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Quote by brucie
Do you find this attractive? question to both men and women.
personally i find it a turn of and a sign of low self esteem.

Agreed.
God, we're on a roll and 'in rapport' today brucie... good job my flights to London were cancelled this week or we may have had us some man-loving lol
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I'm so awesome that I have to use self deprecation as a tactic to put other people at ease around me
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Quote by brucie
I'm so awesome that I have to use self deprecation as a tactic to put other people at ease around me

do you really agree with nick?
I like the image... but alas... it has to go wink
Steve
Sex God
Low self esteem has many causes......And it's not something to be mocked...
Some people have such a high opinion of themselves its just as much of a turn off as well....
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Self deprecation is also used by the modest to make those in awe feel more at ease in their presence I think.
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Quote by Steve
Low self esteem has many causes......And it's not something to be mocked...
Some people have such a high opinion of themselves its just as much of a turn off as well....

Thats very true Steve, those that know me from my more prolific days of posting, will know I have low self esteem, and know some of the reasons why, Ive never made a secret of it. Recent events in my life have only served to worsen the problem.
I actually come on here to forget about my 'issues' and try to capture some of the way I used to be when I thought I was as equal/good as everyone else on here.
and personally Brucie, I thank god that its a turn off for you...as well as my being fat too...double bonus for me!
Dirtygirly
Sex God
Quote by Steve
Low self esteem has many causes......And it's not something to be mocked...
Some people have such a high opinion of themselves its just as much of a turn off as well....

:thumbup:
I'd rather spend time with someone who's able to have a laugh at his own expense than spend time with someone who had trouble extracting his head from his arse! :mrgreen:
There are limits though... as everything, in moderation. It's very difficult to spend time with people who are continually down on themselves and want constant reassurance. I guess it's finding a balance.
duncanlondon
Sex God
so self deprecating? ie that is putting oneself down before others for some reason or purpose. well i disike that kind of thing, more so if its a habit. the point is why do people do it? do they assume that you already have the wrong idea about them, that they think you think they are special? are they fending off imaginary compliments that they save you the trouble of making. and so on? but its a ghastly habit to have if unchecked.
Steve
Sex God
As I said...........Many people have low self esteem for a variety of reasons and reading intolerant bile like this only serves to make things worse....
duncanlondon
Sex God
there is a difference between someone who is clinically depressed amd someone who has adopted a social response mechanism which they use to manipulate and exploit other people with. if you give off an attitude people will reciprocate and respond in kind. even if its not exploitive its not who you really are.
also it means that one person holds and controls the relating process in a narrow bandwidth of responses. usually any conversation seldom strays from this safe formula. and i usually come away feeling i have not communicated much and been controlled.
HugsnKisses
Orgasminator
I do it all the time, take the pee out of myself, but then I take the pee out of everyone else too so its only fair lol its not for effect or to get sympathy, just for a laugh.
essex34m
Sex God
I have low self-esteem and confidence, and to compensate, some of my postings have displayed utter arrogance, and as a result, I have been called arrogant and egotistical.
I really should be me, but there are times I want to be wanted, the two do not go hand in hand.
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Quote by essex34m
I have low self-esteem and confidence, and to compensate, some of my postings have displayed utter arrogance, and as a result, I have been called arrogant and egotistical.
I really should be me, but there are times I want to be wanted, the two do not go hand in hand.

Hmmm, I don't see you as either to be honest - just a really nice bloke and easy company over a beer smile
But then I don't know you that well I guess.
Do the people that have called you that know you in 'real life' or are they just basing that on their perception of you online?
I know some people here think I'm so far up my own arse I can fuck myself, but I take comfort in the fact that that's based on their perception from my postings online as they've never met me in 'real life'.
Anyone that has met me in person I hope would say that that isn't the case .. and know that I'd much rather fuck their arse than mine, any day :)
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When some are face to face with others, they can find it necessary to justify themselves, especially if they are "different" in some way e.g handicap. Self depricating can help them feel at ease by the perception of bringing themselves in social allignment with the others.
Plim :sad:
essex34m
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Quote by BIoke
I have low self-esteem and confidence, and to compensate, some of my postings have displayed utter arrogance, and as a result, I have been called arrogant and egotistical.
I really should be me, but there are times I want to be wanted, the two do not go hand in hand.

Hmmm, I don't see you as either to be honest - just a really nice bloke and easy company over a beer smile
But then I don't know you that well I guess.
Do the people that have called you that know you in 'real life' or are they just basing that on their perception of you online?
I know some people here think I'm so far up my own arse I can fuck myself, but I take comfort in the fact that that's based on their perception from my postings online as they've never met me in 'real life'.
Anyone that has met me in person I hope would say that that isn't the case .. and know that I'd much rather fuck their arse than mine, any day :)
Thank you for your kind words.
To answer your question, it seems the comments have been based on their perception of me online, others have read comments or been in discussion with others, and formed a similar opinion.
I am aware that I should not place too much faith in their views, but when there is confidence or esteem issues, the dissenting voices always sound louder.
And next time I see you, I shall buy you a beer, this time trying hard to keep a steady hand and not spill it over myself.
Naughty_Wigan_Couple
Sex God
Mrs BD, Steve and Essex, I have met all three of you at many socials and munches, chatted on the forums, and in the chatrooms and all of you know that I hold you all as very special friends. I think for all of you, it is time to stop the self depreciation and time to start some self-appreciate, but if that sounds a bit pervy, get your arses round here and let me appreciate you :twisted:
essex34m
Sex God
Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple
Mrs BD, Steve and Essex, I have met all three of you at many socials and munches, chatted on the forums, and in the chatrooms and all of you know that I hold you all as very special friends. I think for all of you, it is time to stop the self depreciation and time to start some self-appreciate, but if that sounds a bit pervy, get your arses round here and let me appreciate you :twisted:

If I turned up you would shit yourself and slam the door, peering through the drawn curtains until you saw me leaving.
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Quote by essex34m
If I turned up you would shit yourself and slam the door, peering through the drawn curtains until you saw me leaving.

... after posting the shit back out through the letter box.
lp
Naughty_Wigan_Couple
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Quote by essex34m
If I turned up you would shit yourself and slam the door, peering through the drawn curtains until you saw me leaving.

Yeah right :twisted: Try it and we will see :twisted:
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cya in 20 mins Mrs NWC xxx
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Talking of shit... if you read the thread title wrong it might appear to be about pooing on yourself :rascal:
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Quote by BIoke
Talking of shit... if you read the thread title wrong it might appear to be about pooing on yourself :rascal:

THAT just made me snigger so much!!
Steve
Sex God
Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple
Mrs BD, Steve and Essex, I have met all three of you at many socials and munches, chatted on the forums, and in the chatrooms and all of you know that I hold you all as very special friends. I think for all of you, it is time to stop the self depreciation and time to start some self-appreciate, but if that sounds a bit pervy, get your arses round here and let me appreciate you :twisted:

Yeah rite :lol2:
Lets see if your free on my next free weekend shall we ;-)
Missy
Sex God
Quote by jdwxxx
I'm so awesome that I have to use self deprecation as a tactic to put other people at ease around me

rotflmao :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
The word 'awesome' tickles me pink when it's used in the right context, chuckling away here lol
I had to go check the thread title again, cos reading it's a shit thread or something like that - had to make sure I'm not posting on self defication! :shock:
Self depreciation - I love it in people when it's done in a mocking way, rather than moaning cos lifes unfair that they're not made in perfect textbook style.
But there again, I don't like it when someone is constantly joking about themselves, it can get uncomfortable - plus when someone has no other conversation other than themselves, it get a tad boring confused
A little bit of self mockery is sweet, sometimes fun, and does put me at ease. Maybe I like it cos I do take the mickey out of myself a lot, so we can do it together and have a bit of a larf about our 'quirks'.
Missy
Very wobbly body, but you should see my new eyeshadow! :bounce:
awol
Orgasminator
I love British self-deprecating humour. I think it's part of your culture as much as your cups of tea and roast beef (how's that for stereotyping!)
As long as you don't overdo it - because it can then sound like false modesty which is just awful - then it's great!
wink
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I always take the piss out of myself I love it lol
jesster
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Quote by corrie
I always take the piss out of myself I love it lol

I've been doing that a lot tonight to myself wink Its all the beer I've been drinking :lol:
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Quote by jesster
I always take the piss out of myself I love it lol

I've been doing that a lot tonight to myself wink Its all the beer I've been drinking :lol:
nothing like a bit of pish on a Friday night jesster :lol: :lol: