tea, speeches from the teachers. Only then can we get on with the barbecue in the evening.
I do not think so.
each to their own dunno

10 Jun 2009

I can relate to fem's argument for not going. I would struggle to remember a lot of the people I went to school with, even names are largely unfamiliar now. I've kept in touch with my best friend from school and she often sees people we used to both know as she still lives in the same town. When she asks if I remember 'so-and-so', I'm usually forced to confess that I don't.
I have the opposite problem from DG too. I am happily married and have been since I was 21 when a lot of my peers were still in university. My parents, unlike those of most of my schoolfriends, couldn't afford for me to go to uni, so I got a job and paid my own way through Open University over 10 years rolleyes

. I have had 5 children which can be embarrassing in itself ('Didn't you have a telly?', 'Have you found out what was causing it?' etc.), and I now do a job that any idiot could do simply because I couldn't afford the childcare if I had a 'real' job.
I don't feel overly proud of my achievements, I've simply got on with life. I know that most of the people I went to school with will now be high-flying executives with flashy cars and bulging bank balances. That is the type of person that sent their little darlings to the school I went to - it was an independant grammar school mostly filled with boarders from wealthy families. I only went there because I lived in the town and was assessed to be bright enough to not damage the reputation of the establishment.
Their reunions tend to take place in London as far as I'm aware, even though the school is actually slap-bang in the middle of Kent. Another reason not to go I think.

10 Jun 2009

Quote by Lost
Most people who want to go just want to show off and the remainder wanting to go are care in the community cases

:shock:
That's your opinion I guess. I'm going to one at the weekend (kinda) and of the 25 people going I don't believe any fit into either of those two categories to be honest.
We all went through to 6th Form together and by that time the dickheads had either all left or overdosed on drugs or alcohol so it was a fun couple of years for us all. I can't wait to see people again.
I'll post an update next week.